| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by luwabrooklyn(m): 7:42pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
op this is your wife hope u do recog that fact all she wants from you is what you want which is to get a job the only wrong thing she is doing d way she is trying to make you get a job.. I do think generally that is what women do, they nag you till you get things done 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by rosalieene(f): 7:43pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Op you were just so unfortunate to marry a bad wife.
but come to think of it, some men pour out their frustration on their wives when they loose their jobs, hope that's not Wat u do thereby making her angry. This can also lead to careless comments from her. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by dominique(f): 7:46pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Truth is, most of the women suffering from domestic violence are those without means of income. Some men that see their wives as burdens and useless, eventually they turn their wives to punching bags knowing that she has nowhere to run to cos she's dependent. So a spouse ill-treating the other because he/she has no means of income is not peculiar to a specific gender. I've seen cases where the wife carry the bulk of the financial responsibilities without any issues. Anyways, the advice I will give op mylander is the same I will give a jobless woman suffering maltreatment in her marriage. Go and get a means of income, no matter how little. May God bless your union and ease your affairs. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Ifyone123(f): 7:48pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
kaziblake:
Looking for cheap likes
Pretender!Go and marry first and see how it feels. oops..how do u knw me...hv we dated b4? dnt judge me boy if ent know me..no hating doh...and if u hv d mentallity dat marriage is a WORLD CLASS trophy dat must b won den baba u ar doomed..I passed a suggestion for restoration of an emotionally weak man not for "likes" on me. plz direct ur kind heart to d welfare of d op not me..#winks 2 Likes |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by aydes: 7:48pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
mylander:
Please advise.
I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.
When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.
After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.
At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'
Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.
Look at it as a motivation for you to bounce up fast. 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by bayulll011(m): 7:48pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Fabulocity:
Before you mention me to say shît, please get your facts right. Have you ever seen me say I'm an advocate of gender equality? Have I ever called myself a feminist? But why're you men always hiding under the mask of gender equality to abdicate your responsibilities?
madam u ain't sensible here with what you post and those gibberish you wrote down there all an saying is women av this entitle mentality always claims sympathy that why I don't judge men that treat them anyhow cos they are silly being 3 Likes |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by bezimo(m): 7:49pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:
Op, a woman cannot have respect for a man who does not work while she pays all the bills. Please hurry and get a job, so things can go back to the way they were. Since her respect for him is based on his pocket, when he eventually gets a job or money, she should not expect things to return to normal. I can bet you on that because he has found out his wife is a fake selfish person. 7 Likes |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by juman(m): 7:49pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Another sad story.
A country that has destroyed economy.
A confused government. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by eph12(m): 7:50pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:
It is encouragement for you to hustle harder. No woman wants to take care of a man. It's best you learn this today. So it's right to teach a girl this but wrong to teach a boy to be the man and master of his house? See double standards o. Fake feminism 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by mapist(m): 7:51pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
mylander:
Please advise.
I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.
When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.
After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.
At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'
Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.
The lady who created the post of not being able to date guys below her standard needs to see this. 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Tmiky: 7:51pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers God bless you |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by MrHenshaw: 7:52pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
mylander:
Please advise.
I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.
When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.
After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.
At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'
Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.
l sincerely feel your pain.I will advice that you get yourself something average doing that will engage you and enable you leave d house often.At least you will earn a stipend at month end to enable you shield yourself from collecting every one kobo from her at this stage. 90% of them are like that,u are not alone. a.k.a "Obiageli aku".lgbo's can understand better.But trust me,you MUST overcome.At least remain calm because of the blessed child.Finally you can see the sack was a blessing in disguise,at least you now know better whom you have married and been making sacrifice for. I 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Ifyone123:
Bro MMM stil pays ai...d reseason y i mentioned MMM is dat his MONEY works for him witout sweat...Den he cn direct his sweat into looking fr a job. N wen i said MMM i mean lil like 20/30/40k. He will b getting interesting witout sweats. d people dat ar crying on MMM brekdown ar d greedy ones...It wz ivn a serious from page warning on MMM 'Use you SPARE MONEY' but greed cn let piple knw sup. If i am stil wrong wif wat i hv jst said plz point it out.
Question: is it better he stays at home spending d lil he got? is it beta he spends d lil he got nw into transportation and noting is coming in? bro MMM cn solve dat problem. he gets interest fr it to run around n do oda tinz til he finds his feet or do u want him to beg his wife for transport money which will break his heart cz she must insult him or do u want him to go beg his friends for transport money n his friends will mock him/help a lil den stops at somtime or people dat wunt ivn help atool.
plz if am stil wrong...do fix me right, tnx Just shut it with your MMM scam 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by francofoks: 7:52pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
CROWNWEALTH019:
And this na woman way you date and way vow to love you and would do anything for you. Na the same day devil and women were created but we no no which one was created first...
