UjuJoan2:


I read a study today on why married women cheat and the surprising thing is that cheating keeps most women in their marriages. It makes them resent their spousees less, more tolerating and forgiving, and more capable of handling crisis sanely.

I think men should be grateful if their wives are cheating!

I actually agree with said study, and quite frankly, its hard enough not cheating, talk more when you've given the person reasons to.

I hear some men I know talk and they go, "man, we are in trouble o, these women have taken over" the thing sweet me eh, and I was like, y'all ain't seen nothing yet.

crackhaus:

Live and let live is exactly how I live my life baby girl. I was just tickling you.

Yimu.

Why you too pretend? Llke you didn't judge her.

Yimu

freecocoa:
I actually agree with said study, and quite frankly, its hard enough not cheating, talk more when you've given the person reasons to.

I hear some men I know talk and they go, "man, we are in trouble o, these women have taken over" the thing sweet me eh, and I was like, y'all ain't seen nothing yet.

while you are jubilating, in the meantime, don't forget this is Africa.

The man will simply throw her out, keep his kids and nothing will happen.

crackhaus:

Polygamy is the broad term for marrying multiple spouses, either by a man(polygyny) or a woman(polyandry). Nothing sexist about it.

Unfortunately, you women are incapable of marrying multiple men.. you just can't pull it off even if you had the means. It's a mental thing

Women are not as 'daft' as men.
Why get married to more than one man?
I am trying to get rid of the one I have, and you want me to add THREE MORE to the mix? For what na?
Men wanted to legalize 'adultery'. . . so they came up with some 'daft' religions and traditions and made up the 'polygamy' conditionality.
Well? Good! Women do not need to marry more than ONE MAN to satisfy 'primitive urges'. . . .we just 'chop and clean' mouth and nyansh!
Opari!

As you can see. . . . women have learned how to 'chop' without getting married to more than one man or get divorced!
Too bad FATHER ABRAHAM. . . .here comes 'MOTHER SARAH'. . . .MOTHER OF MANY NATIONS. . .The kids are not YOURS!
Amen!

Only men are that stupid enough to 'complicate' their lives unnecessary.
Just give me a gooooooood 'away-match' like every 6 months. . . .and I am a happy woman.

UjuJoan2:


Is it really consented? Apart from women whose religion accept it, do women really get married expecting their husbands to take another wife somewhere down the line?


Why do you think 'babymamarism' is on the rise? Women actually prefer to be baby Mama's than have their husbands bring in another woman into their home. Don't mistake forced acceptance for consent.

You are talking about morals, is it even morally right to marry more than one spouse? There's a reason why it's illegal in most countries. But hey, let's not talk about that. Let's talk about how women are moral deviants for daring to cheat!

The key word is CONSENT.

You can only make an argument for forced acceptance on a case by case basis, however the general idea behind polygamy is CONSENT by all parties involved.

What is morals? Morals = knowing right from wrong.
Yes it is morally WRONG to marry more than one person if the present spouse does not consent to it. Once consent is established, it isn't a moral WRONG anymore since no one is being hurt.

That's the exact same logic I made use of when referring to extramarital affairs earlier. If the affair is being engaged in secretly knowing it will hurt the spouse when he/she finds out, then that is a moral wrong. However, if both spouses have decided to have an open marriage where both are permitted to have affairs, then no wrong is done.

crackhaus:

The key word is CONSENT.

You can only make an argument for forced acceptance on a case by case basis, however the general idea behind polygamy is CONSENT by all parties involved.

What is morals? Morals = knowing right from wrong.
Yes it is morally WRONG to marry more than one person if the present spouse does not consent to it. Once consent is established, it isn't a moral WRONG anymore since no one is being hurt.

That's the exact same logic I made use of when referring to extramarital affairs earlier. If the affair is being engaged in secretly knowing it will hurt the spouse when he/she finds out, then that is a moral wrong. However, if both spouses have decided to have an open marriage where both are permitted to have affairs, then no wrong is done.

I hope you're not talking through both sides of your mouth ooh. First of all you say women can't be polygamous and then turn around to talk about consent. Why should I consent to something I 'cant handle' myself?

Polygamy itself negates the idea and concept of marriage. Just because people decide they want to marry someone else doesn't make it right.

We live in a new world where the line between right and wrong is no longer so clear. That's why people now make a case for homosexuality, abortion e.t.c

But fundamentally, we all know what is right, and polygamy albeit consensual is not!

That being said, to each his own.

freecocoa:
Yimu.

Why you too pretend? Llke you didn't judge her.

Yimu

Pretend ke.. Why do I have to explain every gaddemn thing ?

Go back and read properly abeg.

She's allowed to do what she wants, what I find troubling is celebrating a wrong thing publicly and trying to pass it off as okay.

