| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by tee83: 10:31am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Definitely your wife will have a change of feeling toward you but that's not your faulty,it was her. Why would married woman had a chat with another man on such manner. It is un-culture and un-religion to begin with. Your calculation may right and may not but God knows the best. I would advice you to go for DNA test without her knowledge as rightly suggested by some people if you can avoid it.
Best of luck. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by mechanics(m): 10:35am On Jun 30, 2017 |
You are meant to know if the baby is your child or not, do you mean you never slept with her before she went for the 6 months training course, if you are doubting if the child is yours, best is to do DNA test when the child is born. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by dveteran: 10:42am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Bro that pregnancy is yours! |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by dnawah(m): 10:45am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? be a man!tell her yes even if u will separate let it be.which kind love be that?if she die now(GOD no go gree)u fit enter grave with am?but pray o!make God show u the way |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by jbnm: 10:47am On Jun 30, 2017 |
this one na confirm unremorsefull olosho |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Countersam(m): 10:49am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Women... Fear them.. They will lie and cry for Africa! Just compose yourself man and wait for the paternity test to be done. Your wife is suspicious for telling you she will give you hell if the test turns out in your favour, but how does she explain the phony chats that gave you suspicions. Is she the one that married you? |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by room089: 10:55am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Based on the premise given, many useful advice had poured in. You have to chew them before swallowing least you should ingest a pin and it chokes you. I wouldn't want to join issues with anyone. Opinions are like bags of different sizes and shapes: you carry yours and I carry mine.
Your wife has really strained your trust by allowing her gyno friend to call her endearing names. That doesn't mean she's a flirt and sleeps around - she doesn't do such. Believe me. Please don't torture her emotionally to be tempted to have a taste of that side of life.
Would you be so doubtful if I tell you that the baby is 100% yours? Yes SHE is yours! Forget about science and its procedural technicalities; God made and allowed it so.
When she comes early next year, you will see yourself in her.
Need I say more?
Just remember I told you so! |
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| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by phreakabit(m): 11:03am On Jun 30, 2017 |
eyinjuege:
Play along, and wait for the next 8months. Don't even mention it again
After delivery, just go to a center where they do DNA tests, and find out what you need to bring to do one. They may give you a swab, to scrape or rub on the inside of the cheek of your baby.
Collect it, and do that when you're alone with the baby.
Take sample back to the lab and do your test.
If the baby is yours, congrats. If its not yours, its still congrats. Do what you have to do/ your heart tells you to do.
Meanwhile, make sure you're also fertile before you make a decision on what to do if the baby isn't yours.
Best advice and only advice necessary. However make arraignments with your lawyer in regards to financial possessions, so you get to keep almost everything I assume you did not sign a prenuptial agreement prior to getting married. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Amakxy: 11:06am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Elektra008(f): 11:16am On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? Pls and Pls op, u need to listen to my advice. Do not wreck ur marriage on mere suspicions and disregard the comment of ppl O. Ur wife is likely telling the truth about the pregnancy. Pregnancy is actually for 40weeks medically so if four weeks make one month, den the pregnancy is for ten months medically. Both tyms I had my babies, the gestation period was calculated from TWO WEEKS to the tym I conceived. In ur case, June 26,will make it abt 6weeks and 1 day of pregnancy according to her last menstrual day. Also ultrasound is not absolute because d size of the fetus is wat is used to judge most times. A bigger baby might give a different edd from a smaller. Baby dat were conceived at the same tym. I Av two children b Dat was my experience. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by demolagilbert: 11:17am On Jun 30, 2017 |
My SUGGESTION? GET A SECOND OR THIRD OPINION FROM OTHER HOSPITALS..BUT BRACE YOURSELF FOR THE WORST!!! Hey there. First of, i commend your maturity which you displayed in handling some rash comment posted here. Now to the crux of the matter. Since you have brought this to the court of public opinion, based on the facts, these are my submissions. IF you infact did not have intercourse with your wife during that 6 month training period, it is mathematically impossible that you are the father of that child, except of course this is another 'virgin mary' case. disregard when she 'SAID' she last saw her period, those are mere words, deal with the facts that are before you. You had sex on the 19th of may that is a fact, on the 26th of june medicine says your fetus is 55days old approx..that is too wide a gap. If i were you, i would take one last step and that is to get a second and maybe third opinion at other hospitals..it would be clear then what is and what isnt. I'm sure you will agree with me that three hospitals cannot all give you wrong answers. best of luck! MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by SeniorZato(m): 11:33am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Most of you advising the guy to go for DNA test. Have u considered how the child would feel if he grows up to learn that his mum was onced accused of infidelity and he/she's paternity was doubted? Put urself in the baby's shoe. How would you feel urself if ur dad once doubted u were not his child and went to that extent of confirming. Mr OP, marriage is not a childs play. You must learn to trust and believe in ur wife. The child is urs and thats final 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by mystery22: 11:40am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Angelyna:
