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[s]SO YOU'LL BE SUBMISSIVE IF I START TO PAY FOR YOUR STUFF, AND I'LL BECOME HEAD AND LEADER IF I'M HANDLING THE RESPONSIBILITIES. [/s]

SEE REASONING.

NO WONDER THERE ARE VERY FEW OF YOU IN POLITICS. HARDLY ANYTHING INNOVATIVE COMING FROM YOUR WAY. VERY FEW DISCOVERIES AND INVENTIONS FROM YOUR SIDE BECAUSE YOU'RE MENTALY WEAK.

safarigirl:
Recently, George Clooney rewarded his friends with a million dollars.

Why did he reward them? Were they doing him a favour being his friends even before he became a big star?

Anyone who stuck to you in your trying times deserves to be rewarded. If you have ever had a period in your life when you were down and you needed someone and the whole world abandoned you, leaving you with just one person who stuck by you, none of you would come here to make such ignorant statement about why men reward the women who stick by them

Do you know their story? Do you know if these women helped them financially? Do you know how many of these men may have been close to suicide and the woman was the only reason they didn't off themselves? People who kill themselves, you think they would have done that if someone listened to them when they were down and gave them hope?

None of you has obviously been down and out, at that point in life that you become a caricature to everyone, including supposed friends and family, because if you have been there, walahi, if you can, you go even buy Banana Island house for the person that held your hand when you were slipping into darkness.

If you know how many girls feed guys in school, you will not come here and ask a question as silly as "Did she do him a favour?" Yes! She fed him when he had no food, she gave him words of encouragement when he had no hope, she stood by him when he had no support. She took insults from friends and colleagues because she was the 'stupid' girl who was following the broke boy

What is a car compared to years of sacrifice and insult? What is the worth of a car? Do you think a car is even enough to repay someone for being the reason why you were even alive to get these riches?


Like I said, let me attribute this talk to common Ignorance. When you are broke and hopeless and only one person has your back, you will understand the men you think are senseless

Mariinee:
You are one of the few people with sense. Clearly, OP doesn't know what loyalty is. This thread is so stupid.

Iamgrey5:
Thanks, how is school and everything.

safarigirl:
George Clooney said he was rewarding his friends for beinh there for him through most of his life.

He gave a reason, the same reason these men give the women who they gift cars. So, you are not correct. The George Clooney example is very valid in this instance.

The ignorance here stems from the fact that you all have either never been dead broke, or never received great help or support from someone, so, you can not possibly understand the root of this sort of gratitude

What I want to know, is why you think your opinion should matter when nobody borrowed money from you to give another person a gift. If you don't want to appreciate people for being there for you, that is your call. Don't come on social media and start telling people what and what they should do with their money.

There are people who have helped me in my time of need that till tomorrow, if I can give them a Range Rover, I will give them.

Then someone like you will come online and start saying I owe such people nothing, is it your owe?

perfectface:
can you give birth? Mr. Intelligent. Why is owning up to responsibility so frightening that u resort to insults. The Bible that said you should till the ground is it obsolete? Real men don't keep their necks stuck in a woman's purse monitoring how much she makes, lazy men do. You provide and she manages what you have given her for the home. U want to keep your balls and ego yet are running away from your role as the head and provider. Mr discovery, were is your patent? What are u know for?

LarryBeryl:


You are one of the few smart babes I have ever countered on nairaland spotting the confusion surrounding relationship goals given your spot on notes without raining insults on the OP. But I feel the op dropped that based on the excess expectation of rewarding something that does not compulsory call for one. It can be necessary to do so if a man feel to do so but not on a compulsory level as babes now expect it to be.

Mariinee:
School is good. My phone spoilt and I lost your number. Do you still have mine?

zicoraads:
Why do guys think it normal to 'reward' ladies who dated them when they were not rich? I don't get it, was she doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you?

It has become commonplace to read about rewards, car gifts especially, purchased by guys as rewards for ladies who they were in a relationship with when they were poor. I think in constantly doing that, guys are making it look abnormal, the idea, that a lady is supposed to stick with her man, come rain or shine.

She wasn't doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you. No one is doing you a favour by being in one with you now. Whether it ended or not, you owe her nothing for that period the both of you were dating.

