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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Bibi294:Yes, just before he left to impregnate another woman by mistake. it fits perfectly into the previous habitual pattern of an unstable guy. So I don't necessarily think they are playing anyone. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
That's what you get when you date ndi ofe mmanu. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Latbod(m): 7:08pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Hi Babe, em so sorry u found urself in this kinda situation buh I think u cause urself pain, obviously. U had everything going on fine till he had that one night stand. Secondly, ur bf had being very loyal to u (notably) buh u chose to make him a bit miserable. U see, men's life is filled with hiccups, sometimes the tide is strong, violent and seems unending and sometimes, we just stroll down the street with our babe hand in hand, jollificating and time slowly pass by. We ain't perfect too, we make mistakes and some are irredeemable - just like this. However, there's always a way outta trouble. I think the said lady is just a poisonous venom in ur life and u need a strong antidote. She came around to fill that void u left open in ur relationship, I'll advice u tackle it head-on. Prayerfully equip urself and seek spiritual guidance. As long as I don't support taking a human life, I strongly recommend ur bf work out a modality to take care of the baby after birth, besides she can only claim the baby for a few years (Baba ọmọ ló lọmọ = A child's father owns him). Then u MUST take care of him/her like urs! Since u cause that illegitimate child by ur acts of negligence to ur paramount concern - ur relationship hence, ur family. However, if the preg is just a few weeks old, probably still in semen or clot, then press hard for its removal and be headstrong. Unfortunately, the lady is aware of ur bf's situation, she would want to exploit him esp when she knows about u. This is a tough predicament, stand ur ground though. On a final note, don't make ur bf go through another series of hardship and unnecessary troubles. If you're still interested in him, Get Married � Soon (which I pray will be ur resolve). And if u ain't, let him go. There's no point keeping what u won't need. Ohun tí ènìyàn òbá níí jẹ, kìí fíí runmú = U shouldn't smell what you won't eat. Babe, no one will make ur decisions for u. I see u love ur bf... And I believe u knw what u want. U have three options: A - Accept Baby, GMS (Get Married Soon) B - Delete Baby, GMS C - Let go of ur bf My advice: Accept this fate (accept the baby and take VERY GOOD CARE of him/her when s/he's with u since u caused it) and GMS. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by pocohantas(f): 7:11pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:18pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
This is all I have to say @ op! I can’t even imagine the hurt, pain and disappointment one experiences when they find out their boyfriend/husband has been unfaithful AND has fathered a child outside of the marriage. It is one thing to cheat on your partner but it is something else when a child is born as a result of infidelity. As I sit here and write, my hands shake and my head spins when I think of this level of betrayal! There is nothing worst then to find out that the man you love and committed to spend the rest of your life with has had a child with another woman while being married to you. That level of betrayal makes it difficult to forgive and to trust. Every day you awake, your mind almost immediately fixates on the other child. Granted, over the years (should you decide to stay in your marriage), waking up and thinking about the fact that your husband fathered a child outside of your marriage will eventually lessen BUT the hurt and pain would probably remain. How do you move forward after finding out the truth? What do you say to your friends and family? This is not a secret you will be able to keep for a life time. This is not something that will go away, never to return again. When a child is born, you have the child for life (as long as God says so). This child should be in your husband’s life regardless of how you feel. Whether you agree or not, this child is a part of the family. After a ll, the child did not ask to come into this world. Disowning the child or pushing the child away won’t make the hurt and the pain go away. The only thing you accomplish when you ostracize the child is mentally hurting and possibly damaging the child. Whether you believe in karma or not, you should treat people how you want to be treated including that child. If you should choose to leave your marriage, that doesn’t exclude your child(ren) from having a relationship with the “Love Child.” You don’t have to take my advice. You don’t have to even hear me out. What I do know is the child is not the blame for your husband’s infidelity. I would bet there were problems in your relationship long before your husband stepped out. Consider seeking counseling to help you to work through your hurt and pain. Healing is going to take time but shouldn’t take a lifetime. My advice is to be quick to forgive so that you can start the process of healing. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:18pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
pocohantas:Na wa for u ooo! Whick kin joy be this one na! |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:20pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
pocohantas:We are doing our best to represent, maam |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:21pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:21pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Someone said a Woman will stay with a broke, abusive man that F*cks her good and make her orgasm like?? But will leave the most perfect man that can't give her the deal... I think this is your problem. I ll advice you find some other guy who is better than this guy. I have few tips that will help in identifying guys who are top in this game. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:25pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
MhizzAJ: For ur mind na u wise oo Mek una nor dey talk like this! Forget all this kin comment and let help this woman! I can do worse than this,we can't predict relationship! Am not perfect but if you re sounding perfect I wish you good luck! |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Martin0(m): 7:32pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Dyt: Sharp mouth crew |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by wristbangle: 7:37pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
