jessca048:
I think the both of you were rude to each other. when an unknown number messages me after responding to the hellos and greeting the next question I ask is pls can I know who am chatting with

you made a point she was suppose too respond to the greeting first before asking who is this and the guy also should have let it pass since it was a blind introduction........ Because according too falz this is nigeria

I must be rude as well because I ask same question

egorov:
So a friend of mine came to greet me at work today, a female friend....we were gisting and all this morning, then I went through her gallery and saw her friend's picture. I asked her to talk to that her friend if I can have her contact. She did immediately and the lady asked her to give me her contact.

Few moments later I messaged her on WhatsApp , she was so rude with her response.

I have a copy of the chat here, but the main reason why I brought the issue here is that the girl messaged my friend and was like she showed our chat to every member of her family and they all said she's not in anyway at fault. Shoo.....

Please just go through this chat and then make a conclusion out of it.

COS SHE KNOWS YOU JUST TRYNA SMASH!

Ok but to be serious, it's a bit odd if someone I don't know messages me from out the blue, she didn't need to respond to ur greeting if she doesn't know who you are. Her guard will be up.

You should have introduced urself first

Xaos:
I think you're rather impatient. Scammers have made a mockery of good meaning Nigerians so as a stranger, you're supposed to introduce yourself. That at least will make her comfortable to reply to whatever...

On a second look at her 1st response, she wasn't even rude, she asked PLS who is this? She was polite. It would have been rude if she said Who the fvck is this Or who you be

egorov:


I was there when my friend told her I was going to message her soon.
So a text from an unknown number was definitely coming in and she knew that. I'm not even concerned about her, I just think it's really ride of her to respond that way. What if it was an important life changing message someone was about giving her, she would have used her pride and ill manners to forgo it

Nigga pls. What important life-changing message comes in a WhatsApp message?

egorov:
the only thing courtesy demanded was that I greet first. Which I did.

How was I supposed to initiate the chat please.

Nawa for you op oooo! Look at the way you aggravated the situation Shu! Who are you? Simple question.... "oh my name is this and that, got your digit from your friend....etc" but instead you created a drama out of nothing! You have any idea, what she was going through at that moment? Besides what Yeye greeting were you expecting? Lol you funny sha.....
You caused this op, you should apologize! You were very rude!

The girl is Just like me Abeg OP Pass me her number?

BecaciaBarbie:

Nawa for you op oooo! Look at the way you aggravated the situation Shu! Who are you? Simple question.... "oh my name is this and that, got your digit from your friend....etc" but instead you created a drama out of nothing! You have any idea, what she was going through at that moment? Besides what Yeye greeting were you expecting? Lol you funny sha.....
You caused this op, you should apologize! You were very rude!

No mind the guy. Yes the girl was a little bit rude but the OP was annoying as Hell if na me i go block in number

egorov:
So a friend of mine came to greet me at work today, a female friend....we were gisting and all this morning, then I went through her gallery and saw her friend's picture. I asked her to talk to that her friend if I can have her contact. She did immediately and the lady asked her to give me her contact.

Few moments later I messaged her on WhatsApp , she was so rude with her response.

I have a copy of the chat here, but the main reason why I brought the issue here is that the girl messaged my friend and was like she showed our chat to every member of her family and they all said she's not in anyway at fault. Shoo.....

Please just go through this chat and then make a conclusion out of it.

I must be candid with you. Even though she was rude, I think both of you are not emotionally intelligent. Let me focus on your part. When you are chatting with someone for the first time, I think you should be very flexible and try to see things from the other person's perspective. Do you know whether many guys have been sending her unsolicited messages with the aim of having sex with her? Do you even know what she's currently passing through or her state of mind?

Besides, that's not the proper way to correct someone for the first time. Rather than acting bossy, you could have introduced yourself politely and let her realize her folly. This is not about who is right or wrong, but about who is more matured. Don't sweat it bro. We are all humans. Chat her up again and apologize for acting bossy. Doing that would make her feel guilt and respect you more.

edicied:
No mind the guy. Yes the girl was a little bit rude but the OP was annoying as Hell if na me i go block in number

Exactly! There was this period I was going through a lot...I'd have finished op and blocked him....no time loool

Thank God for Christianity..

She was obviously rude and her family members do not see her fault in it because they are birds of a feather.

But it is wrong for you to generalize because i am sure you have chatted with "Nigerian ladies" who were not rude.

SexExplorer:


I must be candid with you. Even though she was rude, I think both of you are not emotionally intelligent. Let me focus on your part. When you are chatting with someone for the first time, I think you should be very flexible and try to see things from the other person's perspective. Do you know whether many guys have been sending her unsolicited messages with the aim of having sex with her? Do you even know what she's currently passing through or her state of mind?

