GreatChizzy:


IFFA HEAR!!!!!

OVER AND OVER AGAIN HE ASKED FOR IT SHE DENIES HIM BUT bleeped A CAMPUS GUY FOR FOUR FUCKING YEARS IN BETWEEN FUCKING THE CAMPUS GUY, GOT PREGNANT FOR ANOTHER MAN!!! JESU!!!! THEN FALLS BACK TO HER FOOLISH FIRST BOY FRIEND (OP), CONTINUED DENYING HIM SEX AND THEN "CONFESSED" ALL HER SINS WHEN SHE HEARD MARRIAGE!!!! OP MUST BE A FOOL FOR NOT HAVING DUMPED HER SILLY ASS BY NOW!!!! HOES EVERY WHERE FORMING CONFESSION AT THE SOUND PF MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. BEEN ACTING CELIBATE TO D OP BUT FUCKING TOM DICK AND HARRY

shebi dey were not together all that time. na so dem dey quick dump person? Oya o OP dump her o and another man will cherish her.
just remember OP said he knew she was not a V

Ask her if there's anything u still need to know. If non. then don't underestimate the power of compatibility. I mean prayer .u should understand better...speaking from experience. I just left my marriage of 10yr. because I didn't take my time to know if truly we are meant for each other. so so important.[quote author=womanofsteel post=58719026]She told you a dark secret in confidence and you came here to tell us. Bia young man, you're not ready for marriage.


By the way, she had a stillbirth unlike you that committed murder deliberately. Its even your own that is the "dark secret" if you don't know. Mtcheew.[/qu

oshaosha2014:
You girls know how to take the demented pussy back to the full who will always accept you back even though he didn't take part in doing the damage.

No kill me with laugh abeg. At the end of the day, na one nice guy go get the demented hole. Funny how life works, forgiveness is truly for the strong.

ritababe:


didn't you read where he said she had a secondary school boyfriend?

did she say she slept with d secondary school boyfriend in secondary sch?

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

Some people are inteligent sha. Am sure your observation is most likely to be the truth.

Frankyboy1:
I pray you scroll down enough to read my message! Forget what kids are saying down there, I am a man who has been in the game long enough to advise you. DON'T MARRY HER! You have always loved her and she has been ur childhood crush and your kind of ideal woman all along, but she is not who you thought she was all this while! She is not and has never been in love with you neither is she naturally attracted to you! She likes you enough to MARRY you, cause as a woman you foot the bill and the time is right, but for her withstanding you sexually all these years,but was dishing it out to someone else and even insisted on keeping the child outside wedlock! Ogbeni that is the man she really loved! A woman that loves you and is sexually active,can't withstand ur advances for years even when she knows you were genuine about her! Find a girl who loves you for you, and has good moral standards,but her knees grow weak at ur touch or advances! If not you 're marrying a woman whom after a while ur sexual advances might even irritate her! Sexuality and raw chemistry is a big ingredient in marital relationship

Man this your analysis is over too much

lovelygurl:


Oh yh I am going to take an advice from a fool who says MOST women lack comprehension because of MY mistake

From all the comments you've made on this thread its clear you didnt read between the lines.

Yes. Most women lack comprehension.

Look at the few women who have replied logically to this thread. Very few. THey realize its not the Girl's past that the OP is concerned about

Many people have tried to pass this point to your thick skull but you're still typing rubbish. now go back to the kitchen

mapist:


The red flag is that part where she was dating a school bf, cheated with another man and then got pregnant before having a still birth. Bro, if that's true, then you are in a fix. Regardless of the fix, do what makes you happy but you should be willing to accept whatever comes with your decision.

Another salient concern is the fact that she denies you sex but gets it elsewhere. That's intolerable by my own standards. No explanation justifies that act.

I don't think he made mention of her cheating on him. Those happened before they met.

dowjones:


From all the comments you've made on this thread its clear you didnt read between the lines.

Yes. Most women lack comprehension.

Look at the few women who have replied logically to this thread. Very few. THey realize its not the Girl's past that the OP is concerned about

Many people have tried to pass this point to your thick skull but you're still typing rubbish. now go back to the kitchen

I can't believe you are judging women from all over the world, be it Asian, European, American based on Nairaland

But then again, your go back to the kitchen comment say it all

This is reason some ladies keep secret to themselves, you want a house material now you are asking why she had stillbirth, do you think stillbirth is a good thing instead of you to stand by her and make her happy you are say rubbish, remember you abort for some one too,if you know she will regret marrying it's better leave her for another man that will take her for whom she is and appreciate her love and honest, later some men will start blaming ladies anyway I felt hurt and bad for the lady.

For even bringing this matter here on nairaland, my brother dont marry her. cos u are already judgemental of her and u will never trust her if u marry her. Marriage is not i love u i love u alone.

DrinosBlog:

Stillbirth not Abortion

Na the only thing wey you fit point out for the post be that.

[quote author=rosalieene post=58711572]

[Only we guys know how painful the scenario is when things like this happen. Y depriving him sex n gave it freely to someone else with the same fact that she was yet to marry them?]

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

So u get sense

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

So u get sense

I can still go on if u want to marry her, after all whatever happened then was in the past. U got someone pregnant and made her Abbott the baby, she got pregnant too, wanted to keep the baby, but had a still birth. In my opinion, she is better than u sef. U room a life, while she tried so hard to keep one but lost it eventually. If u really love this girl, forget all those times she never gave u sex and stay with her. Who knows, it could be for some obscured reasons. What am I even saying sef, you've always loved her. If not, u wouldn't have been going back to her, and I think she loves u too.. that's really not a dark secret to me jare.. just check it: does she make u happy? If yes, bros, no wait for another thing wey no follow. My 2cent.

lovelygurl:


I can't believe you are judging women from all over the world, be it Asian, European, American because of those on Nairaland

But then again, your go back to the kitchen comment say it all

this is the last time i'll reply your low life.

