Don't You Think Of Settling Down Until You know or Wat h This. (Relationship Hidden Secret Amos 3:3) Can Two Walk Together Except They Agreed?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sE8dLCHJNtc

bukatyne:


Often times,

There are markers of people's behavior.

For instance, if someone is a bully or timid, you know they have low self esteem.

It is in your interest to help them boost their self esteem and/or research on the personality traits of low Esteemed people and see if you can deal.

If a person believes in traditional roles, you find out the likely expectations and roles and see if they align with your own vision of marriage.

Etc. Etc.

Roough estimates. Anyone life offers a partner that gives peace don't know what's up. To e marriage is luck, pure luck. This being said, like i say always, na bad woman them dey take sabi beta wife, na bad husband dem dey take no good one. Sometimes people dn't know the value of what they have till they see another hellish being. In all, to me, marriage is luck, and like you said all of these are randomized estimates. The angel today can transform to the devil next week

PrimadonnaO:


So many things about marriage aren't easy or necessarily convenient, but we have to do them, anyway. The effort has to be made.

So what if the wife works, too? Is she allowed to come home at whatever time is convenient for her just because she commutes Sangotedo-VI?

Will she teleport?

RisenPhoenix:
How strong the man is. If the man commands the respect of his home, and wields his authority firmly but with wisdom, the marriage will last. If he is weak and servile towards his wife; as most men are today; it won't.

Nothing to add. Don't ever leave the leadership of a home to a woman

Arsenate:

Fuuckk off man she's mine.
Have had my eyes on her

Awo moju ni epa inu igo fun adiye. Amadioha strike your eyes with apollo dia.

Millenniumlady:
It takes a lot to keep a lady in marriage men that listen's,care,comes home early from work,provide for the family, puts her first and must be very hard working and great in bed i think this will keep every woman that wants to be kept in marriage The truth is Nigerian men are always eager to get married but finds it hard to stay married

Lies. Marry a wo.an that is not content and see how bitter marriage is

crackkhaus:

That's right, but the way I see it...death is the only finality.

Since they have finally learned what they should have done and they're not dead yet, shouldn't they go back to being married to put it to practice?

Great point. They should whatever lessons they claimed to have learnt to the test.

PrimadonnaO:


In the first instance, a toxic partner shouldn't be married. What's the point marrying someone you can't love wholly and treat right?

A woman who's treated like a queen will never perceive her man as weak, except she's inherently damaged or has never been loved right. The thing about treating a woman right is that she'll submit easily and return your care in a hundred folds.

Why should a woman be treated like a queen?

healthserve:




bomgirl abi. Smh.

Stop calling me.

Bomgirl:


Stop calling me.

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GreatResearcher:
Why should a woman be treated like a queen?

Simple. Because the man wants to be treated like a king.

Kamani8:

Simple. Because the man wants to be treated like a king.

How is a king treated?

crackkhaus:

That view of mine is the reality of the country you live in, whether you like to admit it or not.
I don't exist on a fantasy alternate reality.

Watching Hollywood movies and trying to act western should not automatically change how you perceive the world around you.

The best you can do is hope that you find someone who has the exact kind of western-based ideology that you do...and then hope to God that all his friends and family around him are also like him, or else they will be able to make him think/act like them and you'll be back facing the same unhealthy patriarchy inside your own marriage.

@bold:

Thank God you know it's unhealthy.

Belafonte:


Awo moju ni epa inu igo fun adiye. Amadioha strike your eyes with apollo dia.

Za mu gani ai. Wannan fada da ni da kai ya Fara kenan.

bukatyne:

@bold:

Thank God you know it's unhealthy.

Well I just basically repeated her words.
I don't believe it's unhealthy, at least not in the sense that it is destructive.

As much as you people will not admit it, you are benefitting from patriarchy, she is benefitting from it, women are benefitting from it.

The alternative is not something any of you want, let's not kid ourselves.

Arsenate:

Za mu gani ai. Wannan fada da ni da kai ya Fara kenan.