Guys should stop making it seem like dating a particular lady is a privilege they don't deserve.

Funkybabee:
Some men are just a disgrace! I will keep saying it broke men full nairaland, can't you see such question

Funkybabee:
An opportunity for lady here to know what they will choose here if at all they are in a relationship with someone here!!!


I cry for that lady that will marry that stupid post before me

Funkybabee:
An opportunity for lady here to know what they will choose here if at all they are in a relationship with someone here

yettymuse:
Just look at what we were talking about today o


I pity babes that wants to 'struggle' with a broke dude! I tell any babe that cares to listen, you ain't doing him any favor patching up with his status. Not tomorrow he blows and you're biting your fingers and lamenting how you stood by him through thick and thin, how you suffered with him, madam which kain yeye suffer??

You help am carry ponpon?? Abi you help am do alabaru??

Bitch get over with yourself! Dude only used you to relieve mental stress and you also enjoyed it while it lasted.
What stops you from breaking boundaries and building an empire yourself instead of waiting for a 'joint' effort, wasting your time and losing all your body counts ontop 'e go better'

Atink una don read this topic now, make e clear for una eyes o!

I can't date a broke dude! I can't 'struggle' with a broke dude either. I'm too busy building my empire to start shit from scratch with any body! Make your money, I make my money and we fix an exotic date at SUCCESS CUISINES!

Iamgrey5:
oh sorry about that, Yes I do, are you still on watsapp ?

zicoraads:
Why do guys think it normal to 'reward' ladies who dated them when they were not rich? I don't get it, was she doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you?

It has become commonplace to read about rewards, car gifts especially, purchased by guys as rewards for ladies who they were in a relationship with when they were poor. I think in constantly doing that, guys are making it look abnormal, the idea, that a lady is supposed to stick with her man, come rain or shine.

She wasn't doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you. No one is doing you a favour by being in one with you now. Whether it ended or not, you owe her nothing for that period the both of you were dating.

Guys should stop making it seem like dating a particular lady is a privilege they don't deserve.

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PLEASE I'M NOT HEAD AND PROVIDER. I DON'T MAKE ANY DECISIONS ALONE BECAUSE YOUR SHITTY BIBLE SAYS THAT. YOU SAY YOUR BIBLE SAID I SHOULD TILL GROUND.. DO YOU THINK I SHOULD OBEY YOUR BIBLE? I MEAN, EVERY PART OF THE BIBLE?
IF I'M TO OBEY YOUR BIBLE..
I'LL OBEY THE PART THAT ASKS ME TO TILL GROUND AND OWN YOU AS MY SLAVE.
I'LL OBEY THE PART THAT SAYS NON VIRGINS SHOULD BE EXECUTED. THE PART THAT ENCOURAGES ME TO RAPE ANY GIRL OF MY CHOICE AND PAY OFF HER FATHER IF HE FINDS OUT. YOUR BIBLE IS SHĮT SO I CAN'T LIVE BY IT'S WORD.

SO OUR PARENTS, YOURS AND MINE SPONSORED US IN SCHOOL FOR MORE THAN 20 YEARS SO THAT WHEN WE BOTH GRADUATE YOU'LL BECOME MY RESPONSIBILITY?

SO YOU MUST BE SOMEONE'S RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL YOUR LIFE.. AS A CHILD YOU WERE YOUR PARENTS RESPONSIBILITY. NOW AS A FULL GROWN ADULT HUMAN YOU STILL WANT TO BE SOMEONE'S RESPONSIBILITY. EVEN BABIES DON'T CRAVE FOR CARE AND ATTENTION LIKE MANY ADULT WOMEN. I'VE SEEN MOTHERS GETTING ANGRY THAT THEIR HUSBAND'S GIVING THEIR LITTLE CHILD ALL THE ATTENTION HE'S SUPPOSED TO GIVE HER.


WOMEN WANT RESPECT AND EQUALITY. BUT STILL EXPECT MEN TO PAY THE BILLS AND "BE THE HEAD". THAT IS NONSENSE.

I'M NOT A HEAD AND I'M NOT A PROVIDER. CALL IT ANYTHING YOU WANT BUT I'LL RATHER TAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER WITH MY PARTNER THAN FIT INTO YOUR SOCIETAL AND RELIGIOUS BOX.

