Ladyhippolyta88:
Spare me the crap you wrote up there the people who countered you did well.It is now you know real truth this reminds me of that saying "the majority would have their way the minority would have their say".And please try to advise yourself first remove the log in your own eye before trying to remove others.Have a good night rest.

Duru009:


what crap?

Abey, go n sleep. You likes will never in the next 100yrs.

I have made my point. You know it.
Whether you take it or not. I can understand.

Any responsible and well trained lady with good background will certainly understand my views.

99% of those ladies are street girls, did you even read their stupid comments. Full of bitterness!

Know responsible lady will sound like that!

ibrahimdoc:


Thank you so much my brother, I don't know what nigeria is turning into. people have ruined their lives due to sexual recklessness. i pity for my country

Shugavee:
Good night/ morning all, i think i n my man are abt to something
Sleep well

ndcide:
It is deceit to claim those who advocate Chasity, want people to base their marital decision Only on virginity.

That's crap.

Any one who trivialises or downplay chastity, in this day and age, will have no issues supporting promiscuity. In fact, how will such a person not even support promiscuity?

Marital relationships increasingly became difficult and complex, because people jettisoned chastity.

While you claim people mask their sexual weakness with Chasity, I will tell you that much more have ruined their lives through sexual recklessness, and had to finally bow to the ideals of chastity. Unfortunately, much damage have been done.

I challenge you to go back to any of those Christian counselor and ask them for the truth.

A non-virgin who respects and loves his/her partner, while believing in the sanctity of marriage, would not cheat on his/her partner .

Ladyhippolyta88:
What of the guy that quoted you know he is a street boy.So you know they are street girls how come it is so easy to throw shades at people you know nothing about.And FYI I am not feeling sleepy responsible and well trained lady indeed you made no point now go and sleep You tasted my comments to know it was bitter wonders shall never end.

Espada10:
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laudate:


You know your problem, you have chosen to discard reality for some idealistic ideology, that you have chosen to preach. I am a church worker who has interacted with several christian counsellors. I have never advocated promiscuity or sexual recklessness. Check through all my posts. However, I have advocated knowing your partner well before making a commitment.

You seem to have some warped idea, that anyone who does not wave virginity or your chastity like a flag, is in support of sexual recklessness. Nothing could be further from the truth. However, I will not buy into that myth of virginity/chastity, being the guarantee of a happy or successful marriage. So non-virgins should never get married, is that what you are saying? Men are the greatest culprits who sample everything in skirts, but later turn round to start preaching chastity when it is time to marry.

A non-virgin who understands his/her partner and possesses qualities such as integrity, accountability, respect, compassion, supportive behaviour, generosity, tact, discipline, loyalty etc, will definitely have a productive and happy marriage, over a so-called virgin who does not understand her partner and lacks those qualities. A non-virgin who respects and loves his partner while believing in the sanctity of marriage, would not cheat on his/her partner .

Now, please take your sermon elsewhere, because I do not believe in flogging this subject of chastity like you have been doing incessantly in a judgemental fashion, on this thread. Refrain from quoting me, when next you want to overflog your prayer point on virginity.....

Ladyhippolyta88:
your fellow brothers who quoted me would not understand.One claims he is an ambassador of the truth.

Duru009:


My dear sister, deep inside you know am making a point
You sound somewhat responsible. I might not be 100% correct but am just guessing. Making a mistake in the past doesn't mean that wen you see the truth you will not embrace it.

Marriage is not boyfriend or girlfriend is 4 life!
Hop you know!

laudate:


I understand what you mean perfectly. It is so sad that many of them claim to be educated. And some of them even have daughters. What kind of fathers would they make with such illogical views, I wonder?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Highqueen I can see you are viewing the thread

highqueen:


babez

Ladyhippolyta88:
Seriously to be sincere and honest with you I don't feel anything deep inside about what you wrote because it is not my business.And who said boy/girlfriend relationship was for life.Our ideologies are clearly different so no need arguing I see life from a progressive and liberal view and you see yours in the opposite.What I am thinking deep inside has nothing to do with nairaland,virginity or marriage.

Duru009:



My views are far more liberal and progressive !

What static ideology are you talking about, ideology without morals or life reality.

You certainly have nothing to say, listen to yourself.
You might not remember me now, I guess in years to come, when you have come to full maturity maybe maybe maybe you have kids of your own. I think maybe maybe maybe then you will start with them!