Besides, that's not the proper way to correct someone for the first time. Rather than acting bossy, you could have introduced yourself politely and let her realize her folly. This is not about who is right or wrong, but about who is more matured. Don't sweat it bro. We are all humans. Chat her up again and apologize for acting bossy. Doing that would make her feel guilt and respect you more.

It is wrong for her to be rude because of something she is going through or for some other person's action.

"Good afternoon" should have been responded in like manner before interrogation. It is a greeting and she should have responded before attacking him. It is common courtesy but not everyone is courteous obviously.

egorov:
So a friend of mine came to greet me at work today, a female friend....we were gisting and all this morning, then I went through her gallery and saw her friend's picture. I asked her to talk to that her friend if I can have her contact. She did immediately and the lady asked her to give me her contact.

Few moments later I messaged her on WhatsApp , she was so rude with her response.

I have a copy of the chat here, but the main reason why I brought the issue here is that the girl messaged my friend and was like she showed our chat to every member of her family and they all said she's not in anyway at fault. Shoo.....

Please just go through this chat and then make a conclusion out of it.

Lol see this man, someone asked you who is this and you say you should respond to my greeting. Not every one is going to be receptive esp me, because I deal with idiots on WhatsApp daily so I have every right to be rude if I ask who am I chatting with and you don't respond well. Though me I just don't reply she's nice though.

ImaIma1:
She was obviously rude and her family members do not see her fault in it because they are birds of a feather.

But it is wrong for you to generalize because i am sure you have chatted with "Nigerian ladies" who were not rude.

She's not rude, the guy even sounds some how , you can't tell or expect the recipient to always respond well. Life is stressful the last thing I need is a random stranger giving me stress on WhatsApp.

BecaciaBarbie:

Nawa for you op oooo! Look at the way you aggravated the situation Shu! Who are you? Simple question.... "oh my name is this and that, got your digit from your friend....etc" but instead you created a drama out of nothing! You have any idea, what she was going through at that moment? Besides what Yeye greeting were you expecting? Lol you funny sha.....
You caused this op, you should apologize! You were very rude!

He is like the arrogant, self-righteous type

pcguru1:


She's not rude, the guy even sounds some how , you can't tell or expect the recipient to always respond well. Life is stressful the last thing I need is a random stranger giving me stress on WhatsApp.

That's why they are concluding that we are all rude. You cannot expect someone to start walking on egg shells without knowing the person has a problem.

Should we even carry our issues and problems on our head so much so that we lash out at random strangers not knowing how the person can impact our lives.

I don't see any fault in the guy. He greeted and she attacked like an angry tiger. He even joked about her not answering his greeting with an emoji and she still acted like an angry person.

I am a lady and i have my issues but if someone chats me or calls me, i put my issues aside and am always polite. It is called phone etiquette and even shows that someone is well brought up. If the person now shows that he is not ok, then i can react but not before i hear him out.

BecaciaBarbie:

Nawa for you op oooo! Look at the way you aggravated the situation Shu! Who are you? Simple question.... "oh my name is this and that, got your digit from your friend....etc" but instead you created a drama out of nothing! You have any idea, what she was going through at that moment? Besides what Yeye greeting were you expecting? Lol you funny sha.....
You caused this op, you should apologize! You were very rude!

How was he rude? By greeting her or saying she should at least answer his greeting even with the sad emoticon?

Let us forget that we are ladies and be objective. Does she know what the person chatting her was going through also? If it now turned out that the person was meant to offer her a lifetime opportunity, she will now look like a fool and start apologizing like "sorry i was on my period"... " i was having a bad day"...

We meet people everyday in different ways and we should be open minded and not sit like a tiger waiting to pounce on someone that has not offended us.

Respond to greetings and give a listening ear first.

egorov:
So a friend of mine came to greet me at work today, a female friend....we were gisting and all this morning, then I went through her gallery and saw her friend's picture. I asked her to talk to that her friend if I can have her contact. She did immediately and the lady asked her to give me her contact.

Few moments later I messaged her on WhatsApp , she was so rude with her response.

I have a copy of the chat here, but the main reason why I brought the issue here is that the girl messaged my friend and was like she showed our chat to every member of her family and they all said she's not in anyway at fault. Shoo.....

Please just go through this chat and then make a conclusion out of it.

This sounds like a case of starting off o the wrong foot. Happens all the time. You can still try again.

amaniro:
You too were rude


you should not have said that. Courtesy also demand that you introduce yourself formally to her, tell her where and how you got her contact. Simple.


BTW Nigerian girls are extremely rude. True.

After he finishes explaining himself, she'll then reply with 'K'. So, what next?

ImaIma1:


It is wrong for her to be rude because of something she is going through or for some other person's action.

"Good afternoon" should have been responded in like manner before interrogation. It is a greeting and she should have responded before attacking him. It is common courtesy but not everyone is courteous obviously.

