Is your husband related to Kcee the 'limpopo' guy

Before u marry any girl or guy, pls make sure u are ready to accom‎modate his/her flaws and see the best in them, else, u are in for future regrets!

And do u know that there are things he doesn't like about u but he's just trying to accommodate them for peace/love to reign?

Unfortunately, ladies usually think their men are very satisfied with their look, etc. For your info, your man may wish u had a bigger or smaller bumbum,‎ firm boobs, straight legs, flat tummy, natural long hair, jingling voice, sparkling teeth, cat eyes, etc but most times men just ignore you ladies flaws and focus on your best features just so love/peace can reign, and I think ladies need to learn this too instead of waiting to find a perfect man who is tall, dark, fair, chocolate, born again, rich, caring, romantic, fashionable, 6 packs, faithful, etc

pesinfada:
ur story got no Meanin.......u left d guy because he is poor

#weknow

poor?as at then he was already my supervisor in a reputable engineering co,so no he wasn't poor.he was very comfortable. he had myopic views coupled with his faith n dress sense.

EmekaBlue:
but soccer shorts r sexy nah....specially if its Chelsea Blue...

What of men that wears wrapper

Funny man... wear rapper early in the morning or to work

Worriedwife:
This issue has been disturbing me, I had to create a new id to get advice 'anonymously', maybe someone else who has gone through this can help. My husband's dress sense is poor, his shoes look like weapons...pointed mouth with very heavy soles. His colour combination is something else. He is a good-looking young man but dresses like an old man.

It makes me not to find him sexy, even his boxers look like soccer shorts.
Whenever we go out, people look at him like he's my gate man. The other day, we went to visit some family friends and someone there said, we don't look like we came out from the same house.

You know how people can be, news have been going around that I am spending all his money on myself while he goes about tattered. My in-laws are also part of the rumour mongers. I have tried to teach him, but he's not ready to learn. Before the usual didn't you know when you married him questions, I knew. He kept saying I am just a girlfriend and I want to change him. Now I am his wife, he still won't change.

Please, what can I do? Won't it be rude if I throw his old wears away?
We recently moved to PH, I don't know my way around yet. Things look expensive here, where can I shop at a fair rate?
I need practical solutions. Thank you all

I understand you and your pain. And like someone already posted above, its because you love your husband and you care about his looks which is good.

What you need to understand:

1.Change does not come in a jiffy, it is gradual
2. The best way to handle this is not to get too worried but to design a plan a gradual plan.
3. The plan is to start buying any nice wears you find each time you go shopping for him. Whether he wears them or not, keep buying and ones in a while encourage him to try them.
4. Continue to buy anything good in terms of clothes for him,
5. Each time you go for shopping encourage him to go with you and try to pick things and ask him if he wouldn't mind having them and stylishly buy them.
6. Any time he dresses on any of his weird clothes pretend that they are good. Feel free with him , he is your husband, its part of his own imperfections while you silently work on him.
7. Next time u suggest any of the things you got for him he might be tempted to accept without protest because of number 6. above.

Take ur mind off the worries on the issue. and take your time to work on him without his knowing.
I stumbled on this site am sure it will help on matters like this too: http://courtshipandmarriage.com
You can check it out.
Good luck.

Worriedwife:
This issue has been disturbing me, I had to create a new id to get advice 'anonymously', maybe someone else who has gone through this can help. My husband's dress sense is poor, his shoes look like weapons...pointed mouth with very heavy soles. His colour combination is something else. He is a good-looking young man but dresses like an old man.

It makes me not to find him sexy, even his boxers look like soccer shorts.
Whenever we go out, people look at him like he's my gate man. The other day, we went to visit some family friends and someone there said, we don't look like we came out from the same house.

You know how people can be, news have been going around that I am spending all his money on myself while he goes about tattered. My in-laws are also part of the rumour mongers. I have tried to teach him, but he's not ready to learn. Before the usual didn't you know when you married him questions, I knew. He kept saying I am just a girlfriend and I want to change him. Now I am his wife, he still won't change.

Please, what can I do? Won't it be rude if I throw his old wears away?
We recently moved to PH, I don't know my way around yet. Things look expensive here, where can I shop at a fair rate?
I need practical solutions. Thank you all

Op, i get you, but please don't go too far,, you might just be setting him up for a side chick, who knows.

