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Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Nobody: 6:49am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by livingseed: 6:49am On Jul 20, 2018 |
People who marry from same tribe or religion still get depressed, have social problems, are often greedy, still feel unhappy and all the rest. "You're making a mistake!" they say. On what? It's obviously not going to provide any special real fullfillment or permanent closure to marriage issues. It's very unwise to glorify religion and tribe. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by derrydinny: 6:50am On Jul 20, 2018 |
donstan18:you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Biglittlelois(f): 6:50am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Ukalejohn: Mehn, the religion thing is even worse but truth be told it's kind of difficult to be with someone with diff thought process and mindset. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Nobody: 6:52am On Jul 20, 2018 |
No try religion at all at all. Muslim marry Muslim, Christian marry Christian 6 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by shox(m): 6:53am On Jul 20, 2018 |
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Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by DonroxyII: 6:55am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Marriage is meant for Man and Woman not Boys and Girls !!! 1 Like |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Creamyebony2017(f): 6:55am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Well said�� |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by eluquenson(m): 6:56am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Sincerely, that's how it happens in the society we found ourselves. Our forefathers have laid down a bad precedent. I can recall a lady I tried to hook up with a guy who happens to be an ebira guy from kogi. She just cut the story short that her parent doesn't want her to marry ebira. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Johnbullirabor7(m): 6:57am On Jul 20, 2018 |
My ex-fiancee's family rejected me because am a pastor.The father of the girl told me that he won't approve o f the marriage because pastots don't have money,that I can't take care 5 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by dopemama(f): 6:57am On Jul 20, 2018 |
If u want ur in laws to hate you! Marry their breadwinner!... African proverb! 29 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Nobody: 6:59am On Jul 20, 2018 |
These things are real. Some of the advice are better followed than marry and looking to divorce afterward. Lets not deceive ourself a strong muslim cannot succesfully live with a strong Christian. 12 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by madridguy(m): 6:59am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Funny but true dopemama: 2 Likes |
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Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by subtlemee(f): 7:03am On Jul 20, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica: No matter how strict they are they'll grudgingly get rid of you 3 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by JamesIkosong(m): 7:05am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Don't struggle alone when there's someone to help out. |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by babyfaceafrica: 7:05am On Jul 20, 2018 |
subtlemee:lolz..that is if they are poor..the rih don't care |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by chillychill(f): 7:06am On Jul 20, 2018 |
baddosky1: Yimu even if he is richer than dangote walahi my papa will send d both of em out either stylishly or annoyingly. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by darefams: 7:06am On Jul 20, 2018 |
ibadan girls truly like money too much. they can run u dry and still be looking for someone better. But truth must be said, we have too many issues in our cultures and traditions. too many believes. I remember well, my aunt once told me never to marry anyone from ogun state, that the girls are very fetish, i ended up loosing a very good and promising lady and went for one skinny ibadan babe, my brother, after spending so much, doing all my best to make things work, three years relationship, she just find one excuse to leave so she could find another dummy who will be spending on her. bros, i nearly cry. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by BabbanBura(m): 7:11am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Priscy01: Very true my Brother but it all depends on us either to take this shit or not. When my mum started seeing girls outside her spec visiting me, together with her husband started shame-calling the girls' tribes, family history or region. I had to surmon the both of them for a meeting where i made it clear that the sentiment shit they are talking about can not and does not apply to me. Whoever and whereever my love is and come from provided we are of same religious and personal ideology - boom! i will wife her. They started justifying their concerns to the extent of saying "the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know". I said "Mum, Dad, i am no marrying any devil, worst case if i know she is one. I will take my chances at finding that angel i do not know". Case close, no one pressures me anymore. One of the very reasons many buckle to this balckmail is fear of being cut off from the family. Go and succeed, damn them respectfully, and na them go come look for you later. Don't worry about that dream exotic wedding you want them to sponsor, you can do that much later when they come back to you. Cheers 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by omojeesu(m): 7:12am On Jul 20, 2018 |
donstan18: Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by aureen: 7:13am On Jul 20, 2018 |
dopemama: Words. |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by omojeesu(m): 7:14am On Jul 20, 2018 |
BabbanBura: Thank You! |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by tiredoflife(m): 7:15am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Entitlement mentality of ladies too has ruined more unions 1 Like |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by desoul2004(m): 7:16am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Clonus: You're absolutely correct. |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by histemple: 7:19am On Jul 20, 2018 |
donstan18: From your comment, I assume you may not be married. Your assertion is not totally correct. You must realize that marriage involves two people. Many marriages broken as a result of third party interference, has never been the fault of BOTH couple. Imagine where the wife is always been controlled by the mother. So, can you blame the breakdown of such a marriage in the man? Only very few ladies whose mothers are alive, are able to ward off the cord of control. Most see it as their mother being too caring about them. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by livinbygrace: 7:20am On Jul 20, 2018 |
post=69538593: Igbo girls are more tribalistic than the Yorubas.You still have many Yoruba girls getting married to Ibo men,but hardly you see an Igbo girls getting married to a Yoruba man except he is rich.They tagged them Onfemanu.So mentioning Yoruba girls in such comments is meaningless and unrealistic 6 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Eketem: 7:20am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Be a sane and rational person and marry a sane and rational spouse. These things only happen with couples who seek validation from others. Discuss the difficult details before marriage, finance, in laws, number of kids, cost sharing for bills, house chores etc. Don't assume, if you have questions ask, be clear about what you are getting into. You and your spouse are going to be team mates, it is for two of you two to be on the same page and succeed not all those meddlesome family members. The sad part is in laws who turn a husband into a cash machine and those who constantly seek to humiliate the wife by turning her into a help. A modern couple should discuss these things and resolve them. I rejected a nice prospective spouse whose mother was rude to me because I couldn't live all my life walking on egg shells. People should be bold enough to stand their grounds on some issues before they marry 4 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by sisisioge: 7:20am On Jul 20, 2018 |
We are all guilty...we subconsciously raise walls when the tribe not preferred comes along 3 Likes |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by Irewa: 7:21am On Jul 20, 2018 |
Its really funny, i had this girlfriend that was a Jehovah's withness, I was ready to GI to the ends if the earth just to be with her but she said she couldn't, why? I'm a Jehovah's withness and you're not, my parents will kill me she said. |
Re: Man Writes On How Some Families Have Destroyed Marriages Of Their Loved Ones by MANNABBQGRILLS: 7:21am On Jul 20, 2018 |
livinbygrace:It could be vice versa also. And that was actually a quite from the story. But we do respect your view and opinion. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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