My friend,if she wants to leave,allow her. There are so many ladies out there that are ready to wait for you.Pls forget those trash of " suitors are coming for her ".Na trash be that.Leave her and let's see if she will get married in one year.All na wash! Na today?

From what I read, it seems like YOU ARE NOT READY YET and there's nothing wrong with that. The decision to marry is a CONTRACT between TWO LIKE MINDED people. If your gut instincts is telling you to wait, then wait and let her go. The last thing you want to do is marry and have your feels hurts or your ego bruised because you don't make enough money to support your family. Many "poor" people marry all the time and live happily ever after. If you don't marry with absolute peace of mind, your marriage will be in trouble even before it starts. My two kobo.

Hmmmm, bros, are you fear fear? Am sure you're a christian? What happens to "he that finds a wife finds a good thing?" Well, here's my testimony. I met my hubby when he was earning just 50k a month, as the first son of the family he had several responsibilities, the money could barely feed him and his family in a month, but he was ready to settle down, at the same time he was scared. I kept on encouraging and challenging him, it may just be the devils little trick to delay your destiny, wake up and take the bull by the horn. It wasn't easy, but with prayers and encouragement, he decided to proceed with the wedding. As at when we started the plans, he had nothing in his account. About 2 months to our wedding, he received a call from a friend, and that's how a miracle job came, without interview. He was just asked a few questions on phone and the next thing we knew, he was called to come pick up his appointment letter.
My hubby emptied his account for our wedding, and less than a month after our wedding, he had close to million naira sitting in his account, in less than 3 months, my sweet sweet hubby bought me a car. And just last week, we attended a seminar where there was a raffle draw and I won us a plot of land. We got married on the 16th of April this year. Is God not wonderful? There are many other things I wouldn't want to bore you with. So, I would advice that first, you follow your heart. But on the other hand, if you know you really don't wanna loose that lady, then get married ASAP. Stop giving excuses, the most important thing should be that you both love and understand eachother like crazy and can cohabit or live together as husband and wife for as long as Jesus tarries to come. Trust me, everything will fall in place, just leave the rest to God. All the best.

yusufogrin:


I just love you.....bitter truth

I do not normally comment on post but I want to advice u...If u wait till u will have money, when the money comes u will find it hard to see a girl that has all the qualities she posses..bro..I think she likes u..and to crown it all, she even know ur financial status...wait...u wan be dangote before u marry? my friend..if u love her..then get her....he who finds a wife has found a good thing and will obtain favor from God.....a word is enough...

People get married for love and get divorced because love isn't just enough. A word is enough for a wise.

Try and get her pregnant. Thank me later

EastGold:


You are not ready to get married.


I did my wedding 9 months after losing my job, I had nothing, I mean nothing, we had no honey moon, on Monday, I went outside to hustle, today we are fine

That's you bro, what works for A might not work for B?

maxwell60:
you are talking as if marriage is by force or compulsory.I most tell u bro your advice is the most stupid advice I have read concerning this issue so far only a fool will take it.

Thanks.

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

You took words from my mouth man!


Op. Let her go!

Dear Op !! This is also my opinion... may God direct you

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

God purnish u aswear

bros follow your insticts beacuse if we give you advice now it may back fire tommorow and we might be not there.. you only said part of the story

Lofy u messed up honestly u started well, but end so poorly

Reading all the comment above, I'm confused rather than been convince. b'cause both side of the matter were well arguably pointed out. Sure ops will feel almost the same way! Whatever you choose bro, I just wish you best of Luck! Watch and pray... Feel for you brother.

buchilino:


IT'S NOT AS EASY AS UR SAYING IT. MOST PPLE LACK MENTAL MATURITY. SHE'S SAYING SHE ASSIST HIM NOW, BUT MY QUESTION IS SHE MATURED ENOUGH, 2 NO DAT D GUY IS HEAD N HIGH PRIEST OF D HOME, EVEN IF SHE EARNS MORE THAN HIM

I know one has to be sure of a woman's maturity in cases like this before embarking on the journey but I'm sure Op can tell where she lies.

maxwell60:
so you mean everyone should follow your lifestyle righ? Marrying poor and later hoping to get more? You are confused IS ONLY A FOOL THAT WILL GET MARRIED WHEN HE HAS NOTHING BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT IT IS JUST A NECESSITY THAT IS NOT COMPULSORY..PLZ NEXT TIME STOP ADVISING PEOPLE TO MARRY WHEN THEY DON'T HAVE NOTHING BECAUSE MONEY WILL NOT FALL FROM HEAVEN BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED, AND MARRIAGE, DON'T GIVE ANYBODY MONEY.

Next time try to connect your head with your brain before you quote me.

Okay?

EastGold:


You are not ready to get married.


I did my wedding 9 months after losing my job, I had nothing, I mean nothing, we had no honey moon, on Monday, I went outside to hustle, today we are fine

bros u must be a yoloba man cos only a yoloba man can attempt this thing u wrote.

