Samiat22:

Am usually the type to keep my relationship issues to myself but I just have to let this out, it’s eating me up.
I have been dating this guy since 2010 during university days till date. I am 24 and presently a Corper. I haven’t dated a lot of guys so he is like everything about relationships I know. Although there has been a few breakups in between, somehow we find ourselves back together. I have been through thick and thin with this guy. When there is zero Naira to when there is a few bucks to spend (he spends all on himself by the way). I do not know what being pampered feels like. I do everything by myself.
Make my hair, buy my clothes etc. I am used to struggling by taking up part time jobs/internships to buy the things i want and thankfully God has been kind to me. He says he loves me and cannot do without me but I think he is wicked and self centered. I now even forget I have a boyfriend when am in some kind of financial situation. It is that bad. Sometimes I ask myself what I am doing with this bloke but still, I have being optimistic things will get better and I would enjoy with him in the future.
So he got a job, an alright pay and I was happy at least not because I expect him to spend everything on me, but because I now have a shoulder to lean on when I need financial help. Well, that is not the case. Whenever I ask for little sums just to do one or two things, he gets angry and complains terribly how he has bills here and there. Most times, he doesn’t even want to hear what my request is about. He just shuts me up. Even when I ask for a loan, I get same excuses.
In 6 months if I ask him for money twice, I get once and a quarter of the amount. I get very disapointed because I am reasonable, considerate and I do not ask for money where there is none. He doesn’t do anything for me, never bought me a gift, never interested in my ideas but he does everything for his sisters and buys them 12,000 Naira body cream.
Relationship is not because of money some people will say but I believe in sharing with your partner. I have supported him in my own little way when things got really bad. I don’t know why he gets the way gets when I bring up the issue of money. This is one amongst other things I have to tolerate in the relationship.
I am really fed up and I don’t mind breaking up with him because of this money issue. I believe he is not going to change even if he has all the millions in he world. I don’t know how i fell in love with this guy and he is already talking about marriage.
I need your help guys….

go and work,stop depending on men

Wasn't expecting people to support him though, as for me, I can't date a guy for 8 good years without a penny dropping, like pls, what do I look like to you? But you can come to me when you are financially unstable

Somebody cannot ask for advice in peace again..... Can't you guys just pass your message without abusing her.... Smh

Samiat22:

Wasn't expecting people to support him though, as for me, I can't date a guy for 8 good years without a penny dropping, like pls, what do I look like to you? But you can come to me when you are financially unstable

The guy no value you.8 good years?

JjBankys:
go and work,stop depending on men

Read the story well, no one is depending on anyone, for 8 years no penny dropped why na?Mfunny enough she makes her own money to still look attractive for the stingy guy

DanDeeBoss:
Somebody cannot ask for advice in peace again..... Can't you guys just pass your message without abusing her.... Smh

Please oo help me

EzeIgboNwaChukwu:
relationship isn't an occupation. it's not obvious you both would get married as you'll still abandon him for a More richer guy since you girls are always dumb so the guy is actually doing it right cos I can't spend a kobo on any Biitch all in the name of relationship when you don't even have anything to offer asides from your organ of fornication.
buying 12,000 naira creams for his sisters is none of your business. that's his family and he needs to take care of them while you're a stranger hiding under the guise of dating.
break up with him and see who loses.

You are going off track, the bitch that he has been dating for 8 years, the bitch that he runs to when he is financially down, the bitch that bleeps him plsss say something else

Free d asshole, let him go. U deserve better!

Samiat22:



Read the story well, no one is depending on anyone, for 8 years no penny dropped why na?Mfunny enough she makes her own money to still look attractive for the stingy guy

how can you be dating someone for 8long yrs.? .

Liliyann:
That guy doesn't value you!!
This is one of the reasons that I can't date struggling guys!!!
You need to be with someone that values you!!!
Someone that is crazy about you!!
Someone that is ready to spend his last dime to prove his love for you!!
Real men don't wait for their girl to ask before giving them, they spend willingly and happily!!!
Call me a gold digger but I don't care, my happiness comes first in everything, Financial security is one of the things that makes me happy!!!

Tiri gbosa for you. GBOSA! GBOSA!! GBOSA!!!

Samiat22:



Read the story well, no one is depending on anyone, for 8 years no penny dropped why na?Mfunny enough she makes her own money to still look attractive for the stingy guy

Attractive for the guy abi attractive for herself?

Shior!

DWJOBScom:
The word here is support not carry all the bills.

The dude should show concern , get gifts , loan her some money when requested etc.

Such guys the moment they meet the lady they like they spend more than their salary self

Pay back loan? Woman?

I laugh in Buhari!

In any case this story is fake. OP is just an attention seeker.

