Don’t let anyone deceive you saying age is just a number as it’s not, especially if she is already getting into the menopausal age as per child bearing. Confront her NOW (for about 4 years since you met her she hid her age from you, that's terrible) and clear the air to find out why she LIED. After that, then make you do the thing wey go make you happy as nah only you go dey that marriage if you marry her. NLanders no go follow you stay for the house o, so think very well before you say I do to her incase she get any other thing wey she dey hide from you.

Origin:
People lie about age all the time. The problem is you lie about age to get Job to ensure you go fro NYSC, to get admission. That your age could permanently be affected.


You loved someone despite their age yet you've lost love now you know their real age. Is age a factor for love. Have you never lied to her. It seems inconsequential.

Judge this issue if it's your real brother. That gal got many hidden agenda. The boy eye Don dey clear small small. God is warning him for the last minute

iPrevail:


I get your point. The whole thing about principles and distrust.. Honestly, I get it.
But my point was/is, we did not have to know about it! To me, it's immature. What does he want us to do? Convince him to cancel the wedding?
This should be a personal decision thing. Fine, you've got philosophies and laid out principles, make decisions according to those principles and stop constituting public nuisance. (humor intended).

I don't agree with you on this. Why would she hide her age for 4 years? The idea is, if she could do this, she could do much worse. The OP should confront and forgive her though.

curvilicious:

Unclothedness ko If u see black geh without bleaching and no abortions or pregnancy Walahi u no go know her age even if she nak.ed

dats why there is courtship, to enable u know more about ur intended

SexyNairalander:
you discovered her age and now want to back out, am sorry but were you in love with her age or with her just curious


you would have simply confronted her to hear from her. . .I dont support girl and their misbehavior buh you shouldn't judge her cos of that. . .you are the man here think before you take action


am out

D woman on d bicycle lol....pls age is just a number o

My friend back oht now before it is too late. She lied aboutbher age, by 4yrs. All these yrs you've been dating she was lying.

What else is she hiding? She has a 12 yrs old daughter which you'll discover after the wedding? Or she was married before? Or she wasnt actually a graduate as she claimed? If she cant tell her fiance a simple thing as her age, in this day and age when 40yrs old women are dating 20yr old boys without fear, i can assure you she has other stuff to lie about.

A marriage built on lies will not stand. And I hope you dont have lies which u have been telling her?

Are you marrying her or het age?. If her mum have not told you, would you have known? Don't cancel the wedding. Age is but a number.

krauss:
you know, there are things called principle and scruples. This is not just about the age but someone's philosophy about life. That is what many people do not look at before going into marriage. The issue of distrust is also there. You see how this sounds simple. Lets extend it to the same when a woman who has aborted children and damaged her wounds decides to lie about this, goes into marriage and doesn't get pregnant. If the husband finds out, wetin go happen. You might say they are not the same, but let me tell you, I can even do without having kids in marriage given my philos about marriage.

are yu for real? you can even do without having kids in marriage.

Oga shey na age u dy consider for marriage or happiness

Even the devil knows I will break up immediately once I find out the real age of my would be wife

psucc:
That's the power of women.

Love covereth multitude of sins.

That's my take.

What? how can a relationship built on sand (lies) last?

age is but a number. Okay next confrontation. Her response should reveal some of her characters. Everyone have a secret even you.
So if it cannot hurt you just forgive BUT WARN HER NOT TO DO SUCH THING AGAIN. Its hurtful and as partners there is need for trust.

But seriously why is her mother the one telling you
Maybe she told her mom to help her. maybe she knows already.
Your confrontation is very important. It will make or break your intended union.
Good luck

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

FRAUD ..... is FRAUD!

Some may say "its a SIMPLE thing" but remember that any house build on FRAUD, will never succeed!

if its a "simple thing", WHY would she deceive you over it for 4yrs?
If its really a "simple thing" why was she not forthright with it from the start?
If she is "strong enough" to hide such simple things for FOUR years, what other "not so simple things" is she hiding from you?

You just have to be AFRAID of a lady that can plan her future and marriage on DECEIT!
You can hide your age from outsiders but to hide your true age from your Husband?


She has "shocked" you, she will continue to shock you .... I only hope you dont get "completely electrocuted" in the process.
This one is VERY DESPERATE oooo!

My advise? Dont marry this one o! (even if the wedding is this morning)




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iPrevail:
What is wrong with this generation of humanoids?

OP, the woman in question, do you love her or not? Don't say yes because I've already concluded you've got no idea what love entails.

Fine, she lied about her age.. Don't you think it's som'in she's already ashamed of?
Why can't you take you take it as a sign that was into you that bad?
If you involve a third party in minor issues as this, what will you do when serious ones come up? Report to your local government?

but sir have u ever thought about it this way. what if she reduced her age just to get the ring or look marriageable and she doesnt really have a thing for our brother?

