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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Osyxcel(m): 10:50am On Oct 23, 2019
This write-up get as e be. Doesn't make much sense to me.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Homers123(m): 10:50am On Oct 23, 2019
Your point is actually pointless.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by KcAngel(m): 10:50am On Oct 23, 2019
Marry your best friend...

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by StudentsNG: 10:50am On Oct 23, 2019
A PLEASANT DIGRESSION: FOR THE GIRLS THAT CALL THEIR BOYFRIENDS STINGY!

His mother trained him in school selling soyamilk. She had to sell her Hollandaise cloth and gold jewelry's to raise his school fees.
His father was a farmer! He spends most of his time in the bush battling with sand and wild animals just to keep some money for his son who would be coming back home next weekend from school.
His siblings joined the parents to work hard so as to train at least one person in school to speak for the family in future.
His elderly sister got married to a rich man too early and didn't go to school. Their reason was to give way for their only son to go to school and if possible so that their rich in-law can support them.
Their last born went to learn trade so as to allow the first born have his way and finish from the medical school.
The entire family invested all their resources on one person. Instead of trying to train everyone and end up training nobody, they chose to invest on one person because of lack of resources.
Now he is out of school. Got a job and he is paid 120k monthly. He wants to wipe her mother's tears at last. He wants to reward his tireless father for a his struggle. He wants to let his siblings know that he appreciates their sacrifices.
There are still some friends who lent him some money at times when his family could not come up with something. They were close and good friends. He also wants to be nice to them.
Then he meets you, a young lady with fine face, full-breasted and round buttocks and he tells you "I love you" Yes, he has all those responsibilities but he still has feelings and still falls in love and would still want to get married too.
Now you have found out his salary is 120k and you are like "Yea! At least I'll be getting like 30k - 40k from him monthly." As far as you are concerned, having a boyfriend is a lucrative business. You want him to carry all your responsibility on his shoulder and when he doesn't meet up with your greedy expectations you brand him stingy and loveless.
Sister, let me be very honest with you: you are NOT his responsibility at all until he marries you. For now, the only thing he gives you is CASUAL GIFTS. Yes, supporting your school fees is NOT his responsibility even if he has proposed. Feeding you or paying your house rent is NOT his responsibility either. Just in case you want to hear the truth from me: buying you Christmas cloth or shoes is not his responsibility at all.
Anything he gives you now is simply a WILLING GIFT.
You should actually be very ashamed of your very self to boldly come out on social media to complain that a man who is not married to you is not giving you enough money for hair bla bla bla. Legally married women are complaining, even you that do not know his family is also complaining. What a shame!
What happened to your hands?
Don't you have a family?
Are you insinuating that all your family - from father to the last born - are all poverty stricken and wretched? How would a guy who just expressed his feelings for you suddenly become the source of your living?
It is absolutely shameful for a woman to depend on a man who simply professed his love for you. No marriage yet and you are already bringing your family problem to him because he works at Shell. Please, cover your family shame small.
It is also an act of absolute wickedness for you to get worried and jealous when he takes care of his parents and siblings.
They were there for him. If you had met him when they stood for him, you probably wouldn't have accepted him. He is already a doctor before you met him. Would you have been there for him if you met him when he was a nobody?
Guess what? His parents stood with him. They believed in him. They gave all their resources for him. His siblings were there for him.
Now all of a sudden you want him to abandon them because you have some kpomo inbetween your legs? Sister, you are wicked!
If I say may someone do the same to your mother, how will you feel?
You're not the only person in his life please.
Stop being a parasite and work for your own money. Wait until he marries you but as for now, you are not his responsibility at all!
One of the most disgusting and shameful thing I have ever heard about relationship is when a lady says "He has to give me money or no sex, let him go and sleep with his sisters if he thinks about them more than me"
Sister, you are foolish!
Even foolish people are calling you foolish!
The sex was between the two of you, right?
I am sure you were not in hell during the sex. You were also enjoying it. So why should he pay you? Yes, because if sex is your reason for demanding money, then we know he is paying for the sex and you are automatically a harlot because they are the people who collect money for sex.
In as much as some don't support sex outside marriage but...
You would have told him from onset that you ain't here for love but for "sex business"
Define your mission properly so he would know he is supposed to pay you on agreement but if you are here for love, then keep money aside.
He can only give you GIFTS willingly, not as if he has any financial responsibility in you.
Get that clear and stop disgracing us!
Be a woman of substance and make your money and then keep your respect.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Madlov3: 10:51am On Oct 23, 2019
Pettyprincess:
So you trying to say a lady should have many boyfriends as possible because she is not committed yet,like seriously?
No be bf dey turn fiance then husband?
If you in committed relationship it is expected that both partner should be faithful to each other!! I'm not talking about all this children relationship that they don't even know where it's heading to.That's why ladies should date men not boys!!!
you’ve said all i wanted to say...The op is a lunatic.he will be the first person to come hear and cry tomorrow that his supposed girlfriend is banging another guy.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by kingkuntaval: 10:52am On Oct 23, 2019
This write-up is fuccing meaningless...Pure BS.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by sigidi5: 10:54am On Oct 23, 2019
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Truer words have never been spoken!
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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by austin4real(m): 10:55am On Oct 23, 2019
Loud it bro

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by AHCB: 10:55am On Oct 23, 2019
Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep
are you also confuse about your sexuality or you're a guy using a female moniker?

