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[quote author=Sexytemi post=51693554]


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

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[quote author=humilitypays post=51695122]‎My sister, the problem is not guys, the problem lies with the ladies, how and why you may ask Let me tell you why you ladies are to blame for your relationship woes and heartbreaks:

Majority of ladies in this our side of the planet are greedy. Because of greed, you ladies have too high expectation from guys, and as a result, you ladies ignore the average guys and fall for the alpha male who see themselves as gift to all women!

While growing up, most ladies pick wrong fantasies about who their ideal man is based on romance movies and novels they read. Ladies want tall, dark/fair, rich, outgoing, fun-loving guys. These kind of guys are highly sort after and they know it,so they can keep to one lady, not possible. It's the same reason singer Flavour is busy sleeping and impregnating all girls he meets because most Nigerian ladies are dumb!

Imagine after seeing Flavour's promiscuous and wayward lifestyle, many ladies including Yemi Alade, Chidinma, and many other Nigerian ladies still want Flavour, which shows how gullible and greedy women are!

Do you know that few men are dating plenty women while many guys are completely single, why Because ladies keep running after those few men with super-alpha qualities while ignoring, snubbing and turning down the numerous genuinely good guys who would love and worship them.‎

Men are more realistic with who they go after to date or love but women aren't realistic!

An average Nigerian guy can't see Chidinma, Tiwa Savage, Genevieve Nnaji, Yemi Aladi, Oluchi Orlandi, Agbani Darego, etc and go after her or wish to date her and get her to love him, but you will see one Mgbeke girl with less than 200k in her bank account living in one room apartment with all her family fantasizing and wishing to date/marry Wizkid, Dbanj, Flavour, or some rich, handsome guy, and she doesn't expect the guy to cheat on her because she is who

Women of our time must learn to be realistic in life like their male counterparts, go for your level of guy and work and pray with him to grow together than accepting guys who see u as worthless woman that have only sex to offer to them!

Once a man knows u have other great values to offer to him other than sex, he won't play or joke with u, but if sex is all u have to offer to men, then expect plenty heartbreak even after he marries u!‎

Benita27:
What a sweeping generalisation!.
Men have the inclination to cheat, it's natural but i can't say 90% are cheats cos i haven't done any survey on that.

Have seen guys who detest cheating, and real men don't play games, boys do.

Tufunky:
madam. Here's what is going to happen. You take guy number 1 serious and guy number 2 as side chick. when guy number 1 starts cheating on you , you dump him and move to guy number 2 to take him serious only to find out that's you were merely a side chick to guy number 2 and you end up getting dumped. Toke Makinwa wrote 1 book at the end of her experience. with the road you want to take, you may end up writing an entire encyclopedia with 10 volumes when you are through. Don't worry, as a consolation I will read volume 1.

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was iyn his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

carlos1:


Women always portray demselves as victims in every scenario. What about me dat love blindly and get cheated on and treated like shit by their ladies?

Sexytemi:



Then I think you guys should also speak up, if I see a guy who would love, care, give me attention, be the only for me, I'll glue myself to him.

purple3091:
i totally agree with you OP,men need to know they are definetly physically replaceable,as the woman is being freed from the creeps(patriachal men) we get more freedom to follow what we choose and ofcourse it hurts them am a married woman and i do have lovers because as a woman i have the privilege of being able to get as many lovers as i want with out having to give anything(eg monetray value etc) ITS CALLED KITTY/PUSSY POWER AHAHA ,unlike a man. and another thing,when a man knows he is replace-able that is when he starts to behave....like my husband does....i mean these men go on about how women in the old days were so good yet they disrespected those same women.... anyway my point is,you are on point op

jorion:


I hope I don't marry someone like you but if I ever did, I would literally reap that family apart into 20 pieces and let you watch all the way. For all the noisemaking a woman like you would do, family is still a big deal to every woman especially mothers. well, what do I know abt relationships. Still looking for a girl who isnt a gold digger or a domestic slvt

purple3091:
ofcourse family is a big deal to women,because it is us woman who get pregnant etc,i am a mother too i hope you get a female version of yourself meaning if you cheat i hope you get a woman who cheats on you too btw never forget when you think of cheating on a woman,know that she can easily cheat on you faster than you can blink your eyes since the female private(pussy) has 'value' while the male core(peniis) is free like air...that is how an older woman like me can get a younger,muscular,virile man to please me in bed faster than a man my age can(except he has money) and also you talking about repeaing a family shows the ills of male dominated societies...so because a woman cheats,you would reap a family into 20 pieces like you say?(explain that part of your post) no wonder most pschycopaths are men sheshhhh ....also you don't know me,so i don't know what this : "For all the noisemaking a woman like you would do"

jorion:


