FX:
It is not about compatibility. My wife loves me and I love my wife certainly no doubts about that. But if u add, multiply, subtract and divide everything, u will find out that marriage is burdensome. Check all the marriages of the world, no one is perfect. People are getting married because d society wants them to get married. 99% of married people are not happy but they cover up. The truth is that freedom is priceless. It is not about love, money and compatibility . You can still achieve everything without getting married. I'm married but when I see people doing wedding, I will just say in my mind that these couples don't know what they are getting themselves into.

lawrykings:


I would love to learn more sir! but how do the kids grow with moral values and other important aspects of life?, hope work and other activities of the single parent won't affect the positive growth of the kids?

just curious to learn sir!

FX:
Marriage is not easy at all. If you know what married couples are passing through just to keep the marriage, u will better stay on your own. If I'm to advise my child , I will tell him or her never to get married to anybody. You can have all you want without getting married. Freedom is priceless. Money can't buy it.

ashjay001:


The truth is, d op talks abt our kids. U're already grown, with full formed values n character.

Any advise I give u, are from my perspective. Some things cant be passed by word of mouth.

I presently get to spend time with my kids n try to instill some of my values. As much as I can, I try to actively participate in their lives, despite d fact that we live apart, though I still wish they're directly under my care.

Majority of what I do is, trying to make them individuals n independent irrespective of external pressures.

They will follow their paths, hopefully, mine will be attractive enough to be emulated.




As has been my mantra, u can drag a horse to d river, but getting d horse to take a drink, ........

FX:
When you marry I go c how much spice u go add to your marriage. It's not about spices my brother. When u enter, you go know far. It is not a bed of roses with all d spices, love, money and compatibility. I have said my own, I will advise my son not to get married. That marriage institution is over hyped. Your parents will never tell you the whole truth about marriage cos they want you to fall into the same trap they fell in. i'm married but I will advise my friends to stay clear from marriage. Don't short change your life by living in bondage

FX:
Let all men say the truth from the bottom bottomless pit of their heart, no man is truly satisfied with one woman. Sometimes in marriage, you will wish you can have this other beautiful woman for even a day. You want to taste what it feels like to be with this other woman for just even a day. But you can't because you are married. You are limited, with one life partner. It's like you are in prison. It's like having to eat the same soup for the rest of your life. It's boring. You cannot even joke with another beautiful woman. It's serious. You will get tired. My Wife is pretty and sexy but the attraction and gingah is no longer there because she is mine for life. Immediately you posses that thing you have been dreaming for all your life, it also immediately loses it value. Some men will like to have Nicki Minaj for a wife but I tell u, if you have Nick Minaj for 1yr, u will get tired and even cheat on her because she has lost that value and another man will be dying to be with her even if it is for a second That is life for you. Variety is d spice of life. Any form of limitation imposed on mankind is injustice and the society has imposed it on us. It is everybody's wish to be unlimited and if possible become God themselves. Marriage is a limitation and a form of living in bondage. I'm a married man but I will tell the truth. So be wise . I propose a world where everybody is free and free to fly like a bird. Both man and woman. Freedom is priceless.

Mcreloaded:


If you are a Lady and you know you come from a home where your mother dominates then make sure you look for a man that also comes from a home where women dominate so that you as a lady can be in control.

While if you are a man and you come from a home where the men dominate then look for a lady who comes from a home where the men dominate.

If you are a man and you come from a home where the men dominate and you marry from a home where the women dominate and are lords over their husband's then you are in for a long thing.

That's just the way it is

FX:
It is people like you who cheat on your wife. I love my wife and I have never cheated on my wife because that is what I have signed for. It is only a very few men are like me cos I don't cheat on my wife. Check out statistics, 90% of men cheat on their wives. Almost all d young men I know cheat on their wives. But fortunately I'm not like that. It is for better for worse. I'm only advising young people to think twice before getting married. Love and money cannot give a blissful marriage .It is not easy. I'm in it already. Instead of having to pass through all the stress of marriage, you better stay single and be free.

