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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by divineappo(m): 1:25pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors
where are u located now? where are u also based before u came here, what did u study?
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by XaintJoel20: 1:26pm On Sep 10, 2019
Think of what you can gain teaching in that school.
If it an agrarian community, think of how you can invest in agriculture.
Look at for those things that are lacking in the community and fill the void. People will pay you for it. That's a side hustling...

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by mindtricks: 1:27pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:29pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


Well said, my boo.
Na you go report wey dem ban me. What goes around comes around.
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by gnykelly(m): 1:33pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors


My brother there's nothing to cry about... A man will have to die several times before he is buried...

Your situation is quite understandable and note that you aren't the only one in the situation.

My advice is that you need to take take that low paying job just to hold your body together... And mind you you may never get a good job... But try to be train your mind to identify opportunities so that you don't get stuck in the Job... Life is hard and you can't be soft to live it.

Peace

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by pocohantas(f): 1:35pm On Sep 10, 2019
Martinez39:
Na you go report wey dem ban me. What goes around comes around.

Lol. I ignore you because I need you to know you are small fry. On a good day, I fit pay your school fees, give you monthly allowance on top. No use your small data to dey insult your elders because you can type big English.

Comport yourself, you hear? grin

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by emmaodet: 1:35pm On Sep 10, 2019
stormborn28:
hohohohoooo..i have been saying it hear... Most of this undergraduates are so naive that they dream big sitting on a chair in a big company in Lagos, Abuja, P/H...better drop those eyes and start facing reality... Some girls go use puna but nothing go come out of it...

Bro 25k is manageable in a village setting... Think outside the box... See if there is any farm products from that village that you can bring to city centres... God is your strength
Bro leave dem make pant wear dem
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by salt1: 1:36pm On Sep 10, 2019
arinola2504:
ops, people might make jest of you here and even call you lazy but belief me, i fully understand how you feel cos have been there, mine is even worst, i cried for almost a month blaming myself of going to school and getting a good grade with no good pay but everything is very much better now.
my first advise for you is to have it at the back of your mind to leave your comfort zone (ur house/state), Lagos might be stressful and trash but there are lots of jobs (it doesn't matter what you study in school), there is a page on facebook and instagram "AFRICANBIOHUB", follow them for real job update and request they review your cv for you(they will charge you like 1500 or so for that) and get a meaningful cover letter (i can help you with that) before you start applying.
you can be applying at the comfort of your home and travel for interviews when invited for one.
My brother if you work on this, i promise you will get a job before the end of this month (even if it is a marketing job with a far better pay and you wont stop applying till you get that your dream job), don't listen to people that says there is no job, there is, people are not just putting in their best effort.
my own case i have no family in lagos but i was determined nothing will stop me even thou as a lady, i keep scouting about and after 6 months of doing a marketing job, i was able to get an apartment and even change my job to a better one, don't just relent, you're A MAN, nobody will help you until you help urself especially in this nigeria
I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO BETTER




African biohub
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Platony(m): 1:37pm On Sep 10, 2019
No need to cry bro..

I have worked in a place where i earned 9,000 as a month salary, ask any ph person in the house how much is t.fare from club road to Trans Amadi in a month.

I NEVER GAVE UP!!

I did menial jobs jst to survive, I NEVER GAVE UP!!

I made my first 1million naira at age 31,

Today I own a firm where I pay workers.

Atleast u're still young, u can be wealthier before 28.

Who told u u're backwards??

I'll advise u do d job for like 2-3 months, do not allow ur brain to rest on what to do next, come up with initiatives, be creative, success is pushing.

It is ur right to succeed ok. Do not be scared & do not allow any woman discourage u.

#Shalom

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:38pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


Lol. I ignore you because I need you to know you are small fry. On a good day, I fit pay your school fees, give you monthly allowance on top. No use your small data to dey insult your elders because you can type big English.

Comport yourself, you hear? grin
Good, best, worst or bad day, you no reach except you have the resources given to you by those who are drilling you day and night wink. I do not have time to make exchanges with you. Good day.

Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by pocohantas(f): 1:43pm On Sep 10, 2019
Martinez39:
Good, best, worst or bad day, you no reach except you have the resources given to you by those who are drilling you day and night wink. I do not have time to make exchanges with you. Good day.

You really do wish that is how I get paid right. How much is that your school fees again?

