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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by rofemiguwa(f): 10:11pm On Apr 25, 2017
AlphaHandMaiden:
Please oh! Who has seen or taken Rofemiguwa?!

Very wierdly, I woke up this morning and na your moniker just enter my head.


Hope you are fine ma'am and Our ladyship Pristine is much better now.

Is because u r a woman of God hehehehehe.i have being in the hospital for two weeks now.down with malaria,typhoid and bacteria infection.i havent seen my daughter in two weeks.but my sis is taking care of her.am still admitted but am much better.
Hopefully am discharged before the week runs out.

Thank you for checking up on me.
Godbless

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by olamitie: 10:18pm On Apr 25, 2017
Yesitsme:
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i never even kpekus in like 3months though dh is always in and out of town plus i was bleeding when i stressed myself with chores so we have to chill(who knows if bros they help himself outside?.men cant be trusted but na him sabi, cant kill myself undecided

my Dd is EBF but she sucks alot, always hungry.just not happy will resume work next month wont be able to monitor her feeding cry, my breast overflows that if i do not wear bra the whole bed will be wet, try and feed from time to time not on schedule
Watery pap with milk helps

Moving around with a child without car isnt easy,i don't find it so convenient using a baby carrier abi i no wear am well , was.sweating seriously when i went to the market with her today undecided
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by olamitie: 10:22pm On Apr 25, 2017
sugah:


It depends on your stress level..

For example, the last one week I was stressed about not making enough milk, so I was thinking​ about it all day cos I was home from work and when it gets to pumping time I'd get just 4oz total from both breasts after 1hr.
Yesterday I was at work all day and did not think about milk until I started feeling pains cos my breast was full. Got home and pumped 5oz from each breast in less than 30mi
can one express and put in the warmer? The creche i intend to use don't have a fridge/freezer
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by MamaOO: 2:06am On Apr 26, 2017
sugah:
Weldone mamaOO. I recognize the background of pix 2. Is it RI?

Kizzez to Mr cutie kiss kiss

That your supply was just awesome mehn!
Yes RI cheesy Omo mehn, your radar sharp die. Lol
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by enque(f): 2:18am On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:


Is because u r a woman of God hehehehehe.i have being in the hospital for two weeks now.down with malaria,typhoid and bacteria infection.i havent seen my daughter in two weeks.but my sis is taking care of her.am still admitted but am much better.
Hopefully am discharged before the week runs out.

Thank you for checking up on me.
Godbless


Get well soon dear
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Yesitsme(f): 2:21am On Apr 26, 2017
olamitie:
i never even kpekus in like 3months though dh is always in and out of town plus i was bleeding when i stressed myself with chores so we have to chill(who knows if bros they help himself outside?.men cant be trusted but na him sabi, cant kill myself undecided

my Dd is EBF but she sucks alot, always hungry.just not happy will resume work next month wont be able to monitor her feeding cry, my breast overflows that if i do not wear bra the whole bed will be wet, try and feed from time to time not on schedule
Watery pap with milk helps

Moving around with a child without car isnt easy,i don't find it so convenient using a baby carrier abi i no wear am well , was.sweating seriously when i went to the market with her today undecided
I take pap and one tin milk at once...But dnno y mine isnt flowing very well. I feed her almost every 30mins that my neighbor says I want to spoil her with food. E concern meAs for d wrk na car sure pass but if u don't have my dear u can't kill yourself
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Yesitsme(f): 2:22am On Apr 26, 2017
olamitie:
i never even kpekus in like 3months though dh is always in and out of town plus i was bleeding when i stressed myself with chores so we have to chill(who knows if bros they help himself outside?.men cant be trusted but na him sabi, cant kill myself undecided

my Dd is EBF but she sucks alot, always hungry.just not happy will resume work next month wont be able to monitor her feeding cry, my breast overflows that if i do not wear bra the whole bed will be wet, try and feed from time to time not on schedule
Watery pap with milk helps

Moving around with a child without car isnt easy,i don't find it so convenient using a baby carrier abi i no wear am well , was.sweating seriously when i went to the market with her today undecided
I take pap and one tin milk at once, drink water like fish...But dnno y mine isnt flowing very well. I feed her almost every 30mins that my neighbor says I want to spoil her with food. E concern meAs for d wrk na car sure pass but if u don't have my dear u can't kill yourself

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Yesitsme(f): 2:29am On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:


Is because u r a woman of God hehehehehe.i have being in the hospital for two weeks now.down with malaria,typhoid and bacteria infection.i havent seen my daughter in two weeks.but my sis is taking care of her.am still admitted but am much better.
Hopefully am discharged before the week runs out.