His poor dress sense might be keeping the other ladies away, when he starts dressing right now, its your bestfriend that would be the first to flirt with him.

You met him like that, still went on to marry him and you have lived with him like that, so why do you want a change now ?

Let me share a joke with you: Nigerians wanted a change, and see where that has gotten us


Just saying

Shoe like weapon.



Na so most engineer and medical people dey dress




Excluding my consultant Lagusta

tbliss22:


Funny man... wear rapper early in the morning or to work

wear wrapper upandan d house

Madam I dey sell okrika dat will make your husband look young like seun and not old looking lala. I dey portharcourt so you can pm me for am

EmekaBlue:
wear wrapper upandan d house

Lolz

seems the lady's husband is way older than she is, the more reason baba might not listen to her suggestions. if u dnt like the signs from the begining why did u stay? now u complaining, abeg bear with him or replace his wardrobe with new wears

BackToLife:


Sharrraaap!!! You are nothing but a worthless directionless myopic bitchh, and your type abound. I smell your type from 10km; I know a whorre like you that killed her husband just to move on with a concubine. I'm glad the concubine later exposed her for fear of being killed next. You knew him before you married him, yet you greedy worthless pest married him because of his money, now you are looking for excuse and encouragement to poison the innocent man. How many men waste their precious lives trying to please worthless insatiable souls like you. Kama would soon link you with a ritualistist that would do the needful with you.

Nna ijikwa ahu,r u okay?pls swerve if you've got nothing meaningful to say.

lestat:


It's my opinion that marriage is for better for worse, now if he doesn't cheat, he doesn't beat her he provides for his family , he is caring but she is upset he doesn't look like he walked out of a GQ magazine?
The issue she should be facing is why isn't she happy with what she has and instead of bitching about it try and make things work ...
Trust me if she moves to another guy maybe the next issue will be why he doesn't shave his beard ?
She is shallow and naieve that's her issue .

No man is an island... If you can't help out... Why don't you keep these trash in the waste bin.
I believe you ain't married, Cuz if u do, you should understand better. " Yes, marriage is for better for worse " but there r some certain issues (worse) that needs only correction of which 'this' ain't left out.
No offence please, just a concern fellow... Thank you

Op, Perhaps your approach towards the correction isnt good enough.
Lacepaper's got the solñ... Now you r good to go


But please DO NOT DISPOSE ANY OF HIS WEARS... Get the new ones... Then before he's out of the shower, with a sensational move show him the pair you've chosen for him just as ANTIWAILER advised


Then put him in prayer... THANK YOU

Worriedwife:
Thanks for all your advice. It's not like I am that fashionable, I am an average dresser...though I know I am better than him. The complains and sidetalks are getting much.
I will try downloading pictures to shop.
I must agree I have been a little bit harsh.

Madam don't disturb urself.....bliv u me most fancy couple u see are not as happy as u ppl are.

pls as far he is carrying out his responsibility and not maltreating u as his wife,u got nothing to worry abt.
And thy is nothing wrong with u changing his wardrobe.

The rumour mongers are right after all. It is very true you've been spending his money on yourself.


How else should a grown man change his wears if someone doesn't buy for him? You sit back, complain and as long as you have your own wears, your complains are just what they are - "empty talks" without actions.


I'm surprised youve only decided to take action...in spite the fact that 'boutiques' are almost on every street in Nigeria.


Stop being selfish! How many clothes have you bought for him? I was expecting to read; "oh, I bought him 10 trousers and 5 shirts but he refused to use them". Now that's something to worry about, not the usual empty complaints from a good dresser.

If my woman dresses badly... I won't sit back and talk like a radio. Take that man to a boutique and get him something nice. Everything is wrong about this thread...it depicts selfishness.

ok am coming...