Small boy, when you were writing WAEC, we done dey do dragnet and the likes. No be say we old sef.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by enemyofprogress: 1:47pm On Sep 10, 2019
Eyaaaaaaaaaaa pls don't make me cry.
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Nobody: 1:48pm On Sep 10, 2019
topsquino:


Hi

I have read your post. Trust me, there is nothing you are passing through right now that I did not experience when I finished service.

I was among the best in my class, yet I still experienced everything you typed up there.

You are lucky that your girl has not yet told you officially that you are no longer her second, third or fifth option.

Let's focus on the solution. After all, that's what you need.

Trust me, there are many jobs in Nigeria.

What we don't have in this country is skilled people.

This week alone, I had to rummaged the internet to find a good 3d animator for my brand. Guess what, I could not find. I had to outsource the job to Indians.

Do you know you can make money just by singing people's song on fiverr?

Do you know you can make money by being a pro player in video games?

Bro, you are not too old at 27 years to start learning a skill.

The secret of success is in three fold.

1. Learn a skill (1 year
2. Perfect the skill (6 months or above)
3. Market the skill.


Just take a year to learn any skill. I would recommend the following

1. Writing or proofreading
2. Graphic design
3. Web design
4. Programming

Just learn any skill bro and stop complaining and feeling miserable .

Forget that your girl friend. When you are successful, you will get a better one or she will come back.

The only person that can help you is YOU

Good luck

I'm going to follow you, I have doubts of breaking into the fiverr marketplace. I'm learning programming and web design, when I'm done, maybe you should give me my first gig
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:49pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


[s]You really do wish that is how I get paid right. How much is that your school fees again?[/s]

[s]Small boy, when you were writing WAEC, we done dey do dragnet and the likes. No be say we old sef.[/s]
I repeat, I don't have time to make exchanges with you. grin Dey there dey deceive yourself. All these sperm toilet sef. Good day. grin

NB : I WON'T MENTION YOU AGAIN. INSTEAD OF WASTING TIME CHATTING ME, GO AND MAKE MONEY YOUR USUAL WAY . wink grin

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Nobody: 1:50pm On Sep 10, 2019
Papertrail11:




Life is not unfair n young folks tbh and to make it worse our women dont understand they feel if gou arent balln on a wizkid or davido standard your aint sheet.


That aside we need to emphasize on the skill aspect how to do uncommon stuffs like how to cut diamonds or gems
make glass
make components.


Wasnt it bugga guy who made 3m usd on that fortnite championship

When i was active on discord folks use to make 2k usd by betting on e-sports like csgo games rand they make bank


One girl on twiiter was even advertising apple seeds that grow in Nigeria yet we import that sheet from South Africa even grapes i heard grow in Nigeria.


Opportunites are limitless the rest lies on our hands as youths.

Let me send you a PM
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by emmaodet: 1:53pm On Sep 10, 2019
Martinez39:
My problem with Nigeria youths is that they are detached from reality. Oga, for many people, their location and it's government, system and security are crucial to their success. Imagine if Carlsen Magnus was born in Nigeria, will he be who he is today?

Imagine if Lionel Messi, whose parents were poor, was born in Nigeria, the bribery and politics would have prevented him from shining this big. Besides, FC Barcelona helped Messi combat his growth hormone deficiency. Would he have treated his growth hormone deficiency as a Nigerian? Would he even smell FC Barcelona? Would his Nigerian parents even let him play football? He would probably have written JAMB to study some course in the university? How many of our female basketball players(D'tigers) were nurtured and groomed in Nigeria? Remind me where Anthony Joshua was trained?

A doctor in Venezuela will earn peanuts thanks to the economic meltdown brought about by Maduro's implementation of socialism. For such doctor, would he be suffering if he was working in the US or UK? Remind me why Nigerian medical graduates are running to the US, Canada, UK and other developed countries? Why don't they stay here, since according to you, location and government does not matter? I got the shock of my life when I was discussing with my American friends online. Those that studied Physics, Computer Science, Mathematics, Zoology and other STEM courses were bragging and carrying their shoulders. These jobs are good paying jobs and prestigious over there not to talk of Medicine, Law and Engineering. Can you please tell me about Physicists, Mathematicians, Zoologists grin, etc. in Nigeria?

Oga, location can play a huge role. In Nigeria, some have sicknesses that they can't combat because there is nothing the Nigerian doctors can do but they don't have money to travel outside from successfully treatment.

