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Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Professor suo oyibo anam anu, suo num english maka e guro akwukwo DarkRebel69: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 9:21pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
ibkayee:as if you understand the big grammar, reminds me of someone on that thread |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by DarkRebel69: 9:27pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Piiko: Your dog looks like an Instagram Slayqueen. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by ibkayee(f): 9:32pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Piiko:Lol he relayed his message clearly enough, don't see what was big grammar about it, he's just an articulate writer |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 9:36pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
DarkRebel69:more like a rat on meth 1 Like |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by sisisioge: 9:37pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Well, I think it depends on who you are addressing. If you see me and say to me that I've added weight, you would be making my day cos I've been trying to add weight forever. It's just not happening to me. If you see my sis and you say to her that she's added weight, then you would be marring her day cos she's been trying to lose weight forever. So, if you aren't sure where the person you are addressing stands on the weight radar, I suggest you remain quiet about it. Life is really complicated... What faces person A might be backing person B. 2 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by DarkRebel69: 9:46pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Acidosis: Asking you to show some discretion during a conversation is not asking you to accept society's "standard of attractiveness". Your adeptness at misconstruing me beggars my comprehension. It is common sense to know that making allusions–however innocuous your intentions might be–to a person's body mass or physical appearance is hardly the wisest nor the safest conversational path to tread, seeing as you might be unaware of the circumstances and emotional triggers tied to the change in the body weight of the individual. Suppose you made a remark about a person's weight and suppose it reminded him or her of a recent death in the family–probably he or she has grown lean or obese from grief. There are a million and one things to compliment a person about, so why insist on pointing out the obvious by telling a person just how fat or just how thin he or she is? I am inclined to call you a psychopath but even psychopaths are pastmasters at feigning emotion and empathy–something I suspect that you're incapable of. Another thing, it is called 'analogy' not because it is meant to give a perfect representation of something but because it shows similarities, however far-fetched, between two things. I used the condition of Yinka Ayefele only as an analogy. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by DarkRebel69: 9:46pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Piiko: LOL. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by presentley: 9:54pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
sisisioge:Lol, I was actually looking forward to your response on this to see which part of the divide you're gonna be, I guessed right. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 9:54pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: maybe he didn't understand you the first time because of your plenty English lol 1 Like |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by sisisioge: 9:55pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
presentley: Howdy? |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by presentley: 10:20pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
sisisioge:very fine o sisi, I didn't get your feedback. so I concluded you were probably satisfied. Hence, decided not to worry you again. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by 1Sharon(f): 10:30pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Was if the person has actually gained weight? Some ppl can't help but speak their mind 1 Like |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by 1Sharon(f): 10:37pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
nnamdibig: They like to kid themselves. Which is also why if you say a guy is fat he will take it on the chin. A woman on the otherhand will say she is thick, big-boned, plus sized, water weight Anything but FAT! 2 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by presentley: 10:39pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
1Sharon:sorry o, if you don't mind me asking, which gender is your own gangan? |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by sisisioge: 10:46pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
presentley: You won't believe that I've not gotten around installing it. No mind me jare. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by 1Sharon(f): 10:57pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
presentley: You think I am male because I call out other females? |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by presentley: 10:57pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
sisisioge:This indeed is a wawu!! Its funny cos you sounded like you would have installed it same day but for time. I'm quite sure you'ld be fine with it, but until you confirm that. Its okay. |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by presentley: 11:09pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
1Sharon:Lol, I wasn't even sure. Male, female, trans I wasn't sure. Not because of the call out. You said "THEY like to kid themselves" so I wanted to be sure since your Moniker sound feminine and it also says F |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by 1Sharon(f): 11:10pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