Have you ever seen a politician come out to endorse money laundering?

crackhaus:

Lmao.. this woman

I have no problem with you. Wrong assumption again.
You were never a member of the defunct witches coven of NL family section , na those ones I get problem with in the past.
You are just an actor with a big mouth, who hasn't done half the things she posts on NL.

Thank my lucky stars!

*falls off chair*

What have I listed to have done on NL?
A actor with a big mouth ke?
So, you have been documenting my 'activities' on NL?
Please, list them and let me clarify for you.

I live a VERY decent life on and offline you know. I am EXTREMELY RESERVED TOO.
All this 'friend this, friend that' follow-follow, waka-waka business with awon 'girls' I don't DO!
I don't do drugs and I don't drink.
So? What other vices could I have?
SCAMMING? lai-lai!
The fact that I have quite a 'few' ex-boyfriends to 'tangle' with once in a while is not a crime.
HOW has that affected my life over the years?

DID YOU HEAR OF ANY OF US DIVORCING or exposing each other on or offline?
The reason, a woman like me can NEVER ASSOCIATE WITH 'CHEWING-GUM' boys and men on or offline!
Hell FORBID!

There is something called 'mature-chopping'. . . .aka taking a 'break from matrimonial monotony'!
We do not mix business with pleasure. If anyone gets tired, just pack your 'portmanteau' and leave through the nearest exit!
Simple.

*ngwa nu. . . DWCNFS aka defunct witches' coven of NL Family Section . . . una get YIM o. . . . *

CSTR1003:

See correct misyarning. blah blah blah .

You think passing your biological material to the next generation is not important?

People go dey just talk anyhow.

The worst thing u can do to any man,angel included.
Women tolerate that cos of fear of after divorce effect and culture. But for a man to discover he has been training and loving another man's child,better kill him. Love has many definitions

sassysure:

The worst thing u can do to any man,angel included.
Women tolerate that cos of fear of after divorce effect and culture. But for a man to discover he has been training and loving another man's child,better kill him. Love has many definitions

Yet a man can bring another woman's child into a woman's home. . . WHO SEN AM?
Make men go 'carry belle and born' for the real deal ke!
Shior!

Betrayal na betrayal o. . . .It is just as PAINFUL, for a man to father children out of a marriage for A WOMAN.

Period!

UjuJoan2:


I hope you're not talking through both sides of your mouth ooh. First of all you say women can't be polygamous and then turn around to talk about consent. Why should I consent to something I 'cant handle' myself?


Polygamy itself negates the idea and concept of marriage. Just because people decide they want to marry someone else doesn't make it right.

We live in a new world where the line between right and wrong is no longer so clear. That's why people now make a case for homosexuality, abortion e.t.c

But fundamentally, we all know what is right, and polygamy albeit consensual is not!

That being said, to each his own.

I didn't say women can't be polygamous, I said women can't handle marrying multiple men which is why y'all don't bother. You can be polygamous if you want to but can you honestly handle two husbands at once?

As for consent, it's a personal thing. You can't consent to your husband marrying a second wife, there are also women who don't mind.

You say fundamentally, polygamy is wrong. Okay, but according to whom or what? Please don't say the Bible.

KanwuliaExtra:


Women are not as 'daft' as men.
Why get married to more than one man?
I am trying to get rid of the one I have, and you want me to add THREE MORE to the mix? For what na?
Men wanted to legalize 'adultery'. . . so they came up with some 'daft' religions and traditions and made up the 'polygamy' conditionality.
Well? Good! Women do not need to marry more than ONE MAN to satisfy 'primitive urges'. . . .we just 'chop and clean' mouth and nyansh!
Opari!

As you can see. . . . women have learned how to 'chop' without getting married to more than one man or get divorced!
Too bad FATHER ABRAHAM. . . .here comes 'MOTHER SARAH'. . . .MOTHER OF MANY NATIONS. . .The kids are not YOURS!
Amen!

Only men are that stupid enough to 'complicate' their lives unnecessary.
Just give me a gooooooood 'away-match' like every 6 months. . . .and I am a happy woman.

Please, do me a favor and run for Congress.

Even Trump go fear ya.

Epic!

UjuJoan2:


I read a study today on why married women cheat and the surprising thing is that cheating keeps most women in their marriages. It makes them resent their spousees less, more tolerating and forgiving, and more capable of handling crisis sanely.

I think men should be grateful if their wives are cheating!

freecocoa:
My sister.

Seriously, these days when I hear that a married woman cheated, e no dey be me like anything cos these men need to know that they don't gat the monopoly, If he cheats and you must stay with him, then by all means, make yourself happy, don't stay pining over one man that doesn't care how much you hurt, I mean like what's the point in crying/lamenting over what you know he'll do again?

No one can steal my joy o jare, nonsense!

The one wey sweet me pass na that 'pregnant' woman wey im husband catch. . . . She was 'banging' with the 'belle'!


