selflessmaya:


the only reason OP's 16 year old sister who's preparing for WAEC thinks she wants this baby is cos she's young and brainwashed into thinking this 27 yr old perv will marry her & they'll live happily ever after with their baby. she hasn't seen life yet to understand what she's signing up for, a 27 yr old guy who sleeps with 15-16 yr old girls in secondary school is NOT the successful type and he's NOT responsible either or even decent. how many of us ended up with the person u were dating at 16? how many of us would even consider dating that person again right now with the reality we see life with now that we're grown. OP's sister will leave that man and do better if she has the chance to move on with life on a clean slate.
once she has this child, her chances of finishing school decreases, whether she graduates or not, qualities of suitors will decrease. getting an abortion is in EVERYONE's best interest. young ppl are so fickle, she will be thankful when she's graduating school with a decent successful man in her life, when she walks past this 27 yr old guy on the street, she'll wonder what the hell she was thinking & be so glad that she didn't throw away her life. when ppl say, dont flog children, it's painful, the argument is always, it hurts but it's for their own good. it's better for OP's sister to be sad now, pass jamb in a few months, get excited about UNI, get there and become grateful she doesn't have a kid stashed somewhere than for her whims to be allowed and she marries this dude and signs up for life-long misery.

RZArecta:
sèx with a minor (anyone under 18) is called rápe. That 27yr old dude is a pervert who should be arrested, I don't know why your family is negotiating with him

chineduemmao:
ok i think its time u kip kwayet we don hear

chineduemmao:
you are trying so hard to prove that ur opinion is de best that you've lost ur sense of comprehension. Where did he condemn abortion in totallity? He only gave a disadvantage of the act which is even needed more for the OP to make the best decision, you are here attacking him as if what he is saying doesn't make sense. Stop it!

Skipuru:


A guy of 27 years old impregnated my 16 years old sister mean while she's about to write her waec next year.
I called the guy on phone and he said he's ready to take responsibility of the girl and she will marry her , but me I don't like it that way because she's too small to bear a child and I don't want that to happen to my sister because she's the only girl in my family.
Now the question is I want her to abort the child and focus on her education but the guy said he ready and my mom called me and said that my sister said if anything should happen to her that it's on our head.
Please I want you to post it so I can hear people's opinions on this so I can know the right thing to do because I'm I'm going crazy.

Please I need a good advice on how to follow this matter. My mom want her to suffer so she can learn her lesson but me she will bring shame to me and my family. I'm just a boy of 22 years old still on the street.

nigeriancritic1:

With technology like phone you dont need to be in ph. Since you know this is a possibility you should have warned her regularly through calls on why she should keep her thighs together. You are not worthy of a big brother.

JoNach:



Na 85 bottles of gulder u drink so wey u no fit read well... Bloody drunkard!!!

Livefreeordieha:
stop sounding like diz...I can't say i know how u feel but i understand u...Its no shame as it were if properly managed..Have seen diz happen severally and heavens didn't fall...Most of the people telling u nonsense here...Are all products of such mistakes but ofcourse internet isn't a scanner to reveal Such...Just be calm and think through my previous mention...

QueenOfNepal:
Olodo Is it the op that is pregnant

nigeriancritic1:

With technology like phone you dont need to be in ph. Since you know this is a possibility you should have warned her regularly through calls on why she should keep her thighs together. You are not worthy of a big brother.

nigeriancritic1:

Are you trying to throw away the knife after it has cut through and inflicted damage. Rise up to it,the latest uncle in town!

danieljessy:
keep kwayet Oga n face your own children,if u have nothing reasonable to say.
A child that will go wayward will surely do,no matter how many lectures n scolding u throw at her.

I feel pity for this young man

echelons:


Or future Buhari, which, to me, is even worse of.