Take heart bro, when bubu burial is announced things would pick up Guy u be bad person o... LWKMD |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
bezimo:
Since her respect for him is based on his pocket, when he eventually gets a job or money, she should not expect things to return to normal. I can bet you on that because he has found out his wife is a fake selfish person. You are being very naive. She didn't marry him while he was unemployed, so why should she suffer now? I'm sorry to inform you but all things are conditional. No woman wants a broke man. It's not attractive. If he wants a peaceful marriage, he needs to find a job. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by kaziblake(f): 7:53pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Ifyone123:
oops..how do u knw me...hv we dated b4? dnt judge me boy if ent know me..no hating doh...I passed a suggestion for restoration of an emotionally weak man not for "likes" on me. plz direct ur kind heart to d welfare of d op not me..#winks I'm a fellow woman like you and what you just put up there is trash!Do you know what the woman is going thru?You only heard the man part and quickly jump into conclusion. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Rossikki: 7:53pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:
Op, a woman cannot have respect for a man who does not work while she pays all the bills. Please hurry and get a job, so things can go back to the way they were. OP, ignore the advice of this woman.... Get your finances going, and then GET RID of your ''wife'', and find someone who loves you. Life is too short to live with a selfish, cold, wicked, and mean-spirited person that you call ''wife''. You DESERVE to be loved. Go get it. Anything else, and you're selling yourself short. One more thing. You will NEVER forget the way she acted, even when you finally get on your feet. It will haunt you night and day. When she turns smiley and pleasant, you will think in your mind ''You devil. Now I have money you're smiling''. You will NEVER love her again after this situation. You need and should get, another woman. A word is enough for the wise. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by stukinherdr1222(m): 7:53pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Victornezzar:
Op i understand her pains...its normal with women
Dis ur case was d same case with my uncle
Don't know weda dey wer controlling him from village......He lost his job....His wife had a big shop wer she do sell all dis kitchen utensils.....she was complaining oo but my uncle kept calm....she was responsible 4 everything in deir family.....my uncle felt dat d whole world was against him....its dat period u would know hu ur real friends are.....But today it's a forgotten issue...he's living well with his family.
so don't ever regret getting married
Sh*t like dis happens
Btw u too start something doing so at least u can be supporting her
Even if it's little....God will increase u
btw Pm me
let's talk more on dis
will av 2 connect u with my uncle so u would hear more from him bro i would love to contact you as well , my case is more than this . . . i started dating my wife when she was in HND 1 and paid her school fees till she graduated,served and got married ,we dated for 4 years ,two years after we got married i lost my job . . .but before then i was able to open a boutique for her . . . for 8 months now i have been jobless ,and to worsen the situation i have been very sick ,i have GERD a sickness related to ulcer and only surgery can cure , during our court ship i was doing a bsc programme in computer science , i stopped in 300 level . my house rent i cannot pay . . i really need someone i can talk to . . i was very okay financially before i feel sick and lost my job . .i even bought a car of which has been sold long ago . . just to meet up with the expenses in the house . . my wife changed totally , my family changed as well . ..i have no friends and i have attempted suicide twice . .the only hope i have is God and been alive . .. .my wife has turned my house to a living hell for me . . .i have never had peace since then . she is now very arrogant , no love , no respect , she has never been submissive . . . |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by eph12(m): 7:53pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
aydes:
Look at it as a motivation for you to bounce up fast. Any normal guy would want to bounce back, but his wife of all people should have his back when things are not working. If he does not have the support of his wife, who's support does he now have? How can things get back to normal between him and his wife when he bounces back? |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 7:54pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Lol Most women can't handle responsiblity without mentioning it, a man can, my mom was a single mother for a long time, and anytime she paid for stuff she'd remind me but not always mostly when she was frustrated, Man can go through a lot and shoulder a lot of insults without mentioning or blowing their horns, women can't, it's why most women won't feel comfortable till they make someone aware of their plight. Being a man ain't no easy job, it's a thankless one, just make sure you keep getting the paperz though, but some women got your back but not all. 1 Like |
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| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Rossikki:
OP, ignore the advice of this woman.... Get your finances going, and then GET RID of your ''wife'', and find someone who loves you. Life is too short to live with a selfish, cold, wicked, and mean-spirited person that you call ''wife''. You DESERVE to be loved. Go get it. Anything else, and you're selling yourself short.