presentley: Oh yh I said they cos it doesn't apply to me 2 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Acidosis(m): 11:12pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: I think you're just a difficult person to live with. People like you are the reasons I barely give compliments anyway. When people compliment or say something about my weight, height, look, etc., I assume they're only trying to be nice, I don't read too much into it or take it too much to heart. To the best of my knowledge, it is socially acceptable by many. Imagine seeing a classmate you last met in 1999 today... You expect her to maintain her shape? You guys are simply difficult, complicated, and making friends with you would be a very tedious and unimaginable task. Nigeria is not such a difficult place to live in. Sometimes when I walk pass some motor parks, I hear words like "yellow". That's typically how an average Nigerian transporter attracts a light-complexioned person. If you decide to take everything to heart, you won't live too long. By the way, no one is responsible for someone else's anxieties. I didn't bother to address your counter arguments because there is nothing to address. You didn't make any meaning as far as I'm concerned. Ayefele is deformed and any compliments regarding his deformity must be largely condemned. I expected that someone would call weight gain deformity but as usual, he came up with loads of crap. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by 1Sharon(f): 11:16pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
The fat acceptable movement only WOMEN are pushing this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrWMitkz7J4 |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Acidosis(m): 11:21pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Proudgorgeousga: LOL Plenty English don't impress me. It is one thing to be a writer, it is another to be an intelligent writer. 6 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by DarkRebel69: 11:33pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
Acidosis: To the best of your knowledge? How risible! Pray, have you ever heard of perspectivism and its teachings on the flawed limitations of a single individual's take or opinion on an issue? If you have not then have you by chance come across the "Lucretius underestimation"? No? Titus Lucretius Carus–the Roman poet and philosopher–called a fool the man who claims that the highest mountain he has ever seen and the highest mountain in the world are one and the same. I am not calling you a fool, but Lucretius is calling you a fool for thinking the "best of your knowledge" can pass as a universal verity. Even on this thread alone, there is a preponderance of people who are against overt allusion to a person's body weight, so when you say it is "socially acceptable to many'' I'm inclined to wonder who those "many people" are. You know what they say about statistics? 97% of them are made up on the spot. Also, that I think making a remark about a person's body weight is gauche and inept, especially when that person is not of a close intimacy, does not mean that I would consider it a slight on my person should someone make an observation about my weight. It is quite silly of you to conclude that the only reason I am opposed to such crude behaviour must be because I am sensitive to such observations myself. Look at how simplistic your mind runs. 4 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 11:51pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
well, it depends on who you're addressing, some persons might start planning your murder in their heads, some might actually appreciate the compliment while some might not care. so how do you tell who's insecure about their weight and who isn't, truth is an alarming number of people -especially women- are. so its best to altogether refrain from commenting on a person's weight, unless perhaps your opinion was solicited!! I personally find it very rude and intrusive |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Acidosis(m): 11:53pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
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Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Acidosis(m): 11:54pm On Sep 21, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: You need to purge your mind 'my friend', this debate needs commonsense, not poetry. We are social animals, we all have the social responsibility to be nice to people around us. I can tell you for a fact that only two categories of humans (Nigerians) adopt the words "weight loss and weight gain" 1. weight gain: is mostly used in our environment as a compliment, evidence of good living. 2. weight loss: whether it involves a dead relative or not, this word is used by people who truly cares or attempt to show some concern. The same way we go about complimenting people's attires not minding whether they feel terrible is just the same way some will take offence on compliments regarding their body or weight. Whether you see the meaning in my post or not, I would at this stage have to agree with you since the argument is leading to nowhere. 4 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Collins4u1(m): 6:19am On Sep 22, 2017 |
It's only ladies that are complaining here, tell it to a guy no problem.. Some Ladies don't like the truth just keep deceiving them and they are good. 1 Like |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 6:54am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Acidosis: are all these people saying it's intrusive and tactless to comment about weight not Nigerians? 2 Likes |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by lilmax(m): 6:58am On Sep 22, 2017 |
And you see from this topic ladies are having orgasms ladies don't like the word "fat"... that's all |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by qhutetomsel(f): 7:14am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Piiko:this is effing hilarious! 1 Like |
Re: "You've Added Weight O" Is This An Offensive Remark? by Nobody: 8:10am On Sep 22, 2017 |
qhutetomsel: |
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