Caracta:


Yes. You sounded like you've never been under the strong influence of love. The simple fact that you cannot cross certain boundaries for loved ones doesn't make people who can do that fo0lish.

OP lost her father at age 7, right? Today, she's a Doctor (She's probably 26+ years today). Do you honestly think someone will do wrong for 20 years for the sake of another?


I think a lot of posters have issues with her choice of words. I've only decided to look deeper.

Acidosis:


OP lost her father at age 7, right? Today, she's a Doctor (She's probably 26+ years today). Do you honestly think someone will do wrong for 20 years for the sake of another?


I think a lot of posters have issues with her choice of words. I've only decided to look deeper.

What do you consider as wrong? And how do you measure length of time in this case? I don't get.

It's not about choice of words here. It's about the underlying meaning. If we were wrong, OP could have corrected our submission and defended her sister that both of you are so quick to condemn and tie to a stake to burn.

Caracta:


What do you consider as wrong? And how do you measure length of time in this case? I don't get.

It's not about choice of words here. It's about the underlying meaning. If we were wrong, OP could have corrected our submission and defended her sister that both of you are so quick to condemn and tie to a stake to burn.

OP said she lost her dad at age 7, and her sister played the role of a father. She's (OP) been frequently referred to as Doc on this thread (as seen in her moniker). Age 7 - to - being a Doctor is not a very short timeframe (life) anyone would live exclusively for the sake of another.

Which sane brother or sister would not take care of her immediate family? I'm not in agreement with some posters here because they made it sound like the sister lived her life ONLY for her family. That's, in fact, the major point I refute strongly on this thread.

I hope you all are now paying back her kindness and fully supporting her eg medical treatment, health care etc
It is about time Africans do it the way it is supposed to be...every man for himself. To the girl child, don't carry family obligation upon yourself because you are the first born.
Now you are somehow blaming her for the paths she took to make you all to be somebody in life. Keep that and your opinions to your self and do the needful by taking full responsibility of her. I'm sure she made you who you are today.

drbolade:

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

EfemenaXY:


Who is the ingrate? @op or his sister?

Op of course.

I am thinking she's a she not a he

Children should not take their parents responsibilities...deaths, inability or for whatever reason, don't take monetary charge of family. Enjoy/suffer your own life and face your own front like our western people do it.

this acidosis has some big issues!!!

quivah:
this acidosis has some big issues!!!

armyofone:
In essence, children should not take their parents responsibilities...deaths, inability or for whatever reason, don't take monetary charge of family. Enjoy/suffer your own life and face your own front like our western people do it.

Never said that. Please read my post again, slowly and with an open mind.

Edited.

Nancy2016:


Never said that. Please read my post again, slowly and with an open mind.

Trust nairalanders with their views and ''yabbings. There are some assumptions you guys are making that are not correct. It takes courage to post a topic like this and want people to learn from your own mistake, if people will do anyway. I am sure some of you shouting ungrateful will say I am bragging if I said I have done this or that for her, but does that one change her status no. A poster claim the topic is gender bias well sorry for that but from experience women are more emotional and being tempt to take up such responsibilities, for instance my sister is the fourth born. Note the only reason while I post this topic is just for people to learn and that is all

So her elders ones let her carry such responsibilities. Not nice.

drbolade:
Trust nairalanders with their views and ''yabbings. There are some assumptions you guys are making that are not correct. It takes courage to post a topic like this and want people to learn from your own mistake,if people will do anyway. I am sure some of you shouting ungrateful will say I am bragging if I said I have done this or that for her, but does that one change her status no. A poster claim the topic is gender bias well sorry for that but from experience women are more emotional and being tempt to take up such responsibilities, for instance my sister is the fourth born. Note the only reason while I post this topic is just for people to learn and that is all

Heavance:
Seriously touching......
But she couldn't watch her family starve or suffer, she did all that to see you all smile

Exactly! That sister sacrificed her life for her family. She deserves a royal treatment for the rest of her life here on earth. She is a Heroine.

checkengine:


Exactly! That sister sacrificed her life for her family. She deserves a royal treatment for the rest of her life here on earth. She is a Heroine.

