Henrypraise:


wow, very very intelligent u, keep up wit dis attitude n talk n ur husband may av sex wit u only wen its Christmas eve..

TheArchangel:
Your comment is ignorant filled. That women don't want sex is a myth men tell themselves to massage the ego. Prostitutes are women and they wants sex albeit for money Women don't talk about sex because many are afraid of being labelled a slut. Ever wonder why lesbianism is on the increase, the sell of sex objects and enhancers, male di.ldo and the likes Women are getting enlightened and can't take any below average performance from men. Men should get their sh!t together.

Research well before commenting.

sexymoma:
try watching some kamasutra with him
my sister jos download some in your phone, since you guys do stay together most times
relax on his chest then jos play it... if he says "what is this" tell him you are learning some skills
he s your hubby not a stranger... act anyhow.

tell him some sexy words even before night comes
like.. babe my nipples itches , my boobs looks fairer than my face
u go hear "let me see"

Drdreyy:


Actually you are the one that is ignorant and needs to research well.

@the boldened, for the case of prostitution, i have encountered a lot of guys who used it as an argument but what you all fail to understand is that majority, of these ladies are into prostitution because of abject poverty,
and NOT BECAUSE OF SEXUAL URGES.

I have read comments from guys here who narrate their experience with those so called prostitutes, they say most of them just lie down like a log of wood, showing no interest and hurry the guy to be fast about it and leave so that they can attend to another customer. This bluntly shows lack of interest in the act, but just in the money.

Leave the case of lesbianism out of this issue, we are talking about heterosexuals.
Homosexualism is an abnormality and cannot be used for a valid argument in this case.
As for the case of di*d*o, it cannot be used as a valid argument as well.

I urge you to read about FGM practice & it's effects on Sexuality. (Female Genital Mutilation) which is very common in Nigeria/Africa. It seems you are ignorant of the practice and it's effects that's why you are arguing with me. If you had foreknowledge on FGM you will not come here and counter my post with irrelevant argument.
Because the issue of FGM has Rubbished all your assertions.

TheArchangel:
You still don't make sense. FGM is more common in women born before the late 70's. Younger women of nowadays that constitute the bulk of women of childbearing age with FGM are in minute numbers. I know this because I am in the system and have seen enough vaginas to make my assertions. Our mothers may not be into sex because of the mutilations but the younger ladies born from the 80's downward are more sexually active even more than the men. Take it or leave it.

Female genital mutilation has degrees. The rarest form of it which is the 3rd & 4th degrees may affect sexuality by causing dysparenuia and insensitivity during sex but the commonest ones 1st and 2nd degree has no effect on sexuality.

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

Modified. ..

I just woke up.this morning to this thread on Frontpage and a lot of mentions by mostly male folk...

You are entitled to your opinion just like I am entitled to mine ....Yes i am very young and unmarried, but I have a girlfriend who I have been with for a long time. ..a time longer than the duration of some so-called 'marriages' ...And the fact that our sex life is pretty solid has in no small way helped the relationship...of course there are times when either of us may not be in the mood for any action, leaving the other high and dry. ..but those kinda times are very few and far in between each other, and are very satisfactorily compensated for sooner

Op's husband doesn't even want to take steps to solve his problem, and all you self-righteous men be rooting for him and advising the lady to do this and do that all so she can ride her husband's Peniss ...if the man even did as little as acknowledging the problem, my advice would have been totally different. ...but here he is trying to force the op onto a state of sexual nowhere and all you dudes are saying she should talk to this person or that, do this or that, and generally stand by her husband and bear the brunt of his condition of unreasonable pride and stupidity .....

This life isn't always about what is 'right' or 'moral' .....the man has chosen to leave poor op sexually stranded, riding his high horse of pride and impotence aloofly....Speaking a lot of grammer to whoever, becoming a stripper for husby, praying 69 times a day, begging for a dick that's supposed to be hers when and however she wants, is not only unfair to the woman, but reeks of masculine hypocrisy....as if if it's the husband being denied of the puna unreasonably, he will be so nice as to take most of the steps as prescribed by the self-righteous people who mentioned me

In any case, it's Op's life...it's doesn't matter if you all agree with me or not...Op, having seen the multitude of advice given her here, is totally free to adopt the one her mind has privately been leaning towards already

Drdreyy:


You are not serious! you think i just lay claims without concrete backups? I must say here that you are not current.

