goodhairdiary:


I'll really love that

What do you have in mind? Indoor or outdoor for eg?

How many guests?
Self catering or outsourced?

Any theme in mind?

babythug:


Here are some tips:


Food
Jollof rice
Fried rice
Chicken/meat/turkey/fish
Moin moin
Plantain/ Salad

Optional Meals
Yam pottage
Pounded yam and vegetables
Ofada rice and sauce
Beans and plantain

Drinks
Soft drinks
Juice
Malt
Caprisonne/ Ribena (for the children)
Bottled water

Entertainment
Music- Can be provided by yourself or a DJ
Games - You can organise stuff like dancing competition, musical chairs, statue or you can use an MC


Additional

You will need to give the children party packs content will be as your purse dictates- assorted/variety of biscuits, sweets, chocolates, packed drinks, small toys, exercise book, stationery, plastic cup and/or plate. Check lagos market you will see all sorts of wosiwosi to fill the bags

You may have a theme and decorate the place with banners and balloons from the theme or colours you choose

You need a reliable and good photographer or arrange with a family member or friend who can get/has a good camera.

Small chops/Chapman. Or just fry yam chips and serve with pepper sauce. People- Adults will eat it while gisting if well packaged . Puff puff too is a good idea!

Cake(s). This will depend on theme and budget.


General Tips

Ensure the food is on point whether being catered or you are cooking yourself.

Make sure you have back up stew with chicken in your kitchen somewhere, if food finishes due to a large turn out you simply boil rice and serve.

Arrange for extra meaty products too- reason highlighted above.

The children may require biscuits and drink on arrival before food is served. Ensure you have extra.

You will need prizes for winners of the games.

Take the family portraits early before things get rowdy.

Good luck and hope this helps

Graced2018 you may find this helpful!

I just found this thread, and I've read through. Married with two kids, boy 6 and girl 4. I've learnt a few tips, like watching news together as a family.

My kids go to bed 8:30pm, but I let them be during weekends. I will adopt the idea of allowing them to go out and play.
Our daily routine is wake up, pray, bathe, eat and school. Afternoon is for gist, 4pm we do homework and read then TV till 6pm .

I like it here, lemme pitch my ⛺ here.

Nice to meet you all.

Welcome kiki4 ..... did you bring anything for the elders?

Enjoy your stay here and feel free to share Any and everything!

Some sad news here again my dears

My daddy passed away yesterday!

I’m just overwhelmed here oh!

babythug:


This is quite good and I commend you for it.

I’d like to know though what steps are you taking to ensure you follow through? Are you reading up on managing toddlers and how to avoid the usual triggers that make people generally smack thier children?

What discipline methods are you planning to use?

Could you please share?

I just found this comment. Not really planned any clear cut steps, my baby is still 8 months. There's still plenty of time to plan . I'm also hoping I'll learn one or two things here. I just know patience is one thing I need to have. Lots of it.

babythug:
Welcome kiki4 ..... did you bring anything for the elders?

Enjoy your stay here and feel free to share Any and everything!

Some sad news here again my dears

My daddy passed away yesterday!

I’m just overwhelmed here oh!

omg.. I'm so sorry to hear this. May God comfort you and your family members, and I pray your dad rests in perfect peace.

babythug:


I kinda agree with the planner as long as affordability isn’t an issue and the intent isn’t to show off to keep up with the joneses that 1.3 isn’t so unheard of or outrageous!


I have since realized even if you have 10 guests at a party the expenses can run into hundreds of thousands . It all boils down to the individual

I used to agree with the mantra "if you can afford it, go for it!" Until I spoke to the event planner and a Financial planner. Both these women can easily afford that lifestyle. They knew people who could afford it. But they realised that half the splashy parties we saw, were also being thrown by parents who were owing schoolfees at pricey schools.

People's definition of "I can afford it" usually means "I can pay for it now and soak garri afterwards". The true definition of "I can afford this" should be "I can pay for this and still be comfortable afterwards".

Someone I know once hit me up for cash, she sounded desperate. I turned her down (regretfully), only for me to see her pictures used as an advertisement for a popular (and expensive) photography studio. I knew the photographer and asked: She paid for a shoot to commemorate Birthday (complete with outfits from a fashion designer). Then started hitting up her friends, her co-workers, even randoms like me (who she had not spoken to in 10 years) for money because she was broke after it all. When I asked her, she said "are you jealous?? I could afford it, so what!"