Imagine pouring another man's akamu all over your unborn child/children. . . .
The ultimate 'sexual ritual'. How the pikin head go correct?

OVOKO!
See levels?
As e pain the dude reach. . . .e threaten to 'kill' dem if dem no kwantinu the 'show' on video to broadcast to the world!
Ha!

Serves them RIGHT!

crackhaus:

I didn't say women can't be polygamous, I said women can't handle marrying multiple men which is why y'all don't bother. You can be polygamous if you want to but can you honestly handle two husbands at once?

As for consent, it's a personal thing. You can't consent to your husband marrying a second wife, there are also women who don't mind.


You say fundamentally, polygamy is wrong. Okay, but according to whom or what? Please don't say the Bible.

The concept of marriage is between two people. Polygamy is wrong based on the law in most countries, common sense and yes the Bible.

As for consent, I only used myself as an example. (Actually I don't care if my husband takes another wife, I just won't be raising my kids in that kind of environment). My question remains . . . why would any sane woman consent to something she 'cant handle'?

crackhaus:

Pretend ke.. Why do I have to explain every gaddemn thing ?

Go back and read properly abeg.

She's allowed to do what she wants, what I find troubling is celebrating a wrong thing publicly and trying to pass it off as okay.

Have you ever seen a politician come out to endorse money laundering?

Apples and oranges.

Who are you to say what's wrong in this context? And of course I'm referring to the "cheating".

Pray tell what makes it wrong, if a woman can go have sex with more than one man, married or not, since 'our' society won't let women marry more than one man, like the men can?

KanwuliaExtra:


Women are not as 'daft' as men.
Why get married to more than one man?
I am trying to get rid of the one I have, and you want me to add THREE MORE to the mix? For what na?
Men wanted to legalize 'adultery'. . . so they came up with some 'daft' religions and traditions and made up the 'polygamy' conditionality.
Well? Good! Women do not need to marry more than ONE MAN to satisfy 'primitive urges'. . . .we just 'chop and clean' mouth and nyansh!
Opari!

As you can see. . . . women have learned how to 'chop' without getting married to more than one man or get divorced!
Too bad FATHER ABRAHAM. . . .here comes 'MOTHER SARAH'. . . .MOTHER OF MANY NATIONS. . .The kids are not YOURS!
Amen!

Only men are that stupid enough to 'complicate' their lives unnecessary.
Just give me a gooooooood 'away-match' like every 6 months. . . .and I am a happy woman.

No wahala, then men marrying more than one wife should not be defined as SEXISM. You call it stupidity and daftness, we accept.

Emir Sanusi says it best..

Mindfulness:


Please, do me a favor and run for Congress.

Even Trump go fear ya.

Epic!

KanwuliaExtra:


The one wey sweet me pass na that 'pregnant' woman wey im husband catch. . . . She was 'banging' with the 'belle'!


OVOKO!
See levels?
As e pain the dude reach. . . .e threaten to 'kill' dem if dem no kwantinu the 'show' on video to broadcast to the world!
Ha!

Serves them RIGHT!

That woman own is on another level walai!

Seriously though, there's a stage that one endures to and just decides to say "Bleep it"

Before pregnant woman go waka that kain waka, leave am, she don see something tire.

crackhaus:

No wahala, then men marrying more than one wife should not be defined as SEXISM. You call it stupidity and daftness, we accept.

Emir Sanusi says it best..

There is nothing daft about polygamy for those who practice such a thing.
After all. . . .a stupid person will never admit to the world he or she is stupid abi?
I find it DAFT.
Totally uncalled for.
Just keep one wife/husband and do not 'forsake others'!

Yes! It is sexism or sexist because. . . . women are not given that 'choice' to have the same opportunities.

If the man has 4 wives. . . let the woman have her own 4 husbands too!
A very sweeeet ngwo-gwo soup marriage!

freecocoa:
That woman own is on another level walai!

Seriously though, there's a stage that one endures to and just decides to say "Bleep it"

Before pregnant woman go waka that kain waka, leave am, she don see something tire.

Gbam!

The woman must have had it!
E fit nor even be the man pikin sef!
Some women are BRAVER than me I swear!
There are some things I cannot do sha.
I have my boundaries.

Chai!!!!

freecocoa:
Apples and oranges.

Who are you to say what's wrong in this context? And of course I'm referring to the "cheating".

Pray tell what makes it wrong, if a woman can go have sex with more than one man, married or not, since 'our' society won't let women marry more than one man, like the men can?

Again, a woman is allowed to do whatever she wants with her puzzay. Celebrating it is the reason I even quoted Kanwulia in the first place.

I hope you read it this time.

Same thing goes for a man too.