Recent studies puts the prevalence rate @70%. I have a study conducted in 2010 by the federal ministry of health in conjunction with the ministry of women affairs in the 36 States of the federation and the prevalence rate is alarming.
I was in Osun State last year and i witnessed several organised campaigns by the Federal Government against FGM. Osun is among the states with the highest prevalence rate of about 70%. They still do it in Osun and many other states.

So what are you talking about? Do you want me to post screenshots? You can even go online and update your self and stop displaying your ignorance here.

And who told you type III and IV are rare? Infact they are the most common in Africa. Types I and II also affects a woman's sexual life.

daewoorazer:

apatheticme:


And independence for a woman is supposed to be a bad things right Hypocritical lots! If it was the woman having issues now y'all be asking the man to step up and go fvck gals outside and leave his woman, but the man gat issues now still the woman is not allowed to satisfy herself. She should still remain in the hypocritical sanctimonious prison males created for females abi People like u are the reason why society is skewed the way it is. So a male does wat he likes its moral, a female does what she likes its immoral huh Holier than thou arrogant sons of bitch*s

TheArchangel:
How many mutilated aginas have you seen so that you can juxtapose it with your" studies".? Nigerian half baked studies huh?
I wrote that the numbers are now minute to compare with the prevalence in women born in the late 70's and early 80's.
Bring the studies on.

TheArchangel:

Drdreyy:


Now, this should shut you up. Pay close attention to all the details in the screenshots

Rosella1:


I hope this long hissing of yours has added more success to your future!

TheArchangel:
What is the premise of your argument here? Mine states clearly that the prevalence of FGM is now minute in women born from the 80' downwards. That it is women born during the high prevalence of FGM which is late 70's upwards that have issues with sex.
That greater percentages of women born after the 80's enjoys sex more because of reduction in FGM prevalence.

I HAVE SEEN THOSE STUDIES, MANY OF THEM ACTUALLY, BUT THEY ARE NOT IN COGNISANCE TO WHAT IS ON GROUND. THEY ARE HIGHLY EXAGGERATED.

TheArchangel:

I never mentioned anywhere that FGM is no longer being practice but your overwhelming arguments is pointing that Nigerian women do not like sex because they are genitally mutilated. Which is baseless as it lacks premise it is illogical and not factual

Drdreyy:


You are not serious, if you even want to talk about a slight reduction, then it should be now or some few years ago. Not as far back as in the 80s

I have shown you a study that was carried out in 2010 and you are still talking about the 80's. That's extremely ridiculous from you.
Can't you see how high those prevalent rates are?

Incase you don't understand, let me explain:-Those born recently, those born in the 80's and before 80s constitute the 70% of the total number of women that are mutilated in Nigeria. In short, regardless of when you were born. The fact remains that 70% of women in Nigeria have been mutilated. (but for the exception of new borns)

And did you say exaggerated? What else do you want to believe? You can believe whatever you like, it doesn't change the fact.



Yes, FGM is the main cause. You saying it's illogical and not factual has fully exposed your ignorance on the subject of FGM. you don't know anything about FGM. Pls educate yourself on FGM and it's effects and stop displaying your ignorance here. When you do, then we can talk further.

TheArchangel:
Stop throwing figures around for good news sake. How did you arrive to your 70% of women being genitally mutilated? Come on!! And please if you want to argue intelligently, please enough of your subtle insults. I have delivered babies and have assisted in delivering of babies for more than 15 years in both the eastern, western and presently in the northern part of this country, and I can categorically state that....
I have seen only five cases of vaginas with FGM and in that five, three are above forty while two are below thirty five years of age.
1:180 women is circumcised in my years of experience, so what happened to the others who are not circumcised. Are you telling me that they hate sex too, just fr the sake of nothing? Your premises are still illogical and faulty.

