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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by tshege(m): 9:01pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
The issue of your 14 years old cousin watching porn shoukd not disturb you. I started watching porn since I was ten. A habit I copied from my 26 year old cousin who actually had a wardrobe full of porn. The older you get and the more sexually active u become leads to a reduction in porn viewing. It's just a stage in his teenage life. The best advice has been given already: let him know the dangers of watching too much porn, teach him to respect the opposite sex, talk to him like a friend and leave him alone. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
All you need to do.is communicate, at his age during our time, guys were watching hardcore on magazine and cassette sometimes then pirated cd. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Onegai(f): 9:11pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito: Hello, just seeing this. What type of pornn? Straight, gay, vicious, Group Intimacy? Let's start by knowing how deep this has gone, shall we? |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Loonyy(m): 9:11pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
together with him make Una branch d nearest red light district.....then thank me later |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by merxi55(f): 9:12pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
johnreh:oh yeah babie.. .even the comma does. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by holatin(m): 9:16pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
emilyone:ur comment gat me laughing wild |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by ekensi01: 9:19pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito:Well there is. Wake him by 2am and talk to him if you want me to tell you what to say pm me. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by chinnyonwu(m): 9:21pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito:abeg abeg i no wan laugh Free the guy jare. Porn doesn't hurt. Just advise him to use condom. If you like keep advsing him with the notion that he's not supposed to Fork. Na the day he go give woman belle or carry STD come una eye go open. U ma agree say u do am, these things are time and nature. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by chiraqDemon(m): 9:25pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Yeligray:Beating nor de deter kids again o |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by oluwadiyar: 9:27pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
let me handle him for you....am a military man |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by pterson(m): 9:29pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
If he's good academically, you need to get him involved in something public. Brainards that watch porn are doing it because of curiosity and most are melancholic, it doesn't stop them from being better than those that aren't watching it and those kind of people have the mental ability to overcome. All he needs is just someone to guide him through... I've been there before and it ain't easy, just breaking away! |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by pterson(m): 9:33pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
tshege:Mind was 12 |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by dopemama(f): 9:43pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
If the above tips don't work, drag him to the nearest olumba olumba church for correct flogging. [/quote Olumba no b ur mate! Take time ] |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by misano(m): 9:44pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
benfluleck: I didn't put that thing there for u o. Someone asked me D effects of pornography so copied that article for him to read. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by BraniacX(m): 9:48pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Your options are limited to non existent, I know because i have passed through it and evolved though not at such a young age and i think Internet accessibility has everything to do with it. Dit down and discuss sexual health and education with him, let him get a part time job that will take his time and earn something to go along with the job, encourage him to have female friends that can help him overcome his obsession with their body, tell him that he's expected to have a girlfriend and bring her home but she must be decent and he must get good grades and get to an acceptable age first. They all combined might still not work, it took having sex then a steady relationship to cure mine so what do i know? |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by OLORIPAPA: 9:49pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Just let him know it will slow him down in life.it will distort his learning ability and it will open way to spiritual manipulation in his life.sit and have a normal discussion with him,tell him you are not forcing him to stop its a personal decision,he is responsible for his actions. 1 Like |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by VictorJoshua(m): 9:53pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
How About Trying To Lead Him To The Cross? Well,to do that,you must be saved first.When you are able to instill a Godly Atmosphere in your household let's say starting wit regular family morning devotion,gospel musics and educative videos,then yr problem is half solved. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by benedictac(f): 9:58pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Papiikush: this was the same method I used for my 15 years old son when I cut him just last week Thursday here. The dad and I really talked some senses into and told him the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone. the following day he went to apologize to his dad and promised not to try it again. I just pray he stops it. We can only advice and pray as parents. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by benedictac(f): 10:00pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
VictorJoshua: My dear, it doesn't always work like that oooh. Make God dey help us with our teenage children |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by NigerianScholar: 10:01pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito: Let me give you a logical approach to this Forget beating him or taking his phone away by force or anything like that. It wont work. The child will be more creative in technology than you. Saying that we should help you because you caught your cousin with porn is not what you should be asking. You need to understand many things before you can know how to help him. Is it his first time, how often does he watch it, is he addicted to the porn or self service. Many many questions. Just talk to him and try to understand. No matter how awkward it may be and be as fast as possible. Because the more he watches. The more he gets addicted Let me just give points to make this shorter. 1. You may have to take away his phone. with his consent he may be trying to stop. You never can know 2. Never let him be alone. You may have to spoil him. Take him out a lot. Let him do activites that will wear hin out. Eg sports. Get him a ps3 or sth. Never let him have nothing to do 3. Assuming hes addicted to self service. Dont tell him all that BS that masturbation will give you erectile dysfunction or diseases. 