KanwuliaExtra:


There is nothing daft about polygamy for those who practice such a thing.
After all. . . .a stupid person will never admit to the world he or she is stupid abi?
I find it DAFT.
Totally uncalled for.
Just keep one wife/husband and do not 'forsake others'!

Emir Sanusi is daft?

crackhaus:

Emir Sanusi is daft?

No. Sanusi is not daft since he can take care of all the women in his harem who are agreeable to such an 'arrangement'.
He is an opportunistic predator of women folk!
The concept of POLYGAMY is a daft one!


https://www.nairaland.com/2631849/emir-sanusis-bride-saadatu-wedding

UjuJoan2:


The concept of marriage is between two people. Polygamy is wrong based on the law in most countries, common sense and yes the Bible.

As for consent, I only used myself as an example. (Actually I don't care if my husband takes another wife, I just won't be raising my kids in that kind of environment). My question remains . . . why would any sane woman consent to something she 'cant handle'?

Your question is conflicting.
What a woman can't handle is marrying multiple men, what she's consenting to is her husband bringing in a second wife.

Lots of women are okay with the latter, and I'm not sure you're more sane than they are.

crackhaus:

Your question is conflicting.
What a woman can't handle is marrying multiple men, what she's consenting to is her husband bringing in a second wife.

Lots of women are okay with the latter, and I'm not sure you're more sane than they are.

Oh please!
Give women the opportunity and let them decide if they can handle it or not.
You will be surprised. . . . .Men will be CRYING all over AFRICA!

There would be no BROTHELS for men to run too ke!
Let us see where they will get the '4 wives' from!
Women will OUT-HANDLE THE MEN in that department ke!

How can you determine who is who to marry? A total breakdown of society walahi!

KanwuliaExtra:


No. Sanusi is not daft since he can take care of all the women in his harem who are agreeable to such an 'arrangement'.
He is an opportunistic predator of women folk!

Beautiful, this is the part I like about you.

Agreeable = Consent

Polygamy is not wrong afterall, don't know what Uju keeps dragging my trouser for when she can do the same by marrying another husband.
At least, phocking multiple men/women within the confines of a polygamous marriage or an open marriage is miles better than having extramarital affairs.

Opportunistic predator? Hehehe...
The women are not complaining.

crackhaus:

Beautiful, this is the part I like about you.

Agreeable = Consent

Polygamy is not wrong afterall, don't know what Uju keeps dragging my trouser for when she can do the same by marrying another husband.
At least, phocking multiple men/women within the confines of a polygamous marriage or an open marriage is miles better than

having extramarital affairs.

Opportunistic predator? Hehehe...
The women are not complaining.

Like I stated earlier. . . give the woman the same choices to MARRY their own 4 husbands EACH!
Right now, they have NO OTHER CHOICE in the 'one-sided' polygamous harem.

And who says the ''polygamists" do not have extra-marital affairs?
Ask MKO Abiola!

http://allafrica.com/stories/200708060078.html

Nigeria: MKO Abiola's Will - 25 Children Fail DNA Test

Lagos — Chief MKO Abiola was generally believed to have had a very healthy appetite. Like a true wealthy African that he was, the number of his wives was uncountable just as the number of children.

This was the ultimate SHAME BY ANY GIVEN STANDARDS!

the title of this thread sha . a "comrade" indeed. the comments nko? lmao madam kanwulia pls come and be my life coach

Proudgorgeousga:
the title of this thread sha . a "comrade" indeed.
the comments nko? lmao
madam kanwulia pls come and be my life coach

Come for initiation my darling.
I hold 'meetings' once a month on the FIRST SUNDAYS!

KanwuliaExtra:


Oh please!
Give women the opportunity and let them decide if they can handle it or not.
You will be surprised. . . . .Men will be CRYING all over AFRICA!

There would be no BROTHELS for men to run too ke!
Let us see where they will get the '4 wives' from!
Women will OUT-HANDLE THE MEN in that department ke!

How can you deter

Story...

The biological makeup of a woman already makes it difficult for her to be married to multiple men. Shey she go dey carry belle for all the men ke..
Her pússy will be worn out within three years of her polyandrous marriage.

It's not MEN that is the problem of women on this Earth, it's NATURE. Make una direct una fight to the right direction.

crackhaus:

Story...

The biological makeup of a woman already makes it difficult for her to be married to multiple men. Shey she go dey carry belle for all the men ke..

Her pússy will be worn out within three years of her polyandrous marriage.

It's not MEN that is the problem of women on this Earth, it's NATURE. Make una direct una fight to the right direction.

*pisses on myself while LOL*


Such a low opinion of women. . . . . the fact that 'men' have ED problems does not make a woman's poosy slack!
Check!
All poosies must SLACK!
All deeks must SHRIVEL!

Normal aging process!
There is more to relationships than tight poosies and erectile deeks, trust me!
You have a lot to learn my dear young man.
Even virgins get slack. . . .learn some biology lessons!