I wonder oo , a normal response from her should be good afternoon , pls who is this ? I find it hilarious some people are justifying her immaturity. And not everyone wants to Bleep you , it could actually be a message to inquire or talk about something important

egorov:
the only thing courtesy demanded was that I greet first. Which I did.

How was I supposed to initiate the chat please.

you were brash and impatient. she wasn't courteous enough with her reply.

a simple hi, good afternoon. my name is bla bla and I got your number from bla bla would suffice. but you just greeted her. you have no idea what her mood was at that point in time, whether she was having a bad day and all. you went and created a thread about how rude lagos girls are with one experience. if you introduced yourself properly and she still gave you that response, then I can say she's rude and lacks manner of approach.

you my brother, you goofed as well. don't lay all the blame on her.

egorov:
So a friend of mine came to greet me at work today, a female friend....we were gisting and all this morning, then I went through her gallery and saw her friend's picture. I asked her to talk to that her friend if I can have her contact. She did immediately and the lady asked her to give me her contact.

Few moments later I messaged her on WhatsApp , she was so rude with her response.

I have a copy of the chat here, but the main reason why I brought the issue here is that the girl messaged my friend and was like she showed our chat to every member of her family and they all said she's not in anyway at fault. Shoo.....

Please just go through this chat and then make a conclusion out of it.

My mum wanted to look for a wife for my brother. She messaged the one he just dated and the one he is dating. The one he dated previously answered well with respect eve though she did not know it was my mum that was chatting with her while the one he is dating was so rude. My mum had to tell her later that she is So so's mum. The girl was now begging. Even all our family members do not like the girl he is dating at that time. Now,he is no more dating her but the girl he previously dated.

Xaos:
I think you're rather impatient. Scammers have made a mockery of good meaning Nigerians so as a stranger, you're supposed to introduce yourself. That at least will make her comfortable to reply to whatever...

But I have chatted with people I don't know but got their number from someone and they don't behave like this. What is rude is rude,no other definition for that.

There is really no point acting like the weight of the world is on ones shoulder , a simple greeting should be reciprocated no matter what , it has done you no harm , you should be smart enough to figure out scammers and time wasters which can easily be blocked or ignored , there is no justification for acting like a wounded tiger all in the name of bad mood . Life is not that hard we make it harder for ourselves

Op,you so wrong man,instead just type ...hello babes whats good your name then tell her you have money..bros by now na you go dey run.

ImaIma1:


How was he rude? By greeting her or saying she should at least answer his greeting even with the sad emoticon?

Let us forget that we are ladies and be objective. Does she know what the person chatting her was going through also? If it now turned out that the person was meant to offer her a lifetime opportunity, she will now look like a fool and start apologizing like "sorry i was on my period"... " i was having a bad day"...

We meet people everyday in different ways and we should be open minded and not sit like a tiger waiting to pounce on someone that has not offended us.

Respond to greetings and give a listening ear first.

Thanks a lot. I don't know why some people are justifying her actions. Someone said she knows I only want to smash, that's where the problem lies, most of you think it's all guys that drop their senses and ego when they see a pretty lady they want to have anything to do with. I don't think with my dickkk. The fact that I like you doesn't stop me from telling you what you're doing wrong. Call it impatience or whatever, that lady was rude with her response, I would have taken it in if I picked her number off somewhere or something, she was told, she gave the go ahead for her number to be shared, so why was she acting up? Well, like I said earlier, I brought it here for opinions, after she said her whole family members didn't see anything wrong in what she did.

columbus007:
Op,you so wrong man,instead just type ...hello babes whats good your name then tell her you have money..bros by now na you go dey run.

this money issue sha

NotAZombie:

My mum wanted to look for a wife for my brother. She messaged the one he just dated and the one he is dating. The one he dated previously answered well with respect eve though she did not know it was my mum that was chatting with her while the one he is dating was so rude. My mum had to tell her later that she is So so's mum. The girl was now begging. Even all our family members do not like the girl he is dating at that time. Now,he is no more dating her but the girl he previously dated.

See this now. The kind of work I do ehn, even if MTN call me, I go pick lol. But really, you never can tell, that strange number might be a live saver for u.

amaniro:


Simple. Girls hate when unknown numbers text them. So you should have given her all necessary information.

Why should they hate new number texting them?


Why you or other guys doesn't hate it?



The girl is rude unnecessarily topical of nigeria ladies.



Someone said good morning you reply good morning before asking further question.

ImaIma1:
She was obviously rude and her family members do not see her fault in it because they are birds of a feather.

But it is wrong for you to generalize because i am sure you have chatted with "Nigerian ladies" who were not rude.

true. That's why I used d word some

Rudeness is merely the expression of fear. People fear they won’t get what they want. The most dreadful and unattractive person only needs to be loved, and they will open up like a flower.... Kings Emmanuel

The guy is not rude to her in any way. What happens to "good afternoon, may I know u pls". The girl is just manner less and I guess she's either a teenager or in her early 20s, such attitude is more common among this age group