Nofuckgiven:

I am a woman oga. I don't know why you sound so frustrated but like I said before nobody forced you to get married. Stop the pity party and get a divorce instead of dying in the marriage. Last time I checked, marriage is not compulsory. It is even in the Bible.

seXytOhbAd:
Disclaimer: The commenter above me is clearly a cheap prostitute. Pay him no attention.



Son: Women are hard to please. Women are also a little bit crazy. That's why they may want to argue ,just to "spice" up the relationship. They love drama. Just love your wife no matter how weird she is. Never lay your hands on her.

Daughter: Men are simple, baby-like creatures. Give them their respect and try to be as gentle with them because they have huge egos. If your husband cheats on you,don't act emotional. Just let him listen to your night prayers for that period, and pray against all the enemies of your home that God should punish them painfully...(or wake him up very early in the morning and tell him that you had a dream he died on his way to visit his side chick and went to hell). Remember, they are like babies. Also, try to squeeze as many promises out of him as you can. That will keep him on his toes.

Jman06:
If you are a dominant lady, marry a submissive guy. If you are a dominant guy, marry a submissive lady. That way we will have peace!

ststyreal:

My friend, huhhhh, marriage is the practical and not the theory, when you enter you go understand.

desoul2004:


I doubt if you're married. if you're, then you live in pretence.

Nofuckgiven:

I am single but I only said the honest but bitter truth. What exactly do you mean by pretence?

desoul2004:


Then, wait till you get married. After 3yrs come back here and share your thoughts. Don't counter any married men again, because you're still far from the reality.

PaperLace:

Jman06:
Lol...That's the truth! You can't have two captains in a ship, and i am enlightened enough to know that no gender has the monopoly of wanting to be in control. I also know that there are guys who desire dominant ladies.

Life is full of varieties and everybody has a match. Problem arises because people go for those who don't match them.

PaperLace:


Nothing to add, you've said it all. The idea should be to complement each other, you are partners _ not competitors.

Jman06:
Lol...That's the truth! You can't have two captains in a ship, and i am enlightened enough to know that no gender has the monopoly of wanting to be in control. I also know that there are guys who desire dominant ladies.

Life is full of varieties and everybody has a match. Problem arises because people go for those who don't match them.

segunojo866:
I don't think marriage is necessary. I hate to be caged with one bitch until death separate us. It's good to have a baby mama but getting married to a woman is hell of trouble.

lastburn:
Treat your husband /wife like u handling a child. Learn to forgive when problems and egos sets in. For the wife, don't look for evidence that ur husband is cheating, let the evidence find you. For the husband, yes we know we cheating(we move by wot we see) but don't rub it in her face. Hide/delete all evidence.. When with ur side chick and ur wife's calls, tell the sidekick "be humble, don't make a sound".... Always tell each other nice things.

OLUJOSHINS:



You always extend an arm of friendship

It is quite rare to see you angry. as a matter of fact, I've never seen you react in anger.

All your post display happiness.

there is no bitterness in you at all..


I long concluded that U are Alonge Victoria (an old friend that carry the same features)

Daeylar:


@ the bolded THIS IS JUST THE TRUTH,

Some guys like dominant ladies and some ladies like dominant men, I guess there maybe some who are in between don't need dominant partners and do not want to be dominated,
Exactly everyone has a match and instead of them searching for people that match and complement them they go after people or settle with people who don't, then start complaining, I don't get it

desoul2004:


Then, wait till you get married. After 3yrs come back here and share your thoughts. Don't counter any married men again, because you're still far from the reality.

TinaAnita:


Idonbelivit
Hehehehe

Jman06:
Yeah, there are those in between{I belong here} who don't want partners who are doormats and are easily pushed around, who take whatever is thrown at them. It disgusts me when a lady is like that. That doesn't mean she should be unreasonably troublesome or heartless, but should know when to stand her ground and correct me when i am going astray.

There are also guys who would be submissive if they were born in liberal societies, but because ours is one where men are EXPECTED to be lords, they had to pretend to be dominant in order to gain acceptance.