No sweetie, you couldn't.

babythug:
Welcome kiki4 ..... did you bring anything for the elders?

Enjoy your stay here and feel free to share Any and everything!

Some sad news here again my dears

My daddy passed away yesterday!

I’m just overwhelmed here oh!

My sincere condolences. May he sleep peacefully in the Lord. How are you, siblings and your mother holding up?

Onegai:



My sincere condolences. May he sleep peacefully in the Lord. How are you, siblings and your mother holding up?

Amen oh!

We are doing what we can as per emotions! Remember our mum passed away earlier this year!

claseek:
I just found this comment. Not really planned any clear cut steps, my baby is still 8 months. There's still plenty of time to plan . I'm also hoping I'll learn one or two things here. I just know patience is one thing I need to have. Lots of it.

My sister the time flies by so fast! Is better you’re equipped and ready for that time long before it comes!
Maybe you can google some stuff and share with us here?

Consider is your thesis to be submitted by baby’s first birthday

babythug:
Welcome kiki4 ..... did you bring anything for the elders?

Enjoy your stay here and feel free to share Any and everything!

Some sad news here again my dears

My daddy passed away yesterday!
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I’m just overwhelmed here oh!

So sorry about your dad, I know how you feel right now, been there. May the Lord comfort and the family.

May the Lord comfort and strengthen you and your family.
Accept my condolences on your daddy's demise.

cc. babythug

babythug:

What do you have in mind? Indoor or outdoor for eg?

How many guests?
Self catering or outsourced?

Any theme in mind?

Indoor

Not sure about the number of guests yet but will definitely be less than 30

Maybe outsourced if no one is available to assist me

No theme in mind o, maybe I'll just go with colours
Thanks for the shared tips, very helpful


Accept my condolences, it's really tough to lose a loved one. May the good Lord comfort you and your family
And grant him eternal rest, Amen.

Goodhairdiary and anyone else interested, on Instagram, @PartysuppliesNG is doing clearance sales on her character themed party supplies. At least you'll save some dough.

Onegai:
Goodhairdiary and anyone else interested, on Instagram, @PartysuppliesNG is doing clearance sales on her character themed party supplies. At least you'll save some dough.

Nice
Thanks for the info
Will check them out

Because it was shocking to hear how many parents still owe school fees for this term, we sat down together and put this down. A helpful plan for how to sort out school fees payment. Please read and share:

https://nefescorner.com/how-do-you-pay-your-schoolfees

Onegai:
Because it was shocking to hear how many parents still owe school fees for this term, we sat down together and put this down. A helpful plan for how to sort out school fees payment. Please read and share:

https://nefescorner.com/how-do-you-pay-your-schoolfees

Good stuff!

I feel it’s more of the economy biting though than inappropriate planning on the part of the parents

Hello everyone!

A ku ipalemo odun oh( aka well done for preps for the festive season oh) Yoruba people and thier greeting wahala LOL

May the season meet us well and may our yet remaining prayers be answered soon in Jesus name!

I’m still swamped with planning my dad’s funeral and thought to share some of the lessons learned and experience gained so far!

You will recall that I lost my mum earlier this year too!

1. First piece of advice is to begin to funeral plans With parents once they hit 60 or thereabouts.i know is something nigerians don’t particularly like to discuss but it’s best we begin to adopt that mode and save everyone trauma during the plans. I will explain further.

My mum had always stated that she wanted her burial well done and elegantly celebrated so we had an idea of what to do for eg. With my dad we have no clue per se as to if he would want to be buried in his room or a cemetery. This information will also help families who have ties with thier village and so on! It’ll make it easier when one can say mama said she mustn’t be buried in the city for eg! It doesn’t have to be a question and answer session just enquire during random conversations.
2. As much as possible do all within your power to keep the peace with siblings and extended family members. It is usually the time tempers flare and people like to assert thier authority / sense of belonging over the deceased and family. There’s mostly no need to drag this with anyone. As long as the demands aren’t overtly against your religious beliefs or foundations try to find ways of accommodating requests!
3. Be mentally prepeared for pleasant and unpleasant surprises. Even amongst the children of the deceased. You’d be surprised how beastly your normally nice sibling would turn to when he or she is billed 1m as share of expenses! This is not always the case though!