@Op.... you need to be careful what you are asking for. You said your husband is a good looking guy.... when he dresses like an old man it takes away from his attractiveness and the swarm of young hot manhunting ladies swerve. Now if he dresses up to date.... the ladies would take notice and swarm him either for money or to give him honey..... are you prepared to handle this? ... and don't for a moment say he is not that kinda guy.... these roaming ladies can seduce snake sef.
The people who comment about his dress sense do not know him long enough.....since that's the way he always dressed... ignore them. If need to... you update his wardrobe... don't be waiting for him to. Some men are just like that... my bro no different.... they see absolutely nothing wrong as long as 1. their outfit is clean...2. ..no holes or rips or stains...3. ...they all fit and feel comfortable..... brown shoes, red trousers, green shirt... doesn't matter..... boxers has three holes... no big deal..who would know? Be careful what you ask for.
If you do insist..... holla at me.... only if you want him to dress like celebrity.

teevodaprinz:


No man is an island... If you can't help out... Why don't you keep these trash in the waste bin.
I believe you ain't married, Cuz if u do, you should understand better. " Yes, marriage is for better for worse " but there r some certain issues (worse) that needs only correction of which 'this' ain't left out.
No offence please, just a concern fellow... Thank you

Op, Perhaps your approach towards the correction isnt good enough.
Lacepaper's got the solñ... Now you r good to go


But please DO NOT DISPOSE ANY OF HIS WEARS... Get the new ones... Then before he's out of the shower, with a sensational move show Jim the pair you've chosen for him just as ANTIWAILER advised


Then put him in prayer too... THANK YOU

You are so spiritual. I agree Prayer is ok sha. Cos some guys can be stone headed.

The CLOTH SELECTION works very fine. If he is the hubby that is worth it, Take over his laundry.

Most times, the clothes you don't like would remain dirty or not ironed while the sexy ones that bring out the Phyno and David Beckham you like will be readily available.

So even when he complains you can say, Arghh My love, that one is dirty or not ironed.

There must be plenty "You LOOK so different moments too"

I can show you round town. Do you drive? Pm me. We need to change his wardrobe.

Worriedwife:
This issue has been disturbing me, I had to create a new id to get advice 'anonymously', maybe someone else who has gone through this can help. My husband's dress sense is poor, his shoes look like weapons...pointed mouth with very heavy soles. His colour combination is something else. He is a good-looking young man but dresses like an old man.

It makes me not to find him sexy, even his boxers look like soccer shorts.
Whenever we go out, people look at him like he's my gate man. The other day, we went to visit some family friends and someone there said, we don't look like we came out from the same house.

You know how people can be, news have been going around that I am spending all his money on myself while he goes about tattered. My in-laws are also part of the rumour mongers. I have tried to teach him, but he's not ready to learn. Before the usual didn't you know when you married him questions, I knew. He kept saying I am just a girlfriend and I want to change him. Now I am his wife, he still won't change.

Please, what can I do? Won't it be rude if I throw his old wears away?
We recently moved to PH, I don't know my way around yet. Things look expensive here, where can I shop at a fair rate?
I need practical solutions. Thank you all

wiloy2k8:


Oga sharap ... u dont need to comment

I understand sharap is your surname

Worriedwife:
This issue has been disturbing me, I had to create a new id to get advice 'anonymously', maybe someone else who has gone through this can help. My husband's dress sense is poor, his shoes look like weapons...pointed mouth with very heavy soles. His colour combination is something else. He is a good-looking young man but dresses like an old man.

It makes me not to find him sexy, even his boxers look like soccer shorts.
Whenever we go out, people look at him like he's my gate man. The other day, we went to visit some family friends and someone there said, we don't look like we came out from the same house.

You know how people can be, news have been going around that I am spending all his money on myself while he goes about tattered. My in-laws are also part of the rumour mongers. I have tried to teach him, but he's not ready to learn. Before the usual didn't you know when you married him questions, I knew. He kept saying I am just a girlfriend and I want to change him. Now I am his wife, he still won't change.

Please, what can I do? Won't it be rude if I throw his old wears away?
We recently moved to PH, I don't know my way around yet. Things look expensive here, where can I shop at a fair rate?
I need practical solutions. Thank you all

This stuff should not bother you like this na, are you a fashionister or something.

Why do you want him to change, sabi he was like that before you married him. how come you are suddenly feeling embarrassed by his dressing?


You can buy him stuff like shirts, boxers and pants and also take to him about it, that you think dressing matters.

They say the way you dress determines how you are addressed.

