TheManofTomorrow:
I laughed when I saw you write "you can always keep them as friends". Do you know the worst thing a guy hates apart from rejection is being friendzoned? No guy will wait for 3month if his intention of dating a lady is not achieved early enuf. It won't be ideal wasting a guy's time. If you think going about keeping friends just because you never can tell if they will be of help you in the future is an excellent idea. That's wrong

Besides, not every lady have the time and energy to keep up with tons of opposite sx while still sticking to one man. It can lead to developing cheating tendencies you know.

One cannot benefit from everybody. Don't go about keeping friends because of that. A person will help you if they think you deserve it, not if you a friends with them.

Friendship requires time and energy. Time and energy that would otherwise used in productive things.

It depends on how you approach it.

I have lots of nairaland friends both male and female and it is not always about dating.

If a man is tired of being friendzoned then let him move on..is it by force for a lady to say yes?

My point is that people should try to be friends with people. ..if you woo a lady and she says NO biko move on and maintain your friendship or delete her number if that will make you sleep at night.Why making it look like a do or die thing? which one is the talks about guys hating being friend zoned. ..

TheManofTomorrow:
I laughed when I saw you write "you can always keep them as friends". Do you know the worst thing a guy hates apart from rejection is being friendzoned? No guy will wait for 3month if his intention of dating a lady is not achieved early enuf. It won't be ideal wasting a guy's time. If you think going about keeping friends just because you never can tell if they will be of help you in the future is an excellent idea. That's wrong

Besides, not every lady have the time and energy to keep up with tons of opposite sx while still sticking to one man. It can lead to developing cheating tendencies you know.

One cannot benefit from everybody. Don't go about keeping friends because of that. A person will help you if they think you deserve it, not if you a friends with them.

Friendship requires time and energy. Time and energy that would otherwise used in productive things.

You made all the sense...

People will help you if you are deserving a day not because they are friends with you.

Marry a man that can cover all your needs so you do not open yourself up to temptations.

Every bad thing in this life started from lowering your walls.

Lalasticlala I guess this is insightful.

Prec1ous:


You made all the sense...

People will help you if you are deserving a day not because they are friends with you.

Marry a man that can cover all your needs so you do not open yourself up to temptations.

Every bad thing in this life started from lowering your walls.

So that man you want to marry,was there not a first time you two met? If you had not given him the chance to communicate with you how on earth will you ever get to marry him?

this is my point,give room for communication and don't just shut people out. I have female friends that have been so helpful in my life and we were strangers before that first hello.

Would have been a much better advice if you were referring to making new contacts/connections. For me though, I don't like keeping much friends and the one I keep should share either same character, dreams, goals, ambition etc. Frankly speaking, 5 minutes of conversation is enough to put you in either my bff list or acquaintance list

ode.

Nice points you've got there..

Also worthy of note is that too much familiarity brings contempt.

When you make yourself too easy to access, people will always take you for granted and ride freely on your emotions.

In summary, you don't need too many people around, just those that matter, that you can benefit from.

Vikky014:
interesting. While men make the world incomplete shey

Na u women dey cause most problems of the world..

ChiefPiiko:
Carry on

Chiefpiiko is been a while

Toks2008:
You have the right to choose who you want to invite into your life and there is nothing anyone can do about this but nevertheless,it is saddening that many people have lost potential great union simply because they have the habit of blocking people from their world even without getting to know if that person might just be the one to add value to their lives.

I have seen people who got married to people they least expected and they thank GOD for giving those people the chance to prove themselves.You say you want a good partner yet you are very unfriendly,you love keeping a straight face,you don't respond to PM,DM,TM and you hardly share your contact details and even if you do,you are the type that will see a "hello" on Monday and respond on Friday.You say no good guys or no good ladies whilst you create a secluded world comprising of yourself and those you want but ironically,the people you want may not want you and those you blocked out of your life might just be the ones you need.

How can you ever know if a man or woman is good for you without getting to know them? Give people a chance to know you and try to know them on a friendly note and then decide latter if such is good or bad for you.Stop blocking potential great partners from your life...get to know that unassuming lady and give that guy a chance to relate with you cos you never can tell if h/she will be the one to make you fly without wings...

Remember the song of West life
"Everybody's looking for that something
One thing that makes it all complete
You'll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be..."

The fact that you are in a serious romance with another does not mean you should shut the door of your world..remember that knowing someone is not just about romance..and better still,you don't have to give everyone your direct number..you can give them your face-book ID,twitter ID,Skype ID,watt-sup only number or E-mail address....but just stop blocking people from your life because you can never know who you don't know.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Long and tedious load of hogwash.

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Which one is watts - up again na?

Toks2008:
You have the right to choose who you want to invite into your life and there is nothing anyone can do about this but nevertheless,it is saddening that many people have lost potential great union simply because they have the habit of blocking people from their world even without getting to know if that person might just be the one to add value to their lives.

I have seen people who got married to people they least expected and they thank GOD for giving those people the chance to prove themselves.You say you want a good partner yet you are very unfriendly,you love keeping a straight face,you don't respond to PM,DM,TM and you hardly share your contact details and even if you do,you are the type that will see a "hello" on Monday and respond on Friday.You say no good guys or no good ladies whilst you create a secluded world comprising of yourself and those you want but ironically,the people you want may not want you and those you blocked out of your life might just be the ones you need.