Thank you for checking up on me.
Godbless
get well soon maama
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by sugah: 8:01am On Apr 26, 2017
olamitie:
can one express and put in the warmer? The creche i intend to use don't have a fridge/freezer
No warmer dear. Milk has to be stored at either room temperature or cooled.

You can get an insulated cooler bag and ice pack to store the milk for creche. So you pump and put in the fridge and when he is going to school you put the ice pack and the milk in the bag. It can keep the milk good for 24hrs.
Jumia has it for about 1500

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by sugah: 8:16am On Apr 26, 2017
MamaOO:

Yes RI cheesy Omo mehn, your radar sharp die. Lol

Tchai!! Those guys have the world's softest pilows grin
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by olamitie: 8:26am On Apr 26, 2017
sugah:

No warmer dear. Milk has to be stored at either room temperature or cooled.

You can get an insulated cooler bag and ice pack to store the milk for creche. So you pump and put in the fridge and when he is going to school you put the ice pack and the milk in the bag. It can keep the milk good for 24hrs.
Jumia has it for about 1500
kk ma,.so when she wants to eat will they put her bottle inside hot waterj?

@ yesitsme. My hubby drives the car but i have also have a phobia for driving, since 2yrs ago that i almost knocked down a boy haven't been able to muster the courage to drive, the boy just dashed across the road,the scenario keeps coming to my mind.Wat if!!!

Dont worry your dd will pick up
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by sugah: 8:29am On Apr 26, 2017
olamitie:
kk ma,.so when she wants to eat will they put her bottle inside hot waterj?

Yes.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by rofemiguwa(f): 9:10am On Apr 26, 2017
Hello sabi mamas
How r we all doing.hope fine.
Please bcz of my ill health and the amount of antibiotics in my system.m bin forced to wean my daughter when i get discharged.
I know she is almost one but i dont want to stop nursing.i enjoy her tugging at my clothes when i come back from work or trying to acess the breast tru awkward postions.i miss that bond and i dont think i wanna let go yet.
I am told all the drugs that have bin pumped into my system might affect her.
Is there a way to mybe holdoff for like a week before going back to nursing her.or should i just let go.??

Please a help a very sad and worried mom.
Thank u

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by hotmomma(f): 9:58am On Apr 26, 2017
[quote author=olamitie post=55926049]kk ma,.so when she wants to eat will they put her bottle inside hot water/quote]

Pls don't use hot water but warm water

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by hotmomma(f): 9:59am On Apr 26, 2017
Rofemiguwa, get well soon dear
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 10:06am On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:


Is because u r a woman of God hehehehehe.i have being in the hospital for two weeks now.down with malaria,typhoid and bacteria infection.i havent seen my daughter in two weeks.but my sis is taking care of her.am still admitted but am much better.
Hopefully am discharged before the week runs out.

Thank you for checking up on me.
Godbless

Oh wow! great to hear from you. Glad you are getting better.
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Yesitsme(f): 10:13am On Apr 26, 2017
olamitie:
kk ma,.so when she wants to eat will they put her bottle inside hot waterj?

@ yesitsme. My hubby drives the car but i have also have a phobia for driving, since 2yrs ago that i almost knocked down a boy haven't been able to muster the courage to drive, the boy just dashed across the road,the scenario keeps coming to my mind.Wat if!!!