4. Ensure not to overtly stretch yourselves on entertainment of guests. Decide amongst yourselves which you prioritize in order of expenses- casket for eg, vault/grave or aso ebi for the children. It’s a personal choice and varies per family and culture.

5. Be prayerful

6. Encourage your aged parents to have documented wills and last testaments. it always helps in giving direction after their demise. Some of these testaments may also include thier wishes and funding (in some cases) as regards funeral arrangements.

7. For families in clear cut polygamous situations encourage the father to unite the children (even if not the wives) before they’re 70!

8. For non clear cut polygamous situations i.e father has children outside the legal marriage ( you generally get the drift) encourage the unity of the said children and please begin to ask your parents about children they have outside the Marriage. That surprise child popping up at then funeral is really shitty!

Will be back

Hello people!

Just to remind you all January has 62 days

Be mindful of expenditure this season. The elections come up in February Next year too, you may wanna consider stocking up dry and canned foods, toiletries etc from now as much as you can.

God will spare this country any post election crisis in Jesus name!

What’s your plan for Christmas and New Year’s Day menu? Cook something different - loads of cooking channels that one can learn from on you tube.

Bring out those plates and glass ware in your store. Use it this season and even in 2019. Choose to live classy and elegant no matter your current financial /emotional/ ..... situation. May God help us continually seize the moments and may He ease our burdens!

Change your kitchen napkins check your souvenir stash you’d find new ones there, toss those blue band and custard containers you’ve been keeping. Declutter, declutter and declutter some
More

Is your maid leaving? Be generous to her and part on a good note no matter the hassles she’s put you through this year lol

Gear yourself up for the new domestic staff to be employed in the new year. Be organized and let her meet you somewhat with policies and an organizational policy in place especially if you employ staff from “local suburbs” . Have a written chore chart for the day, week and month. So that you don’t get annoyed with “shaaki for not knowing she should wash toilet every Saturday” .
Take a full inventory of your store/pantry it’ll also help you track how food is managed and so on!

Hope these few tips of mine help someone today.

babythug:
Hello people!

Just to remind you all January has 62 days

Be mindful of expenditure this season. The elections come up in February Next year too, you may wanna consider stocking up dry and canned foods, toiletries etc from now as much as you can.

God will spare this country any post election crisis in Jesus name!

What’s your plan for Christmas and New Year’s Day menu? Cook something different - loads of cooking channels that one can learn from on you tube.

Bring out those plates and glass ware in your store. Use it this season and even in 2019. Chops to live classy and elegant no matter your current financial /emotional/ ..... situation. May God help us continually seize the moments and may He ease our burdens!

Change your kitchen napkins check your souvenir stash you’d find new ones there, toss those blue band and custard containers you’ve been keeping. Declutter, declutter and declutter some
More

Is your maid leaving? Be generous to her and part on a good note no matter the hassles she’s or your through this year lol

Gear yourself up for the new domestic staff to be employed in the new year. Be organized and let her meet you somewhat with policies and an organizational policy in place especially if you employ staff from “local suburbs” . Have a written chore chart for the day, week and month. So that you don’t get annoyed with “walia for not knowing she should wash toilet every Saturday” .
Take a full inventory for your store, it’ll also help you track how food is managed and so on!

Hope these few tips of mine help someone today.

Wait.... Do you have a spy cam in my house

I'll surely be using these tips

babythug:
Hello everyone!

A ku ipalemo odun oh( aka well done for preps for the festive season oh) Yoruba people and thier greeting wahala LOL

May the season meet us well and may our yet remaining prayers be answered soon in Jesus name!

I’m still swamped with planning my dad’s funeral and thought to share some of the lessons learned and experience gained so far!

You will recall that I lost my mum earlier this year too!

1. First piece of advice is to begin to funeral plans With parents once they hit 60 or thereabouts.i know is something nigerians don’t particularly like to discuss but it’s best we begin to adopt that mode and save everyone trauma during the plans. I will explain further.

