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Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Ugosample(m): 11:26pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
cococandy: A man is fine without his gut and pride I can't believe this 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 11:28pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
truthsayer007: Sexless Marriage is a common thing, am beginning to fear i might not escape am not as morally uptight as OP, I don't mind seeking a divorce if i know am gonna be sexually frustrated in the long run. I don't want to harbor hatred against anyone i'd rather just leave. This thread is an eye opener, check out the reddit stuff 1 Like
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Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 11:33pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
janellemonae: Well he's married to her and has had sex with her, we're assuming he's in a better position to know if she's satisfied or not, unless you know them personally, then such information would help us give them a better advice. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Toks2008(m): 11:33pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
Tytyluv: See not all guys like pushing it. I can relate with wat the op is going through. Sex is fun and for me I can't settle for mediocrity which is why I wll not try having more than 2 children so that we can get past baby mkn to enjoy each other. For me I can be crazy in bed as in crazy...no area in her body is sacred to me and I love pre-intimacy like kilode... So tell me why I should settle for a sexually rigid lady? If my wife tries that with me and I try to remedy it as calmly as I can and she remains the same...if I have the resources nah new wife sure pass cos I will never philander or patronize sluts....depriving your husband sex is a sin. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by dasparrow: 11:35pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
innovestor: Let me tell you this, many Nigerian-bred women were sexually abused as children. This alone can make a woman hate sex. If women like your wife were living in advanced and liberal societies of the world were marriage is not a do or die affair like it is in Nigeria and where society pressures people into it, women like your wife would have elected to stay single. The burden that comes with having to satisfy the sexual needs of another human being is oftentimes too much for some women to bear. In addition, Nigeria is a society like many other African societies that circumcise their females thereby killing any libido the woman ought to have had. Why then do you Nigerian-bred men complain about your women not being sexually active enough? Besides, its a well known fact that you the men don't or hardly help your wives out with domestic chores. So after your wives have worked outside the home, come back from work and cook, clean and take care of the kids, you still expect them to act like porn stars in the bedroom after a long hard working day. That's unrealistic expectation right there. Lastly, it is advisable that people discuss their sexual expectations/preferences BEFORE marriage, preferably during courtship. You are facing this problem because you and your wife are not sexually compatible. You seem to love sex and have a fairly high or downright high sex drive. Your wife clearly has a low sex drive and that is why you are now on Nairaland writing an epistle. What would you have us do? Talk to your wife on your behalf? Try fix your marital problem man! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by des4ella(m): 11:36pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
innovestor:Hmmm...My borda welcome to my world. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Toks2008(m): 11:52pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
TV01: Many ladies should understand that sex to guys is very vital and if they can't provide this adequately they have no business in marriage. If my wife wants sex everyday at least I must give her 4 days outta 7 because if I fail to do that then I'm failing in my vows and duty...so why all these sermon just for a lady to do her duty as a wife? As for me I'm ready to eat my wife's snail till I grow old and she must be ready to reciprocate otherwise nah wahala... This is why I wonder why some important threads I create on marriage is ignored by lalasticlala cos issues like this was thourougly addressed. https://www.nairaland.com/3107503/when-lack-sexual-satisfaction-marriage 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by sergiolefty(m): 11:56pm On Aug 19, 2016 |
why she loh go deny u......when u dey nack her every day hour seconds wen u nah dey date u knw knw abi...... d lady is tired of sex ni jawe..... |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Mcbenjamin(m): 12:05am On Aug 20, 2016 |