Samiat22:

Wasn't expecting people to support him though, as for me, I can't date a guy for 8 good years without a penny dropping, like pls, what do I look like to you? But you can come to me when you are financially unstable

don't mind them, don't break up with him please, and don't ask him for money either, just free him in your mind.... and start allowing other guys pamper you... you deserve happiness... that guy is not it, you just described my ex.... he was always running to me for financial assistance, but never helped me out... very stingy guy, he only gives me birthday gifts sha, that his sister pays for or pick for him, to go buy me gift hard am.... and I do buy him lots of thoughtful gift..... he told me specifically he can never pamper me..... I had to let him go, it's better to be single than to be in such relationship, let me kuku do everything thing myself......he doesn't deserve your loyalty... find happiness wherever u can get it since he is not willing to give you

Susu888:
Lets say relationship is not an occupation like most people r blaming her for.... but even to loan her(not dash her O”) to loan her money is a biggy for this guy?? The mofo is stingy as fvck i swear! Later on him go dey complain if she no allow him browse... abi na him mama pussy? Or did he inherit her that common sweet gesture nd money favours go dey hard for him? Wicked Idiot! Na men like him dey tarnish our image. Jst imagine

I don't know if you have been dating in Nigeria but most women (esp if they're dating you) don't pay back loans. The guy sounds like a guy-man to me. You can't scam a guy-man. The true way to test if a man is responsible is by checking if he takes care of his family. The man described by the OP is responsible.

And in any case, this OP is notorious for concocting fictional tales to rile people up.

ruggedtimi:
your write up is good. Well i believe the guy belongs to "spend your money on sister and mother's gang".

hmm i love this gang.

Samiat22:



Read the story well, no one is depending on anyone, for 8 years no penny dropped why na?Mfunny enough she makes her own money to still look attractive for the stingy guy

idiot

she doesn't have parent abi

I just pity girls like u

nah ur type bf dey beat but u no fit leave because of money...

You must be joker if u think she will pay back they loan,, for me there must be a reason for all this, there is something she is not telling us,,am not buying this story.

Susu888:
Lets say relationship is not an occupation like most people r blaming her for.... but even to loan her(not dash her O”) to loan her money is a biggy for this guy?? The mofo is stingy as fvck i swear! Later on him go dey complain if she no allow him browse... abi na him mama pussy? Or did he inherit her that common sweet gesture nd money favours go dey hard for him? Wicked Idiot! Na men like him dey tarnish our image. Jst imagine

Have you ever bought him a gift? Ever taken him out? Given him money?

All this super story sef. You registered yday and you already have 3 topics talking about the same boyfriend BS. Ogbeni goan play.

Samiat22:

Am usually the type to keep my relationship issues to myself but I just have to let this out, it’s eating me up.
I have been dating this guy since 2010 during university days till date. I am 24 and presently a Corper. I haven’t dated a lot of guys so he is like everything about relationships I know. Although there has been a few breakups in between, somehow we find ourselves back together. I have been through thick and thin with this guy. When there is zero Naira to when there is a few bucks to spend (he spends all on himself by the way). I do not know what being pampered feels like. I do everything by myself.
Make my hair, buy my clothes etc. I am used to struggling by taking up part time jobs/internships to buy the things i want and thankfully God has been kind to me. He says he loves me and cannot do without me but I think he is wicked and self centered. I now even forget I have a boyfriend when am in some kind of financial situation. It is that bad. Sometimes I ask myself what I am doing with this bloke but still, I have being optimistic things will get better and I would enjoy with him in the future.
So he got a job, an alright pay and I was happy at least not because I expect him to spend everything on me, but because I now have a shoulder to lean on when I need financial help. Well, that is not the case. Whenever I ask for little sums just to do one or two things, he gets angry and complains terribly how he has bills here and there. Most times, he doesn’t even want to hear what my request is about. He just shuts me up. Even when I ask for a loan, I get same excuses.
In 6 months if I ask him for money twice, I get once and a quarter of the amount. I get very disapointed because I am reasonable, considerate and I do not ask for money where there is none. He doesn’t do anything for me, never bought me a gift, never interested in my ideas but he does everything for his sisters and buys them 12,000 Naira body cream.
Relationship is not because of money some people will say but I believe in sharing with your partner. I have supported him in my own little way when things got really bad. I don’t know why he gets the way gets when I bring up the issue of money. This is one amongst other things I have to tolerate in the relationship.
I am really fed up and I don’t mind breaking up with him because of this money issue. I believe he is not going to change even if he has all the millions in he world. I don’t know how i fell in love with this guy and he is already talking about marriage.
I need your help guys….

Sister u r his side chick.. trust me in this RUN. Start from today.....run

Madmoizelle:



Jog on, little one.

Leave that guy. Though I don't support lady taking money as priority in relationship but from what the lady wrote up there,the boyfriend is super stingy.

so funny

Am not concerned abt the story, what bothers me is d fact that u were in school in 2010, but u re currently serving, u watch two world Cup for school con add 2 years for school, what happened na sister? Maybe Dts Wat is frustrating him abt u.

