TinaAnita:



See guys claiming saints here and there! So you aren't cheating on her okwia? Hypocrite

I have never cheated on anyone I dated cos I've always been a principled person who treats people the way he wants to be treated. That's why I can't stand cheating and infidelity one bit. Besides, I'm too engrossed in finding ways to be successful, to start chasing skirts up and down. I'm not a useless person.

[quote author=Gourdoinc post=58103434]lol.

has this one been a good woman in other aspects? has she shown good wifely and motherly attributes ? if the answer to that question is yes. then (I can't believe I am saying this rubbish) forgive her and don't forget her.

That's the best way to deal with your present "predicament" like Gordon Comedy Belusconi will say.

One thing to be thankful of is that u have seen the signs earlier. One thing to be remembered that we are all humane, let us learn to forgive.

Practically, prepare to share the budget of that wedding 50/50 with her, so u won't have cause to scratch your head on the bridge.

You better make up your mind - if you go into marriage out of pity, or because of what people would say or because of the amount of money you have spent - you are deceiving yourself and it is a disaster waiting to happen. You can never please this well-well experienced woman sexually nor financially. If you had no evidence this public-dog would deny deny deny.
Half a word for the Wise, don't be a big FOOL that end up with another man's children.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

Of course, you should go ahead and marry her. Just don't come back here lamenting later. God is trying to save you but you are doing your best to resist. What a question.

But nawao... Girls sha. Most of them are bad news. Imagine this shii. I no go fit forget wetin this girl sef do Me during service then. I love u wholeheartedly but u still dey fire one mumu guy say naso una dey do for your Lodge. She go come my place do like say na only me dey fire her. If no be God direct me to see her WhatsApp chat that midnyt. Thunder fire you B

Second the motion.

Chuvinchi:


Yu have come this far and All these done and she still cheats on you.. Her mind strong well well.... Run

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

This is the most stupid reason ever,
So you want to marry her out of pity abi what will people say?

When she was cheating didn't she think of you? And for the fact that after your introduction she still was cheating, my man use your head.

Or you marry her for this reason and go ahead to suffer from the first day of your wedding

Bro,the reason why u brought this matter to this forum is because u still love her because i believe if u no longer love her u wouldn't need someone's advice u would just take a walk.I know some few men who could cope with cheating partners but not my type but i don't know if u are one of those men.....At least 85% of women who ever cheated never stopped cheating,they only look for new ways to hide it from their partners

You deserves a bag loaded with us$ award.

angelusbrut:
leave that lady and run for your life. I am a woman,please don't marry a woman that is grossly engulfed with infidelity....too bad

ceejay80s:


guy u are right ,it happened to me, i almost ran MAD!!!!!!!

Guy I have seen it happen. Within three years the guy was having serious mental health issues over something that could have been avoided in the first place.

A word is enough.

lolz?
Marry her out of pity and watch your marriage crash before your eyes.
Marry her out of pity and have a marriage of pity.
Marriage is not something you do out of pity. Its an agreement and obviously, to be spouse ain't committed. Amos 3:3- Can two walk together unless they agree?
You can't walk together o. There is no agreement. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
Be wise dear!!

lolz?
Marry her out of pity and watch your marriage crash before your eyes.
Marry her out of pity and have a marriage of pity.
Marriage is not something you do out of pity. Its an agreement and obviously, to be spouse ain't committed. Amos 3:3- Can two walk together unless they agree?
You two can't walk together o. There is no agreement. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
Be wise dear!!

;VERY Funny.

jpphilips:



Don't cancel your wedding, just replace the Bride.

jjjjj2017:
blackface sef dey talk? man don suffer

;DBurnt amala. Don't mind her

Run for your damn life. She will never stop cheating with that same man. Marriage doesnt change anything

Oga the answer is in your question

bro plz do forgive n forget but dnt even think of getting married to her, n dnt put her to shame if the two family ask wat happen refer them to d lady n stand on it dat if she don't revealed d secret her self u don't hv anytin to say, let her put herself to shame.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

It is only stubborn flies that follow the corpse into the grave just like stubborn dogs that do not hear the hunter's whistle. You have been warned by good wishers on Nairaland. An adulterous wife is gateway to the husband's death.

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last35:
Sorry bro...

Hahaha. People cheat but do not want to be cheated on.

listenersky:
Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

listenersky:
are parents are aware already because the man she cheated with is her Dad's friend

Why didn't she think of all that when she was cheating on you? What makes you think she would be faithful to you after marriage?

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

Den marry her na, but dont come complaining again.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

if you marry her and she ends up killing you will that be better, there is no trust in that marriage again.

Thou follow your mind.

but to destroy your life to please someone else is OK if you ready to bear the consequences.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

She never thought of that when she was screwing another man. Move on man, and don't look back.

The wedding is only a one day or at least two-day event. Marriage is a lifetime event. The 3 wrongs of life- wrong family, wrong wife, wrong church.

Xsem:

Forget all those things. The feelings will never depart from you if you marry her out of pity. Better quit the marriage preparation.I know of a man who got married and the next day filed for divorce because the wife didn't have a womb. The wife told him on the very night after the wedding. The man has already married another woman with 4 kids already, had it been he didn't divorce,he would be living in regret by now. Shit happens and anything you do people gonna talk.
A stitch in time saves nine

. Guy..you get sense...

Marvel1206:
Run! Marriage is not a child's play

My dear even a God fearing pastor will tell you don't marry her.You will.appear foolish and stupid at the end of d day.A lady that kept that away from you will be a torn in your flesh.Many years of immoral relationship and she still wanted to hide.She can't eat her cake and have it.She will still do more after wedding.Don't marry her

Abi o..

My greatest detest in a woman is "Infidelity", I can tolerate arrogance, but for cheating? It's a no-go area.

VargasVee:


Should that be the issue? You should be thankful you dodged an incoming cannon. This is someone who had no regard for you, dating an elderly man while lying to you all these years. Trust me, the last thing you want to do is embark on a pity marriage. She should move on how she likes, it's her own doing.

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

If u marry her,u may end up killing her yourself,cos throughout ur married life u will not trust her and u will always be bitter towards her. so runnnnn.

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

Do not listen to anybody on this platform that says run! They are of devil lineage and don't want your happiness. She's your wife, since apologised and after all you didn't meet her a Virgin shebi? Do not fall your hand nor hers. Go ahead with the wedding and the God almighty will nurture and protect your married life Amen

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

pls write ur biography and tell us the kind of uniform we will wear 4 ur burial.or look 4 a replacement now.may the good God be with u.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

She should have thought of that before cheating few weeks to her wedding...a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage after 3kids

For this Op to consider going ahead with the wedding, he may be a cheat himself who has been forgiven by his fiancee a few times. Now that the shoe is on the other side, of course he has to show 'undastanding'.
Either that or he just has a soft heart....
If you decide to go ahead, pls watch your back so you won't be killed or destroyed by jealous lovers or a greedy wife. Years of infidelity is different from a one off or a short time affair. They fit kill you 'throway'. Nothing go happen.