Oyindidi:
That question is somehow offensive. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and a girl is not comfortable with your family members. Call off the wedding if she's not ready to change. There are a thousand and one good and well cultured girls ready for marriage.

what if she pretends to love them.and after the wedding start misbehaving....please I dont know about other persons but for me FAMILY first.......call off the wedding..thats not a good trait

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

U will be stupid to chase away ur family dat loves and cares for u for a stranger u meet who only just became ur fiancé im mean are u ok? the problem cud be 2 things:

1.she baised understandably about inlaws due to experiences from others close to her and shes trying to protect her interests by keeping them at bay. In thus case u can assure her that she has nothing to fear and try 2 graudualy get her to relate better.

2. This is not so good. She has pure hate for them with no reason and nothing will change dat in this case there's nothing really u can do but marry her or let her go. Personally i wud let her go cos I can't marry sm1 who hates my family dat loves her for no reason dats bad I don't care how much i love her its a No.


Nb; its important u know the reason for d hate. Asked her and get d reason. U must before u act.

Oyindidi:
That question is somehow offensive. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and a girl is not comfortable with your family members. Call off the wedding if she's not ready to change. There are a thousand and one good and well cultured girls ready for marriage.

She will not change,she will pretend to have changed after the wedding she will now show you her true colour, I have a friend that was in same issues we advised him yet he went ahead now they are seperated with a kid in the middle. Bros the is no sentiments in marriage. I am sure it didn't start today but you turned a blind eye.now that is dawn on you that you have to spend the rest of your life with this woman .its now issue. My brother she will bounce all your family member after the wedding. She just need to show them attitude and your family will not visit you again.I am speaking from experience. May God guide you in your decision. For me its a red flag.keep off .engagement is different from wedding. Once you miss it ,it becomes difficult

sorry dude, u don enter hot bitterleaf soup

Viccur:
This guy is damn weak...the tone of ur article is stupidly evident. Bettes suspend any prep nw or else...

I wish I can slap the OP

U need person to give I advise for something wey dey so clear

Am suspecting someone on this thread to be ur wife relatn...

My broda, i will advice you should try and wise up,

MOST IMPORTANT!!! Your family first and A good wife second

Same here bro

siegfried99:

I wish I can slap the OP

kitone:



She will not change,she will pretend to have changed after the wedding she will now show you her true colour, I have a friend that was in same issues we advised him yet he went ahead now they are seperated with a kid in the middle. Bros the is no sentiments in marriage. I am sure it didn't start today but you turned a blind eye.now that is dawn on you that you have to spend the rest of your life with this woman .its now issue. My brother she will bounce all your family member after the wedding. She just need to show them attitude and your family will not visit you again.I am speaking from experience. May God guide you in your decision. For me its a red flag.keep off .engagement is different from wedding. Once you miss it ,it becomes difficult

They are married already

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

my friend be a man and make a decision
a woman dt hates ur family for no reason will one day hate u too for no reason. she is evil.
I blame u for even going on with the traditional marriage. which kind love b dt without ur family
grow up son if u don't want ur aged mother to curse u
that kind of wife will charm u one day to hate ur family too. she loves her own family and hates urs, can u imagine

1. Your wife doesn't love you. 2. She is a selfish being.

NL is full of babies. Table the mata for beer parlour with men not with kids on NL.

How can someone be claiming he's well educated yet he writes such rubbish like "help am confused"?

I hope someone did not write your WAEC English for you?

Now back to issue at hand.

I don't even know why this is an issue between choosing your girl or your family, a family that trained and suffered for you!

Dåmn!

I don't even know why you are even confused.

Any girl that tries to come between me and my family, be it girlfriend or wife, is already a goner.

I will toss her away so fast that she won't even know what happened to her.

That's me.

No apologies.

You can't confront your wife and you don't want your family ostracised.
Nothing would change unless you change any of the options above or
you accept one of them.

There is urgent need to discuss heart to heart with your wife. She is the selfish type. She has observed that you are well to do and has decided to pursue them away on time so that she can have you and all the goodies for herself and family. Do not be surprised that she is getting this stupid advise from her friends. A stitch in time, saves nine they say. pls, act fast.

My candid advice: 'Run for ur life'.
Dont marry her

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

Op. This is an issue of social class. Your wife doesn't find your family worthy of respect hence, she looks down on them and I'm of the strong opinion that she believes she "settled" to be with you.

My advice: call off the wedding.

fk001:
She is being selfish, Family over everything.




you even have the thought of pursuing your family because of a damn lady? seriously?


Your family have been there for you since from birth and they will still be, What makes you think that the lady loves you more than them.



start thinking with your brain not your d!ck. #no offence

God bless u

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

Gee! You are sitting gallantly on a time Bomb!
You noticed this stupid attitude of hers n u still went ahead n married her? What were you thinking?
Be rest assured that soon, she Wud make u severe ties with ur family by putting a wedge inbtw u guys.
Soon, your fam members Wud be eternally barred from your home n they Wud return the favour by cutting u off.
Soon she Wud stop u from giving any financial help to ur fam including ur aged momma. While she makes u take care of hers!
She has already manipulated u into submission for you not to have shouted her down when you noticed this crazy attitude of hers n put everything on hold until she freaking tells u da heck is up with her.
U failed to make her realise that she can't have d egg while hating the Hen!

