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Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by BABAODU: 7:37am On May 28, 2016

Did he fund your education? Feed you? ?

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Osama10(m): 7:43am On May 28, 2016

Proverbs 13:24. cool

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Youngetskilz23(m): 7:44am On May 28, 2016

CANT BELIEVE WAH I READ UP THERE? OP LIKE SERIOUSLY? I SEE SO MUCH HATRED.. PLS DONT KILL YOUR DAD OH. LEARN TO LOVE HIM. I LOST MY DAD IN 2013. I KNOW HOW IT FEELs. YOU WILLL NEVER KNOW THE TRUE VALUE OF SOMETHING,UNTIL YOU LOOSE IT.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Nobody: 7:46am On May 28, 2016

calliope:

Thanks.. they can neva understand.. You wanna talk about it

yeah i sure do wanna talk.
Will it be ok if i sent you a pm?

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by maasoap(m): 7:48am On May 28, 2016

sugarbeesmith:
you don't know the value of what you have until you loose it......you should show much love to your dad especially now that he's still alive no matter what happened in the past cus if he dies I bet you will regret not loving him while he was still with you....I was in the same shoe until I lost my dad .now I keep regretting not showing him love ....

I narrowly escaped this, made peace with him before he passed away and I became his most favored son.
I think @op needs to make peace with his dad before it is too late.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by naijaboiy: 7:57am On May 28, 2016

Fawklicant:
And Airforce1 came online to NL of all places to rant about his hatred for his Dad for beating him? And someday he hopes to be in the spotlight of fame as a budding musician? Nigg.a, some ish are supposed to remain private. This is just one of those ish. Are you expecting a pity party? Grow up dude!

Thank you very much.

He should be enjoying the attention and sympathy from people now but I also hope he will realize that opening this thread is not worth it at all.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by law001(m): 8:08am On May 28, 2016

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .

So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.

Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

Bro, I share similar experience with you... though I didn't see him with another woman.
But I'm sure my dad beat me more than yours did to you... I have scars to prove it.

Right now I don't call my dad... do u you why?
Cause I can't anymore... HE'S GONE.

But few years before he died, I told him my mind.

In my words, "I'm grown up now, I'm an adult now... let me tell you, You hate me, you hated me when I was growing... you don't beat any other person apart from me... even when I was right, you will still beat me up... what did I do to you".

He's eyes where wide open when I was telling him... he was shocked... he gently explained that I was too stubborn and turning evil so he had to correct me.

After that, I told him I've forgiven him and that my mind is now clear and I have nothing against him.

And honestly, our love blossomed until he finally left us.

Bro plz... find a way to discuss with your dad and forgive him...

I just wish I have a dad on earth that can beat me now... at least let me see him again.

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Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by reservd(m): 8:14am On May 28, 2016

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .

So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.

Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

May I ask wu saw thru sch or u stl in sch? Fees wise

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by jbrodaly(m): 8:15am On May 28, 2016

sinceraconcept:
what about Eminem who hates his father and mother? Nicki Minaj who hates her father etc. Not trying to encourage hate for one's parents but........

Thanks a lot for educating me on that.What i stated was that-"I have never heard ...."But please find out about what these stars really think. Also the way a Nigerian would hate is different from the way westerners hate.Just the same way a Nigerian would love.Example you can see this links:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-jyxaADosE
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2773285/Nicki-Minaj.html

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by feaworaoja007: 8:41am On May 28, 2016

I can totally relate wit all these people that say they hate their dad; i'd like the to read a book called "Prince of Tide"...av forgotten the author tho';but it is a very insightful story about this kinda case...very interesting read too....however,when I look back now @ all those harsh discipline and all, the way I see it now,it's like "our father's are trying to give us "orientations" on how to be tough...the way I see it, it's like saying; son, you don't have to be a pvssy in life,it's like a military drill,its like the olden days Spartans where your son has no other option but to be tough
the drill and orientation will only make you stronger; when your dad's no more; dts when you"ll appreciate the rugged orientation he has put into you,cos when your uncles and cousins start coming for your "birthright"; you"ll now show them the stuff you"re made of...that's when the rugged mentality and beast your dad has created comes out;and dts when you appreciate the ruggedity he has instilled into you.
m Proud of my dad for making me pass through such rugged drills cos it prepared me for the encounters I defeated when he was no longer around. now my cousins and uncle will look on,Nd be like "Yea, he's really the son of his father"
a lion cannot give birth to a goat...
so guys, quit being pvssies and be a man!

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by feaworaoja007: 8:44am On May 28, 2016

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .

So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.

Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

can totally relate wit all these people that say they hate their dad;
i'd like the to read a book called "Prince of Tide"...av forgotten the
author tho';but it is a very insightful story about this kinda
case...very interesting read too....however,when I look back now
@ all those harsh discipline and all, the way I see it now,it's like
"our father's are trying to give us "orientations" on how to be
tough...the way I see it, it's like saying; son, you don't have to be a
pvssy in life,it's like a military drill,its like the olden days Spartans
where your son has no other option but to be tough
the drill and orientation will only make you stronger; when your
dad's no more; dts when you"ll appreciate the rugged orientation
he has put into you,cos when your uncles and cousins start
coming for your "birthright"; you"ll now show them the stuff you"re
made of...that's when the rugged mentality and beast your dad
has created comes out;and dts when you appreciate the ruggedity
he has instilled into you.
m Proud of my dad for making me pass through such rugged drills
cos it prepared me for the encounters I defeated when he was no
longer around. now my cousins and uncle will look on,Nd be like
"Yea, he's really the son of his father"
a lion cannot give birth to a goat...
so guys, quit being pvssies and be a man!

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by numericalguy(m): 8:55am On May 28, 2016

OP, I have just two questions for you and if you answer yes to any one of my questions, you need to go and beg your dad for forgiveness.

1) did your dad feed you as a kid?
2) did your dad fund your education?

Did it ever cross your mind that you were probably a sturbon kid and your dad was trying to correct and guide you. Take for instance, you never told us what you were doing with your childhood girlfriend that lead to your dad beating you. Were you having sex with her or you were romancing that childhood girlfriend of yours and your dad was trying to correct you from going astray.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Nobody: 9:02am On May 28, 2016

Dude, read your post na; na you get problem, no be your papa alone. You said you caught your father cheating on your mom, but already you're having childhood gf, you think you won't cheat on your own wife lol; secondly, you said your father beat you in front of your childhood gf; as a child, wetin consign you with gf hmm, dono how old you were when it happened, but if my child brings home a chick, I will flog him roundly, he needs to focus on his education not chicks...of course its your prerogative to go underground...that's what I did and that's what most of my peers did and today we are thankful that our parents were such disciplinarians.
Honestly, you're a reflection of the old man, the only way you can better him is to show him by your action what you expected a good father son relationship should be.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Nobody: 9:09am On May 28, 2016

tayooluwole:
This is how I feel when ever my Mum tells me that my Dad will be travelling on a long journey... I don't like seeing my Dad around at all, he is too harsh and authoritative, there is no fatherly relationship btwn me and him. When ever he comes in trough the front gate, I immediately jump out through d next available backyard door... Me and him don't talk cordially except he wanna ask me something and after aswering him I immediately take my leave

Lol same here ohhhh, no freedom or peace of mind

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by sinceraconcept(m): 9:18am On May 28, 2016

jbrodaly:

Thanks a lot for educating me on that.What i stated was that-"I have never heard ...."But please find out about what these stars really think. Also the way a Nigerian would hate is different from the way westerners hate.Just the same way a Nigerian would love.Example you can see this links:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-jyxaADosE
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2773285/Nicki-Minaj.html

but dude,the way Eminem hates his mum can't even be compared with anybody here. He made many songs dissing her,wishing for her death,mocking her,calling her names. He never had anything to do with her. The last time his mother saw him,he came to his hometown to see his Uncle's grave and his mother was around outside her house and saw 3 black SUV convoy,she came closer to know whom the person is and got to the SUV her son was,Eminem just rolled up the windscreen and told his driver to drive on. He didn't say a word to his mom,just because of the way his mom treated him when he was young.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by sinceraconcept(m): 10:13am On May 28, 2016

jamesgudman:
Mr airforce....... thank God u r alive to witness adulthood.......some people v been killed mistakenly by parents anger ...... so u v no option than to move on and become a better of urself...... or r u a Scorpio is ur bday falls BTW late Oct to Nov ..... they hardly forgive and never forget...... but by God's grace v overcome mine.....

serious? Is horoscope thing that real? This attitude absolutely matches my character,i usually find it very difficult to forgive and I don't forget. But I don't take horoscope and star thing serious but what you said really caught my attention

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by sinceraconcept(m): 10:14am On May 28, 2016

jamesgudman:
Mr airforce....... thank God u r alive to witness adulthood.......some people v been killed mistakenly by parents anger ...... so u v no option than to move on and become a better of urself...... or r u a Scorpio is ur bday falls BTW late Oct to Nov ..... they hardly forgive and never forget...... but by God's grace v overcome mine.....