My father also told me something when i was growing, he said one shd always dress well(moderately).
Dont over dress and under dress, People should never have cause to talk about hw you dress.

This he too shd knw

teevodaprinz:


No man is an island... If you can't help out... Why don't you keep these trash in the waste bin.
I believe you ain't married, Cuz if u do, you should understand better. " Yes, marriage is for better for worse " but there r some certain issues (worse) that needs only correction of which 'this' ain't left out.
No offence please, just a concern fellow... Thank you

Op, Perhaps your approach towards the correction isnt good enough.
Lacepaper's got the solñ... Now you r good to go


But please DO NOT DISPOSE ANY OF HIS WEARS... Get the new ones... Then before he's out of the shower, with a sensational move show him the pair you've chosen for him just as ANTIWAILER advised


Then put him in prayer... THANK YOU

Hey DR Phil ... Feel free to say anything to me and I will feel free to ask you to fück off!

Worriedwife, send a PM, I may be able to help with some info.

Hhahahhha.."His shoes look like weapons" ...you are wicked

Make my wife be like u o..that dress sense thing...n.a. issue o

PaperLace:
I understand your concern_ it shows you care. I've seen women who don't care as long as it doesn't affect her own look.
Some men are like that, a woman would know the whole colour wheel (including cockroach brown and custard yellow) while a man is okay knowing just primary colours.

You say you have been correcting him? How did you correct him? We're dealing with a grown man here_ he has been dressing that way without seeing anything wrong in it, approach is very important. Don't insult him in the process, first compliment the quality, colour or fitting..."Shugar I love this shirt, the stripes are cool BUT it would have gone better with a carton-coloured-pants or brown shoes".

Most times they have a mental picture of how they wanna look, but they don't know how to SHOP.
You have to put in work, it's not by saying "hey, I hate your dressing, it embarrasses me"_ WHAT EFFORT HAVE YOU PUT IN, ASIDE THE USUAL TALK-TALK-TALK?

A long time ago, my man was such a rigid dresser_ always so officially dressed like we were going for a meeting. On my part, I loved the whole yipee dressing.
WHAT DID I DO? I bought him 1 or 2 wears first, I remember the look on his face when I got him tan brogues. 'Told him I wanna follow him when next he's shopping. We got there and I influenced his choices.

Now that I have more disposable income, I handle his closet, down to his briefs. I have specific tailors for natives,office/casual trousers and shirts. I know all his measurements down to his shoes. When we are watching TV, he says "see that clothe/shoe, I like it"...I quickly take a pic, go source for the material or a look alike and that's it. He doesn't know what they sell at School Rd, Ariaria, Kent...etc, his own is to wear and receive compliments. I don't have a problem with that, I am okay with him looking like 'my man'.

His dress sense now is 99.9%, everybody is happy now .
Please, note that you do not have to spend millions to dress well, you only need to know the right places to shop.
Try this, come back and buy me any whisky.

I'll edit if I remember anything else.

Worriedwife:

No problem. I won't bug you again.

Thanks AntiWailer, Paperlace, Tadeknkeepcalm. I appreciate...

Are you for real? I doubt your claim, though.

How do you get your man dressed with this reply? The best bet is to ignore comments you feel dislike. But, I am afraid.

I think u need to visit Harvey spector from 'Tv show' suits for dress code.

AntiWailer:




You are so spiritual. I agree Prayer is ok sha. Cos some guys can be stone headed.

The CLOTH SELECTION works very fine. If he is the hubby that is worth it, Take over his laundry.

Most times, the clothes you don't like would remain dirty or not ironed while the sexy ones that bring out the Phyno and David Beckham you like will be readily available.

So even when he complains you can say, Arghh My love, that one is dirty or not ironed.

There must be plenty "You LOOK so different moments too"

this was what my best friend ex-wife started with, and with time, we learn she was sleeping with one Yoruba demon. Women...such an ungrateful lot. She left a successful log and wood exporter who owns over ten mansions in Mowe-Ibafo, for an Instagram guy. Lol. The last time I heard, the guy with pink lips and perfect sense of dress has dropped her useless a.ss after getting another younger pregnant. She's still trying to come back though...not caring about the dress senses again.