That aside, a guy who has money ND never thinks of his lady when he wants to spend, is not a guy, I know dere re times a guy could be broke, bt being broke is no excuse for being stingy, sometimes u need to spend, no matter how little, ND mind u do not put ur mind on what he spends on his family, cos the truth is dt a guy who is from a good family will cherish is family far more Dan any gf, do not discourage him from doing dt or complain dt he gives his family bt nt u, it will provoke him, cos most family struggle to ensure dier kid is successful, it won't be fair dt after he made it, he becomes a mumu for love. So rather Dan complaining of how he spends on his family, try remind him sometimes when he has nt sent his family things, d guy would be surprised, eventually he will see u as his family ND nt someone competing with his family, he would even send u to give em, he will be like "abeg help me give dis 10k to my mama, use dis 15k to buy Wat u need"

Liliyann:
That guy doesn't value you!!
This is one of the reasons that I can't date struggling guys!!!
You need to be with someone that values you!!!
Someone that is crazy about you!!
Someone that is ready to spend his last dime to prove his love for you!!
Real men don't wait for their girl to ask before giving them, they spend willingly and happily!!!
Call me a gold digger but I don't care, my happiness comes first in everything, Financial security is one of the things that makes me happy!!!

My dear, you might end up regretting marrying someone that is not prudent in spending. By that time your brain will reset. I have millions in my account and i dont spent dime on women. If she is not reasonable enough to know that relationship isn't only about spending, then i'm sorry for her.

highqueen:
Hmmmm.
I think he is being wicked and doesn't consider you worthy to spend for.
He's got other chicks he is using the money on.
You see why I said never date a broke guy

To each his own shaa

don't my the guy joor,he is a very stingy and greedy person. just look at how the males are supporting his greedy acts.

broke rats everywhere

DaddyNimo:

oga sorry to say o, u don't have plenty sense... u wan loan gf money? them tell u say gf dey ever return loan? olodo girls for Don maga u wella with loan o lolzzz my dear you're into the relationship for money, you just wanna come here and sound like a good responsible girl. he buys cream of 12k for his sisters, you no get broda to do same for u? u be orphan? your papa travel go moon? see dis one o, she even dey threat to break up....break up na, he tie your destiny? my friend get faq out of here with ur broke ass....dont go and think about how you will get job, be looking for bf that will be giving u money there.

You're a real G my brother I swear you no talk lie. I could recall vividly back then in campus when my GF asked me to loan her my 20k she found in my room while sweeping one morning. This 20k took me complete 2months with hard labor serving mesin from one site to another before I could save up to that amount and na generator I want use the money buy ooh due to light issue we dey get for my area. I politely told her the purpose of the money and why I can't loan her. omo could you believe this girl broke up with me because of it? E pain me oh! but I gats move on with my life Nwa! Some girls are just unreasonable

ogasharpsharp:

Attractive for the guy abi attractive for herself?
Shior!

I tire oh! Useless Girls​ don too plenty for this country!

The guy is neither WICKED nor STINGY. I believe he's just being PRUDENT with his finances. After all he has siblings to take care of. I share the same principle with your man. If you ask my wife today, she would gladly tell you that I had a similar behaviour before we got married. Now she gets almost everything as a wife than when she was just a girlfriend. I promised myself when I was young, that I no go do NYSC for any babe o. Please bear with him if you still wish to remain in the relationship.

virgoquin:
don't my the guy joor,he is a very stingy and greedy person. just look at how the males are supporting his greedy acts.

broke rats everywhere

Point of correction: That someone is stingy does not mean he is broke.

I don't understand nl women. I always see feminism branded here. Why can't you be independent and take care of yourself just as guys do ?. If a guy should spend on you let it come from his own mind.No man owes you anything. Women are always concerned with what a guy is earning, what he can do for him. I don't know where this entitlement mentality comes from. Is relationship an occupation? And if you don't date, you can stay on your own... no be by force.They make it look like they are doing guys a favor by dating them.

Liliyann:
That guy doesn't value you!!
This is one of the reasons that I can't date struggling guys!!!
You need to be with someone that values you!!!
Someone that is crazy about you!!
Someone that is ready to spend his last dime to prove his love for you!!
Real men don't wait for their girl to ask before giving them, they spend willingly and happily!!!
Call me a gold digger but I don't care, my happiness comes first in everything, Financial security is one of the things that makes me happy!!!

ijiot!!!

Liliyann:
[s]That guy doesn't value you!!
This is one of the reasons that I can't date struggling guys!!!
You need to be with someone that values you!!!
Someone that is crazy about you!!
Someone that is ready to spend his last dime to prove his love for you!!
Real men don't wait for their girl to ask before giving them, they spend willingly and happily!!!
Call me a gold digger but I don't care, my happiness comes first in everything, Financial security is one of the things that makes me happy [/s]!!!

broke frustrated old ass bastard'

Twizzy30:
hmm i love this gang.

the gang dope die. I'm proud to belong to this category tho