Hi Mr, firstly I think you don't love or trust your wife a bit,
actually you thought you did... A marriage of just 18months? I fear your home will have enough ups and downs. See go and write today's day down, you will be sorry you ever doubted your wife, if I were the wife, I swear I'll make life miserable for you after the confirmation of the paternity... Some of you men are still boys but you jump into marriage. Fine! You saw your wife chat with another guy but to me it doesn't call for doubting the paternity. Those people advising you to chase her out, they're still mama's boy so what advice can they give.... In short I'm vexing right now... Enough said sha... You guys still have a long way to go and more work to do shut up dere wit dat empty threats no woman can ever make life miserable, i will chase her out immediately n then we see who suffers most.LovePeddler everywhere  |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by demolagilbert: 11:44am On Jun 30, 2017 |
Also, technically you cant start counting from may 19..the reason is simple, if she truly ended her period on the 16th then assuming she had a 3 day menstruation which is the shortest i know, it would mean her menstrual cycle started on the 13th of may, if it was a five day menstraution that means her menstrual cycle started on the 11th. Now ovulation usu takes about 14 days into the menstrual cycle..sperm can survive up to 5days research has shown. Therefore i can extrapolate and tell you that conception at the earliest would have happened 23rd or 24th of june..this is 32/33 days compared to 55 days that the ultrasound showed....mathematically e no possibu sah....go to other hospitals, if it is the same result, if na me oo, i dont need any DNA to prove anything...science isnt just to be read it is to be applied and practiced. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by coolcatty: 11:46am On Jun 30, 2017 |
SeniorZato:
Most of you advising the guy to go for DNA test. Have u considered how the child would feel if he grows up to learn that his mum was onced accused of infidelity and he/she's paternity was doubted? Put urself in the baby's shoe. How would you feel urself if ur dad once doubted u were not his child and went to that extent of confirming. Mr OP, marriage is not a childs play. You must learn to trust and believe in ur wife. The child is urs and thats final Rubbish talk ....all these kids spewing thrash....why will u advise a man to mortgage his happiness and peace of mind for a child he is not sure of??....I love my daughter so much but won't hesitate to abandon her if my happiness and peace of mind is under threat....this life is once and u die....better to live happy and die childless than to live a life of sorrow because u are protecting your child....same child that will grow up and leave you to start his own family in peace and happiness. You are very annoying and a huge isi azzzuu for this your statement. Fish head 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 11:57am On Jun 30, 2017 |
veraiyke:
Another reason I'm always uncomfortable with a woman always flirting with a man and going with him and yet says he's just a friend and then the feelings begin to come and one day it will happen and will never stop then the lies will begin. Manipulation here and there. I wonder how a man or woman will be proclaiming undying love for someone and be shagging another person still without conscience. Its no love but wickedness. they say love is wicked.  |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Mccollins042(m): 12:00pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
[/quote].if its urs fyn if nt urs,throw her out with this speed 3×10^8m/s (i.e speed of light )[/quote] |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 12:00pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? Sorry I quoted the entire epistle just to tell you that the baby is urz. from MAY 16TH to JUNE 12TH is a complete 28days cycle which puts her at 4weeks gone from the day she missed her period. June 26th is an extra 2weeks putting her at 6weeks pregnant. Ultrasound scan measures at estimate, which shows your baby is growing further than his age. I had a baby which by my last period his due date was 27th June but scan kept giving me 5Th June thereby dashing me extra 3weeks. as tough as my home maybe now, my husband has no reason to doubt paternity cuz of scan estimated date. Finally I even gave birth on the 28th May, so I didnt get to reach the June that should have been my accurate date. What am saying in essence is, your wife might have had flirty chats but from her calculations and date, she is accurate. your baby is just on the big side... please dont spoil your home. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Mccollins042(m): 12:02pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
shege45:
jst b calm for now until its born.if its urs fyn if nt urs,throw her out with this speed 3×10^8m/s (i.e speed of light ) lolll... bahd guy |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 12:02pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
demolagilbert:
Also, technically you cant start counting from may 19..the reason is simple, if she truly ended her period on the 16th then assuming she had a 3 day menstruation which is the shortest i know, it would mean her menstrual cycle started on the 13th of may, if it was a five day menstraution that means her menstrual cycle started on the 11th. Now ovulation usu takes about 14 days into the menstrual cycle..sperm can survive up to 5days research has shown. Therefore i can extrapolate and tell you that conception at the earliest would have happened 23rd or 24th of june..this is 32/33 days compared to 55 days that the ultrasound showed....mathematically e no possibu sah....go to other hospitals, if it is the same result, if na me oo, i dont need any DNA to prove anything...science isnt just to be read it is to be applied and practiced. Calculate well. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by amshigida: 12:09pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
HMM I THOUGHT YOU PEOPLE DON'T MIND FLEXING AROUND WITH OTHER PEOPLES WIVES,ITS YOUR TURN TO WELCOME ANYTHING FOREIGN IN YOUR HOUSE AS YOU TOO NOT BEING FAITHFULL OKAY,ADVOCATE OF SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE YOU HAVE THE GUTS TO FACE THE CROWD WITH THESE RUBBISH,YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO COVER YOUR FACE FIRST |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by mamato(f): 12:19pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