Wait till it's 2weeks to the wedding! Get everything prepared as well for the wedding! Then come back here and ask us! Then u will get good comments

Baba4dgals:
Oga shey na age u dy consider for marriage or happiness

You are just too inexperienced to know what you are dabbling into.

First, Women "age' faster than men but live longer.
Secondly, a Girl reaches puberty faster than a Boy, Women also reaches Menopause faster than Men.

The above are reasons why a man would likely marry a woman that he is a little bit older than.
I have seen "elderly people" in their fifties (about same age), coming to court for divorce! WHY? The woman claimed that her husband of almost thirty years, wants to "sex her to death"!
The husband in-turn, out of sheer frustration, says "My wife is denying me sex"!

I pity both of them but the truth is that The man is still very virile (at 55, most men just dey start sef!) while the woman has entered menopause in the last five years!
The result is that the woman's libido at that point has ran down completely while the man's is still pumping!

if such man has married a woman he is older than (say between 5 -10yrs), by the time she is entering Menopause, he is also "slowing down " and with a little sacrifice, they can both age gracefully!
So, if you say "age does not matter or affect happiness in marriage", you know not what you are talking about.

This is aside to the fact that she LIED to her Groom all through the years of their courtship.
What next?

But hey, a man who will not condone such lie would probably have taken his decision, he definitely wont come asking on Nairaland for "help"!
Women, if your man cannot take bold decisions without coming to Nairaland ......... Hmmmmm, be ready to be the Husband o!

Wetin concern me sef?




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Aroh48:
are yu for real? you can even do without having kids in marriage.

And what's the big deal?

Bro dump that biatc.h and move on. You don't hide anything from someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with.

This kinda girl can get pregnant for your friend and make you father the baby till you die. Let her go and find her lying partner.. don't understand why ppl tell stupid lies.

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You are just too inexperienced to know what you are dabbling into.

First, Women "age' faster than men but live longer.
Secondly, a Girl reaches puberty faster than a Boy, Women also reaches Menopause faster than Men.

The above are reasons why a man would likely marry a woman that he is a little bit older than.
I have seen "elderly people" in their fifties (about same age), coming to court for divorce! WHY? The woman claimed that her husband of almost thirty years, wants to "sex her to death"!
The husband in-turn, out of sheer frustration, says "My wife is denying me sex"!

I pity both of them but the truth is that The man is still very virile (at 55, most men just dey start sef!) while the woman has entered menopause in the last five years!
The result is that the woman's libido at that point has ran down completely while the man's is still pumping!

if such man has married a woman he is older than (say between 5 -10yrs), by the time she is entering Menopause, he is also "slowing down " and with a little sacrifice, they can both age gracefully!
So, if you say "age does not matter or affect happiness in marriage", you know not what you are talking about.

This is aside to the fact that she LIED to her Groom all through the years of their courtship.
What next?

But hey, a man who will not condone such lie would probably have taken his decision, he definitely wont come asking on Nairaland for "help"!
Women, if your man cannot take bold decisions without coming to Nairaland ......... Hmmmmm, be ready to be the Husband o!

Wetin concern me sef?




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Nice write up...

I tink I learn frm dis

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

Ha, wait oh. Before you call off your wedding, I want to ask a simple question. Is she now older than you? If yes, does the age difference diminish your love?
When has age become a terminal or communicable disease. The issue is trust which I fully understand but like most people have said confront her and let her know the next time she lies you won't forgive her. Don't complicate your life and hers unnecessarily by backing out now. This woman is about to promise her life to you. She will be risking her life in the labour room to bring forth your children, she is signing up to make a home for you. She is shunning all others for you. Can't you consider that and forgive?
I can't understand how people say 'I love you' but attach unnecessary conditions to it. I though love was supposed to be forgiving, selfless, and without conditions? Thing it through please.

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

Ask her again, and am sure she'll tell you the truth

Confront her...Don't divorce her. You love her abi

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FRAUD ..... is FRAUD!

Some may say "its a SIMPLE thing" but remember that any house build on FRAUD, will never succeed!

if its a "simple thing", WHY would she deceive you over it for 4yrs?
If its really a "simple thing" why was she not forthright with it from the start?
If she is "strong enough" to hide such simple things for FOUR years, what other "not so simple things" is she hiding from you?

You just have to be AFRAID of a lady that can plan her future and marriage on DECEIT!
You can hide your age from outsiders but to hide your true age from your Husband?


She has "shocked" you, she will continue to shock you .... I only hope you dont get "completely electrocuted" in the process.
This one is VERY DESPERATE oooo!

My advise? Dont marry this one o! (even if the wedding is this morning)




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People like you amaze me. Just listen to yourself go on and on. He should cancel the wedding, she will continue to lie and cheat abi? She is terrible person, bla bla bla. Who died and made you judge and jury? If the lady was your sister, daughter, niece would you advise the same?
It's a good thing there is so much voice of reason in this thread and hopefully op will forgive, get married and live happily ever after. I really wish to meet whoever is responsible for your way of thinking or who left and made you lonely and bitter. Please ehn, try and see someone about this bitterness you carry around. A pastor or a psychologist.