What rubbish. If anything at all, its ur fam that shld behave the way she is behaving because she's coming to steal their only son.

If you luv your life, u better threaten her that d white wedding is on hold ( infact the wedding is off) until she f'ing tells u why she hates ur fam. No matter what she says, tell her that one wrong negative airs from her towards ur fam Wud hv grave repercussion.
U can't be loving her ppl n she hating yours.

U have to place your foot down right from the start if not, be rest assured u Wud wash her panties soon!

I'm so pissed right now

Man you should hold on with the church marriage to enable you examine your wife attitudes very well. You may not have known her well

I never wanted to comment on this post, but I took my time to read through virtually all the previous contributions of the contributors of the topic at hand, the responses of the OP, and here is my comment; @op, I must be Frank with you, there is a big danger ahead in your relationship with that lady. This is not to destroy your marital home, but this is a truth that must be told. PLEASE PROTECT YOUR DESTINY! This lady will show you her true self when she's fully in. To me o, My GOD 1st, My Parents, My Family, and anyone who defaults these is a 'goner'. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! It's not too late for now there are still some well-trained, loving, good and obedient ladies with God fearing minds out there. Don't go ahead to Marry that lady and come back here to start posting stories that touch the heart. Anyone who does not love my family, such person does not love me, no matter how s/he frames it.

I wish you all the best!

Guy u act so late u are d head of d family but now she is d head of d family because u be woman rapper tanx ur sister love her so much and she hate dem so much with out any cause and can take action and stop d married dat time is now u are raising d issue u want us to put asunder in ur marriage God forbid my hands are off

It is too early for your wife to start picking on little little things at destroy marriages. I really hope you fix things before the White wedding.

She should not give herself headache over little things.i married an only man in a family where even the cousins are women, no male. Not easy but I always auto activate my mumu button whenever am with them .

OP, I pity u! U r seeking advice to a lifelong issue from single underaged boiz n girls on a faceless forum? What happened to life coaches or marriage counselors?

Oyindidi:
Thanks, actually 30 yards of wm

OH REALLY

It's unfathomable to believe that one can love a person without loving their family to some extent I mean it's where they From no matter what even if there's conflict there is always a work around with dialogue.

I can't say call of the wedding because I don't know if maybe it's a dead end road but anyone who shows disdain for your family can't stand with them if anything God forbid happens to you and you need that for your children and your legacy.

Aleora:
what if she pretends to love them.and after the wedding start misbehaving....please I dont know about other persons but for me FAMILY first.......call off the wedding..thats not a good trait

Wedding shld be placed on an indefinite hold. Until there is a concrete change on her part.
These kinda Selfishness Wud mos def permiates all aspects of her life. Think of herself alone, hoard everything, Wud be belligerent to anybody that is not her Fam nor frnds. She Wud be rude n too rigid to submit.


But i don't see the op having the balls to call the freaking shots.

So he Wud go ahead with the white n d court n eternally tie himself to the sorrow that a selfish woman ooze!

If she is this childish to hate her husby to be ppl, she ain't fvcking ready for dating let alone marriage. Simples

Coldfeets:
How can someone be claiming he's well educated yet he writes such rubbish like "help am confused"?

I hope someone did not write your WAEC English for you?

Now back to issue at hand.

I don't even know why this is an issue between choosing your girl or your family, a family that trained and suffered for you!

Dåmn!

I don't even know why you are even confused.

Any girl that tries to come between me and my family, be it girlfriend or wife, is already a goner.

I will toss her away so fast that she'll won't even know what happened to her.

That's me.

No apologies.

we all make mistake

mike404:
OH REALLY

Was kidding

A lady once said to me in anger "to hell with you and your nother" and she spent the next day begging and crying on the phone that she was sorry. Well, I loved her dearly but still broke up with her not too long after then cos every time we quarreled, I always remembered that statement. I can't stand my mom being disrespected, and won't tolerate any discord between me and my sisters cos I want to marry someone that I have just met. You made a mistake by not nipping that in the bud on time, or walking away from the relationship. You're already married. You better start reading the riot act and getting firm on her as far as that issue is concerned.

My brother pls quench this fire that want to consume u very fast before its too late.confront her tell her hw u feel about her attitude towards ur sisters and if she didn't give u any answers pls call it a quit cos its never too late for u to quite the marriage.

Damn! People are so fast to say stop the wedding. Have you heard her own side of the story?
@amliftedhigher; your wife doesnt hate your family! You are the only male and they dote on you too much for her liking! Probably they convince you easily and have better influence on you than your wife! She dislikes that you are spineless in some issues and are easily tossed around because you are their boy.
Before you call her to order about this issue, sit and think well about little ways you are being controlled. Adjust! Probably your wife even controls you easily and she sees other controllers (your sisters) as threats!
Maybe, she is someone that prefers to stay on her lane without interference! She is probably forseeing third party influence in the nearest future and that is her own way of handling it.