Osese bere. Waa to maa so payan

GreatResearcher:
How is a king treated?

Sorry I quoted u in d first place. Error

crackkhaus:

Well I just basically repeated her words.
I don't believe it's unhealthy, at least not in the sense that it is destructive.

As much as you people will not admit it, you are benefitting from patriarchy, she is benefitting from it, women are benefitting from it.

The alternative is not something any of you want, let's not kid ourselves.

Enlighten me,

How do I, Bukatyne, benefit from the Nigerian version of patriarchy?

bukatyne:

Enlighten me,

How do I, Bukatyne, benefit from the Nigerian version of patriarchy?

Simple.

You live in Nigeria, you were born and grew up in Nigeria, your socialization and education is Nigerian-based, you got married by Nigerian cultural standards, you're not restricted from any movement, your rights are not trampled on, you're not dead yet... all of this has happened and still happening within this so-called unhealthy Nigerian version of a patriachal system.

I also know for a fact that as you are now, you don't practice the alternative which is matriarchy, in your home, in your family (extended & nuclear), in your workplace, in your social interactions and gatherings... so unless you're suffering some kind of life-threatening mentally-degrading social injustice right now in your life Bukatyne, then the patriarchy has been of immense benefit to you as far as your earthly existential journey is concerned.

crackkhaus:

Simple.

You live in Nigeria, you were born and grew up in Nigeria, your socialization and education is Nigerian-based, you got married by Nigerian cultural standards, you're not restricted from any movement, your rights are not trampled on, you're not dead yet... all of this has happened and still happening within this so-called unhealthy Nigerian version of a patriachal system.

I also know for a fact that as you are now, you don't practice the alternative which is matriarchy, in your home, in your family (extended & nuclear), in your workplace, in your social interactions and gatherings... so unless you're suffering some kind of life-threatening mentally-degrading social injustice right now in your life Bukatyne, then the patriarchy has been of immense benefit to you as far as your earthly existential journey is concerned.

These are not personalized benefits of 'Nigerian patriarchy' neither are they for women only.

This thread has deviated from the point I was trying to bring out.

bukatyne:

These are not personalized benefits of 'Nigerian patriarchy' neither are they for women only.

This thread has deviated from the point I was trying to bring out.

But with benefits to women nonetheless...

And my point was made.

crackkhaus:

Simple.

You live in Nigeria, you were born and grew up in Nigeria, your socialization and education is Nigerian-based, you got married by Nigerian cultural standards, you're not restricted from any movement, your rights are not trampled on, you're not dead yet... all of this has happened and still happening within this so-called unhealthy Nigerian version of a patriachal system.

I also know for a fact that as you are now, you don't practice the alternative which is matriarchy, in your home, in your family (extended & nuclear), in your workplace, in your social interactions and gatherings... so unless you're suffering some kind of life-threatening mentally-degrading social injustice right now in your life Bukatyne, then the patriarchy has been of immense benefit to you as far as your earthly existential journey is concerned.

Also, the so called patriarchy, backward african mentality, uncivilized and oppression of women are also the factors that created a way or strategy for men to be backward, uncivilized and stupid anyway by putting a gf on monthly allowance, coming back to nigeria to pick a local wife to UK, canada, US etc, sending gfs/women to school on sponsor, catering for inlaws before and in marriage thereby bringing wife brothers and sisters to home, the man if bouyant sponsoring them, giving inlaws financial support, men asses been hurled to war front to defend the soooo called ungrateful women etc and the list goes on and on and on.
They are only blind and too selfish to see the gains outweighs the loss but has most women think, they all want it all, always gain, gain and gain but No loss.
By the time they get this civilized life they all are yearning for, they will all look back 50 years from now and really appreciate the so called Patriarchy they all are demonizing now.
They all want Freedom, they all want to be free from been accountable to men so that they can live their life the way they want and to the fullest.
Unfortunately, Freedom is not that cheap as they thought, freedom is Expensive because when freedom goes into a room, Commitment exits the room at the same time. They both can't be in the room together.
If a boy is crying for freedom from his parents so that he won't be accountable to them, so that he can have his apartment and go out and in whenever he likes, then he should also be prepared to feed himself, pay nepa bills, house rent, clothing etc because Freedom is Never Free nor Cheap.