Checkengine checkengine my battery eventually gave o, not one bit of light left for matches to heaven. I guess I can't save the world after all No vex biko.

drbolade:
Trust nairalanders with their views and ''yabbings. There are some assumptions you guys are making that are not correct. It takes courage to post a topic like this and want people to learn from your own mistake, if people will do anyway. I am sure some of you shouting ungrateful will say I am bragging if I said I have done this or that for her, but does that one change her status no. A poster claim the topic is gender bias well sorry for that but from experience women are more emotional and being tempt to take up such responsibilities, for instance my sister is the fourth born. Note the only reason while I post this topic is just for people to learn and that is all

Madam Judgina and teacher in chief. Why didn't you in primary school pay your own school fees. And so what if she was the 4th born? Just shows that the others were not willing to sacrifice. She should have left you to hustle in primary school. No one is interested in your lessons. You all enjoyed it while the going was good. If you were so self righteous, you should all have rejected the money.

drbolade:
Well I may be wrong but that is how I feel right now.All I wish and I want is my sister to regain her health back. And don't make it sound as if we were bunch of lazy bone feasting on her hustle. I practically sponsored myself through university, every weekend I traveled from Ife to Ikire for a menial job that pays #1200 to pay my bills.

Dont allow contempt in ur heart towards ur sister. Woteva she did, she did for the family including u. So please don't be an ungrateful fellow. Treat her with love & accord her due respect. For all u posted up there, u need to seek God's forgiveness & though she may not see this post of yours, try to make it up to her. Keep this at the back of ur mind: nothing lasts 4eva & no one knows tomorrow

drbolade:
Trust nairalanders with their views and ''yabbings. There are some assumptions you guys are making that are not correct. It takes courage to post a topic like this and want people to learn from your own mistake, if people will do anyway. I am sure some of you shouting ungrateful will say I am bragging if I said I have done this or that for her, but does that one change her status no. A poster claim the topic is gender bias well sorry for that but from experience women are more emotional and being tempt to take up such responsibilities, for instance my sister is the fourth born. Note the only reason while I post this topic is just for people to learn and that is all

before u posted this so people would learn as u said, did you put into consideration how ur sister wud feel shud she see this? She didn't run away from home. She didn't make the money & spent all on herself. Did you consider the relief on ur mummy's soul wen she was bringing the money home? U had fud to eat. Ur second born has a certificate to his name. Ur third born is now happily married. U also must have gotten some money from her. Pls for Christ' sake, don't judge her. And nothing u do for her is too much.

take d ladies to d other room

Absolutely right but I can't really blame her tho. Some people just cannot stand seeing their love ones suffer

hmmmmm

Do U really understand d write up maybe U should read again because he was nt in any way been ungrateful he praised n exalted his sister to d position of god, he never condemned her,he was saying she shouldnt av done something detrimental n bad because of dem

baby124:
Can you imagine this OP, your sister scrificed her life for even your mother who should have been the one hustling. And you come here to say she should have known her limit abi? Kai!!!! Poor woman! She should have just helped herself and left you there. So you can be an agbero and primary school dropout.

At least you will have come on NL screaming in pain that you don't have house to live or food to eat. You said she played God abi? Very good. See human? If she sees this nonsense from you, poor thing will cry her eyes out. All her efforts are a big waste! If you are a man you should dig a grave and bury yourself out of shame. I hope your sister finds love and peace. And that she lives a long and productive life to shame ungrateful creatures like you.

The truth is that am yet to come to terms oto what op wrote

Selling your body to feed your family? I'm not a fan.

Hmmmmm

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

What an ungrateful and apathetic write up. Where was your god when you were all suffering?

Your sister is your God. That one your serve in your church should be flushed down the toilet

Acidosis:


Heavy grammar won't aid the comprehension issues.

I maintain my stance, no woman (sister) will deep her hands into evil for the sole purpose of taking care of her nuclear family.

Her actions were meant to satisfy her own desires first, before anyone else.

Just let it go, not everyone will view issues from the emotional angle. Common sense first, before emotions.
Make I hear say the lady no get a well furnished house and a car somewhere. Even if she doesn't, you think se.x is not sweet?


@OP, I wish you and your family well. HIV is not the end of the world, reason I'm not being emotional about this. She'll get over it, and definitely fulfil her purpose (with good supports from the family).

Dont say that again. Please.

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

Oga,what do you mean by playing God?

Op needs a slap to restore her brain to factory setting


Are you seriously condemning her.


Ah that's why I'm not nice to people

A fibi sun olloore

baby124:
Can you imagine this OP, your sister scrificed her life for even your mother who should have been the one hustling. And you come here to say she should have known her limit abi? Kai!!!! Poor woman! She should have just helped herself and left you there. So you can be an agbero and primary school dropout.

At least you will have come on NL screaming in pain that you don't have house to live or food to eat. You said she played God abi? Very good. See human? If she sees this nonsense from you, poor thing will cry her eyes out. All her efforts are a big waste! If you are a man you should dig a grave and bury yourself out of shame. I hope your sister finds love and peace. And that she lives a long and productive life to shame ungrateful creatures like you.

thunder scatter u @ op

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

I feel u man.....but feel sorry for ya sis.........dont ever live her like that take her to synagogue church(tb Joshua) or redeemed God will do d rest

she was the Fourth born?
what sort of dysfunctional family is that?