Dont worry your dd will pick up
me too am afraid ooo. And dh keeps complaining that o don't want to learn, I fear it's difficult as the clutch alone I match scared the hell out of me. Amen and thanks
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by mompurity22: 10:19am On Apr 26, 2017
feddy27:


Interesting...pls forget that milk o

If you want to change from Nan, try Lactogen
hmm mm...... okay. Thanks dear. My boys have been on lactogen though.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 10:28am On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:
Hello sabi mamas
How r we all doing.hope fine.
Please bcz of my ill health and the amount of antibiotics in my system.m bin forced to wean my daughter when i get discharged.
I know she is almost one but i dont want to stop nursing.i enjoy her tugging at my clothes when i come back from work or trying to acess the breast tru awkward postions.i miss that bond and i dont think i wanna let go yet.
I am told all the drugs that have bin pumped into my system might affect her.
Is there a way to mybe holdoff for like a week before going back to nursing her.or should i just let go.??

Please a help a very sad and worried mom.
Thank u

my dear, there are other ways to bond with your dd that just breast feeding oh.

i know it can be a bit depressing, but my opinion is to just let that ship sail!

just because you are well enough to be discharged does not mean you should start doing James bond. you still have a few weeks to recover fully, so i do not even think you are physically ready for the rigours of breast feeding. all the small food you are eating should be going to replenish what was lost during your illness. DO NOT OVERWORK YOURSELF. if you think you are well, try climbing a flight of stairs or two and you will realize that the strength you think you have is not really there in the first week or two after discharge.

You are by no means a bad mother, do not compound your issues by trying to re-establish breast feeding when you do not need to. you haven't done so in about 2 weeks so your supply would have dwindled drastically if not stopped altogether ( i know some antibiotiucs are notorious for halting lactation) , plus she is already eating solids well and have done so for the entire time you were in hospital, you can offer her breast and then she spits out your nippl.e and then you start feeling proper rejection.

In all honesty i believe your DD is fine, and you just have to deal with your own Psychological attachment to the breast feeding. Focus on trying to spend as much time as possible with her to re-connect, and believe me, the way her face will light up when she sees you and rushes for you to carry her when you get home will be equally as priceless.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Akorkor(f): 10:35am On Apr 26, 2017
@rofemiguwa, please just listen to what doctor says. so that the drug giving to you will not affect your baby. I feel the attachment you have for your little one. Maybe you should hold on for some time or find another method to bond with her. God bless you.

@olamitie,Yesitsme, you are not the only one but i thank God i have overcome the fear. In fact i went and drove into petrol station by destroying their pumps. I almost killed the petrol attendant but i thank God i didn't. Now i am a professional driver to the glory of God. Dont let fear stop you to achieve what you desire.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by rofemiguwa(f): 10:59am On Apr 26, 2017
AlphaHandMaiden:


my dear, there are other ways to bond with your dd that just breast feeding oh.

i know it can be a bit depressing, but my opinion is to just let that ship sail!

just because you are well enough to be discharged does not mean you should start doing James bond. you still have a few weeks to recover fully, so i do not even think you are physically ready for the rigours of breast feeding. all the small food you are eating should be going to replenish what was lost during your illness. DO NOT OVERWORK YOURSELF. if you think you are well, try climbing a flight of stairs or two and you will realize that the strength you think you have is not really there in the first week or two after discharge.

You are by no means a bad mother, do not compound your issues by trying to re-establish breast feeding when you do not need to. you haven't done so in about 2 weeks so your supply would have dwindled drastically if not stopped altogether ( i know some antibiotiucs are notorious for halting lactation) , plus she is already eating solids well and have done so for the entire time you were in hospital, you can offer her breast and then she spits out your nippl.e and then you start feeling proper rejection.

In all honesty i believe your DD is fine, and you just have to deal with your own Psychological attachment to the breast feeding. Focus on trying to spend as much time as possible with her to re-connect, and believe me, the way her face will light up when she sees you and rushes for you to carry her when you get home will be equally as priceless.


Thanks for ur kind words.my supply has stopped i tink cos i dont even feel heavy again.i guess i have to let go and deal with my emotions.
Am really sad.didnt plan for it to be this way.
Well God knows best.
I hope am discharged soon.cant wait to see my bby.

Thanks akorkor.i guess i dont have a choice.