Skipuru:


A guy of 27 years old impregnated my 16 years old sister mean while she's about to write her waec next year.
I called the guy on phone and he said he's ready to take responsibility of the girl and she will marry her , but me I don't like it that way because she's too small to bear a child and I don't want that to happen to my sister because she's the only girl in my family.
Now the question is I want her to abort the child and focus on her education but the guy said he ready and my mom called me and said that my sister said if anything should happen to her that it's on our head.
Please I want you to post it so I can hear people's opinions on this so I can know the right thing to do because I'm I'm going crazy.

Please I need a good advice on how to follow this matter. My mom want her to suffer so she can learn her lesson but me she will bring shame to me and my family. I'm just a boy of 22 years old still on the street.

Skipuru:

nigeriancritic1:

You neglected your duty in pointing to her the danger of having a sexual relationship before WAEC. You have failed her and as well she failed herself. Your sister is on the way to become if not already a trainee olosho and animashaun

Skipuru:


No I should be carrying her on my back.
I dey Lagos dey hustle mean while they are living comfortably at ph.

nigeriancritic1:

You neglected your duty in pointing to her the danger of having a sexual relationship before WAEC. You have failed her and as well she failed herself. Your sister is on the way to become if not already a trainee olosho and animashaun

Skipuru:



I understand but I hate humiliating people because they did a mistakes.

Skipuru:
. whatsapp

selflessmaya:

actually it will, that's the whole point of an abortion, to make a pregnant woman not pregnant again.



who says he should drug her and abort the pregnancy? do u honestly think a 16 year old wouldnt wish to not be pregnant? if u want to throw around pro-choice, if the sister does have the kid, is she capable of raising it without his contributions? she really has no choice and is very dependent on what the potential caretakers of the child will decide. if nigerian families can beat a pregnant girl and talk hell into her about how the pregnancy will go, then a family can save the beating and be as level headed as possible and talk to a 16 yr old CHILD about why they feel an abortion is the best course and get her to see reason. most pregnant 16 yr old nigerians will pray for a family that can even let them have that option so let's not pretend nigeria is the uk where teenagers "wanna keep the baby".
if OP wants the pregnancy to stay, it will stay whether she likes it or not, if he wants it gone, it will be gone too, if he wants her married at 16, she has no choice. in nigerian society, the pro-choice ish does not exist for most women and i'm not stupid enough to delude myself like most ppl here. families mostly make the decision and for once a man is here trying to make what any sensible person knows is the right choice, a choice that most ppl who feel trapped like his sister would secretly want. and we should leave it to his kid sister? in this country? where she gets no choice in the first place? he could have married her off, he could let her have the pregnancy as a punishment but he's considering letting her walk scottfree from all this, i am a huge advocate of pro-choice and how a woman should have sole decision but sometimes i have to remember i'm dealing with nigerians and head straight to the point. my main argument with abortion is it's a woman's body, choice etc. but this is an important issue and this is no time to start trying to state laws of feminism.
the case is simple: a girl who gets no choice in most families has a brother who wants to give her an option that most girls in her shoes would kill to have. if she's getting this option cos he wants to save face, not cos it's her body etc, it's none of my business, it still benefits everybody, a 16 yr old will be more grateful in 4 yrs time if she terminates this pregnancy than if she keeps it. 95% of women who have had a safe abortion dont regret it, they're thankful for that chance of escape everyday.



u must be high on some narcotic if u think i'll argue with someone who just compared a 16yr old child to a 27yr old adult. why didnt u also say, it's not such a big deal if a 20 yr old man has sex with a 9 yr old, it's same 11 yr difference. you're the idiot and it shows . lol

TimeMod3:
Many could guess how stupid you are. Who knows if I must have been talking to a kid herself.
Listen, whether or not she keeps the baby, it's not her decision to make even though she has a choice.

At 16, where were you & what was your priority? let's see if you weren't pregnant too.

itsmeurLady:


Y u pained?? Even the person that I quoted wasn't pained,his response was far more meek than u that I did not quote, so y are you? Disadvantage ke, u Sabi talk, so y am I not allowed to give an advantage? if u are mad abt my first post, just say it instead of typing hateful messages, u can do better than that. Wats up with I'm trying so hard, u are funny, dem dey give award D way most of u think on this forum is hateful and disappointing *smh. Sïr with all due respect, everyone is entitled to their opinions on this forum, Thank You!

