ItsQuinn:
Divorce him straight! ....you're not benefiting anything from him, even your child is not benefiting anything from his/her father, what's the point of staying together then? The mistake you made was to marry him in the first place, next time get to know who you are marrying and the family's background before marrying. Now it's time to correct that mistake with a divorce

My sister, go look for a good job to support yourself and your baby. Stay blessed

divorce ke, sister are you married?

SlaughterGang:
RUBBISH, you should be overjoyed, your husband is practicing Safe sex.

Receive deliverance IJN. AMEN

Joker123:
Wat were u looking for inside his wallet...?Shey uv found it ni...seek and ye shall find.

She is allowed to look in her husband's wallet. They are meant to be one.

We men are monstrous in our actions sometimes...why should someone tell his wife all these rubbish in the name of misunderstanding..Although the story is one-sided,i would advice you not to always exchange words with him.Know how new mum behaves and the cry of baby at night is disturbing seriously

Jobia:
thunder destroy your mouth there! Pig

Is that all u got?

another story that touches the heart...

where do women meet such asssholes

lordbish:
divorce ke, sister are you married?

give me just one good reason why she should be in that marriage?

Madam sorry o, I bet your husband is either from delta state, especially urhobo, isoko, itsekiri, ijaw, sapele etc..
In such areas, even though am opportuned to be created from the region. The mentality of been faithful to wives is so rare.. The in-laws, especially the women will ring it into wife ears, that her husband is not meant for her alone and she shouldnt disturb his peace if he has concubines outside, so that he will live long.. Such a crazy mentality, sorry peeps from such areas but it's true.
Nothing will make me marry from my region.. Not in this life time or in another life time.
The men can fucvk around, with pride while his sisters, aunts even will see nothing wrong in it..
As a wife, if u like stay, if u like go... They don't give a hoot.

Op, doh... Sorry ehn? Such is life at times.

Madam I'm not good in advising but I i wish u give him more time very soon he will get tired of the street and turn a deaf leaf to his bad attitude just accept him as ur cross for now he will definately change

98% of men cheat in marriage... this your own husband dey extra useless... how him no go drop money for him pikin and wife.

Sharp men satisfy their wives and children with everything and still cut coded shows with anyone suspecting. Aunty your husband doesn't respect you one kobo.. are you sure you did not force yourself on him?

ItsQuinn:
No I'm not a single mum ....why are you giving me advice? Did I ask for your advice?

please ohh can u go back and read what I wrote there carefully again then I know u will understand ur previous question does not come close to meaning. Thank me later. One Love.

Cook his food with something he hates and serve it with a smile.

Chaii. ...

These men are lucky African women are prayerful.

Recently a Chinese woman got back at her husband by putting acid in his boxers. After all the rubbish he did and rubbed her nose in, he expected her to cook and clean for him.
This lack of conscience from men amazes me o

bettercreature:
Put it inside plate cover it and serve him as dinner,allow him to open it then tell him that is what you found in his wallet
Slap him 3-4 times then kick him out of the house

oya clap for yaself

gbengaoa:

the home belongs to a woman. if things are going wrong, she feels it more. i have given her my honest advise and i believe you can do thesame and leave me with my opinion.

Okay O. I Don hear you. Your honest opinion is that she is at fault. Women alone make marriage work. All husbands are perfect in nature. If a husband is bad, the wife should be blamed. No wahala. I am sure she has started looking for what she did that turned her saint husband bad.

willibounce1:
98% of men cheat in marriage... this your own husband dey extra useless... how him no go drop money for him pikin and wife.

Sharp men satisfy their wives and children with everything and still cut coded shows with anyone suspecting. Aunty your husband doesn't respect you one kobo.. are you sure you did not force yourself on him?

So coded cheating means respect for wife?

Oyimeoyimemua:
oya clap for yaself

Lol I'm under serious pressure just using this site to pass time at the moment

Further proof that marraige is meant for Christians alone. Every other is just serial gambling.

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

You know this man before you married him best advice is to go buy another good brand of condom and keep for him in his pocket, so a least you be sure he is playing safe.

delishpot:


So coded cheating means respect for wife?

