cococandy:
Most of the posts on this thread prove how immature the users of this forum are.
I'll give the average age 15-19 years.
Yup.
Immature little kids

Not really, but most were raised by single parents (baby mamas).

Some baby mamas can so condition a boy's brain and make him a complete baby dummy. Have you seen the recent costume of Tonto Dike?

As long as we continue to encourage divorce, separation and baby mama, the next generation of husband will be so devastating.

A grown up mother with a loving and super active husband will not encourage some useless trailing calls from a 30 year boy

sweerychick:
All those asking whether he makes his own decisions? Well he consults his mum most times before his decision.. Though i dont confront him abt that.. My only concern is that his statement abt him dying along with his mum..

If you want to cwhether a man will respect you ,watch how he treats his mum ..if you wanna c how he will treat kids watch how he treats animals .( pets)
Don't try to interfere you don't know what sacrifices his mum made for him as far as am concerned your man is a good man and if you feelits"creepy" walk away.

Simple !

robosky02:



hmmmm

fohlarp:
even at dat,(tryn to show d mother ,love,care n respect)as a good wife 2 be shd av bn done but do u knw sm mothers are wicked.am a lady I undstd wot she's sayn d intimacy is 2 mch dey want her to knw dt d Mother is d reasn 4 his existence,so he calls her mst times so d lady can decide weda to stay or not.

She is just a fiancée not yet officially married. She shouldn't turn it to attention seeking game. I believe when the guy is married, he will know the boundaries. If she can't cope, then she should use your last statement

MrMoney007:

Shurrup there.

To think you have the audacity to tell me to shut up means you have a loose nut somewhere.

engrchykae:
its your type that will leave your husband house to come home to fight your brother wife because your mum told you that your brother wife is not licking her ass.the man'mum automatically becomes a witch while your mum is a saint.

You should have tried to make sense.

He's so much emotionally attached to his mum after losing his dad. It's understandable but as a man he needs to brace himself up for his future wife. Every woman is jealous and wouldn't want to share your attention, love, affection with someone else.

As for the lady, if you can manage this attitude of your man, go on with him but if you can't, you have to call it a quit because It's as if you are marrying the mum whose wishes are being played by your man.

mummy's boy syndrome. Run Run Run

Pidgin2:


How can a male be attached to his mum, it's weird, you are a man, an independent being, stop this nonsense. I wouldn't want my son(whether I have one or not) to be attached to me it's not healthy for his own relationships and mine

There is nothing wrong in it ,its common with first and only boys .like I said it gets weird when u calling your mom midnights

MrigweC:

There is nothing wrong in it ,its common with first and only boys .like I said it gets weird when u calling your mom midnights

I said a male being ATTACHED to his mum is always unhealthy and leads to marital problems, it's not good. Of course I like it when a child loves his or her parents but when there's an attachment, that's where the problem lies

"A man must leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife' Attachment should be found in couples not parents/children relationship. May God give us knowledge to understand

boiz2men:



Poco how would you feel if your son chooses his wife over you.. Especially if you trained him as a single mum

Boiz, does it have to be a competition?
Why are you men like this? Why did you marry her? To procreate, putting her life on the line and you keep loving your mother. What if she decides to love her own father and maybe siblings more, what love would be left for you both to enjoy as a couple?

Let's be realistic, it makes no sense.
Mothers should stop this blackmail, raise your sons to be strong men. They should go and create their own family. The bible said a man would leave his parents and cleave to his wife, it didn't make exception for single mothers or double mothers!!!

Can you marry a woman who boldly tells you, you come after her father? Women hardly make this statement, it's always you men. Can't you all be men for once. If your wives are not in a competition with side chicks, they're in a competition with your mothers, sisters, brothers...even family pet.

sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

dont blame him dear,happens to everybody whos dad is late..
My dad is late,since then i have taken over his postion and is now more close to my mum than ever..i couldnt believe this..my mum is my world..i told her such on her birthday..

ImaIma1:


You should have tried to make sense.

i will side with my mum and deal with your type until you realize that the first son is also the mum's husband.the irony of life is that nature might just provide you with a woman wrapper.