ubuja
Martinez39s
Pansophist
franchasng

emmaodet:


Also, the so called patriarchy, backward african mentality, uncivilized and oppression of women are also the factors that created a way or strategy for men to be backward, uncivilized and stupid anyway by putting a gf on monthly allowance, coming back to nigeria to pick a local wife to UK, canada, US etc, sending gfs/women to school on sponsor, catering for inlaws before and in marriage thereby bringing wife brothers and sisters to home, the man if bouyant sponsoring them, giving inlaws financial support, men asses been hurled to war front to defend the soooo called ungrateful women etc and the list goes on and on and on.
They are only blind and too selfish to see the gains outweighs the loss but has most women think, they all want it all, always gain, gain and gain but No loss.
By the time they get this civilized life they all are yearning for, they will all look back 50 years from now and really appreciate the so called Patriarchy they all are demonizing now.
They all want Freedom, they all want to be free from been accountable to men so that they can live their life the way they want and to the fullest.
Unfortunately, Freedom is not that cheap as they thought, freedom is Expensive because when freedom goes into a room, Commitment exits the room at the same time. They both can't be in the room together.
If a boy is crying for freedom from his parents so that he won't be accountable to them, so that he can have his apartment and go out and in whenever he likes, then he should also be prepared to feed himself, pay nepa bills, house rent, clothing etc because Freedom is Never Free nor Cheap.

ubuja
Martinez39s
Pansophist
franchasng

If catering for one's bills is the exit to Nigerian patriarchy, many women have exited the door tete!

emmaodet:


Also, the so called patriarchy, backward african mentality, uncivilized and oppression of women are also the factors that created a way or strategy for men to be backward, uncivilized and stupid anyway by putting a gf on monthly allowance, coming back to nigeria to pick a local wife to UK, canada, US etc, sending gfs/women to school on sponsor, catering for inlaws before and in marriage thereby bringing wife brothers and sisters to home, the man if bouyant sponsoring them, giving inlaws financial support, men asses been hurled to war front to defend the soooo called ungrateful women etc and the list goes on and on and on.
They are only blind and too selfish to see the gains outweighs the loss but has most women think, they all want it all, always gain, gain and gain but No loss.
By the time they get this civilized life they all are yearning for, they will all look back 50 years from now and really appreciate the so called Patriarchy they all are demonizing now.
They all want Freedom, they all want to be free from been accountable to men so that they can live their life the way they want and to the fullest.
Unfortunately, Freedom is not that cheap as they thought, freedom is Expensive because when freedom goes into a room, Commitment exits the room at the same time. They both can't be in the room together.
If a boy is crying for freedom from his parents so that he won't be accountable to them, so that he can have his apartment and go out and in whenever he likes, then he should also be prepared to feed himself, pay nepa bills, house rent, clothing etc because Freedom is Never Free nor Cheap.

Splendid submission bro..

It's typical dissociative cognitive dissonance that is the problem of those Nigerian women who complain about patriarchy.

Offer them the chance to experiment with the alternative, and they would rather die than practice matriarchy.

Truly, this freedom they seek is too expensive... even for them.

bukatyne:

If catering for one's bills is the exit to Nigerian patriarchy, many women have exited the door tete!

With everything that guy typed up there, the best you could do is to simplify it all to just catering for bills?