You youths are just too damn hopeful. High hope is deluding youths. grin
You have said it all bro
One major factor is religion.
I don't like it, it makes people not use there brains
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by pocohantas(f): 1:53pm On Sep 10, 2019
Martinez39:
I repeat, I don't have time to make exchanges with you. grin Dey there dey deceive yourself. All these sperm toilet sef. Good day. grin

NB : I WON'T MENTION YOU AGAIN. INSTEAD OF WASTING TIME CHATTING ME, GO AND MAKE MONEY THE USUAL WAY. grin

Lol, kiddo. I like that the worst you can come up with is slutshaming, I take that less seriously than any insult on my intellect.

Sperm toilet indeed. I might as well be the central vault for sperm na.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Nobody: 1:55pm On Sep 10, 2019
Martinez39:
Lol. Very good. Let everyone be suffering. Everyone wants to drive bugatti and build big house but they can't unite to revolt against their corrupt leaders who have sold their future; brought a bad system, and are raping them left, right and centre. Oga, look at other graduates that are struggling with #18k/month, what made you think your case would be different? You are special? You are smarter? They are dunce? grin Hehehehe...

Freedom, safety, a good system and good standard of living won't fall from the sky and they don't come easy. America is where it is today because their forefathers gave sweat and blood to liberate and prosper America. Now, everyone wants to go America.

Oga, the truth is that not everyone will make it in life. Many, throughout their lives, will only get just enough to survive. You have to humble yourself and be grateful for the jobs that come your way. Mind you, be prepared to lose your girl when a rich man comes around. In fact, she might be seeing someone else. It's best you break up with her.

As long as :
1) youths are still voting APC or PDP;
2) youths are not revolting against the system; and
3) youths are oblivious of the great odds against them and are condescending to think their future is somehow somehow bright and they are special even though many are suffering,
Youths will keep on suffering. Don't worry when you youths are tired of dry cleaning, selling bags of foodstuffs, driving keke, modelling and dancing dirty on music video, prostitution etc. after four or more solid years in the university studying courses that are unrelated to your business, no be person go tell una to revolt. For now, take heart. grin


Be very careful on how you respond to issues. Somebody may read your words and commit suicide. You don't know the state of that young man now and you are busy uploading pictures laughing at him. If your words and thoughts can not help those who are depressed, keep those words/thoughts to yourself. If any man dies because of your words, his blood shall be on your head.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:56pm On Sep 10, 2019
emmaodet:

You have said it all bro
One major factor is religion.
I don't like it, it makes people not use there brains
True. Religion is drawing many back. Also, many humans have this narcissism inherent in them to think the universe was made for them and that they are special. With more education and awareness of some kind, youths will begin to wake up.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Anfieldboss: 1:58pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


Lol, kiddo. I like that the worst you can come up with is slutshaming, I take that less seriously than any insult on my intellect.

Sperm toilet indeed. I might as well be the central vault for sperm na.


I sincerely would love to see the amazing lady behind this moniker, I have never seen anybody as real as you are on this platform.

Keep it up ma'am.
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Avast(m): 1:58pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors
I had once be in your position but all thanks to God, am about to get my first reasonable job.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by jlomz: 1:59pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

@Francisayo I sincerely wish i could talk to you on phone right now, but bro, you really need to calm down first and be true and honest to yourself.
I had a similar experience and God! oh how I regret the decision I took then, if not for the mercy of God, Local man for don enter voicemail by now. Bros accept the #25K job for a start.
Lemme also tell you that one of the greatest gifts God has given you is the location of the school, jejely resume the school, use the tranquil environment and atmosphere to adequately plan your life, buy good and quality books to build your mind. Oluwa has also buttered ur bread with a mobile phone such that you can even access the internet, use it judiciously. Join Twitter, follow sensible people that will help ur life and future; listen also very well but be careful to what you give ur ear to.
Finally, for the hanty that is doing ur head Turnionwon, kindly give her space so you can face and build your life. If she's for you, she'll understand and wait, if she's not, I give her 3/6/9months, you go hear say she don marry.
So brother, i leave you with this from Proverbs 4:7 "Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get Wisdom; and in all thy getting, get Understanding". Use ur Akanuche ooooooooO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can flash/call Local Man on 07059977426

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by stormborn28(m): 1:59pm On Sep 10, 2019
mascot87:


That guy is 27 and I am 32. If he knows what I am going through,he will thank God for his own situation
dont mind him...
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by stormborn28(m): 2:00pm On Sep 10, 2019
emmaodet:

Bro leave dem make pant wear dem
grin grin grin grin
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 2:02pm On Sep 10, 2019
prekumohtim:



Be very careful on how you respond to issues. Somebody may read your words and commit suicide. You don't know the state of that young man now and you are busy uploading pictures laughing at him. If your words and thoughts can not help those who are depressed, keep those words/thoughts to yourself. If any man dies because of your words, his blood shall be on your head.
Oga, na man he be. Truth does not kill except you are weak. Harsh truth is better than sweet lie. Telling him the truth is the best you can do for him and truth is the highest moral standard. Life is hard. Whether you are rich or poor, if you are observant and honest with yourself, you will know that life is not easy.