if her mind is clear, she should have been the one to suggest for d DNA since you are doubting ur paternity of her baby. Clear conscience fears no accusation. Even if the baby turn out to be urs, she had affair with the gyno. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by BigBrother9ja: 12:19pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
[s] corpershun:
So many Primary School and Secondary School Dropout on Nairaland, at least try to educate yourself before countering an individuals argument plus if you can come on Nairaland, GOOGLE should also be your friend. Chaiiii
I am guessing you're not married or even a parent, the age of a foetus is counted as at the date of the last menstrual date. Thus if scan says 4weeks, the baby is just 2weeks by subtracting the menstrual week, ovulation week. [/s] Nonsense! |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Josh44s(m): 12:28pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
One of the greatest mistake a married man or woman makes is keeping opposite sex as close friend. It's not about being innocent or not. It's about you shifting your attention from your spouse. That alone is Cheating! Goddamnit! I almost broke the head of one ediot who told my wife he wants to be her friend since she told him she is married in my presence not knowing I am her husband standing behind her talking to a friend. I don't take chances. You near my wife, I break your skull. As a man it's your duty to teach your wife the "Let's be friends technique" uses by a lot of he-goat whose aim is to scatter the marriage of married women. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by ghettochild(m): 12:31pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation? oga if u like fall for dat tactic. dat child is not urs n wil neva b. dnt even wait til when she gvs birth. its a trap |
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| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Imyourex(m): 12:47pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
oglalasioux:
Marriage is not mankind's nature. We are just forcing the fraud unto ourselves and getting hurt for the nonsense.
One day, religion and marriage will be abolished and the world will be peaceful ever after. Wish I could like your comment a thousand times over, This is one of the best words I've read all this while |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by NoToPile: 1:08pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
JFT24:
Is trust more important now than the future, so many men have cater for children which aren't theirs then later having eternal regrets. why not make amends when is right and still reasonable. You don't trust blindly. She's a woman for God sake, talking intimately with a so called gyno who isn't her relative. For me oooo, my trust for her will lye in d DNA. You can't endanger d love for ya children for love or a trust. Guy you need to do the right thing I understand your opinion and I respect that but that doesn't mean we shouldn't state facts , based on what he wrote in his story that child is most likely his, one has to state how the medical peeps tend to count pregnancy. wifey cheating or not is another thing entirely , she gave him the oportunity to think like that because of her actions he should not have confronted her about the paternity that was a very bad step, he should have opened a thread like this ( if he cant go through the pains of going through google) asked if its possible for scan to say 7weeks, he would have gotten some sensible explanation and then he should have kept his cool, confront wifey about the Chats ONLY that hes not okay with them and save up for a DNA test after the baby is born to remove all doubts . I believe you know the gravity of that accusation, Do you know what it means even for the baby involved. I Accusations like that should b back up with concrete evidence . His major mistake is not carrying out reasearch and keeping his cool, emotions should not rule a man. One needs to be wise and patient in issues like this because its just too sensitive. Now he has put his marriage in problem because of little indescretion whatever the result of that DNA test his marriage won't be the same again. A large percentage of women will never forget that accusation. It will take the grace of God for someone who is truly innocent to forget the matter |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by mysticwarrior(m): 1:08pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
OkoAnike:
Op, don't worry ur self, u are not the father of the unborn child... I had a similar situation in my life today, while in service (NYSC) I got involved in a young married women and things get really sweet between us.
she got pregnant but bcoz we are not sure of the paternity of the child we did the needful, I know the husband bcoz he comes around occasionally, long story short, service end and we parted...
But I think God has a way of dealing with us in life, two months after service she still observe her period, but I tell you, her child is my carbon copy, everything about me is the the child, we are both worried...
The chat u saw answers all of your questions, bcoz the description of what you saw look almost exactly what our chat look like then, am 97% sure the child is not urs.
But again, if can let go please forgive and move on and if you can't, please find a subtle platform to do it without hurting your self.
But most importantly make sure the baby is born.. Do all u can that you don't lost the baby in the cause of all of this, hence u will blame ur self for the rest of your life in a position where you are suppose to be innocent.
Wish you all the best my brother.
Shallom so you mean say you open your two eyes remove another man wife pant, then you come enter her? chai Oga your own don finish o, you brought a great curse upon yourself the day you slept with a married woman, and you will witness it when your wife will moan with pleasure as she spread her legs wide open for another man to punish you for your wicked act, and there is nothing you can do to prevent it, it is what you brought upon yourself, sorry but its the bitter truth. |
| Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by elda2303(m): 1:12pm On Jun 30, 2017 |
warrah:
Biko explain, how is pregnancy date counted from the last day of the peroiod It's done via LMP: ie. d day d period started not the day it finished. |
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