How can you ever know if a man or woman is good for you without getting to know them? Give people a chance to know you and try to know them on a friendly note and then decide latter if such is good or bad for you.Stop blocking potential great partners from your life...get to know that unassuming lady and give that guy a chance to relate with you cos you never can tell if h/she will be the one to make you fly without wings...

Remember the song of West life
"Everybody's looking for that something
One thing that makes it all complete
You'll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be..."

The fact that you are in a serious romance with another does not mean you should shut the door of your world..remember that knowing someone is not just about romance..and better still,you don't have to give everyone your direct number..you can give them your face-book ID,twitter ID,Skype ID,watt-sup only number or E-mail address....but just stop blocking people from your life because you can never know who you don't know.

Don't know if this makes sense.

op one nairaland girl don do u strong tin abi Nairaland girls abeg wetin una do this op wey make am voice out hin mind like this anyway u cannot be friends with everyone u meet, that's life and remember it's better u focus on u becoming who the world would like to associate with than u begging for friendship...

Another factor is the fact that , many have been through situations whereby too much of being nice to keeping friends have ruined them spiritual, emotionally and financially..

OP I'm not against you at all but from my own view , be the man everyone wants to make friends with both male and female not being the man tryna beg for friendship...

Who no wan make friends with Dangote or Otedola

kimbraa:
E no go pass woman matter.

Modified.

So in essence, you're saying people should be open to make friends but did you forget that everyone mustn't be your friend?.

Go back and read again. This time do it very slowly, twice if need be.

for the most part Nigerian girls are fools. If a Nigerian girl gives you all her
contacts and audience, it means she wants you to go "all the way". If you take her details and relate with her and don't ask to date or "do" her, she will hate you.

Nigerian girls don't deserve to be taken as wife cos they've created so much undue pain in relationship with men. (of course that Isn't shared by the 0.1% of men that 80% of them throw themselves unashamedly on. sadly they can only marry 0.1% of the female population and they usually go for those with pedigree and value, after exhausting themselves with overdose from those 80%)

In essence op is saying, "make yourself approcheable"

emperorzillion:
op one nairaland girl don do u strong tin abi Nairaland girls abeg wetin una do this op wey make am voice out hin mind like this anyway u cannot be friends with everyone u meet, that's life and remember it's better u focus on u becoming who the world would like to associate with than u begging for friendship...

Another factor is the fact that , many have been through situations whereby too much of being nice to keeping friends have ruined them spiritual, emotionally and financially..

OP I'm not against you at all but from my own view , be the man everyone wants to make friends with both male and female not being the man tryna beg for friendship...

Who no wan make friends with Dangote or Otedola

Ki ni eleyi n so?

True, I have been busy offline. How do you do?

biacan:
Chiefpiiko is been a while

Abeg, Op use black color font, I couldn't even read this post.. It's very discomforting to read

toks208:


Ki ni eleyi n so?

boy listen up, Friendship no be do or die ... Seems u don't have class .. because u wannna make friends with people don't mean u have to ridicule urself.. anyone that's not ready to be ur friend, let them go..

Go and make money bro, be a brand to reckon with..

who no wan make friends with Dangote or Otedola..

Nairaland girls abeg pity this op small, una no wan dance to hin reggae .. na one of una don offend am

What should i do to the ladies who has refusing to respond to my messages?

emperorzillion:
boy listen up, Friendship no be do or die ... Seems u don't have class .. because u wannna make friends with people don't mean u have to ridicule urself.. anyone that's not ready to be ur friend, let them go..

Go and make money bro, be a brand to reckon with..

who no wan make friends with Dangote or Otedola..

Nairaland girls abeg pity this op small, una no wan dance to hin reggae .. na one of una don offend am

Aja 1 do I look broke to you abi I look like one lacking friends? you have no idea..smh! Please go and sleep..your mumu don do.

ibietela2:
What should i do to the ladies who has refusing to respond to my messages?

Move on. At least you can message them so it means they don't want you so stay in the friend zone.

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These words reminds me of a movie titled "ZOOTOPIA"

you need counselling.

blackprowler:
for the most part Nigerian girls are fools. If a Nigerian girl gives you all her
contacts and audience, it means she wants you to go "all the way". If you take her details and relate with her and don't ask to date or "do" her, she will hate you.

Nigerian girls don't deserve to be taken as wife cos they've created so much undue pain in relationship with men. (of course that Isn't shared by the 0.1% of men that 80% of them throw themselves unashamedly on. sadly they can only marry 0.1% of the female population and they usually go for those with pedigree and value, after exhausting themselves with overdose from those 80%)

kimbraa:
E no go pass woman matter.

Modified.

So in essence, you're saying people should be open to make friends but did you forget that everyone mustn't be your friend?.

no mind the op. But he tried to pass a strong msg to our girls. They should use their brain well to know that being friendly doesn't result to dating. They should be ready to accept t friends & know when to unfriend those that overdo

Joislim:
The post makes sense

I trust u, e go make sense. I would have found the post useless if u r not here.

How do you expect someone to make sense out of something you don't know if it makes sense even though it was supposedly written by you?

I just hate seeing that concluding line you so often use in your speech these days.

ChiefPiiko:
True, I have been busy offline. How do you do?

I'm fyn I learnt that you've finally tie the knot congrats Chief

Good one.

Nice one op

Thanks dear, not yet but very soon

biacan:
I'm fyn I learnt that you've finally tie the knot congrats Chief

toks208:


Move on. At least you can message them so it means they don't want you so stay in the friend zone.

I have unfriend them.