Do you even know what matriarchy implies?

emmaodet:


Also, the so called patriarchy, backward african mentality, uncivilized and oppression of women are also the factors that created a way or strategy for men to be backward, uncivilized and stupid anyway by putting a gf on monthly allowance, coming back to nigeria to pick a local wife to UK, canada, US etc, sending gfs/women to school on sponsor, catering for inlaws before and in marriage thereby bringing wife brothers and sisters to home, the man if bouyant sponsoring them, giving inlaws financial support, men asses been hurled to war front to defend the soooo called ungrateful women etc and the list goes on and on and on.
They are only blind and too selfish to see the gains outweighs the loss but has most women think, they all want it all, always gain, gain and gain but No loss.
By the time they get this civilized life they all are yearning for, they will all look back 50 years from now and really appreciate the so called Patriarchy they all are demonizing now.
They all want Freedom, they all want to be free from been accountable to men so that they can live their life the way they want and to the fullest.
Unfortunately, Freedom is not that cheap as they thought, freedom is Expensive because when freedom goes into a room, Commitment exits the room at the same time. They both can't be in the room together.
If a boy is crying for freedom from his parents so that he won't be accountable to them, so that he can have his apartment and go out and in whenever he likes, then he should also be prepared to feed himself, pay nepa bills, house rent, clothing etc because Freedom is Never Free nor Cheap.

ubuja
Martinez39s
Pansophist
franchasng

@crackkhaus, what did the highlighted speak to?

And I am talking 'Nigerian patriarchy'

bukatyne:

@crackkhaus, what did the highlighted speak to?

And I am talking 'Nigerian patriarchy'

The first set of bold letters have absolutely nothing to do with bills. Those are cultural behaviours/expectations foistered on men by a patriarchal system, which women enjoy.

Only the second set dealt with bills...which is why I said, how is it you summarized the entirety of that post into just bills?
That's besides the point anyway.

The important question is, are you as a woman ready to practice matriarchy in all its healthy glorious beautiful form?
This is what I want to know.

bukatyne:


@crackkhaus, what did the highlighted speak to?

And I am talking 'Nigerian patriarchy'

You are just rotting in the victim mentality. Emmaodet and crackkhaus are spot on. You bleat and whine about patriarchy (which you cunningly changed to "Nigerian patriarchy'' when confronted by emmaodet) like all feminists. If I may ask,
1) what rights and opportunities do YOU not have under this "Nigerian patriarchy" that Nigerian men have?
2) In what way does this "Nigerian patriarchy" prevent you from making it in life and being who you want to be as a woman?

You women always create something to whine about and make yourselves victims even when there is no reason to.

Martinez39s:
You are just rotting in the victim mentality. Emmaodet and crackkhaus are spot. You bleat and whine about patriarchy (which you cunningly changed to "Nigerian patriarchy'' when confronted by emmaodet) like all feminists. If I may ask,
1) what rights and opportunities do YOU not have under this "Nigerian patriarchy" that Nigerian men have?
2) In what way does this "Nigerian patriarchy" prevent you from making it in life and being who you want to be as a woman?

You women always create something to whine about and make yourselves victims even when there is no reason to.

Maybe PrimadonnaO can also help shed some light on this.

She's the one who first called it unhealthy..

Perhaps she might be willing to practice matriarchy instead.

crackkhaus:

The first set of bold letters have absolutely nothing to do with bills. Those are cultural behaviours/expectations foistered on men by a patriarchal system, which women enjoy.

Only the second set dealt with bills...which is why I said, how is it you summarized the entirety of that post into just bills?
That's besides the point anyway.

The important question is, are you as a woman ready to practice matriarchy in all its healthy glorious beautiful form?
This is what I want to know.

You sure?

Sponsoring a girlfriend in school, marrying a wife, putting girlfriend/wife on allowance, catering for in-laws etc. while cultural expectations all revolve around money.

If the woman in question is willing to spend her own money and do those stuffs, what other 'cultural obligation' does this man have?

It is not about what I want or do not; God has instituted already Patriarchy.

I studied what it meant according to the Creator and married someone we both aligned.

crackkhaus:

Maybe PrimadonnaO can also help shed some light on this.

She's the one who first called it unhealthy..

Perhaps she might be willing to practice matriarchy instead.

Lol. Please, leave me be. I've had a long day. Going to bed.