I only feel nervous at the thought of getting kids cox I knw how hard,life treated me before this time and would not want such for my unborn innocent kids....so the fear of getting kids always be in my thought each and every sec....so, it's better they stay in heaven dan to come to this world without being a millionaire even from the womb....#factaboutme

Rorachy:
I feel nervous thinking of spending the rest of my life with one person but the thought of children is consoling.

don't marry becos of children alone cos if you do, i tell you , you will definitely have issues n that marriage will not work. marry because you are ordained to n created to. if u can sex, u shld marry. if u can stay all ur life without sex till you die, then fine don't marry . you no know pass God wey created man n woman

Le2money:
I only feel nervous at the thought of getting kids cox I knw how hard,life treated me before this time and would not want such for my unborn innocent kids....so the fear of getting kids always be in my thought each and every sec....so, it's better they stay in heaven dan to come to this world without being a millionaire even from the womb....#factaboutme

if your parents thought the same for you, will you be here now on this earth n here in nairaland wit ds absurd thing you wrote for us to read? u need a better mentality than this. God that made man n woman to reproduce is not a fool. yu don't want kids, then don't sex

joyberry:
That my major problem, Am commitment phobic The thought of being in a lifelong relationship scared the hell out of me . Just decided to stay put off relationships, till I can work on my commitment issues. Cos I rarely stay long in relationships sef

call me pls, 07051931090

joyberry:
That my major problem, Am commitment phobic The thought of being in a lifelong relationship scared the hell out of me . Just decided to stay put off relationships, till I can work on my commitment issues. Cos I rarely stay long in relationships sef

na ashawo dey hugry u.Lol just joking o

Sniper12:
Is it even worth it?. Baby mama seems beta

be careful what you wish for yourself. go ask those baby mama even the rich ones what they now thing abt getting married. if ur child tells u he or she wants to be a baby mama n not get married, how wil u feel n think abt her. if it's not worth it, why do d bible teaches us to ? why do our fathers and mothers of many decades go into it? are ds generation better or wiser than them. are the baby mamas better than Mary who gave birth to a Saviour n still came down n got married to Joseph. why did God not make Mary just a baby mama alone since she is carrying the Messiah. girl don't wish bad to yourself

vizkiz:
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Just that people are scared they might not get that dream husband/wife/family they've always wanted.

Of Cuz anyone in his/her right mind will feel nervous about getting married! It is a union only separated by death (or signed paper as the case may be).

The only thing that makes the nervous is having to listen to my wife scream in the labor room. Bleep no! I can't stand that. Though I don't know her yet but I know I am go'n love her too much to be able to hear her scream in pains.

same boat!

emeijeh:
Nothing to be scared or nervous about.


Marriage is sweet

what makes marriage sweet? kindly tell me if perharps my mindset could be changed!

Hehe, I used to but not anymore. I guess that comes with growing up, having friends who are alll married and having some firmness when it comes to plans and purpose.

The only "scare" I have is in finding the lady. Would she be as understanding as I want her to be especially as I'm into many things at the moment? Would she be a feminist— as I detest that label with all my heart? Would she chase after God and understand instead of argue the meaning of submission? Would she bring more peace to my life?

God will help me sha.

Toyindiva:
Yesso, I will feel so nervous I hope the Mr right will come very soon�����

same here, waiting for madam right..

Slimeesha:
Nothing scares me than that, it's my greatest fear.

thought i was alone with fears!

kennygee:


With the divorce rate these days. Yes I do.

With the kind of comments from men on NL, yes I do.

I saw a post where NL men were insinuating that Nigerian women don't deserve to be cared for and pampered, it made me feel sorry for women who would thank God that they had found "husbands" in these type of men.

Then, how many men really know God. Most men just go to church and some claim to be workers but don't live like Christians should. A man that can't lead you spiritually, what is the goal of your marriage?

The ones that speak in tongue still beat his wife. Put all factors into consideration, not just his spiritual status

as u get opinion mk u know say other pple get opinion too. for all i see n know now, many youths only sin n not making heaven is fornication/adultery as d case maybe. those with fear of God guess like myself but still go abt in one way or the other committing fornication , there is one way to save our lives n make it to heaven, that's get married.
bin married can mk one make heaven better than bin single if you know your faults n only notable sin is fornication. Bleep your wife n still make heaven, drink n club with your wife n still make heaven because i tell you single men n women , we can't Bleep them all no matter how long we remain single n then we risk going to hell wen we die. am just saying, my opinion. i pray to practice what i preach cos am guilt too.

nervous?! hell no! I get so so excited! can't wait at all!

joyberry:
That my major problem, Am commitment phobic The thought of being in a lifelong relationship scared the hell out of me . Just decided to stay put off relationships, till I can work on my commitment issues. Cos I rarely stay long in relationships sef

You have a spirit husband but you don't know it. It will be hard for you to settle down. Do something about your spirit spouse, can't be married in the spiritual and be married in the physical.