If you love your wife and want to get the best sex ever, apply for a leave, send the kids to holidays with your mum or her mum, travel with your wife to a more quite and nice place. Lodge in a very good hotel for like one week and give her those treat you gave her when you guys were dating and she will give u the best sex ever. How many times have u called her and tell her not to worry about dinner that dinner is on you? When did you take her out last and make her feel good. Or u just come home and u feel u need sex and here is goes. Don't you know what is called pre-intimacy? Is not only by kissing, it could start on the phone. You don't expect her to the run off by the kinds and still be willing for sex. If u really know what they go through raising kids u then need to give her some special treat. Go see move, grab ice cream, stop over at a fast food and get some to eat, then take her home and bath her just the both of u at home send the kids to holidays and give her a special treatment and stop telling us that girls are calling u, oya make we clap for u Weldon class go..... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Emeka71(m): 12:09am On Aug 20, 2016 |
innovestor:I doubt your answer Ans 1; she is only faking the thing. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by oviexcels(m): 12:17am On Aug 20, 2016 |
so this matter na everywhere? chai na only God be d soln o |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by AreaFada2: 12:38am On Aug 20, 2016 |
I will comment later. |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by megama: 12:53am On Aug 20, 2016 |
innovestor:for all I can tell you marriage never need formular and advise. Naa Foo better for worse. First off all check your dating days back with her. Is the sexual relationship,:the pattern same? .answer this, and gues whether if not she is catching bigger fun than yours elsewhere period |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 1:48am On Aug 20, 2016 |
innovestor: I have read lots of contributions some are even suggesting you abandon your schedule so you come and start playing ball with your wife before you can enjoy what rightly belong to you even after providing for her needs and maintaining your home.. bro, if you want to enjoy your marriage, first thing is to set standard..yes, it might sound autocratic at the beginning but she'll eventually get used to it but that shouldn't stop you showering her love However, the moment she starts denying you s**x with flimsy excuses without a crosponding action from you, you're giving rooms for more troubles therefore, I will give you a practical solution that will put it to a stop and quote me to tell me I'm right when it has worked the moment you indulge in for play and you're already high for action and she turns you down, """"hehehe, masturbate your self right in her present till you cum... that is a strong msg to her..... repeat same the next day right in her present and dont ask her for s*x trust me she would not be comfortable with your actions and would want to know the reason for that hence knowing it could lead to something else 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by FreeSpirited: 1:58am On Aug 20, 2016 |
Your wife might be cheating on you already.........Be alert and watchful! |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by FreeSpirited: 2:00am On Aug 20, 2016 |
carmag:I love this. dramatic |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by FreeSpirited: 2:00am On Aug 20, 2016 |
carmag:I love this. dramatic |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 2:00am On Aug 20, 2016 |
Onegai:mehn I feel like banging you right now. |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by FreeSpirited: 2:14am On Aug 20, 2016 |
I will never beg any woman for sex...never!. So many rubbish advice coming up. If she cant open up to tell me what exactly the problem is, after trying my best at pleasing her, and discussing it...Then she's been insensitive to my need.....that's an utter disregard for me, outrightly selfish. Getting sex out will be inevitable....and until she realises it....i will never touch her or make attempt for sex. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 2:18am On Aug 20, 2016 |
FreeSpirited:thanks bro,..... that's the simplest way to humiliate a frigid woman we call it silent communication. .most women can't withstand it |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Cusan: 2:23am On Aug 20, 2016 |
AfroKnight: You forced me to comment........End of the matter! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by FreeSpirited: 2:29am On Aug 20, 2016 |
carmag: Women usually pull those stunts of frigidity when they are keeping grudge with the husband, annoyed/irritated at something or when they are comfortably cheating.....they punish their husband by not giving them sex. Whatever the issue, i believe a reasonable woman should be ready to salvage it ones the husband shows genuine interest at finding solution. hence, she's supposed to open up for redress, or does she think the husband is a prophet to know exactly what she's bottling up when she's not ready to open up?..bullshit. If a lady dares me for too long...i will definitely call her bluff till she realises it. |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by DedeNkem: 3:06am On Aug 20, 2016 |