Any girl that can lie about her age just to look young for you to get married to can lie about just anything.

Break up with her now.

Solid relationship is built on truth not lies.

Don't listen to these peeps talking about love. It takes trust for any relationship to last, not just love. Break up with her.

The foundation is wrong already.

Break up, I repeat break up with her. Save your future bro.

Your better half is still out there.

I'm pretty sure she has lied about other foundational stuffs too. I'm talking from experience man.

BREAK UP WITH THAT B$TCH. SAVE YOURSELF FROM UNNCESSARY future troubles.

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You are just too inexperienced to know what you are dabbling into.

First, Women "age' faster than men but live longer.
Secondly, a Girl reaches puberty faster than a Boy, Women also reaches Menopause faster than Men.

The above are reasons why a man would likely marry a woman that he is a little bit older than.
I have seen "elderly people" in their fifties (about same age), coming to court for divorce! WHY? The woman claimed that her husband of almost thirty years, wants to "sex her to death"!
The husband in-turn, out of sheer frustration, says "My wife is denying me sex"!

I pity both of them but the truth is that The man is still very virile (at 55, most men just dey start sef!) while the woman has entered menopause in the last five years!
The result is that the woman's libido at that point has ran down completely while the man's is still pumping!

if such man has married a woman he is older than (say between 5 -10yrs), by the time she is entering Menopause, he is also "slowing down " and with a little sacrifice, they can both age gracefully!
So, if you say "age does not matter or affect happiness in marriage", you know not what you are talking about.

This is aside to the fact that she LIED to her Groom all through the years of their courtship.
What next?

But hey, a man who will not condone such lie would probably have taken his decision, he definitely wont come asking on Nairaland for "help"!
Women, if your man cannot take bold decisions without coming to Nairaland ......... Hmmmmm, be ready to be the Husband o!

Wetin concern me sef? ??


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Mr Experience, am sure people consider more important factors other than sex and looking younger than hubby when planning to get married.
Thanks for your input anyway. Make e no be like say you no comment for the thread.

techcloud:
Any girl that can lie about her age just to look young for you to get married to can lie about just anything.

Break up with her now.

Solid relationship is built on truth not lies.

Don't listen to these peeps talking about love. It takes trust for any relationship to last, not just love. Break up with her.

The foundation is wrong already.

Break up, I repeat break up with her. Save your future bro.

Your better half is still out there.

I'm pretty sure she has lied about other foundational stuffs too. I'm talking from experience man.

BREAK UP WITH THAT BITCH. SAVE YOURSELF FROM UNNCESSARY future troubles.

Am sure you have his better half in your compound waiting for him.

chinene1:


People like you amaze me. Just listen to yourself go on and on. He should cancel the wedding, she will continue to lie and cheat abi? She is terrible person, bla bla bla. Who died and made you judge and jury? If the lady was your sister, daughter, niece would you advise the same?
It's a good thing there is so much voice of reason in this thread and hopefully op will forgive, get married and live happily ever after. I really wish to meet whoever is responsible for your way of thinking or who left and made you lonely and bitter. Please ehn, try and see someone about this bitterness you carry around. A pastor or a psychologist.

And who made you a better judge?

The guy spoke the truth.

The foundation is faulty. She will continue to shock him. That's just the truth. Any girl that can keep such a very vital information from her future hubby isn't a wife material. Better late than sorry.

Op, I'm talking from experience. I forgave in my own case like on three different shockers too(including lie about age too, I also discovered this from her mum). She will continue to shock you guy.

Break up with her or live with the regrets for the rest of your life.

Be wise man. Life is too short to marry a problem

willibounce1:
Bro dump that biatc.h and move on. You don't hide anything from someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with.

This kinda girl can get pregnant for your friend and make you father the baby till you die. Let her go and find her lying partner.. don't understand why ppl tell stupid lies.

Thank God I saw your profile so I won't take you seriously. Could you also be respectful to his wife to be and not call her a bi*ch?

Op can you see your life. Someone who doesn't even know your woman is using such foul language on her. You try!

Baba4dgals:
Nice write up...

I tink I learn frm dis

We are all learners, learning from each other.



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chinene1:


Am sure you have his better half in your compound waiting for him.

There are still good girls out there. No one is perfect yes, but common, any girl that can lie consistently for four good solid years to her future husband not boyfriend, not lover, her husband to be should be feared.

Yes, we have many better halfs in our compound.

Truthfully and honestly, women lie alot about their personality most especially their age. I've seen worse... Pls advise them to be open... Some have given birth in other states before coming to lagos.

chinene1:


Thank God I saw your profile so I won't take you seriously. Could you also be respectful to his wife to be and not call her a bi*ch?

Op can you see your life. Someone who doesn't even know your woman is using such foul language on her. You try!

Why are you are sounding like you are the lady in question?

Why did you lie to him about your age?

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