Brace up man, there is nothing to fear about. Living the rest of your life with one person (wife) is the best thing that could happen to you. She's one in hundreds.. ur best friend, companion, mother, sister, soul mate, adviser, inspirations, counsellor... name it. But pray for the best and be the best.

torres89:
the feeling of not staying faithful always pop up

Same here bruv,Banky W asked this same question in a movie titled "wedding night"

I tot I had found a wife material,but she just started nagging last week,can't stand it.I think am going to dump her.The fear of ending up with a nagging wife is terrifying.

remi1444:
if you think achieving the emboldened, am sorry to dispute that analogy, you might be 8898yrs b4 u achieve that aspiration. get into a relationship with some1 with promising goal for you and fact is you would be surprised that this your commitment phobia would zoom into tiny air. Btw still a AAU student?

.Nope, finished last year.As for your advice, Thanks but not now;Have lots of emotional issues to work on.Don't wanna go into a relationship and be a emotional burden to someone

Rorachy:
I can't even imagine a cheating husband or a husband that battery his wife.

No worry. I no go cheat on you. A swear

joyberry:
I have no idea, been like that since was young. Anytime my friends talked about marriage, kept mute. Told myself from a young age, That would be a single mom.

Are you a sanguine? Sanguines almost always have relationship/commitment challenges, especially with the opposite gender.

yomi007k:


Pls don't get married.

She shouldn't get married or she should work on herself? This is one of the problems many of us have. Instead of working on the problems that make us unfaithful to relationships, we allow the problems to remain and accept the problems as norms.

YelloweWest:

Then don't make her nag.

Behind ebeku nagging woman is a man misbehaving.

some women still read meaning to everything.. Even your surface relationship with female folks, some see it as deep. While some, nag on the little care u might show a family member.. Etc. Aren't saying there are to understanding wives

DukeNija:
Story of my life. I don't just feel nervous, I try not to think about the responsibilities that come with marriage. Fending for the family, kids, wife, school fees, accommodation, health, inlaws and extended family, plus the whole challenge of being married.

I don't know when I'll get married, only God can help me cos my colleagues are getting married one after the other. I wonder how much they have in their bank accounts cos I can't try myself unless I have at least 15million lying fallow in my account.

Good for you but 5 - 10 million in reserve is ok. Good thinking though, marrying without a solid financial back up is risky and can lead to poverty and doom for the man.

Sylverly:
some women still read meaning to everything.. Even your surface relationship with female folks, some see it as deep. While some, nag on the little care u might show a family member.. Etc. Aren't saying there are to understanding wives

The reason why a woman woul "read meaning" into what u term as simple is because terms were not defined. Which creates room for assumptions.

adetayo234:


She shouldn't get married or she should work on herself? This is one of the problems many of us have. Instead of working on the problems that make us unfaithful to relationships, we allow the problems to remain and accept the problems as norms.

Continue using paracetamol for another person's headache.

If a pro- feminist doea not want to marry, am I suppose to lose sleep?


U can go n solve her problem for her....have a nice week.

Sylverly:
I just realized that I feel this nervousness in me whenever the thought of getting married someday sets in. Having read through different stories about couples:both the happily married and those facing one or two challenges (knowing fully well that these people were once happy and believed that they were mean't for each other). Please I'm still at my early 20's. Will such feeling be outgrown someday

I feel it too

Sniper12:
Is it even worth it?. Baby mama seems beta

bro I swear this is the way

chidifrank:

am in my 30's believe me, i pray to God daily for guidance. all i want to do now is play my part well n God seeing your seriousness will play His part well as well. start thinking of commitment n start finding true love. if u are in a relationship now n u feel u are not in love, quit immediately n wait for that Love. God oscar also seeing your seriousness. i tell you , a guy out there is also doing the same thing you are doing and wen God sees the seriousness in u two different pple, God will unite the two of you just from one day n that's where fairlytales will begin. i am praying too

�that's true

my nervousness is only as a result of missing my home. I will miss my family. I will miss childhood. cos everyone in my home no matter the age is a child. I love gisting with mum, talking with my brothers too. what's more? I will leave never to return but for short visits.

'Marriage'

Full of pains and gains, I just pray I find a man that is worth all the pains someday

Rorachy:
I can't even imagine a cheating husband or a husband that battery his wife.

. ......."battery"...RIP English!