kingphilip:
hope when your own mum comes around you'd do same

Or better still your wife does same to your mother you won't complain

nursennenny:
It's common courtesy.
Respect doesn't belittle you
And it cost nothing to respect your elders
Or at your age you don't greet your mum after eating?

emi14:
The mother of your wife is your mum also. In marriage Union; you and your wife become one body one soul. Saying "Ma" is justified.

Bigsteveg:


So with all the comments, you still don't know what the issue of discussion is. Na wah o

snowblaq:
...what is this one saying?...all this long epistle just to say a simple thank u after meals.....this is basic upbringing and home training.....ur MIL is not dragging the headship of your home with you....even if you saw her sitting down all day and not helping in the kitchen...simple home training expects you to thank your elders after eating.....with this kind of ego the OP and so many others have....its little wonder why we are raising a generation of mannerless children....i wonder wat he would give his own children as home training.....na wa o

Bigsteveg:


So with all the comments, you still don't know what the issue of discussion is. Na wah o

Bigsteveg:


Thank you for what please?

emi14:


If you are christian you suppose to understand me if you're not..never mind is not your fault.

savagefinder:
eh...its just a two letter word.. if you tell her the thank you and later ask your wife in private why she asked you to say thank you, doesn't it sound wiser? than coming to nairaland of all places for advice?

Lizy100:
Oga my husband tells me thank you. She is your mother and she helped in cooking it. Respect to elders demands you tell her a simple thank you. Or are you egoistic?

Henrybright:
what has religion got to do with this post na

emi14:


Brother my comment is like joke only people familiar with bible can understand.

Henrybright:
I'm not sure you get the OP very well if not u won't be talking about age and greeting mother...


In my place my mother/father doesn't pick offence if I don't say thank you to dem after eating food not provided by dem or prepared by my mum, the thank you goes to who cooked or served the food

nursennenny:
in my culture, it's to every elderly person present. Even there are 20 of them, it's still expected of u.
Thanks for saying about your side tho .i appreciate

nursennenny:
in my culture, it's to every elderly person present. Even there are 20 of them, it's still expected of u.
Thanks for saying about your side tho .i appreciate

Henrybright:
that's what people should understand, what you do in ur place might be different from wat oda ppl do in oda places so dey should let d OP be... People just insult d OP and den talk about respect at same time

snowblaq:
...don't mind them..this goes a long way to show how some people were brought up.....no one is dragging the bills with you...what is the hard thing in saying thank you....na wa o

nursennenny:
sorry if I sound disrespectful in any way. I never meant to. Forgive me and us

Henrybright:
is it a must to say thank you to someone dat didn't partake in d preparation of a meal or provided money for it?? Even if it's my parents, apart from in our home(my parents house) they don't get thank you from me the thank you cos to who ever provided d money,cooked and served the meal.. My parents or oda elderly people never get angry or complain wen I don't thank dem in such scenario

mastermaestro:


Another uncultured loudmouth.

Bigsteveg:


Okay, but imposing your traditions and belief on your spouse is unwarranted especially if you are not from the same region.
It's like telling a muslim to start his prayers with in Jesus Name.

mastermaestro:


Where are you from, Mr Joe? It's common table manners in many Nigerian homes to thank the elderly person near you after having a meal irrespective of who financed the meal. Unless you grew apart from a home of elder folks, this isn't news! At an eatery, it's unnecessary. But in a home, it's a norm. Obedience, love and honour are the pillars of a successful home!

An obligation? Never. It's a sign of honour. This world is easy! Men make it difficult to live in!

mastermaestro:


Where are you from, Mr Joe? It's common table manners in many Nigerian homes to thank the elderly person near you after having a meal irrespective of who financed the meal. Unless you grew apart from a home of elder folks, this isn't news! At an eatery, it's unnecessary. But in a home, it's a norm. Obedience, love and honour are the pillars of a successful home!

An obligation? Never. It's a sign of honour. This world is easy! Men make it difficult to live in!

BellaElla:


Yes it's proper.
When we were growing up, we were taught that you should thank the elderly ones in the room after eating. I still do that to anyone that is older than me when I eat. I am igbo by the way.

ccqueen:

There's no such thing as imposing traditions here,whenever you marry someplace that has a different culture from yours,be ready to adopt some of their ways.By the way,a simple "thank ma" doesn't hurt.That your reference no follow because
that one is personal.

savagefinder:
eh...its just a two letter word.. if you tell her the thank you and later ask your wife in private why she asked you to say thank you, doesn't it sound wiser? than coming to nairaland of all places for advice?

emi14:


If you are christian you suppose to understand me if you're not..never mind is not your fault.