4. Introduce him to PDA to reduce his sexual urges. But make sure he knows that hes meant to keep it in his pants. This isnt a 100% though. He may be too young but he has to start somewhere 5. Observe him properly. Never allow him stay too long in the toilet/bathroom. Be inconspicuous with your intentions. Pretend as if you want to use it as well 6. Let him sleep in the same room with you 7. Steal his charger so you have more control over his phone 8. And for the love of God. Dont let him go to any hostel. Let him be going to school from home 9. Tell his parents the truth...if you are positive they will over react and make things worse. Just tell them a lie that he told you he has emotional problems or something. Or you noticed he hasnt been sleeping well. Just tell them something that will make em observe him well. Make sure he knows about this so the lie wont spoil 10. Put the idea that "he is ashamed of what he is doing and he doesnt want anyone to find out" in his head by threathening to tell his parents or someone that hes scared of. (Do this before 9) I still think you should give us more info after talking to the boy. I am a teenager and i have seen many cases. I am just happy i never had the mind to watch 3 Likes |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Papiikush: 10:03pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
benedictac: Tell his dad to train him on sex education. Let them go out and have a father/son moment. It increases the bond between him and his father (Talking from experience) Trust me this is the moment he needs to start tracing the right steps. Your "small boy" is now becoming a young man. 1 Like |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by benedictac(f): 10:06pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Papiikush: as funny as it may sound, the dad my husband is not that type of social guy that discuses such things. I have told him many times to do so, he will just smile and never do it. thanks all the same |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Yeligray:slowpoke a child is going through phase which is constant with every teen n adolescent, yhur quoting the bible, "spare the rod n spoil the child". what particular offence has he committed, did he steal,cause harm to anyone, lie, broke something etc,please what offence has this boy committed, yhu as a xtian am sure yhuve seen porn or committed sins, why are yhu yet to plug out yhur eyes or cut yhur hand as Jesus insinuated. if yhur wise, you'll make him understand that what his doing in itself is no sin, particularly Buh at his age he shouldn't be into such cause his not ready . scare tactics helps to buy time. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Papiikush: 10:07pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
benedictac:Lol, he should do this. He needs to take that bullet for junior (literally speaking) You are welcome ma'am. 1 Like |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Basic123: 10:09pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Take him to a psychiatrist or a psychologist and pray for him. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito: I remember the first time I saw porn on my kid bros phone, I mentally calculated our age,took into note his personality, as in how wise and exposed he is, then I decided not to give him the talk, cause everything I was probably gonna say,he already knew. Buh I was too psychologically weak at that time, so I deleted the porn bids, just to send a message that I saw it. his fourteen ,give him a little bit of credit, his definitely not as naive n innocent as yhu think, absolutely not clueless,so don't over reacted he did nothing wrong, at this point yhu niggas need to bond over it, so tactically inform him of the moral rot of watching porn at that age, the wrong doing here is purely moral not actual, make sure he knows that. use a scared tactics to buy time, by scare tactics I mean possible addiction, paint a clear picture of what an addict would look like, loss in life, academy, money ,self respect etc. the idea of scared tactics is putting the decision in his hands with the right information, no one would choose to be negative, n remember the decision has never been in yhur hands,its in his, scare tactics could buy yhu time at least till his like 18. yhu want a kid that says no to porn because of so so so and so, a kid with self conviction and reason, not a kid that would hide n go watch when yhu not around. 1 Like |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by kiddkash(m): 10:23pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
NobleAngell:wow this is a matured advice and a very good one because the people who watches porn always want alone time. that is when they do it |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 10:24pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
NigerianScholar:inmate system, yhull make him caged, conscious not good for self esteem, yhull make him feel like he did something wrong, forbidden fruit has a strange appeal. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Angelsss(f): 10:29pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Talk to him...make him understand porn isn't healthy. From experience, he would act like he would change. He is not going to stop. Just leave him. Pray for him. Prayer is the only solution. |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Bamz(m): 10:35pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Vivipop: Oh my gosh. Lovely advice. All I've been reading are sanctimonious comments. 1 Like |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by felixomor: 10:35pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
jejemanito: Firstly, find out if he is addicted Secondly, cut off the source Trace where he got those films from If he sources them himself, there are apps that can be installed on his phone and passworded that can censor porn and obscenities Thirdly, explain the dangers of porn to him Many teenagers who start watching porn that early end up with marriage and relationship problems Fourthly, you must make him see the spiritual aspect of it. If porn was just a mere "psychological" problem, then it wont really be a big deal. But Porn Is Not right in the eyes of God. He should learn to know that he is messing up his soul when he indulges. He needs God's forgiveness. Lastly, this boy needs mentorship and friendship from u The only way he can overcome is if your friendship can overpower the friendship of those his friends who taught him how to watch porn. Also, u cant just remove porn in his life and leave him blank. Replace porn with goals in his life. Give him an academic task to accomplish every week, like summarize a new book every week. Give him assignments that shouldn't be joked with. Then pray for him too. It takes 21 day cycles for habits to be formed and broken. It is well with you. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by seye15627(m): 10:46pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Papiikush: That's right! Hormones are already working, it's natural.There's little you can do. Just enlighten him on how to control the urge to prevent him from joining the baby fathers group which will eventually become stress on his life. Those films will only enhance growth of his sexual thoughts thus bringing them to actualization with time. Just make him see reasons, sexual urge is not easily to control abi wetin dey make married man get side chick, abi na pastor or alfa you won talk. Just make him see reasons, he will reflect on those as he grows but make sure he delete those ones. 1 Like |
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