I got irritated at a point when reading your story. How could you date this man for 10 years when it's obvious the future looks very bleak between both of you. Why would you allow a time waster played your destiny like kite? What stories have you heard that had you conclude this issue is purely tribalism? Your story is laced with sugar coated scenario hence giving me mixed feelings if truly this is what happened. What exactly do you want Op? You know your relationship with that guy had long ended. I don't why ladies fall for bad guys. Am beginning to believe some truly got fish brain. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:42pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
U desperate Young Lady Dude with no real JOB Dude that spend $500.00 on drink Dude stayed with you fail to contribute , Maybe your family has money Your boyfriend is full of shit You need to walk One of your big mistake will be keep hoping the fool will change Sorry that I am coming at u 100% 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 7:42pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that. I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him. Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault. She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha. Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind. I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after. It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that. All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense. He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing. My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend. I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right ..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:44pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Hey, y'all bad belles should please back the f*ck up now. Why una wan pour sand for una fellow man garri? One mistake shouldn't change the fact that that guy has sacrificed and invested in that relationship just as much as her. If anything, this setback should strengthen their bond. Rubyslims, stick with your man. Them girls on here asking you to dump his ass, ask them the last time any one of them held down a relationship for over a year, let alone 10...10 effin' years. You seem smart, go girl, show that b!tch who's Boss. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:44pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Rubysims:Tell her to run Dude is a fucker |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:47pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Latbod:you are very stupid, how is it her fault that the man got another girl pregnant. Even buhari has more sense than you 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Blackhawk03(f): 7:47pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
pocohantas: Hahahaha This meme made my day, babez! No mind grei na, na their way. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:48pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
CorGier: You telling her to stick with JOBLESS MAN Man spend $500.00 on drinks Man fail to contribute to help with rent, food, gas and light bill really |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Espada10: 7:48pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by VERDA: 7:50pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
makydebbie: She has lost a decade of her life?,from her write up in that decade she has done very well for herself,her degree,masters,great job,a lot of self devekooement and all....except of course you feel the value of a woman's life is measure by her being in a great relationship or being married,its just sad she is with a grown ass baby man. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by wristbangle: 7:54pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Purebeerry: A beautiful young lady from Poland shared a sad story yesterday about her ipob husband maltreating her. Even your kins told her he had move in with another lady which of course is from his home town. Always learn to use your brain and stop behaving like a dirty sow. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 7:55pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
U don't have a boyfriend but a garbage U know what people do with garbage |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Rubysims: I've got one question for you: You mentioned how he buys and sells stuff (hustles), no regular job, the booze and everything. Is he a yahoo boy? Because if he is, then ALL BETS ARE OFF and you've probably been living a lie/ scam all these years. . . . |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 7:58pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
GoodFaith: And regardless, she's stuck with him for the better part of a decade. He's her choice. And please, whether jobless, broke, poor or homeless, we all deserve love and the right to hold our own. There ain't a perfect man. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:10pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
wristbangle:E pain am 2 Likes
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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by makydebbie(f): 8:10pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
VERDA:Well, she has invested time, money, resource and emotion in that ten years and that's what I'm talking about. You'll feel bad you've wasted time in the wrong person all these while won't you? And please, jeez I can't say a woman's life is measured by her being in a great relationship or being married lol that's a myopic and stupid reasoning. You misinterpreted. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by GoodFaith: 8:11pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
CorGier:We all deserve love -- I understand woman standing by her man She is already having problem with her just paying the bill Dude not having a real JOB Dude spending $500.00 a month on drink Please tell me what good this dude is bring into this relationship Yes there are no perfect person but this dude is a garbage |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by makydebbie(f): 8:13pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Rubysims:Babe, you're insulting people that took their time to read your epistle and decided to help you with advices? I weak oh. 1 Like
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Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Latbod(m): 8:17pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: I believe my opinion is as much valid as urs. U have NO RIGHT to insult me. Pls be advised else... @Rubysims, the choice is urs. Its apparent u guys are into each other but dating for that long tends to bring issues like this. Like I said earlier, I advice you to stand ur ground, be headstrong and GMS. |
Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Nobody: 8:19pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
GoodFaith: Well he might be garbage but he's her garbage and she's obviously no willing to trash it yet. |
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