Duru009:



My views are far more liberal and progressive !

What static ideology are you talking about, ideology without morals or life reality.

[s][/s](Your ideas have no single moral justification for the next generation.)[s][/s]

You certainly have nothing to say, listen to yourself.
You might not remember me now, I guess in years to come, when you have come to full maturity maybe maybe maybe you have kids of your own. I think maybe maybe maybe then you will start with them!

CSTR1002:

I did not say men marry for virginity. That would be very wrong.

What i meant was that they appreciate it as an extra bonus. Ofcourse, I will marry you for your sharp mind, your nice physique, your ambitions,and your humour.

But if i happen to get that virginity as a bonus, I would be pleasantly surprised. It would improve my self-esteem and i would appreciate you better, even when you push me to my wits end because i would remember you gave yourself first and only to me.

Just look at the way Basketmouth was disgraced by an ex-lover of his wife. The ex-lover practically gave details of their previous sexcapades and abortions.

Do you think Basketmouth would be happy with that.?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Me myself I am in need of a Virgin husband who I would be so proud of to discover that he only knows me intimately.So that even if he wants me to kneel down and worship him I would because I married him a virgin.

laudate:


You know your problem, you have chosen to discard reality for some idealistic ideology, that you have chosen to preach. I am a church worker who has interacted with several christian counsellors. I have never advocated promiscuity or sexual recklessness. Check through all my posts. However, I have advocated knowing your partner well before making a commitment.

You seem to have some warped idea, that anyone who does not wave virginity or your chastity like a flag, is in support of sexual recklessness. Nothing could be further from the truth. However, I will not buy into that myth of virginity/chastity, being the guarantee of a happy or successful marriage. So non-virgins should never get married, is that what you are saying? Men are the greatest culprits who sample everything in skirts, but later turn round to start preaching chastity when it is time to marry.

A non-virgin who understands his/her partner and possesses qualities such as integrity, accountability, respect, compassion, supportive behaviour, generosity, tact, discipline, loyalty etc, will definitely have a productive and happy marriage, over a so-called virgin who does not understand her partner and lacks those qualities. A non-virgin who respects and loves his partner while believing in the sanctity of marriage, would not cheat on his/her partner .

Now, please take your sermon elsewhere, because I do not believe in flogging this subject of chastity like you have been doing incessantly in a judgemental fashion, on this thread. Refrain from quoting me, when next you want to overflog your prayer point on virginity.....

Ladyhippolyta88:
Like I said your experience can never be my experience so stop using that line.You are not an elder so your own done do.And what is liberal and progressive of your post?I have more than enough to say and those who share my views I understand.To each his own everybody to their kettle.All what you wrote concerning regret and how I would remember layer is pointless I have my life all carved out.I need to sleep I have got a busy day tomorrow so no need to mention or quote me have a good night rest.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Like I said your experience can never be my experience so stop using that line.You are not an elder so your own done do.And what is liberal and progressive of your post?I have more than enough to say and those who share my views I understand.To each his own everybody to their kettle.All what you wrote concerning regret and how I would remember layer is pointless I have my life all carved out.I need to sleep I have got a busy day tomorrow so no need to mention or quote me have a good night rest.

tosyne2much:
Dey dia dey deceive yourself

Duru009:



What stupid views do they have!
Can those people with their senseless comments be a role models to the society.

Those comments are full of bitterness n bad experience.
Thy cannt move me because I know their likes and i have seen them all!

Thy got nothing to offer, absolutely nothing to offer! especially to the young girls coming up.
No single moral to learn.

All wannabe feminists !!!!
Nonsense !

Ladyhippolyta88:
I just needed to strike that.So that one Mr know it all does not hurt himself.

ndcide:
Church worker indeed...

No holy spirit filled person walking with God, not just "chuch worker " will downplay chastity with the level of brazen sexual recklessness, we see even in the Church.

How can a virgin, not possess the good qualities, you claim a non virgin can have... a virgin cannot understand his/her partner? Be loving?, be generous? be disciplined?

At some point we need to tell ourselves the truth.

The same old tactics of the devil used with Eve is still at play today.

It's a pity.

Duru009:



I repeat " your ideas have no moral justification for the next generation "....

Ideology my foot!

Zero ideology!

What do you know about ideology! Miss .

Ladyhippolyta88:
Whatever as long as it would make you sleep well this night you are free to continue hallucinating.