Madam, divorce your husband...go and meet that guy you've been eyeing. Your eyes go clear. You just need to suffer small...atleast, you still get money to buy data...by the time fine useless boy knack you kolo tire, you go wake up and you man would have find a woman who loves him and his shabby dress sense. Useless!

First, all these concept of sexy is so wrong. The word sexy in its original sense, is demeaning of human worth and substance.

Second, a wise woman will build her home. You have the key to tune your husband into the kind of man you desire for him.

But to be candid, dress sense and looks are secondary issues. There are weightier matters to be concerned with in marriage.

I wish you well in your voyage to making your husband like one of them hot models and silver screen celebrities. Just ensure that you don't make your husband feel or get the impression that you are comparing him to some other guy or you want him to look like some dude somewhere. That will threaten his manhood and affect his ego.

Worriedwife:
This issue has been disturbing me, I had to create a new id to get advice 'anonymously', maybe someone else who has gone through this can help. My husband's dress sense is poor, his shoes look like weapons...pointed mouth with very heavy soles. His colour combination is something else. He is a good-looking young man but dresses like an old man.

It makes me not to find him sexy, even his boxers look like soccer shorts.
Whenever we go out, people look at him like he's my gate man. The other day, we went to visit some family friends and someone there said, we don't look like we came out from the same house.

You know how people can be, news have been going around that I am spending all his money on myself while he goes about tattered. My in-laws are also part of the rumour mongers. I have tried to teach him, but he's not ready to learn. Before the usual didn't you know when you married him questions, I knew. He kept saying I am just a girlfriend and I want to change him. Now I am his wife, he still won't change.

Please, what can I do? Won't it be rude if I throw his old wears away?
We recently moved to PH, I don't know my way around yet. Things look expensive here, where can I shop at a fair rate?
I need practical solutions. Thank you all

Was about posting IDGAF before Buh your story dey funny die my sister ye AF enta one chance. E go change o but you go SWEAT before e change. Make God con help u make he go be dos S.U type my dear, your own haff done

PaperLace:
I understand your concern_ it shows you care. I've seen women who don't care as long as it doesn't affect her own look.
Some men are like that, a woman would know the whole colour wheel (including cockroach brown and custard yellow) while a man is okay knowing just primary colours.

You say you have been correcting him? How did you correct him? We're dealing with a grown man here_ he has been dressing that way without seeing anything wrong in it, approach is very important. Don't insult him in the process, first compliment the quality, colour or fitting..."Shugar I love this shirt, the stripes are cool BUT it would have gone better with a carton-coloured-pants or brown shoes".

Most times they have a mental picture of how they wanna look, but they don't know how to SHOP.
You have to put in work, it's not by saying "hey, I hate your dressing, it embarrasses me"_ WHAT EFFORT HAVE YOU PUT IN, ASIDE THE USUAL TALK-TALK-TALK?

A long time ago, my man was such a rigid dresser_ always so officially dressed like we were going for a meeting. On my part, I loved the whole yipee dressing.
WHAT DID I DO? I bought him 1 or 2 wears first, I remember the look on his face when I got him tan brogues. 'Told him I wanna follow him when next he's shopping. We got there and I influenced his choices.

Now that I have more disposable income, I handle his closet, down to his briefs. I have specific tailors for natives,office/casual trousers and shirts. I know all his measurements down to his shoes. When we are watching TV, he says "see that clothe/shoe, I like it"...I quickly take a pic, go source for the material or a look alike and that's it. He doesn't know what they sell at School Rd, Ariaria, Kent...etc, his own is to wear and receive compliments. I don't have a problem with that, I am okay with him looking like 'my man'.

His dress sense now is 99.9%, everybody is happy now .
Please, note that you do not have to spend millions to dress well, you only need to know the right places to shop.
Try this, come back and buy me any whisky.

I'll edit if I remember anything else.

Nwanyi Aba. I sight you.

lilyheaven:
I actually left my man because of this,
I was 29 and he was 32. But he always looks like a forty five years old man, he had a very great career, he won't even buy a cloth for himself, I kept buying all these things,
One day I said to myself, if I marry this Man, will I continue like this plus our kids .
I left him sha,
But my family were so angry with me.

Wait...

What?

Because of .....

Come again?