First of, I don't know if I would cheat on my wife, I seriously don't because I don't want to repeat past mistake, I knew what my mum went tru with my dad and will forever be eternally grateful they are not together. But a wife who would be shameless enough to cheat on me does not deserve a family, I am probably the most extremely affectionate or coldest person you would ever meet and I don't take shit from nobody. You come here to tell me that all men are cheats but you forget when girls young, they were busy dating married men and destroying their homes, forgetting that they would get married one day. Call me psychopath or whatever but IF MY WIFE CHEATS ON ME, I WILL TAKE AWAY EVERYTHING (I REPEAT EVERYTHING) CHERISHES OR WILL EVER CHERISH that i can lay my hands on because SHE DOESN'T DESERVE THEM. I MIGHT overlook the fact that she might have dating countless boys, married men and even committed abortions(ALL IN HER PAST), but that shit isn't happening in my house. NOT BY A LONG SHOT

purple3091:
one question that will prove you un-intelligence and babaricness: qoute me where i said all men are cheats?,i know women cheat because guess what!! am a woman,and am cheating,and ofcourse you are cold,that is how babaric men are so yeah you are a psychopath

jorion:


As a hardworking young engineer who have had the opportunity to live in the south, east and west of Nigeria, I can categorically tell you that for every emotionally sane female out there, there are 5 males. If you can't keep a man doesn't man all men are that way. There is a reason why men call girls fish brains, that got nothing to do with guys cheating but everything to do with their disgusting sense of judgement and reasoning. And sadly speaking, putting a ring on a lady's finger is no longer sufficient to make them at least decent for the remaining about 40+ worthless years of their lives after marriage. What a pity

purple3091:
i totally agree with you OP,men need to know they are definetly physically replaceable,as the woman is being freed from the creeps(patriachal men) we get more freedom to follow what we choose and ofcourse it hurts them am a married woman and i do have lovers because as a woman i have the privilege of being able to get as many lovers as i want with out having to give anything(eg monetray value etc) ITS CALLED KITTY/PUSSY POWER AHAHA ,unlike a man. and another thing,when a man knows he is replace-able that is when he starts to behave....like my husband does....i mean these men go on about how women in the old days were so good yet they disrespected those same women.... anyway my point is,you are on point op

jorion:
You categorically said you agree with the OP, so whats there to quote. woman, go and cook for your family. The only reason you are making all these noise is because you have not been handled yet. All men are not cheats because to cheat, you need to be in a relationship. Guess what, 95% of females are dating the 40% or less well to do men. so how can you say a guy is a cheat when he isn't even in a relationship. Simple maths sis, now tell me who are the cheats. men needs to know that they are replaceable, what a load of crap. no go try am with an average wealthy dude who just came back from office after an annoying work day. HE GO JUST BREAK U IN HALF

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

Laveda:


Well, you're right... Cheating doesn't change anything.

Tho I'm not trying to justify a man's cheating ways, we should be faithful to our partners..

You are not trying to defend men's cheating ways

YOU ARE JUSTIFYING MEN'S CHEATING WAYS

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I stand with The OP on this, no dog should bite me

Sexytemi:


That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.

Adeinfo:


sincere want. everyone want what you have listed. The truth is we should work on ourselves first. Look outside our choice list at times and be ready to compromise. I assure you things will be alright
. Also, we should keep our eyes open and rein in on our emotions all time. Thanks

misspicy:

You are not trying to defend men's cheating ways

YOU ARE JUSTIFYING MEN'S CHEATING WAYS

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I stand with The OP on this, no dog should bite me

ghostwritter:

you are already creating problem with ur own hands. You will loose at the end if d guys get to know what u ar up to. They will only fuxk u back-to-back and dump ur saggy pushy.
Note: YOU ARE A woMAN NOT A MAN.

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

kibra4u:


Stop complaining my friend. When sincere guys comes your way you girls will practically regect them and go for the so called bad guys. Hmm my dear, the so called social and hapenning "bad boys" comes with a very nasty price so be ready to live with it.

Sexytemi:




Thanks dear, how can a lady support guys on this, its funny and weird o....