It's funny that given the behaviour and mindset of youths and the reality of things, every youth still expect that success is their birthright and that one day, they will live big. This is just funny to me.

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by izzou(m): 2:04pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


You really do wish that is how I get paid right. How much is that your school fees again?

Small boy, when you were writing WAEC, we done dey do dragnet and the likes. No be say we old sef.

grin grin grin

Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by greatermeme: 2:05pm On Sep 10, 2019
obembet:


How will u feel if I tell u that u are lazy? I believe this shows that u are Yoruba or u grew up in Yoruba land. Cos many Yoruba train thier children how to be self independent

Let me start by asking u how much u save from youth service abi u squandered all. When know ur background and u know that its only God be your backup. See let me tell u the truth, either the 18k salary is small or not.. Accept it and start ur life. U won't limit yourself on the job. U have smart phone.. As u are working u will be searching for better offer. If am ur girlfriend, I for don leave u for long. Pls don't wait for miracle job..start doing something.
What is the meaning of "self independent"? Obembet, it's too hot to smoke WEED this afternoon!

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by frozen70(f): 2:11pm On Sep 10, 2019
Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

First of all, at this your present situation, you can't keep a woman waiting for you

Any woman or girl friend who can't wait, pls free her to go and don't think you can propose to keep her waiting

Secondly, take it easy, you are not the only one affected, you can take up the teaching job, save little money and start anything with it

If you think you can't cope, get someone to buy keke for you and you pay on hire purchase, after one year, it will be yours

At 27yrs, don't attach yourself to a woman so that your liabilities will be under control

Lastly, look for a working class girl who is humble to accept you and manage the situation till you can stand well

But when you get one, you must respect your self and be humble to her for peace to rign, it doesn't make you less a man

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by pocohantas(f): 2:16pm On Sep 10, 2019
izzou:


grin grin grin

No jokes. When I saw him mention when he took WAEC, I was like "wtf is happening here?" That was the day I knew he isn't worth my time, irrespective of his big English.
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by pocohantas(f): 2:18pm On Sep 10, 2019
Anfieldboss:


I sincerely would love to see the amazing lady behind this moniker, I have never seen anybody as real as you are on this platform.

Keep it up ma'am.

Hehehe. Thanks for the compliment, I would have attached my picture...but you will say it is not me. grin

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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by izzou(m): 2:19pm On Sep 10, 2019
pocohantas:


No jokes. When I saw him mention when he took WAEC, I was like "wtf is happening here?" That was the day I knew he isn't worth my time, irrespective of his big English.

His long epistles and big engrisshh no be here grin grin

Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Avast(m): 2:21pm On Sep 10, 2019
jlomz:


@Francisayo I sincerely wish i could talk to you on phone right now, but bro, you really need to calm down first and be true and honest to yourself.
I had a similar experience and God! oh how I regret the decision I took then, if not for the mercy of God, Local man for don enter voicemail by now. Bros accept the #25K job for a start.
Lemme also tell you that one of the greatest gifts God has given you is the location of the school, jejely resume the school, use the tranquil environment and atmosphere to adequately plan your life. Oluwa has also buttered ur bread with a mobile phone such that you can even access the internet, use it judiciously. Join Twitter, follow sensible people that will help ur life and future; listen also very well but be careful to what you give ur ear to.
Finally, for the hanty that is doing ur head Turnionwon, kindly give her space so you can face and build your life. If she's for you, she'll understand and wait, if she's not, I give her 3/6/9months, you go hear say she don marry.


So brother, i leave you with this from Proverbs 4:7 "Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get Wisdom; and in all thy getting, get Understanding". Use ur Akanuche ooooooooO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is my 3rd relationship, the previous left because I was jobless but this last girl said she isn't going anywhere because she is very sure am going to become a rich nigga one day. I treated her like shit hoping she would let me live my life, bro na lie we just glue together. Now I cherish her more than anything in this world.

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