It seems you're terrible in the bed or you demand too much sex. You didn't state how many times in a week you have sex presently and how many you prefer. Every woman love sex, especially, when she does it with a guy who does it well. When you make love to woman the way she likes it, she will come back for more. There are many ways to make a woman happy sexually. It takes an average woman more time to be fully aroused than men. Some id*iots just insert their penis in the vagina without pre-intimacy, nothing! They cum without caring if the woman cum or not! Most Nigerian women have no cum experience due to the selfish id*iots they sleep with. I remember one time I had an explosive sex with a 30 yr. old lady I met at a friend's wedding. The next day she called me to thank me for yesterday. I asked her for what? She said the sex was great, that it was her first time of actually c*umming, and the experience was electrifying. That she can't get it off her mind. There are many articles on the internet you should read that have loads of info. about how to giving a woman a good sex. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Nobody: 4:00am On Aug 20, 2016 |
Chillisauce:You have mentioned me like 4 times and all those times you have accused me of being someone else..... You have accused me of being dinachi, Francis and a couple of other dudes.... Can someone please rid me of this pestilential ignoramus, do I come across as someone who hides behind unanimous monikers to attack miserable hags Like yourself...... You even read my diary, Nawa for you oh, my dear, dat was wayyyyyyyyyyyy back in primary 2.... If you see my c. v, you go bow for me...... Next time, think hard before you accuse me, you won't even be able to distinguish between a goat and a sheep if you were asked to.... You are dat daft.... 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by romme2u: 4:30am On Aug 20, 2016 |
this thread is hilarious and full of nitwits freshvine, this is not how we roll. no need to come here with all gun blazing for the sake of her anonymity. innovestor see as u have summon the gods and reopen dying wounds. carry ur cross, we cannot cry more than the bereaved. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by fatboyslym007: 4:31am On Aug 20, 2016 |
I must say the situation is both ways... You complained about your woman not having sex with you and all that... But when last did you take her out, bought her a present share a movie, surprised her, had a bath with her or just groom her hair or help her makeup(even if its for d fun of it)... When a woman is married she needs as much attention if not more than when she was single... I have had talks with men and I am surprised 90% of us Dont take our woman out, we used to to get her to say yes... But truth be told our woman (though notorious) are not just sex objects.. When a woman is happy in marriage and free with her husband then you'll know your wife can still initiate sex or even suck a rod.... Be more attentive to your wife's needs... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by DonaTee(f): 4:51am On Aug 20, 2016 |
innovestor: kids are not in school yet? Dats d biggest stressor. Running about n screaming her head off so dey dont get hurt while playing. Most women don't leave kids with helps n relax. Most of the time deir negligence is appalling. I suggest you change d timing of ur bedmatics. Night time headaches r terrible n points to stress except she's faking sometimes. Be patient with her. Some pple need more help. Also randomly make out wit her.....wen no1 is watching u knw, those may help put her in d mood later on. Meanwhile I heard dates (dabino) n tigernut all juiced up n seived. Taking d juice increases libido. She shld try it.u shld drink it lest ur need further increases Focus on her n stop feeling hypertech about girls calling u n all that. U n ur wife are patners. Teavh her. Don't giv up 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by passyhansome(m): 4:57am On Aug 20, 2016 |
To me you musn't stop telling her about how you feeling about the whole situation, meanwhile the question is Was she a sex type before giving birth, after birth when her mother came around hope she wasn't circumcised that's what some do after first child (it reduces sexual feeling drastically depending on how it was done), do you make her feel uncomfortable during sex, or do you turn yourself to a porn star on her, making want to resist you sometimes, Are you self centered? Only caring about your satisfaction and not her?. Infact you need to do a questionaire about this, ask urself about this and answer then you can involved her. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by nathpope(m): 4:57am On Aug 20, 2016 |
cococandy: Seems lyk u knw diz dudes... If only u lived a "not too frivolous life", dis so called "yahoo boys" wldn't av had a hold on u wt threats... Yahoo boys n frivolty are lyk garri n sugar. #noOFFENCE.. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by DonaTee(f): 5:02am On Aug 20, 2016 |
Toks2008: pre intimacy is like writing Jamb for many Nigerian men.....show me 1 lady who doesn't like pre intimacy. Women r wired differently. Just find d password of d woman ur r with 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by DonaTee(f): 5:16am On Aug 20, 2016 |
Timbuktuo: ur post shows how naive u are. U ll soon get married n have kids. Switch places with ur wife for 1week n check if u wont break down for 1 month after doing chores n cooking different meals n beggin n feeding d kids, separating fights, n runnig after them to hold dem while dey fly off d couch. This is no justification for lazy sex life tho. But never u look down on any housewife. U never know d stress dey go through to kip d home perfect 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by luswitz(f): 5:21am On Aug 20, 2016 |
cococandy:I assumed this was d case, this is one thing dat can turn a woman away. |
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