Let her go.

For the good of both of you.

I don't just know why most of you niggaz have scarcity mentality when it comes to women.

Guy, women plenty everywhere!

Please don't ever make that terrible mistake of allowing a woman box you into a corner.

She's desperate now, that's why she's telling you that you guys can cope.

Just wait after the marriage when she must've gotten what she wants and see how the song will change.

Women and their myopic nature ehh! She will always blame you for every financial trouble you guys might face.

Worst part is that she may not even say it to your face but be sure that all those her friends who are advising her to walk away now will be in your business all thanks to her!

You can imagine the kind of coded insult they will be giving you. You will surely become a laughing stock for not being man enough as in not having the financial muscles!

Chai!

I hope you can cope if it eventually comes to that.

I repeat: let her go nowww!!!

bros let me tell you the truth, you don't need a millions of naira before you settle down what matter most is love if she love you and she's ready to accept you the way you are then go on now stop wasting her time pls

She has told u that she understands and is ready to marry u ....bros no dull yasef o

Most people just giving themselves headache over marriage,the world is over populated, a time of sorrows is coming upon us,yet people wanna marry, dont you read scriptures and epistles,Paul said its good that people be like him for the present distress, Christ said woe to them that give suck in those days,yet people are hung up on marriage, only if you guys knew what the Great tribulation means and how close it is, you'd keep your stuff zipped but like Christ said they were marrying and giving to marriage until the doors were shut, same thing will happen again.

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

You nailed it.
Like we say in local parlance, ' Marriage no be beans'.

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Ore mi, gbagbe o. Go and marry her fast fast. You don't need any elaborate wedding. Only an elaborate naming ceremony. This is what you've got, a very understanding woman. A woman that believe in you. very intelligent and A true love. No dulling, believe in yourself and boost your self esteem you will get a job.

Ecclesiastes 9:11 I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all

Be sure not to miss ur time nd ur chance (opportunity). If true luv is there nd she is the right person, u 've no excuse.

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

It dosnt matter how much u earn or 've nw, the important thing is cleaving to the right person. Be sure it's luv nd nt lust...

Above all, pray for God's guidance (Jer. 33:3). Marriage is far beyong what u feel or see nw

Pray! Pray!! Pray!!!

Zirah:
I hope she loves you as much as you think she does. Cos l don't get her discussing you with a friend. "leave him for a richer guy". I wouldn't do that to someone l consider husband material. I'd cover up for him as much as l can. We can talk other light matters but never my bf's financial worth. Not even with my mother. Those are very private matters but note @"husband material".

you are on point and that issue of finance has to be between the two of em n not discussing with third parties
..

Married life is very expensive, all those BILLS, the KIDS, the GROCERIES, but in your case dis word keeps flashing for my mind "Gigolo"

blackboot:
i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man.

Bro......this is 2016. When on earth in this never ending hard times would you find a high paying job and have enough to be a real man?...how many more yearssss?...and you want her to be patient?...is her name Job? A good wife is hard to find . ... lucky you but instead of rushing to the altar here you are making shakara. Truth be told.... I think you are one of those guys that feel inferior if your wife earns more than you....and that is your problem. Get over it ...or free up the wife material and let another man wrap himself around it.

AZeD1:

Is there a price for getting married before 30?

you fit marry woman wen fit no born pikin? Think before you talk

Did you say something?

OlajumokeBread:
Why wouldn't she dump you when you act and think like a 5 year old kid ??

If she wants to dump you, that's fine, did you two sign a contract that you must marry her ?? Married couple who were married for 40 years do get divorced and move on with their lives and you're here crying about a girl you don't even know her her parents

What are you gonna do about it ?? Go to your room, cry about it, eat some ice cream and watch cartoons

You are the reason why some women do this nonsense shiit to some men because you're soft and emotional


Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

Let me tell you the naked truth, she doesn't love you and this is how God wanted it to happen, you will remember about this incident in the next 20 years from now and just laugh


Stop crying like a little girl and man up

I pity any girl that would dump me or think that she broke my heart because i don't give a flying and running fucck

There are millions of good girls out there you can marry and avoid unnecessary trouble

Men can get any girl in the world

Beyonce married Jay Z
Nicki Minaj is dating Meek Mill
Nick Canon married Mariah Carey


You can marry any girl you want

mikolo80:
you fit marry woman wen fit no born pikin? Think before you talk

Have i ever told you i want to have kids?

Don't assume everybody wants kids or wants to get married.
Think before you talk.

AZeD1:

Have i ever told you i want to have kids?

Don't assume everybody wants kids or wants to get married.
Think before you talk.

Everyone wants to have kids
Stop deceiving yourself

mikolo80:

Everyone wants to have kids
Stop deceiving yourself

Yeah right.