Chaclaitmilk:


I should concentrate on better things? My sisters welfare no be better thing?

Chaclaitmilk:


@bold, phew, are you for real? That would be such a relief for her if I tell her. Fear of losing her children is the only reason she is pushing for court marriage.

Chaclaitmilk:


Divorce or accept his wishes only?
No other option?

What about persuasion and discussion?
Nigerian in laws have a way of intruding into other family members marriages and they can persuade the man to chase her out and seize her children.
I don't get why many Nairaland men have a strong anti women mentality.
And by the way it truly isn't about money. Not to brag but our dad worked in SPDC for over 30years and amassed millions of naira and cats and properties for his children. We can all sit down comfortably for the rest of our lives without working, we have enough. And my parents sponsored their wedding because he was still a struggling up coming young man. I can assure you she does not want his money.
He doesn't have a quarter of what she has.

Chaclaitmilk:


Divorce or accept his wishes only?
No other option?

What about persuasion and discussion?
Nigerian in laws have a way of intruding into other family members marriages and they can persuade the man to chase her out and seize her children.
I don't get why many Nairaland men have a strong anti women mentality.
And by the way it truly isn't about money. Not to brag but our dad worked in SPDC for over 30years and amassed millions of naira and cats and properties for his children. We can all sit down comfortably for the rest of our lives without working, we have enough. And my parents sponsored their wedding because he was still a struggling up coming young man. I can assure you she does not want his money.
He doesn't have a quarter of what she has.

Chaclaitmilk:
Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.

Chaclaitmilk:
Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.

Chaclaitmilk:


Divorce or accept his wishes only?
No other option?

What about persuasion and discussion?
Nigerian in laws have a way of intruding into other family members marriages and they can persuade the man to chase her out and seize her children.
I don't get why many Nairaland men have a strong anti women mentality.
And by the way it truly isn't about money. Not to brag but our dad worked in SPDC for over 30years and amassed millions of naira and cats and properties for his children. We can all sit down comfortably for the rest of our lives without working, we have enough. And my parents sponsored their wedding because he was still a struggling up coming young man. I can assure you she does not want his money.
He doesn't have a quarter of what she has.

AreaFada2:

So if it has to cost millions to travel abroad and manipulation just to get a marriage certificate, then the marriage doesn't have a strong foundation of trust and common purpose.

It is not by force to marry na. There are men out there who will happily do her bidding especially gold diggers (excavators).

It seems like ticking the boxes: money ticked, car from dad ticked, house from dad ticked, registry marriage to be ticked by hook or by crook.

Shouldn't basic stuff like which type (s) of marriage be agreed upon before the journey
even begins?

spiritedtete:


City of David has no business in court... as rccg are recognised by the court already... the court wedding is to go pose in front of court sign board ikoyi registry. Like people like showing off that place. And i don't blame them...

It is because America embassy prefer that certificate more.

Orchid45:
Since she is flush with cash, she could splurge on a family abroad vacation all expenses paid by her. A legal proof of marriage will be required for the visa processing. This might be her best bet.

She should only do that after she is convinced her husband has forgotten about the issue, and she is still desperate for it.

blank:


End of the unnecessary drama. I had a cousin who went to Church for her wedding and was still insisting they did court. I tried to explain to her but she no hear. Eventually, they went to the court and those ones said that they already had the record as the church had dropped a copy. Unnecessary drama.

Chaclaitmilk:


Na wa oo

Oga marriage is all about unity and love. there should be compromise in marriage. If she tries to persuade him it's not bad. They are partners, not master and slave.
See you talking of death for this kain thing, it's not that serious biko.
The man isn't a demon, he is very easy going he just needs to convinced in a logical way.

MrBrownJay1:


fear of losing her children is more important to her than the fear of losing her husband?!?!?! this woman has misplaced priorities.
but hey, pls do enlighten us by telling us HOW a woman (supposedly richer than her husband) can lose her damn children?!

KOPT33:


You were sent here to tease out information that will be used to manipulate a fellow man. Don't worry, my only prayer is that your marriage will be a living hell.

Chaclaitmilk:
Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.

Chaclaitmilk:


@bold, phew, are you for real? That would be such a relief for her if I tell her. Fear of losing her children is the only reason she is pushing for court marriage.

Orchid45:
Since she is flush with cash, she could splurge on a family abroad vacation all expenses paid by her. A legal proof of marriage will be required for the visa processing. This might be her best bet.

She should only do that after she is convinced her husband has forgotten about the issue, and she is still desperate for it.

Chaclaitmilk:


She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

creamy1990:
you've not heard of cases where the woman on returning from work didn't meet the husband and children at home, waited patiently for their return thinking they probably went gallivanting but still couldn't find them until it dawned on them after some days that the man's family also had a hand in the whole saga. What would become of that woman at the end?

delishpot:
Stop being naive. The fear of losing children after a marriage ends has been more important to Nigerian women since the beggining of time. That fear has kept many women in unhappy marriages. Even some nen have endured much because they fear for what becomes of their children should they leave the marriage.
If a man is not a good husband why should the woman fear to lose him after all said and done? Which normal mother will not choose her children over a man who has decided to move on? Who doesnt know that the typical Nigerian man who decides to push his wife out ussually keep the children and send her out empty handed? Even those who escape with their children are told to return them or have the kids taken by force. Why are you acting like you were born yesterday?

DavidEsq:

My guy, the mata over weak me o! Besides, why can't she jus walk into a lawyer's office, pay a lil something for some advice, rather than all this drama. Knowledge is priceless. If she did church marriage abi wedding, it's a matter of knowing the church, to determine if the church has been authorised to solemnise marriages because some of these churches too dey do ova sabi . Dem go gee u marriage certificate wey be ordinary paper an u go dey reason say u don do statutory marriage, whereas, na customary marriage u don do .
If the church dey certified, na the same tin as court marriage because na the Federal government, through the court, give d church power to do statutory marriage.

somehow:
The woman is actually the dangerous person here. Can't be trusted cos she surely have an interior motive

Boss13:


What does a marriage certificate mean to you??