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by MrNipplesLover(m): 10:55am On Oct 23, 2019
Girls and their wahala undecided
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Ennyboy12(m): 10:55am On Oct 23, 2019
Lol
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by zephrsmile(m): 10:56am On Oct 23, 2019
My friend go and find your own girlfriend and stop chasing gullible girls with illogical gist.
So when u meet a girl you fancy, your approach is to propose marriage immediately abi?
tongue
Commot the plenty nails wey girls don hammer you for head first. You are probably not their type.


Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by sigidi5: 10:56am On Oct 23, 2019
ericsmith:
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I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least

God bless you

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Ugosample(m): 10:57am On Oct 23, 2019
This post is hilarious cheesy

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Kul3ger(m): 10:57am On Oct 23, 2019
Dumb post cry cry cry

Well, OP you try, at least, for the boldness and time wasted on this crappy epistle. kiss kiss kiss

Now, my problem is actually with the moomoo mod that dragged this to front page sad sad sad

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by chloride6: 10:57am On Oct 23, 2019
Wawu

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Alawode01(m): 10:58am On Oct 23, 2019
Abi oh
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by daroz(m): 10:58am On Oct 23, 2019
Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep
@hamachi, are u a male or female? Cos I don’t understand
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Anfieldboss: 10:58am On Oct 23, 2019
Foolish post. A man does not just make up his mind to marry a girl without studying her via dating for sometime. And if he finds out he is not the only one in her life, he would simply walk away even if he had genuine intentions before.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by BOFREJO(m): 11:00am On Oct 23, 2019
Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Billyanger(m): 11:00am On Oct 23, 2019
HOW IS IT WRONG FOR A LADY TO SAY SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND? IT'S A POLITE WAY OF SAYING "NO". SEEMS OP DONE RIPE FOR MARRIAGE AND HE HAS NO LUCK YET grin

WHEN WOMEN DONE READY FOR MARRIAGE THEY KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE SOCIALLY.....

WHY IS THIS ON FRONT PAGE? angry

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Worldtaker: 11:00am On Oct 23, 2019
Jayslicky:
If many boyfriends stop providing, most girls would be dead in less than two weeks.
if many married men face their wives only, 70% of Nigeria girls will look tattered and beggarly.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by iwantolive: 11:01am On Oct 23, 2019
God bless you.i am a male but i do tell girls the same thing,even my girl friend.You are not mine until we are married
Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by gurunlocker: 11:02am On Oct 23, 2019
Very stupid post from the op....


So because it's a boy means the girl must accept all proposal thrown at her? Who will suffer it?


If this one come and she say yes, the other come and she say yes, is she not becoming a bitch? What happened to being loyal and faithful to someone?

So in your right sense, you are saying ladies must agree to most proposal because it's not sure the current bf will engage or marry her? You are mad!


Her pvssy will suffer it....

Relationship is a stage, do one just automatically make a girl ones fiancee without studying her? Will I make a lady with a lot of guys or boyfriends in your sense my fiance? HELL NO!

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by bukatyne(f): 11:04am On Oct 23, 2019
PrimadonnaO:
We've really got this relationship business wrong, to be honest.

I agree.

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by SoNature(m): 11:04am On Oct 23, 2019
Senseless post

What's the essence of relationship if not marriage?
Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Tundeobama(m): 11:06am On Oct 23, 2019
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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by Damfostopper(m): 11:06am On Oct 23, 2019
Nonsensse post..... At my age I don't always comment on stewpid post......



Anyways..
.
Seems op is too daft to know that relationship has to do with stages...... Do you just jump to fiance?..... Won't you guys date each other as boyfriend and girlfriend??

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by tunahper(m): 11:07am On Oct 23, 2019
ericsmith:
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You r so on point man. Can someone start flying without trying to learn how to stand and walk. Relationship, engagement, friendship is a gradual thing. One cannot bypass one for another.


I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least

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Re: Your Boyfriend Is Not Your Husband! by StylesX: 11:08am On Oct 23, 2019
This foolish OP doesn't know that marriage evolve from relationships not the other way around, if you don't date how will you get to know your partner before commitments, abi you that want to ask her out won't be a boyfriend until you tie the knot, Africans are so backward and hypocritical, you'll just wake up one day and marry someone you don't know because you are against the boyfriend concept.

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