Yes oo. So long as she doesn't suspect at all...you gotta be extremely codes and very submissive at home.. if you know the number of men who cheat on their wives, in fact judgement day go sweet die

ikp120:


Some women don't know what marriage is. In a marriage, the man is the boss while the woman is the baby. Naturally speaking that is how it is. That's why men pay before they marry her. It is simple common sense

That's why you're blessed with horrible leaders because the average Nigerian sees being the head as an opportunity to misbehave instead of an opportunity to serve and make things better for those they lead. Why else would the cultural position of man as head of the family be interpreted to mean men can do whatever they want?

Just listen to the jibberish you posted. How does the man being the boss mean that it's okay for him to treat his woman badly or cheat on her?

adviseseeker:
So it is an idiot who will tell his wife he will go outside? I have told my wife the same thing at least 3 times and I meant it.

Women need to get serious. The OP's case is totally different from mine because to be honest, he is with an idiot. Only an idiot will not want to see his own child. It is madness actually. But in a case whereby your wife thinks she can deny you sex ( when you only ask 3 times per week) and expect you to get it whenever she wants and will go any mile to get it nko?



Sex is not the be it all of marriage, but it is very important too.

Oga, your story is totally different. Moreover, everyone can get it outside.... oh yes! But two wrongs don't make a right. Threats and violence will never solve problems... so result to wiser and subtle ways of dealing with situations.God bless your marriage.

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

i am also a married woman, just take my advice. Your husband is under a spell. Someone has vowed not to see you enjoy ur marriage.....if am talking shit, y would a right thinking man keep late nights bcox of baby cry ? Go down to ur kneels and call upon God. Something is wrong, look for what is happening to u

Chibuhealth:
i am also a married woman, just take my advice. Your husband is under a spell. Someone has vowed not to see you enjoy ur marriage.....if am talking shit, y would a right thinking man keep late nights bcox of baby cry ? Go down to ur kneels and call upon God. Something is wrong, look for what is happening to u

Lol..because he keeps late night....e don turn to spiritual matter... Lol...

TIREDOFSEX:
wat kinda family do thy have sha lol....

But this ur story no complete, im pretty that u refused him that's why it leads to quarrel... So he gets angry and tells u thst shit.

its good to see someone who is thinking out of box those who commented b4 you have allowed emotions to be cloud their reasoning something must have transpired b4 he voiced out his intention of going out...moreover we only heard her own side of the story which absolved her of any wrong doing

her husband's own account could be a tip of eyes beg

Shey wen pastor say pray b4 marriage..una no go hear...u will just rush....like sae if u marry u will start buying rice at 12000 per bag.....
op beta go n sort it out with ur hubby...no comment on did thread will help you..
#peace..

>>>His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about.


perhaps the last generation of real men walking the earth!!!!

Marriage worked until 21st century. Since you don born one pikin and the man never change, you need to change. Leave his pikin for him and go job hunting, get yourself beautiful and do the needful. Dependency is what kills women. Na so my cleaner dey use her salary feed her husband and the 1yr old baby, and the slowpoke is busy playing Soccer Betting daily. Wetin dey worry una self with love.

Get back to d real u E fell in love with, look attractive for him, get sometin doing and register ur baby in a day care center divorce is not an option

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

Madam, you'll continue to see condoms in your husband's whatever if;

1. You don't respect him.

2. You don't listen to him when he wants to talk about his frustrations and encourage him.

3. You've let that spark that drew him to you to fade out. How are your looks now compared to when you people met?

4. You always run to your parents or even his parents to report him.

5. You don't care about what and how he eats when he's at work or going out for his business.

So answer yourself (forget his father).

Just get beautiful as you were when you met. Listen to him when he's talking trash

ItsQuinn:
Divorce him straight! ....you're not benefiting anything from him, even your child is not benefiting anything from his/her father, what's the point of staying together then? The mistake you made was to marry him in the first place, next time get to know who you are marrying and the family's background before marrying. Now it's time to correct that mistake with a divorce

My sister, go look for a good job to support yourself and your baby. Stay blessed

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