Just see opportunity in difficulty @ least u re sure of where to run to when he misbehaves just work on getting closer to his mum than him

Pidgin2:


Yes, I know you weren't talking to me but I feel the need to respond, thank God my brothers are not addicted to my mother, it's terrible and my mother never raised us up treating her male kids preferentially, in fact her favorite is our last born, she's a female and she's the most independent of us all, grow up boy

i had a girl that adore her family but frown whenever she heard that am with my sister.she never care about my family.i left her because she did not see my family like her own.you girls are something else these days but i dont care anyway because am very corrosive and i have killed emotion.so those women tricks dont apply to me.wives are not loyal,only mothers are.

engrchykae:
i had a girl that adore her family but frown whenever she heard that am with my sister.she never care about my family.i left her because she did not see my family like her own.you girls are something else these days but i dont care anyway because am very corrosive and i have killed emotion.so those women tricks dont apply to me.wives are not loyal,only mothers are.

Then marry your mother, it will solve all your problems and prevent future ones

bitcoinvin:


dont blame him dear,happens to everybody whos dad is late..
My dad is late,since then i have taken over his postion and is now more close to my mum than ever..i couldnt believe this..my mum is my world..i told her such on her birthday..

If your mum is your world what will your wife and kids be?

she is just a fiancé not a wife

sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

Hello lady, all you have said calls for no alarm. He loves you and he loves his mom. Personalities differ and the way we react to our mothers who sacrificed so much for us at the demise of our fathers also differ. His statement does not mean he will die once his mother dies. It just explains how much he values and wishes that his mother remain there for him. You can relate that sometimes anybody can make that statement. It doesn't in anyway imply he loves his mom more than you or would prefer her ahead of you. Only he understands what he nd his mother has been through and he feels she has done a lot for him to deserve him running helter skelter to be double sure she's fine. You said his mother told him not to worry but he insisted. To me that says his mother does not dominate him or push him about. It is what he wants to do. If your own biological mother had called saying she's sick and he ran to her in that way, maybe you would have been saying he's so caring and sacrificing and that he values your mother and your family. Sometimes put yourself in people's shoes. Know their past to understand why they act the way they do. Young lady don't let anyone mislead you into missing a happy home with a lovely man. I implore you to love his mother just as you love yours. In fact be the one to remind him about his mother and be supportive to him. His mother is not contending with ya place as to-be wife or wife in few months time. I wish ya a wonderful married life and GoD BLESS ya UNION.

sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

Hmmm...., my economics teacher tot me dt opportunity cost iscd alternative forgone in d process of making a choice
This issue of he's a mummy's boy, u can't win. Its better u knowvdt now b4 u say I do
The problem is dt d average woman {be it mother/daughter, mother-in-law/daughter-in-law, sister/sister or wife/sister-in-law etc}- wants her space, pure and simple.
If u really want to have a looooooog-lasting marriage with ds particular chap,....*sighs* ......I'm afraid u have to lick ur mother-in-law's behind
"How'' u may ask.
U have to see her as ur own mother and not just ur mother-in-law! And this means taking a lot of BS from her! In other words , u'll have to be extra submissive to her-and this takes a lot of humility from u.

Can u be ds submissive? If yes, good, go ahead with d marriage; if ur answer is a 'no', dn don't bother going into this particular marriage as its a time bomb!
Know for sure that if u see her as 'd other woman/stranger/tresspasser/competitor' , there'll most def be clashes, and if u think bross will take side with u, I'm afraid.......(in dbanj's voice), u're on a looooong tin!!!
Best wishes

doyinbaby:
I think if you like to marry this guy....you have to love his mum 100%....take his mum to be your mum and you will be good to go.........he loves his mum and he will continue to love her....you can't change that rather accept it and live with it

Cc pocohantas

Mr counselor, please before rendering advice, get the total facts straight. You don't know what the mum passed through for him to get to where he is. When you love someone, you take the baggage with them, that is what a lady will tell you. Is his mum staying in his house? Does he deny her attention? Do you even know parents discuss marital issues with their married daughters, so what is different about the son discussing such with a parent? Am not saying your talk is pointless, am saying it's not totally right as circumstances also matter.

IdeyFindWife:
Losing his dad need not turn him into some vegetable-like mummy's boy, doing that is his own choice. He is overcompensating and you need not be the victim.

You need to embrace the possibility that his calling mom every other hour might make her a major factor in his, and your, decision-making dynamics for a long time to come? Hence, are you gonna be comfortable with knowing that it was 'mom' who practically handpicked the sexy loungerie he got you last Valentine OR that he discusses certain embarrassing intimacies of your lovelife with her? Wake up!!