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STICK AROUND DOING WHAT? CONTRIBUTING TO A MAN'S GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT OR EXTORTING FROM HIM WHILE THREATENING TO LEAVE HIM FOR SOMEONE BETTER?
PLEASE.




IT'S FUNNY THOUGH. GIFTS AND ENDLESS PRAISES FOR STICKING WITH ME WHEN I HAD NOTHING? LOL. I HAD NOTHING BUT I PAY FOR YOUR HAIR AND SUB. I GOT YOU HANDOUTS AND CLOTHES AND SOMETIMES ADDED TO YOUR SCHOOL FEES AND ENSURED YOU FED WELL. I'M NOT THE PERSON WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE SAYING THANK YOU, WHEN ALL YOU DID WAS PLACE ME IN CHARGE OF YOUR SURVIVAL.


2 BROKE PEOPLE. STRUGGLING TO MAKE MONEY.
AFTER SOME TIME THE MAN GETS A SOURCE OF GETTING MONEY..
THE WOMAN SHOULD CONGRATULATE AND CELEBRATE THE MAN FOR BEING A BETTER ADULT AND STEPPING UP TO ACHIEVE SOMETHING WHEN ALL SHE DID IN THE PREVIOUS YEARS WAS LAY AROUND, FOLLOW FASHION TRENDS AND ENGAGE WITH OTHER TOASTERS ON FACEBOOK PRAYING THAT ONE OF THEM WOULD CONVINCE HER TO ABANDON HER BOYFRIEND.

NOBODY IS IRREPLACEABLE. PERSONALLY I'VE GONE THROUGH A LOT TO REALIZE STRESSING TOO MUCH OVER PEOPLE IS NOT WORTH IT. THEY GON LEAVE YOUR SORRY ASŚ JUST THE WAY THEY CAME.
I CAN'T BE THANKING ANYONE FOR BEING WITH ME IF I CANNOT FIND THE POSITIVITY THEY ADDED TO MY LIFE.

IT'S QUITE LAUGHABLE THAT COOKING, CLEANING, AND SEX ARE WHAT SOME PEOPLE COUNT AS CONTRIBUTIONS TO A MAN'S LIFE WHEN HE WAS BROKE.
IF THAT'S ALL YOU'RE GETTING FROM YOUR PARTNER THEN YOU'RE LOSING NIL TO ONE MILLION.

eezeribe:
I agree with you 100 %...
Such men are actually encouraging the gold digging instincts in women.
They are actually making it look like women should only love men who are rich ...
They are unwittingly negating the essence of true love...
I SEE SUCH MEN AS REEKING OF LOW SELF ESTEEM.

delishpot:




Yinmu, as if you will love and cherish her as a wife if she doesnt play her wifely role as a home maker in that marriage. If a woman tells you that she deserves respect as a wife and mother without playing those roles to her husband and children will you not say she was dreaming?

Why then is it a problem if a woman also

demands that you do due delligence as the man of the house to recieve your respect and honour as the head? All these small boys sef. Hahahaha. They can make demands for whatever fancies their brains but dont want to be asked to do anything in return.

Do you want to grow up to be a useless father and husband? I cant even imagine responding to your next chewing gum rant you will call reply. Chai! Who is breeding all these komkom overgrown babies we call males in naija?

That mentality of yours is what useless dads have.

Iamgrey5:
Don't read too much meaning to what people write or say on the social media.....

fancy4eve:
Dat show how ungrateful u are.....u really need 2 change ur mind set, learn 2 appreciate odas more especially does dat stuck on u Wen u had notn.

perfectface:
Oh! Pardon my assumptions that you read my awesome bible.

Funkybabee:


Hmm its might be truth in some area,don't u think so

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WHAT ABOUT THE PEOPLE I STuCK TO WHEN THEY HAD NOTHING?
HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT THAT I TOO, MUST TO BE COMPENSATED AND APPRECIATED?
OR IT ONLY WORKS IF I'M A WOMAN?
I DON'T UNDERSTAND.

Funkybabee:



Hmm its might be truth in some area,don't u think so

Iamgrey5:
No I don't necessarily think it is the truth in some areas.

I believe we shouldn't always judge a book by its covers