My mum had always stated that she wanted her burial well done and elegantly celebrated so we had an idea of what to do for eg. With my dad we have no clue per se as to if he would want to be buried in his room or a cemetery. This information will also help families who have ties with thier village and so on! It’ll make it easier when one can say mama said she mustn’t be buried in the city for eg! It doesn’t have to be a question and answer session just enquire during random conversations.
2. As much as possible do all within your power to keep the peace with siblings and extended family members. It is usually the time tempers flare and people like to assert thier authority / sense of belonging over the deceased and family. There’s mostly no need to drag this with anyone. As long as the demands aren’t overtly against your religious beliefs or foundations try to find ways of accommodating requests!
3. Be mentally prepeared for pleasant and unpleasant surprises. Even amongst the children of the deceased. You’d be surprised how beastly your normally nice sibling would turn to when he or she is billed 1m as share of expenses! This is not always the case though!

4. Ensure not to overtly stretch yourselves on entertainment of guests. Decide amongst yourselves which you prioritize in order of expenses- casket for eg, vault/grave or aso ebi for the children. It’s a personal choice and varies per family and culture.

5. Be prayerful

6. Encourage your aged parents to have documented wills and last testaments. it always helps in giving direction after their demise. Some of these testaments may also include thier wishes and funding (in some cases) as regards funeral arrangements.

7. For families in clear cut polygamous situations encourage the father to unite the children (even if not the wives) before they’re 70!

8. For non clear cut polygamous situations i.e father has children outside the legal marriage ( you generally get the drift) encourage the unity of the said children and please begin to ask your parents about children they have outside the Marriage. That surprise child popping up at then funeral is really shitty!

Will be back

Sorry about your dad.
So you're now an orphan
Pẹ̀lẹ́.
Ọlọ́run a fii ọrùn ké àwọn mejeji.




But beastly...... LMAO!

This slaying life Of a thing sef!

Went out and wore one nice Ankara outfit but the thing fits snuggly (issss not really easy to be plus sized *rolls eyes*) ! Anyway got back home and hubby too is here

So I sha sat in the outfit slaying myself away. Visitor sef Dey here so na so So English we sha Dey speak! When I started to feel faint I went to find clothes to wear, couldn’t find any of my kaftans and couldn’t bear to wear anything per er so I sha wore bum shorts the thing looked Sonha” so I’ve added wrapper to the mix!

I’m just reporting myself here before city people will carry the story!

This slay queen life sef na wa

babythug:
This slaying life sef na wa!

Went out and wore one nice Ankara outfit but the thing fits snuggly (issss not really easy to be plus sized *rolls eyes*) ! Anyway got back home and hubby too is here

So I sha sat in the outfit slaying myself away. Visitor sef Dey here so na so So English we sha Dey speak! When I started to feel faint I went to find clothes to wear, couldn’t find any of my kaftans and couldn’t bear to wear anything per er so I sha wore bum shorts the thing looked Sonha” so I’ve added wrapper to the mix!

I’m just reporting myself here before city people will carry the story!

This slay queen life sef na wa

Slay Moms don't tie wrapper at home o

Nice

Iyamarun:
I.posted this in the new mums thread but did not get needed answers
Pls help a mum

What do i do with a 3 year old that says "ew" to every food? Any food I put in her front, she goes "eeewww, I can't eat this, it smells like....." Then she will look for something to qualify it. She can say it smells like a car, slippers, chair... Anything that comes to her mouth. This morning she said my food smells like the television. Biko warisdis?

I've used all the methods I know, I've used caning sef, scoping, treats, reward method... I'm tayad!

I then ask her "so what would you like to eat" and she goes "nothing" with an attitude. Nothing bawo? Or sometimes she says garri. She drank garri 3 times yesterday. Is garri now the way? Garri is not ew? Issokay




Right now I'm staring at her. She has had half an orange all morning. She complained the orange smelt like 'onions' before she took it.

Pls just teach me. Help me. She wasn't like this before BTW.
Any suggestions is welcome.

So......

My own method with fussy eaters is to accept them as they are and work largely according to thier dictates! Not everyone can or will be a foodie.

With children it’s also best to choose your food battles wisely.

Don’t make a fuss at meal times or about meals.

Serve her very little quantity and pack it up after half an hour whether or not she eats it or from it!

Who makes the meals? Is it heavily spiced? Maybe you can check that it could be a deterrent to some people....

If she accepts garri please let her be add some milk to help with the nutritional value.

Cut out snacks from the mix caprisun, biscuits and the likes make sure you avoid giving her.

Add some colour to meals perhaps it’ll entice her eg add sweet corn, carrots , peas to meals like rice, noodles or spaghetti

Take it one day at a time.