Is he his own man? Does he own his own mind, faults, choices and victories? His plan for living, how much of mom's input is in that? You need to know because once you marry him. His reality becomes partly yours. So, if he is see in life through fragmented lenses, the sight might affect your viewpoint too.

Get qualified and strategic counseling and put your foot down in that relationship. Don't just marry that guy like that. Its normal, in fact, very cool to be close-to-mom but if you find out that he is on some arrested-development trip, fire his arss!

engrchykae:
i will side with my mum and deal with your type until you realize that the first son is also the mum's husband.the irony of life is that nature might just provide you with a woman wrapper.

Don't try to justify some unfounded ideas. My hubby is the first boy, his dad is late and he is his mother's husband but he certainly does not subscribe to this way of thinking.
I have never felt he puts his mum before me. He knows where to draw the line. That is exactly what most of you are missing.

Antoeni:
Living in mother's bondage,God help him

Your own mother must be a bondage to you!

sweerychick:
All those asking whether he makes his own decisions? Well he consults his mum most times before his decision.. Though i dont confront him abt that.. My only concern is that his statement abt him dying along with his mum..

Hello dear, please run away before it will be too late. The way it seems, he's closeness to his mum is scary and true to his words, he don't mind dying for/with his mum if need be. There ll be a lot of interference in your marriage. Break up with him else you'll regret it.

boiz2men:



Poco how would you feel if your son chooses his wife over you.. Especially if you trained him as a single mum

pocohantas:

Boiz, does it have to be a competition?
Why are you men like this? Why did you marry her? to procreate, putting her life on the line and you keep loving your mother. What if she decides to love her own father and maybe siblings more, what love would be left for you both to enjoy as a couple?

Let's be realistic, it makes no sense.
Mothers should stop this blackmail, raise your sons to be strong men. They should go and create their own family. The bible said a man would leave his parents and cleave to his wife, it didn't make exception for single mothers or double mothers!!!

Can you marry a woman who boldly tells you, you come after her father? Women hardly make this statement, it's always you men. Can't you all be men for once. If your wives are not in a competition with side chicks, they're in a competition with your mothers, sisters, brothers...even family pet.

The funny tin is dt d average woman is ds realistic as a spinster, but d moment she becomes d mother-in-law d script changes.
Which way nah?!

sweerychick:
did u read the part i said that im cool with guys that are close to their mums. My mans own is just so weird and creepy

Hahaha.. One day your son will be told by his fiance that he is too attached to you.....

Accept u can't compete with the mom, she has been there his whole life....just work harder to kolobi him without making it look like quarrel...... Or suggest getting the mom an errand girl who will be on hand to do all those things...period

Pidgin2:


Then marry your mother, it will solve all your problems and prevent future ones

you are a member of the then marry your mother crew.who erroneously think that the world start from their breast and end in between their legs.you never thought that i had another option of marrying another woman.at least a yoruba woman or a benue woman instead of slay queen like you.

grafitti:




The funny tin is dt d average woman is ds realistic as a spinster, but d moment she becomes d mother-in-law d script changes.
Which way nah?!

As an average realistic man, are you a mummy's boy? You'll say no. Then how exactly do you think millions of average women in the world would all be clingy mother in-laws?

This is very stale.

grafitti:




The funny tin is dt d average woman is ds realistic as a spinster, but d moment she becomes d mother-in-law d script changes.
Which way nah?!

pocohantas:


Millions of women in the world, how exactly do you think we all would be clingy mother in-laws?

Haba! Quit the reverse psychology, very stale and slow.

sweerychick:
All those asking whether he makes his own decisions? Well he consults his mum most times before his decision.. Though i dont confront him abt that.. My only concern is that his statement abt him dying along with his mum..

Sweerychick

I think that's more of an exaggeration.. he won't die if his mum dies.. don't be afraid.

grafitti:

My average, look for another person and use for your average comparison. If you're not an average mum's boy, I am not an average prospective clingy mother inlaw. Bye

engrchykae:
you are a member of the then marry your mother crew.who erroneously think that the world start from their breast and end in between their legs.you never thought that i had another option of marrying another woman.at least a yoruba woman or a benue woman instead of slay queen like you.

Lol @slay queen hahaha, u sound so childish mummy's boys always so sissy in behavior