MOST doesn't mean ALL. Most refers to a majority. or Mode in statistics. (please read that sloooowly)

Women judge from the heart and are sentimental. A few however are logical.

You, dumbwit are not among that few.

Now die in that kitchen

dowjones:



this is the last time i'll reply your low life.

MOST doesn't mean ALL. Most refers to a majority. or Mode in statistics. (please read that sloooowly)

Women judge from the heart and are sentimental. A few however are logical.

You, dumbwit are not among that few.

Now die in that kitchen

You don't want get me angry, trust me


Most = 50% and above. Even if you have been in 10 countries and all those women were dumb. It still doesn't speak for 10% of the world's population when it comes to women.

Stop being a fool,especially not 1 who thinks he is intelligent.

smithsydny:
on point bro . I fear this gals.. Dey have tested me wella I jump and pass

Testing someone with this sort of thing is too expensive o.

What does that mean?

ifyboy60:


So u get sense

So u get sense

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

Kudos bro, You re OG
My brain ur brain

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

If you are sure she is not testing you, then there is a problem. She doesn't love you. She denied you her body while other men ravished it, and you actually wanted it more than anything.

Unfortunately, man you are the one in love with her. You may be in for a lot more surprises. I will not marry a woman that refused me sex while sharing it freely to others. It does not matter what you have done yourself. At least you have been honest with her from the beginning. She is not an honest person. Honesty is about being true and not about making confessions.

Watch well before you leap.

Pls go ahead n marry her except there is something else u aren't saying

In my opinion, she didn't give into you because she was irritated by you constantly putting her under pressure for sex and you were also very promiscuous. She didn't see a future with your kind of person back in the days.

In my own opinion again, she also had sex with other men because you kind of pushed her into it with your constant irritating sexual advances, irritating lifestyle and constant breakups. She didn't see the need to be faithful to you. Mind you, she is only now with you because her parent didn't like the other man and she had a stillbirth. You are not her number one choice. The truth be told.

Moving forward: The truth hurts but you can't move forward in this relationship when you are fixated on the past.

If it bothers you soo much, please dedicate some time to seek the face of God and then; only you can decide. AND I do hope you are a changed man.

I hope you make the right decision to enable you move forward.

obyrich:
Don't mind the OP. The babe is a manipulator and he can't see it because of love. Once he pricks her now reality will dawn on him.

and that the lady knows too well hence her celibacy stance. OP cannot handle letting the lady go as well as letting her stay. But if OP could bed this lady he will know what he really want of the two. Rather funny!

jamesbridget13:
Pls go ahead n marry her except there is something else u aren't saying

He cannot just go ahead and marry her. He has to know why she was having sex with others but not with him at different times. It could be that she is not attracted to him and that is a big red flag.

My brother you have succeeded in getting a good wife

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

The fact she denied you sex means she never loved you. You are just a last option since the first ones didn't work out. Not wishing you bad but I don't think this marriage has any future.

There are so many decent girls around, just take your time and search.

OP,
a lot of the time, nairaland is the worst place you can ever get advice, cause there are lots of inmature people here, lets tell ourselves the truth.
i laugh when people try to compare a woman and a man. there is no comparison, nature , God and society knows.
A woman who denies you sex, but was sleeping with others is strong!! women are not meant to be that strong.

Nerdg:


You're capturing the part you like. However, I wish you can understand the theme rather than a paragraph. Let me help, we had many break-ups only because I tried to have sex with her. Meanwhile she's already sexually active. That's the problem not the stillbirth

So that is your problem??
What if she didn't feel like having sex with you..
OP u don't have a point..
How can someone who killed an innocent baby have the mind to judge someone else..
If she agreed to have sex with you in those days, she might be the one that aborted a baby for you because if she gets pregnant you won't be ready for the baby then

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

you that consciously killed a human soul is putting someone who lost a dear soul under contempt. she should be the one contemplating over marrying yhu, considering yhur a murdering of defenceless foetus .

charcoal stove can not be calling white chalk black.
quit being a subtle anti-feminist.

NoToPile:


Has been giving?

She gave after her 2 failed attempts at a relationship with the OP.

So because she denied OP sex and then after some time (years most likely ) she got involved with other guys and had sex and OP finally came back to her and she still has a no sex policy she's a bad person.

How are you sure that its not the experiences she had with those guys that made her say no sex before marriage to the OP the 2nd time and how are you sure that its not because she felt she's too young or not redy forr sex that she denies the OP during their uni and pre uni days because what we are talking about here is years and should be around 6 years or more if she dated her uni boyfriend for 4 years.

His problem is still sex that's all.

On the different occasions that they dated she denied him sex while she was having it or had had it with other people; It is too weak to say that it was because she was a virgin that she denied him sex in the first place and later on that it was because of her bad experience. In a court situation the evidence will be weak. The main thing here is that there is a huge possibility that she is not sexually attracted to him and that is going to make for a disastrous wedding. That she has good qualities is not going to keep the marriage if she goes about cheating cos she has no sexual attraction to him.

Kobicove:
I don't see any issue here?

How many ladies have not been pregnant before marriage?

Pls go ahead and marry her if there are no other serious issues

There are so many girls who have not been pregnant before marriage..
Am not judging the girl but I just want to correct u..
Don't term all girls as the same..There are so many decent girls out there and the fact that you have been meeting bad girls doesn't mean all girls are bad