Toks2008:


Many people now use flimsy adjectives to buttress their premeditated act of divorce..emotional abuse,irreconcilable differences bla bla bla..

Talk about physical abuse and i will agree and i mean wife or husband battering...any other reason is a facade.

But then as i wrote, investigate and you wil know if the divorce is justified.

Jarizod:
[b] Very Nice points Mr Toks..

Lemme quickly chip in something about Married Women depriving men of sex..For the record am against cheating..any form of it BUT

These days many Ladies deprive their men of sex for as long as MONTHS and they blame it on their tight schedules and jobs..when their husbands wanna touch them @ night they are like "No honey u know I have to work tomorrow, prepare food and take the kids to school" we understand You are a career woman and all but at least satisfy ur man's sexual urges even if it's thrice in a week!

By the time their husband starts visiting one small girl with big YANSH and boobsi they start shouting upandan "After all the Love and dedication I showed you" who Love epp of course it's important buh the sex/Love-making is a major part of the relationship! _,if u don't give ur husband some nice yanshing another girl outside will do it for u and that could lead to the end of your marriage!

Cheating is an inexcusable offence but it can be avoided.. just yansh ur man properly [/b]

Jarizod:
[b] Very Nice points Mr Toks..

Lemme quickly chip in something about Married Women depriving men of sex..For the record am against cheating..any form of it BUT

These days many Ladies deprive their men of sex for as long as MONTHS and they blame it on their tight schedules and jobs..when their husbands wanna touch them @ night they are like "No honey u know I have to work tomorrow, prepare food and take the kids to school" we understand You are a career woman and all but at least satisfy ur man's sexual urges even if it's thrice in a week!

By the time their husband starts visiting one small girl with big YANSH and boobsi they start shouting upandan "After all the Love and dedication I showed you" who Love epp of course it's important buh the sex/Love-making is a major part of the relationship! _,if u don't give ur husband some nice yanshing another girl outside will do it for u and that could lead to the end of your marriage!

Cheating is an inexcusable offence but it can be avoided.. just yansh ur man properly [/b]

Mimzyy:


I do not have a problem with the part you mentioned. What i have a prob with is where Toks stated that "...the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again...".

The above quoted is all shades of wrong.

Toks2008:


Many people now use flimsy adjectives to buttress their premeditated act of divorce..emotional abuse,irreconcilable differences bla bla bla..

Talk about physical abuse and i will agree and i mean wife or husband battering...any other reason is a facade.

But then as i wrote, investigate and you wil know if the divorce is justified.

Kunlegold:
The gospel truth is bf u marry a divorcee you should do a proper investigation.... I married one and I am passing thru hail. Anything can happen bc I am getting tired of her behavior.

Femiwilli:
Good One OP.

One of the reason's I knew that Adeboye is not of God.
His pastors divorce and remarries.

the bible is clear that if you marry a divorcee, you are committing a adultery.
Not committed but committing so it's a continuous process .

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Mimzyy:


I do not have a problem with the part you mentioned. What i have a prob with is where Toks stated that "...the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again...".

The above quoted is all shades of wrong.

Mimzyy:


I do not have a problem with the part you mentioned. What i have a prob with is where Toks stated that "...the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again...". 

The above quoted is all shades of wrong. 
 
on point

Mimzyy:


I do not have a problem with the part you mentioned. What i have a prob with is where Toks stated that "...the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again...".

The above quoted is all shades of wrong.

midehi2:

Lol, I see no amount of work pressure that will make me deprive sex from my hubby, hun!, that thing, no way, whether am tired or not

Femiwilli:
Good One OP.

One of the reason's I knew that Adeboye is not of God.
His pastors divorce and remarries.

the bible is clear that if you marry a divorcee, you are committing a adultery.
Not committed but committing so it's a continuous process .

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

IamMissMarvel:
Toh. My mum and I still had this conversation yesterday.

God NEVER intended for any marriage to lead to divorce. The only ground Jesus gave in the book of Matthew was Infidelity. Yet, both parties can't marry after the divorce else, they become guilty of Adultery.

Yet, the bible asked that we forgive our neighbours 70 times 7 times a day (correct me if I'm wrong), so, how can one person commit adultery 70 times 7 times a day that we can't forgive, yet, we ask God daily for Mercy even tho we sin against Him countless times a day.

This is why it is very important to seek God's face before jumping into marriage, do things the way God has instructed, so when you're in a fix, you can go to Him and ask Him to fix it.

But now, we see biblical standards as "Old School".

Toks2008:
In every case of divorce, there is rarely a situation where the two parties involved will be totally willing to part and there is usually a party that wants reconciliation and another that insists that it is over.

Before you marry a divorcee please make sure you find out the reason for the divorce and if it is possible,have a discussion with the ex to hear the other side of the story and no matter the false representation given by the ex, you will still have an idea of the type of person he or she is and the reason for the divorce because in most cases, the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again.

Marriage is a union between two forgivers and if you cannot forgive a spouse who is sorry then what is the guaranty that your next marriage will work?

So ladies and guys, before you marry a divorcee, be sure to find out why that person is leaving his or her marriage because no matter how innocuous that person may look to you,you must understand that many people are like the leopard who never change its spots and most often,any party who insists on divorce especially due to irreconcilable differences will always have reason to divorce the new partner because even if you change partners a million times, there will always be irreconcilable differences.

I hope this makes sense.

drnoel:


Confused, inappropriate and laden with errors. The problem about giving an advice is knowing that an advice given to an individual should also be taken by the giver. As it is this advice written here fails to have strength and purpose to be taken. Nairalanders over to una.

Mimzyy:
#Flawed . Hasty Generalization Toks.
So if a lady/guy is being emotionally/physically abused and it gets to a point where he/she can't take it anymore hence a call for divorce, it means the individual will always have a reason to divorce again and again? I actually wish you posted this in the family section but oh well...

Google63:

Yeah. You're right about that. The person who insists on divorce could have been pushed to the wall.

Lovelynature:
Nicely written. But I'm just wondering which ex would give you a concrete answer, when they don't want to remember what happened between them.

Instead of trying to investigate all these, why not try to find out what both of you share in common - how compatibility you are - things he/she can or can not tolerate no matter what.
This way you know where to draw lines - either to ride on or back off

STENON:
The best is to run away from divorcee.



They are always nice, God-Fearing and caring at the beginning in order to attract opposite sex.

Toks2008:


Shey you have taken that thing again...

Because you are not communicating at all.

Femiwilli:
Good One OP.

One of the reason's I knew that Adeboye is not of God.
His pastors divorce and remarries.

the bible is clear that if you marry a divorcee, you are committing a adultery.
Not committed but committing so it's a continuous process .

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Phonefanatic:


A friend is currently dating one and she is just what you described. Her point being that she married him because she was pregnant the marriage didn't last more than a year and she left because of his promiscuous behavior but not with the kid as the man didn't allow that. She seems nice that I begin to wonder why a man in his right senses would let her go........

Thanks OP.

alexiej:
In the US, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.

It means a divorcee is 67% certain to divorce his/her second husband/wife again. Why? Just like the OP said, they right questions aren't asked.

U see a girl claiming feminist. "I cannot cook for u cos I'm not ur slave. We are the two heads of the family" and she gets divorced. You as a guy didn't ask for all that, u just assume her ex must be a fool, and u marry her. Now u want her to cook, to respect u. Hasn't the marriage failed already?

PS: GOD HATES DIVORCE