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Gofwane(m): 10:17am On May 28, 2016

sugarbeesmith:
you don't know the value of what you have until you loose it......you should show much love to your dad especially now that he's still alive no matter what happened in the past cus if he dies I bet you will regret not loving him while he was still with you....I was in the same shoe until I lost my dad .now I keep regretting not showing him love ....

i'm telling you. My dad became useless to us immediately our mum died in 2003. He abandoned 5 of us at our grandmother's place including our newly born sister that survived the childbirth that killed our mum. without giving anything for our upkeep.

All he does with his money was drinking. At times, he will drink to stupor and fall on the way and passersby would rob him of his phone and money before coming to call us to come and pick him up.

I ended up not talking to him whenever we meet. I even stopped greeting him. We were not in talking terms till i left home to go hustle in another state. Few years later, i was called and told the man had died! That was when i began to feel bad about my behaviour. It was then i realised that two wrongs don't make a right. I wept badly and wished i could reverse the hands of time but twas already late.

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Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by omojeesu(m): 10:20am On May 28, 2016

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .

So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.

Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

I understand you very well. Hope you would be a better dad.

But please forgive him. God will reward you for it.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by omojeesu(m): 10:27am On May 28, 2016

sinceraconcept:
serious? Is horoscope thing that real? This attitude absolutely matches my character,i usually find it very difficult to forgive and I don't forget. But I don't take horoscope and star thing serious but what you said really got my attention

No horoscope is not real! Point is we all have common traits but some traits are commoner in some than others. Forget it. Each person has his strenghts and weaknesses. We should all endeavour to maintain the former and and receive strenght for weakness.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by sinceraconcept(m): 10:47am On May 28, 2016

MsFaith:

inshort I could share some annoying things my mother did to me online, that when I remember I can't help but hate her

how would a mother bullshit you online? That's impossible

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by favourmic(m): 10:58am On May 28, 2016

shaybebaby:

No offence justifies such action,jeez!
Would your father attempt such now that you are a grown man? I'm willing to bet the answer is no! Because he would meet equal force.
Doing that to a defenceless child is NOT acceptable in any force. That is taking advantage of a person who is physically weaker.
No wonder the country is full of wife beaters, people who are abused often go on to become abusers themselves.

I get your point,but spoil the rock?..... Any way its deepend the kind of parent we fall into...

if you see the way some kids behave this days you go fear God and blame their parent..

But how can a father just beat his kids any how without no offence? I'm still curious

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by tntcorps(m): 10:59am On May 28, 2016

calliope:

Mine had more than a enough, but insisted schooling wasn't for girls, and his dad didn't train him... I was 9

Sorry about that, are you married now?

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by whys: 11:04am On May 28, 2016

One doesn't have to hate such folks. You just keep a very cold distance from the dad or mum in question. Yes it can be done even if you are leaving in the same house. My father was so harsh that even when school choose me for intersch quiz, he will stop me and even come and insult the hell out of the staffs.Them give me prefect e no gree, with other more serious things wey if I talk am person fit decode my identity. Some human beings no suppose be parents at all.

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Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Oahray: 11:04am On May 28, 2016

Hmmm... So many persons hate their dads. Looks like fathers would always get the shorter end of the stick no matter what. Children naturally dislike the parent that doesn't pamper them... Until they grow up and get wiser.

Well, I can't relate. I love my dad, flaws and all. I'm totally grateful for the many times he had to be strict with me.

I wouldn't let any child of mine be like the wayward kids I see everywhere. If encouragement and advice do not work, firmer measures would.

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Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by calliope(f): 11:05am On May 28, 2016

RJayson:
Bet why?

Nothing oo grin

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by Canme4u(m): 11:15am On May 28, 2016

LesbianBoy:
Airforce1...

He is everything he hates in his dad.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by calliope(f): 11:18am On May 28, 2016

sexfabregas:

yeah i sure do wanna talk.
Will it be ok if i sent you a pm?

Yup...... Seen

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by calliope(f): 11:19am On May 28, 2016

tntcorps:

Sorry about that, are you married now?

NOPE, waiting for the right woman to come along cool

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by tiswell(m): 11:31am On May 28, 2016

calliope:
same here...i hate my dad.

You just sound like a pained love child,i maybe wrong though.

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by bannykel: 11:37am On May 28, 2016

waxxydude:
Was cool with my parents. But the only thing i hated bout my dad was how the man dashes me knock whether excited or angered.

The 1st day i dodge his knock (@ 17) the guy say i don join cult. chai. e nor gree me sleep for house.. omo na ma pastor, shurch members and neighbours beg for me dah day o.

u got m Rollin bro. No kil m wit laughter abeg

Re: I Didnt Like My Dad When I Was A Kid And Still Dont Like Him Now I'm Grown Up by KELVIN086: 11:39am On May 28, 2016

Silkmoth33:
What's up nah!

John share ur own experience , who do u like better ur dad or mom.

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