Good morning peeps, I have been pondering about this issue since last week.

I was chatting with my nephew on whassapp few days ago,while we were chatting, I observed something strange. He is planning to settle down with his fiancee very soon, I was surprised when I saw the picture of his fiancee but I pretended as if I don't know her. I have dated this babe before (to be honest), I dated her after I broke up with my first love few years ago. We dated for 2 years and 3 months, I don't really know what to do. I don't want to burst my nephew's bubbles because he is so much in love, I don't have any problem with their union but I'm planning to avoid the marriage.

Am I right or wrong, please no bashing or insults, thank you all.

For me, y not, provided there is real love between us

Chikelue2000:
For me, y not, provided there is real love between us

I don't have any problem with their union but is it normal to tell my cousin about our past escapades.
We are very close and I'm afraid he might not forgive me if I ignore his invitation.


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Y'all always be making everything a big deal. Lol....dude there's no biggie about this. It Didn't work between you and the babe but it worked with your nephew..wait......hollup?!.... NEPHEW?!!!..like, your elder sister's son?..wow!.....well.....that's not the point.....it's no biggie really

Kolewerk..nope,nay,never!!

Youdondeymad:
I don't have any problem with their union but is it normal to tell my nephew about our past escapades.
We are very close and I'm afraid he might not forgive me if I ignore his invitation.


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you better tell him,if he finds out latter..he won't trust you again.like I always say blood before water

For me, the guy code comes into play.

The only way, I can get past having "stirrings" towards her is after express permission by my friend.

Forget Love or her being sexy, the code comes first

I can't marry someone that my sibling or relation dated and if I see them with my ex, I will tell them the truth. Whatever they decides to do with the truth is entirely their business.

The reason I cannot marry the woman is because feelings can be rekindled. They can have sex again if they have had sex before.

Pls he shuldnt try it o,you guys might continue from where you stopped behind his back..It has happened to so many people that married there junior brothers ex.They will continue especially if the guy is good in bed ad richer than him along the line.
Apart from that how people go gree marry woman wey im brother or frend don see,use her body finish..NEVER!

JeffreyJamez:
Y'all always be making everything a big deal. Lol....dude there's no biggie about this. It Didn't work between you and the babe but it worked with your nephew..wait......hollup?!.... NEPHEW?!!!..like, your elder sister's son?..wow!.....well.....that's not the point.....it's no biggie really

He is my cousin,I'm not jealous(never) but I'm just trying to play safe.I don't know what would happen if I attend the wedding,we've not seen each other since we broke up.


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babyfaceafrica:
Kolewerk..nope,nay,never!!

Why?

Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....


For example :
Your friend is sitting next to you drinking garri (garri is the female his dating)
He spits inside this garri .. blow catar inside .. put pepper put salt in this same bowl of garri
now he drops the bowl of garri said his done
Will you eat out of that same bowl??

Now some random person can walk in ask
Na who get garri
His free to eat it .. has no knowledge whats gone into that garri
Though he may find out eventually ..

Do you get my point
It's the knowing

Mynd44:
For me, the guy code comes into play.

The only way, I can try this of get past having "stirrings" towards her is after express permission by my friend.

Forget Love or her being sexy, the code comes first

Should I explain everything to him?


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Youdondeymad:
He is the son of my uncle(my mum's elder brother).I'm not jealous(never) but I'm just trying to play safe.I don't know what would happen if I attend the wedding,we've not seen each other since we broke up.


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The son of your uncle is your cousin bro,not your nephew. Nothing would happen if you attend the wedding. If you feel your cousin can handle it,then tell him. Or you wait till you actually meet her in person and wait for her reaction.

That doesnt sound like something cool to do

Bumbae1:
Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....

I don't know what to do,he has my pictures in his phone,I don't know what the lady would tell her about me.You know love is crazy,I don't want family wahala.


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Youdondeymad:
Why?

future issues..I like to avoid.And please is she the only gal available?..why must I date someone my brother or cousin have pensh?....are gals scarce?

Nah

Not sure I can

JeffreyJamez:


The son of your uncle is your cousin bro,not your nephew. Nothing would happen if you attend the wedding. If you feel your cousin can handle it,then tell him. Or you wait till you actually meet her in person and wait for her reaction.

My bad my cousin rather,I can't have any convo with her again(never)

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Youdondeymad:
I don't know what to do,he has my pictures in his phone,I don't know what the lady would tell her about me.You know love is crazy,I don't want family wahala.


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Just walk away

Youdondeymad:
My bad my cousin rather,I can't have any convo with her again(never)

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Why?

Kondomatic:
I can't marry someone that my sibling or relation dated and if I see them with my ex, I will tell them the truth. Whatever they decides to do with the truth is entirely their business.

The reason I cannot marry the woman is because feelings can be rekindled. They can have sex again if they have had sex before.

It is very possible.

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SIRmanjar:
Pls don't try it o,they might continue from where they stopped behind your back..It has happened to so many people that married there junior brothers ex.They will continue especially if the guy is good in bed ad richer than you along the line.
Apart from that how you go marry woman wey your brother or frend don see,use her body finish..NEVER!

Thanks but I'm not the one o,na my cousin.


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babyfaceafrica:
you better tell him,if he finds out latter..he won't trust you again.like I always say blood before water

You just hit the nail on the head,this is my greatest fear.


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Nope never,i don't eat left overs...

Youdondeymad:
Should I explain everything to him?


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I will say tell the person first and see his reaction.

Bumbae1:
Just walk away

Thanks,I shouldn't tell him or attend the wedding?


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Bumbae1:
Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....

This post is wrong and unfair. Except you are marrying your first BF/GF, you are also leftovers.

Being the ex of someone you know is not a sin

Mynd44:

I will say tell the person first and see his reaction.

I work and live in Lagos,he lives in Benue.I'm always busy,don't think I'm gonna travel now though I'd be on leave in july.

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Headlesschicken:
Nope never,i don't eat left overs...

Leftovers?don't tell me you are dating a virgin(lol)


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Yes