One more thing. You will NEVER forget the way she acted, even when you finally get on your feet. It will haunt you night and day. When she turns smiley and pleasant, you will think in your mind ''You devil. Now I have money you're smiling''. You will NEVER love her again after this situation. You need and should get, another woman. If he finds a new woman and loses his job, he will get the same results. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by no1madman(m): 7:55pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers Easier said than done! I sabi una die! |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by misano(m): 7:56pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Ifyone123:
This is the reason most well doing men dont flaunt dia money wen dating girls. Like i once said "U know d depth of loyalty from a woman wen her man got noting..and d loyalty of a man wen he got everything" OP jst calmly tell her to b paying bills dat u will refund her back and start lookin fr a job, meanyl if u cn invest d lil u hv in MMM n b looking around fr anoda appointment. Broda if u finally get a job n she brings d list of fr u to refund jst tell her to giv u somtime, u shud go write a list of all u hv bin spending wen u both wia dating, all d money u spent on both white n traditional wedding and all d expenses u cn fabricate and tell her to pay up all diz tinz before u refund her money back. You sef u wud hv opened a shop for her or tell her to hustle as well or look for a job, its easy fr us to get a job, the make it mandatory dat contribution will b 50/50..or 60/40. men u guys hv com togeda to b one..forget dat MAN Provider mentallity nonsense. Oya drop dead n see if she wunt take care of her kid/kids by hustling. Op if u knw hw u cn start pinning ur mouth wen she talks plz kindly do. If she takes ur PEACE plz dnt beat her..Kindly n gently in a romantic way carry her back to her father/mother's house...dats our only refactory and reset mode but before u do dis make make sure YOU hv paid d current house rent and earning lil cash...ivn if its lil..Thank me later. Dis madam is wicked. Ha ha... can't stop laughing. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by kaziblake(f): 7:56pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
neoapocalypse:
Just shut it with your MMM scam That girl is a scammer. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by kaziblake(f): 7:57pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
FortuneTeller:
You are being very naive. She didn't marry him while he was unemployed, so why should she suffer now? I'm sorry to inform you but all things are conditional. No woman wants a broke man. It's not attractive. If he wants a peaceful marriage, he needs to find a job. You are the only sincere lady here,the rest are liars. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by fkj950ax(m): 7:57pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
SUPERPACK:
rent a piece of land and go into farming, stop wasting your time at home searching for job, Op If you don't know about farming, don't go into it. The frustration will kill you 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by pastorcyrus(m): 7:58pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers Good woman,you have spoken the truth my lovely sister.may women are good at insulting their huzzybobby anytime things go the other way round. |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Perez007: 7:58pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
mylander:
Please advise.
I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.
When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.
After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.
At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'
Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.no
My advice is pray Prayer changes things... Cry to God Things will turn around for your good. You remain the head of the family 1 Like |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by Nobody: 7:58pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
. It's in women's nature to nag although not all of them. They have that notion that all expenses in the house are borne by the head of the family but they forget that women are helping mates in time of need. The bible wasn't foolish when it said something of that nature. Your wife is now feeling the burden of bearing expenses that's why she acts that way. The truth be told, try get something doing, try to leave the house and come back late but no empty handed and watch her reaction. She's only pushing you to get work indirectly. So prove to her that you're instill in charge by getting a job or running a business. No matter what people say here in trying to condemn her, it doesn't change the fact that you're jobless at the moment. So stand up and get something doing. Thou you fall now you shall rise again. The attitude exhibited by your wife is a test of faith just like when Job in the bible was tested. Don't mind those chicks saying they will support their husbands here on this forum because most of them are pretenders |
| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by marcelin(m): 7:58pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
mylander:
Please advise.
I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.
When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.
After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.
At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'
Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.
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| Re: I Lost My Job, Now I Am Losing My Dignity At Home by kaziblake(f): 7:59pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Rossikki:
OP, ignore the advice of this woman.... Get your finances going, and then GET RID of your ''wife'', and find someone who loves you. Life is too short to live with a selfish, cold, wicked, and mean-spirited person that you call ''wife''. You DESERVE to be loved. Go get it. Anything else, and you're selling yourself short.
One more thing. You will NEVER forget the way she acted, even when you finally get on your feet. It will haunt you night and day. When she turns smiley and pleasant, you will think in your mind ''You devil. Now I have money you're smiling''. You will NEVER love her again after this situation. You need and should get, another woman.
A word is enough for the wise. You think it's easy to divorce!its your type that woman will control. |