Maybe i spend my little strength planing her parry. Her father made her favourite stations to be supersport and channels.
Now i dont know whether is seun character cake i want to bake for her.hehehehe


Giddyperson congrats on ur new joy.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Twogreatnations: 11:57am On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:


Thanks for ur kind words.my supply has stopped i tink cos i dont even feel heavy again.i guess i have to let go and deal with my emotions.
Am really sad.didnt plan for it to be this way.
Well God knows best.
I hope am discharged soon.cant wait to see my bby.
It
Thanks akorkor.i guess i dont have a choice.




Maybe i spend my little strength planing her parry. Her father made her favourite stations to be supersport and channels.
Now i dont know whether is seun character cake i want to bake for her.hehehehe


Giddyperson congrats on ur new joy.




Pls rest well and get well soon dear. You and Pristine will be fine. You are a good mother and your baby knows that. Alphamaiden has said it all.

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by feddy27: 12:20pm On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:
Hello sabi mamas
How r we all doing.hope fine.
Please bcz of my ill health and the amount of antibiotics in my system.m bin forced to wean my daughter when i get discharged.
I know she is almost one but i dont want to stop nursing.i enjoy her tugging at my clothes when i come back from work or trying to acess the breast tru awkward postions.i miss that bond and i dont think i wanna let go yet.
I am told all the drugs that have bin pumped into my system might affect her.
Is there a way to mybe holdoff for like a week before going back to nursing her.or should i just let go.??

Please a help a very sad and worried mom.
Thank u

O dear, don't worry. She will be fine and still bond closely with you. Other ways to bond with her: share a meal together, watch tv, sleep next to her, read a book to her at bedtime, communicate "gist" with her.. it will also help her speech. Get well soon dear *hugs*

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by gwng: 12:21pm On Apr 26, 2017
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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by feddy27: 12:27pm On Apr 26, 2017
Yesitsme:
exactly what I need now as am applying for a new job

Don't worry dear. You will be fine

hunniesuzie:
I need this. I'm resuming on Thursday and I'm having bad separation anxiety already. My mum is staying till he's 3 months after which he'll start crèche
My plan is to express so he gets some breastmilk during the day not only formula cos going home during the day is impossible

You can express enough breast milk in different bottles so the caregivers don't have a chance of coming in contact with the milk or washing bottles.
sugah:


Mine is somewhat different but it was the only sane route I could go.

I did my exclusive for 6months but the circumstances for returning to work after my maternity leave ended wasn't favourable for both me and my baby. So I discussed with my HR department and I was informed I could request for a leave of absence (without pay) and I opted for that option.

I took unpaid leave and sorted out all the issues pending
-Change of nanny, health issues for me etc and by the time I was ready for work I had started my baby on solids.
I am sane grin, and my baby is healthy.

I love that line! That makes all the difference

MamaOO and Sugah, thanks for sharing your wonderful experiences.

New mamas, take a clue from the stories shared kiss kiss kiss

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Yesitsme(f): 12:40pm On Apr 26, 2017
Pls du not Quote or SHARE
Since this thread has become my abide even while breastfeeding....I can share something with u all.

So I need godly and candid advice here

Found out my younger sister whom am 5yrs older than is planning her wedding ( I have no idea and dunno d guy) with my mum . I am the first, so I do most of the advicing and encouragement, got tired after I found out they had plans of the kind of life they wanna live. I backed out as it was leading to insult. My papa no get money and he doesn't care abt anyone, in my lil way I try to bring everyone together. She initially wanted to get married last two years and everyone kicked against it except my mama cos she was young and had nothing tangible doing ( no school,no handiwork) so that tomorrow them no go say she be liability. We wanted her to wait more, get mature probably enter school. My hubby never liked involving himself in our matter, but the marriage thing didn't go well with him, so he spoke to my mum and d lady and she said she had made up her mind and d answer my mum gave him wasn't nice, so he backed out.
Now two yrs later, I hear say she still wan marry but someone else who is abt 15yrs older than her so I heard. She finally called a day to the day they were coming to collect list to inform me abt it. I just congratulated her and wished her well, although I had already heard it frm MIL ( my mum told her and she in turn told me) so I wasn't surprised.my MIL knew I was angry and calmed m down and adviced I speak with my mum abt it when she comes for omugwo, if she brings up the matter( the list collection made her come a week after delivered) which made m more angry.
True to my suspicion she never brought up the matter till after a month I personally brought it up and she said it wasn't yet time for me to know abt the marriage. Fortunately, the list collection didn't hold cos no one knew abt the guy and his people including my mum although they speak on phone.
I blatantly told her she was wrong to have accepted to collect list for the guy when u know nothing abt him. Now, I hear the girl is making full plans to marry. And the way everything is, I do not want to get involved in the marriage thing as she herself doesn't want m involved.
What would u do if u were in my shoes?
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Giddyperson: 12:56pm On Apr 26, 2017
rofemiguwa:


Thanks for ur kind words.my supply has stopped i tink cos i dont even feel heavy again.i guess i have to let go and deal with my emotions.
Am really sad.didnt plan for it to be this way.
Well God knows best.
I hope am discharged soon.cant wait to see my bby.

Thanks akorkor.i guess i dont have a choice.

Maybe i spend my little strength planing her parry. Her father made her favourite stations to be supersport and channels.
Now i dont know whether is seun character cake i want to bake for her.hehehehe


Giddyperson congrats on ur new joy.
Thanks, pele get well soon, hugs
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by olamitie: 12:59pm On Apr 26, 2017
Akorkor:

you are not the only one but i thank God i have overcome the fear. In fact i went and drove into petrol station by destroying their pumps. I almost killed the petrol attendant but i thank God i didn't. Now i am a professional driver to the glory of God. Dont let fear stop you to achieve what you desire.

will think bout it embarassed
Thanks sugah
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Boomz(f): 1:21pm On Apr 26, 2017
dosht:

Thanks ma'am. I'm trying one home remedy here. I've been seeing changes sha
@ dosht Pls what's home remedy you areu sing pls? Cuz have tried muprocin and it didn't work for him. Thanks.
Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by dosht(f): 1:32pm On Apr 26, 2017
Boomz:

@ do.sht Pls what's home remedy you areu sing pls? Cuz have tried muprocin and it didn't work for him. Thanks.

It was one market woman that saw us oh. She saw the way my baby was scratching his forehead so she told me to get 'calabar' the unsalted one and rub the affected place.before the next morning all the pus dried off. Just waiting for the scale to peal. I can now wash His head without screaming again.
Pls I don't know the English name o

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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by mompurity22: 2:40pm On Apr 26, 2017
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so I'm thinking of getting them any of these activity walker. So, which of this walkers in pictures attached works better?..... help me choose pls....
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Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 3:26pm On Apr 26, 2017
Yesitsme

Both your sister and mother are adults are they not?

If she wants to get married, that is frankly her decision . if your mum decides to support her it is her decision as well.

there is only so much you can do. i understand your concern that she appears to be going to a marriage to someone that no one knows totally unprepared. you may not support her decision but you also cannot stop her from doing what she wants to do.

some people like to carry man on top their head like jackie-work and will fight with anyone who speaks against the relationship in any way even if it is totally justified. from what you have said your sister seems to be one of such people. unfortunately those type of people will only learn when they get badly burnt!

i do not know where you are from oh but generally it is the father's side that gives out the list, and recieves the gifts and gives out the bride traditionally. I take it your dad is not really involved however are they even considering speaking to his side of the family? or who will be representing the father of the bride on the day?

if your mum will not listen to your concerns, perhaps call another respected and trusted elderly family member or two to mediate on the matter and also so that you have witnesses to the issues that have been going on.

Then wash your hands off the matter and wish your sister well on her on-coming nuptials and marriage. tell them to send you invitation when the wedding plans has been concluded, since they have decided not to include you. sometimes things like this happen for your own benefit,
if you have a baby and your own issues to deal with, adding another persons drama on top may not ideal for your own physical and metal well-being.

Finally put it to prayer that whatever decisions they make will be the right one for your sister.

On the day of the wedding, wear your party best and dance like there is no tomorrow.

You can only force a horse to the water, you cannot force it to drink.

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