EmpressT:
Why mentioning me when u have nothing tangible to say? Nobi u need advice oponu.

cococandy:
Unnecessary long story.
The best they can do is tell her in all the ways possible how it could affect her negatively. Then the actual decision to open her legs and have the baby aborted is up to her. Nobody can force her to.
The only other option going by your tone would be to tie her down and forcibly abort the fetus.
Yapping so much about pro choice but not sounding like it are we?

Phi001:

1. The guy didn't say he was gon marry her. Just taking responsibility for the baby.
2. On a normal basis, 16-year old girls go out of their way to abort pregnancies before their families find out.
3. At 16, she is old enough to reason and see that life is not black and white so she can't be thinking of a Cinderella-esque kind of future.
4. She can still graduate with the baby and that's what really matter...and the chances are not slim.
5. You're assuming she'll be happy in the future after the abortion. What if she gets so depressed and commits suicide?
Young ladies that go for abortion usually want it as opposed to the choice being forced upon them (which makes it not to be a choice).
6. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria, but you already know that.
Forcing an abortion on someone who doesn't want it is NOT the way forward.

TimeMod3:
Right on point. such was a similar experience I witnessed, with the pills, it all got settled in a couple of hrs, got up on her feet & smiled all day unlike the archaic technology that keeps them writhe in pains for weeks.

selflessmaya:


dude, take this advice and run with it. get your sister a safe abortion, test her for stds and warn her seriously about unprotected sex and let her carry on with her life, she's only 16 years old, do not let your 16 year old sister marry a dude that is almost 30 that had the guts to sleep with her without protection, exposing her to potential stds and who eventually got her pregnant. ignore all these ppl here, life is not black and white. not every pregnancy is a blessing. yes, your instincts are right to tell you that this pregnancy will cause your sister & family a lot of future unhappiness, either by sentencing her to the drama of early single motherhood or trapping her in an early unhappy marriage.

all this can be over in just 15 minutes for god's sake, don't let strangers on the internet convince u to drag it out for the next 9 months and be stuck with an unwanted child for the rest of its life. a lot could go wrong for your family. your mom's insensitivity is common with ppl of her times, ignore her. your sister could contact vvf, she could die at childbirth, she could carry this to full term and have to get ceserean section to extract a stillborn after all the stress (i know a girl this happened to, married for belle, gave birth to a still born, stuck with a god-awful c-section scar, got a divorce shortly after) and let's not even talk of the psychological trauma & embarassment if she does have the kid, do u really want to raise that one sister that never goes away, that has had a hard life, that has 2 failed marriages and 4 kids from 3 different fathers, who has to come live in your house every 3 months cos of her endless woes? this is how it starts, u are on the right track.

tell whoever cares to ask, she suffered a miscarriage or she wasnt pregnant, it's common for girls her age to miss periods, fullstop. u can have your sister back where she was, writing jamb in march and going to get a life, do the right thing. pretentious nigerians have ruined so many lives with their illogical opinions, ask yourself which advice will benefit u more 5 months from now, your teenage sister totting around a full gut of child or her as she's always been standing on a line to buy jamb form. think!! sometimes ppl have to make very tough decisions, choose your sister & family stability over this unwanted issue that everyone is trying to convince u is a blessing, yet u & i both know it isnt a blessing and those trying to convince u it is a blessing also know it's a lie cos none of them will wish to be in your shoes.

i'm pro-choice but even i know that most life choices are restricted from minors cos they cant quite grasp consequence, that's why they dont marry, vote, perform sex-change surgery, anything life-altering is best left to a guardian with good intentions. the abortion has nothing to do with the 27 yr old perv, it's not his decision. this is primarily your sister's decision but she's too young to decide this tbh and since you're thinking rightly, do the right thing. follow your instincts, terminate the pregnancy.