Google toddler meals on Pinterest and Instagram for ideas on how to make variety

Good luck and hope this helps

Aloha!

How are preparations for the new year going?

I trust everyone is approaching 2019 with a bigger visions for themselves and family as well.

Remember to be intentional and don’t leave anything to chance

It’s usually good to go on a self retreat at this time of the yeAr. Even if you can’t physically go into seclusion at least dedicate some more time to praying, and reflections for the coming year.

Determine to live intentionally next year. Don’t let life just happen to you! Be prepared as much as you can.

Check the areas you didn’t quite parent well this year and see how you can get it right next year! Did you take the children on outings as much as you should? Did you bond with them? Where they always on time for school? Homework always neatly done? What are/were thier meals like?
Have you brought out the new plates for the year?

What’s the state of your wardrobe? You want to continue using only white powder? Can’t you add lip gloss next year ?

Financially how did you get on? Did you use that local savings box to stash away any loose change? Wanna give that a trial in 2019?

What were your excesses in 2018? Which ones do you wanna get rid off? Weight loss goals? Any plans in motion?

May God give us grace to get it right in 2019!

babythug:

Serve her very little quantity and pack it up after half an hour whether or not she eats it or from it!

Who makes the meals? Is it heavily spiced.

If she accepts garri please let her be add some milk to help with the nutritional value.

Add some colour to meals perhaps it’ll entice her eg add sweet corn, carrots , peas to meals like rice, noodles or spaghetti

Good luck and hope this helps

I dare not pack up a food she doesnt eat. Shed rather sleep off watching the plate and guarding it like her life depends on it. She wouldnt let someone else eat it either. She go cry till her eye swell. She won't eat it and won't let another have it. Unless u exchange it/with what she wants (trade by barter)

She doesn't eat spicy food so i don't offer it. On Christmas day I made fried rice and jollof and she requested for "fyied yice only" (she doesn't eat chicken or fish or egg yolk) gave her and she came back three times for more (after she had removed all the sweetcorn, liver and all) I also discovered she loves hotdogs. So I will be loading and slicing into every meal she eats.

Her garri comes with milk. In fact, she won't accept it if there's no milk. I pet her yesterday and asked her what food she likes very much and it was "fyied yice" so I guess I'll be making loads of that with plenty hot dogs from now

She usually doesn't take snacks. She's not a fan unless its ice cream and it's not all the time

I'll update you as it goes.
Thanks a lot

Iyamarun:


I dare not pack up a food she doesnt eat. Shed rather sleep off watching the plate and guarding it like her life depends on it. She wouldnt let someone else eat it either. She go cry till her eye swell. She won't eat it and won't let another have it. Unless u exchange it/with what she wants (trade by barter)

She doesn't eat spicy food so i don't offer it. On Christmas day I made fried rice and jollof and she requested for "fyied yice only" (she doesn't eat chicken or fish or egg yolk) gave her and she came back three times for more (after she had removed all the sweetcorn, liver and all) I also discovered she loves hotdogs. So I will be loading and slicing into every meal she eats.

Her garri comes with milk. In fact, she won't accept it if there's no milk. I pet her yesterday and asked her what food she likes very much and it was "fyied yice" so I guess I'll be making loads of that with plenty hot dogs from now

She usually doesn't take snacks. She's not a fan unless its ice cream and it's not all the time

I'll update you as it goes.
Thanks a lot

Lol. These children will not kill person. My niece was like that but somehow they will be better, everything is a phase. Even my son who i used to cajole to eat, now he opens his mouth when he sees spoon. They will get better. Have you thought of healthy smoothies? Not as meals per se but to up their calorie intake. And mama, easy on the hot dogs, those things are packed with loooads of salt and preservatives. Well done

Fabmummy

talltosyne:
Fabmummy

Thanks dear, so nice to see u today

How’s the new year treating everyone?

Are we up and running yet? Two weeks down oh just about 50 to go

Goals, goals , goals!!! Are they in motion yet?

God help us all and may our prayers be answered this year in Jesus name

N.B - don’t be afraid to try something new this year! Step out and be bold!

Meanwhile have some juice

Umu nwayi

See what was written in the funeral programme if one of “us”

What are your thoughts?

babythug:
Umu nwayi

See what was written in the funeral programme if one of “us”

What are your thoughts?

Is this a joke?!

All Her children should be flogged!