FGM IS THE MAIN CAUSE WHY WOMEN HATE SEX I GIVE UP ON YOU. FROM ONE BASELESS ARGUMENT TO ANOTHER. SEEM YOU JUST NOTICED THIS WORD FGM NOW.



I STILL MAINTAIN THAT WOMEN BORN AFTER THE '80's enjoys sex more BECAUSE IN THEIR GENERATION, THE RATE OF FGM HAS REDUCE SIGNIFICANTLY UNLIKE IN THE '70's when it is seen as a cultural and religious norm.

TheArchangel:
Stop

daewoorazer:

apatheticme:


Dont know why u guys feel any girl with a contary opinion to urs must be a feminist or most likely a feminist. Come off it boy, i dont have to be a feminist to have a contrary opinion. Its a public forum, just like life. Everyone will not always be with u on all issues. We could have same opinion on any other topic again, its no big deal, variety is the spice of life.

Copied! Grandma

apatheticme:


Whatever Arrogant SOB

daewoorazer:

apatheticme:

Thats none of ur business, if i decide to be angry at u calling me grandma even in my second decade of life its entirely my prerogative. Uve never met me before, its a faceless forum but because of the level of intellect and reasoning u saw in my quotes u kinda concluded dt i must be dt matured. That reeks of discrimination, to completely think no girl in her 20s can reason dis way, hence u brand me a grandma albeit in a subtle way, indirectly inciting anger thinking i wont pick up the sarcasm since im supposed to be dumb like the rest of my gender according to the "arrogant sons of b****es" like u. Well uve gat no idea who the hell ure chatting with, so better fvck off my mentions or better still go fvck urself. Aint gat no time to engage a "know it all" like u. I've made my point in the first post and uve explained urself so fvck d hell off.

daewoorazer:
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apatheticme:


Ure dumber than i thought! Must've overestimated u. So from my post u could pick up hurt and frustration Because i aired my views about a female being free to do wat she wants? And now u were able to pick up narcissistic tendencies Based on ur degree in astral clinical psychology or wat? Well, fvck off. Ure not making sense anymore, dis was supposed to be an intellectual discourse, but since uve resorted to diagnosing me of obsessive compulsive disorders over the internet then i give up. Too busy to engage in profitless conversations ending with telling the next person to "blow themselves up". Ciao!

Two spontaneous ways of self destruction

1. Running mad
2. Suicide


At this point, your kinS should be contacted asap

daewoorazer:



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Drdreyy:



Oops, how i arrived at 70%? it's a shame you are asking this question & it exposes your daftnes in mathematics, if you can't compute the average of those percentages, then I can't help you. But Google is always there to help you.
You may Check out other studies, with a fairly large sample size (N) and you will see its roughly 70%. The higher the value of N, the more accurate it is.

You want to conclude based on your own sample size? That's laughable. Your sample size is too small to draw any conclusion. Forget your 15yrs or so experience, we are talking about statistics from the Federal ministry of health where over 148K women were studied.

Now you are talking about a minute number of women you have personally encountered and you want everyone to take you serious?
With all your years of experience I doubt if the total number of women you have encountered are upto 5K. and that is completely insignificant when compared with the sample size the Federal Government worked with.


I still insist FGM is a major reason why women hate sex in Nigeria/Africa. The main reason for the practice is to suppress a woman's sexual urge so that she won't be promiscuous thus keep her virginity for her husband.

I don't want to delve deeply into the topic because I don't have the time. But It has been medically established that FGM makes sex a painful experience for women, lack interest, less enjoyable, inability to achieve orgasssmm, etc because most of the sensitive organs are tampered with, especially the clitt.

Have you ever wondered why white women like sexx and are willing to have sexx more than black/African women?
The answer is simply because whites don't practice FGM. they are more enlightened/educated on the health hazards of FGM.

TheArchangel:
You don't get the premise of my argument and I as sure as hell don't get yours.

Sincerely, with your post riddled with insults and condescending innuendos, I didn't bother to read your long epistle, which from my mere perusal has nothing to do what my subject of discourse.