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Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by saphhire: 9:42pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Believe it or not; there is, indeed, more to a relationship than sex. Suprised? Actually, nope. But yes, we have been shaped by a culture that bases itself on internet porn, one-night stands and erotica, and so, has lost vision of the real point of a relationship—which is to just spend time with another individual you are attracted to in more ways than one. While you can have sex with anybody, it’s the post-sex equation that is not something you want to have with everyone. Sometimes, all you want to do is hangout with your significant other—play video games, watch re-runs of your favourite shows, have conversations about life and while eating pizza with—because at the end of the day, we are all looking to grow old with someone, even if we’re not saying it out loud. To test this out further, I talked to a young couple about this. Sophie and Emmanuel (names changed) have been together for a year now. While the two of them can literally not get their hands off each other, besides being visibly in love, the two of them have never had sex. Yes, their physical chemistry is like no other, they say and they spend nights together sleeping over; they all but indulge in the act of what modern-aged lovemaking. To them, love is about sharing their love for their favourite music, talking in the most romantic manner possible because they seriously are high on the mush, cooking for one another and lying curled up together, whispering sweet nothings to each other. Most may wonder how they could possibly not lose control, or how they have even lasted this long. Theirs is a relationship of a cosmic connection, says Sophie. “Our mutual understanding for each other and our love transcends the act of just having sex,” she adds. So how do we, as a generation heady on boners, orals and lack of self-control, go from ‘just having sex’ to actually making love without the physicality of it? Does it mean we have to shut out of our digital social circles and spend more time together offline? Maybe. Does it mean watching less porn or reading less erotica, or hooking up online with someone? Maybe. Does it mean we need to wear promise rings and swear sexual allegiance to the chosen one, whoever that might be? Maybe. But, most of all, it’s just one of those things that you will know when you know. So, when you meet someone with whom you love hanging out, playing Fifa with, watching sitcoms with, staying up late with or just sharing stale pizza with, you will realise that sometimes, it is okay to have a relationship that is based on pure, innocent love and not on ‘just having sex’. Till then, don’t quit the search! ORIGINALLY POSTED ON: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/ *NIGERIA'S COOLEST WEBZINE* 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 9:44pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
If God's plan was actually no sex before marriage, then I guess we would all receive our various dîcks and pûssies on the wedding day #Just_Saying 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 9:48pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Nice one op. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Laveda(f): 9:49pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
I didn't read, just do whatever makes you happpy, that's all. 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 9:54pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:.....See yer life We use our gentiles for more important things than sex .....peeing. ~~~ have you ever had 2 go really bad?? Then you'll understand me perfectly 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:09pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Don't you think if God wants us to be using our gentiles for peeing alone, he would have done that because everything is within his power 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:21pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:I didn't say that was All it was designed for i only informed you yer assertion was incorrect. ~~ We have our gentiles from birth because we use them for something more essential than sex ........peeing |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:28pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Baba, we're saying the same thing but just in a different way What I'm telling yo is that I don't think God's plan was actually no sex before marriage because if that was actually his plan, he would have given us different mechanism to pee rather than using our genitals |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:37pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:or he made our gentiles multi functional because he's efficient ~~~ And he just expected us to exercise the self control he instilled in us. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:42pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: [size=25pt]Bingo!! [/size] |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:46pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:see case of saving face. ~~ You did not say what i just did in yer 1st post,the exact opposite. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:49pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Bruh, what the fúck are you saying?? I don't seems to understand what you saying anymore |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by ajokeade920: 10:51pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
how i wish this can happen in this 21st century |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:53pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:oh,yer not familiar with the term ~~ Saving Face signifies a desire -- or defines a strategy -- to avoid humiliation or embarrassment, to maintain dignity or preserve reputation ~~ In yer case you just pretend we said the same thing but I was only Kidding Was lost on you though,all my kidding seems 2 be. ~ I want 2 go now,bye |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Girls are for kpanshing! Nothing more! #nuffsaid |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Lol, Dude have you ever been told you're fûcking [size=20pt]Weird[/size] ?? |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:00pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:1.Yeah,all the time 2.im a Girl 3.you write 2 big |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:03pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Dude, you're not a girl and I can bet my left ball on that |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:07pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Silkmoth33:[size=25pt]For real?? [/size]
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Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:09pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
ajokeade920: Happy Birthday, Ma'am!! And where is my cake?? |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:10pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:alright,ill accept yer skepticism. ~~ I'm curious by nature doh,so erm....why are you so confident I aint? I mean you bet yer life givers on it you gonna miss that left 1 when you loose |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:12pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Lol, Dude then make me lose it first I'm fúcking curious by nature too |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:13pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn: Anal, _bdsm, CFNM, anal, more anal and pussy _fucking that's all dey are for nothing more. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:16pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Silkmoth33:My man,juding by yer sex style preferences you have pent up aggressions.Seek help 1 Like |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by ajokeade920: 11:17pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:thanks dearie. And your cake is in the other room |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:18pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Silkmoth33: Lol, wait make dem catch you |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:21pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Neh! I'm usually the no nonsense submissive waiting to get his left ball sack stepped on |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:21pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
ajokeade920:Lol, you mean the real other room?? Make ah off my trousers, I'll be joining you in there very soon |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by MacBrooklyn: 11:23pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MuddyHandsNFeet: Dude, since you're claiming to be feminine, why don't you epp him now?? |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:25pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn:uhn un. I never said I'd prove anything Just maybe 1 day you'll know, you'll need 2 find a replacement ball on that day 2 Bye-bye Brooklyn. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:26pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
MacBrooklyn: Lol! I wonder! Meanwhile, Make I dey check the elasticity of my belts again. |
Re: Why It's Okay To Be In A Sexless Relationship by Nobody: 11:28pm On Oct 20, 2016 |
Silkmoth33:that's an interesting description of submission you gave. I now know the issue,you watch blue films |
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