Jman06:
Op, it depends on the kind of lady you married. It is good to study the background of any lady you plan to marry.

If a lady is raised in a decent home where the mum and dad live peacefully together, chances are high that the lady would have learnt from her mother how to keep a home.

Also, the kind of friends a lady keeps should never be overlooked when deciding whether to wife her or not. This is because it is hard to find a lady who reasons on her own without being influenced by her friends. If a lady is surrounded by pseudo feminists, men haters and gold diggers, brother such a lady is not good for marriage.

In summary, marry from a decent home. Maintain close and friendly relationship with your in-laws (mil especially) and you'll see how successful your marriage would be.

Ishilove:
Na people wey never marry dey give marital advice pass. Smh

Millenniumlady:
If you can't come home early don't get married at all

GreatResearcher:
i'd listen to dem. they talkin frm first-hand experience

Belafonte:


Please, be realistic. You should know your man’s work schedule, and if it’s not to your liking do not marry him. You cannot start complaining and making a fuss, mid-marriage, about your man’s hours that you knew of before ring the knot.

Even at that, things change. A new kind of hustle or new job could keep him away from home longer than he anticipated. Unless you do not want the man to hustle, this point of yours is highly ridiculous.

GreatResearcher:
Mine is, to come home and do what exactly? breastfeed her?
Millenniumlady

Sixfeetbelle:


And if he's too strict and authoritative, the marriage won't last.

RisenPhoenix:
How strong the man is. If the man commands the respect of his home, and wields his authority firmly but with wisdom, the marriage will last. If he is weak and servile towards his wife; as most men are today; it won't.

GreatResearcher:


Asking for future purpose

healthserve:
Contentment is the secret. Contentment is everything. Covetousness people even in abundance would still fall out of line. Cause discontentment in itself is mental instability and sickness.



Show me a person without contentment or one that doesn't understand it, I'll show you a devil yet to be discovered. This truth isn't gender biased. A covetous male is the devil's right hand man and would never be satisfied or appeased

faithfull18:

Whatever happened to you saying you won't have any thing to do with women again, confused clown

Belafonte:


Please, be realistic. You should know your man’s work schedule, and if it’s not to your liking do not marry him. You cannot start complaining and making a fuss, mid-marriage, about your man’s hours that you knew of before ring the knot.

Even at that, things change. A new kind of hustle or new job could keep him away from home longer than he anticipated. Unless you do not want the man to hustle, this point of yours is highly ridiculous.

GreatResearcher:
I never said that. Stop being a pussy

sisisioge:


Oga they said you should come home early! All those explanation na excuse

Belafonte:


You for say make I no go work na. But you know I’ll come back early for you, make we kwantinu awa faaji

sisisioge:


You will soon chase away all my suitors

Belafonte:


Me I no be suitor abi? Make I catch you with any man, una two go see sometin.

RisenPhoenix:

sisisioge:


That takes us back to the woman who was purportedly caught with another man in her baby daddy's house. Whew! You even supported the rest of the clowns admonishing her. Whew! Na real wa for you male folks

Belafonte:


Ah ah. Are you saying what she did was decent? She couldn’t have taken her man away from the house? Come on.

sisisioge:


Let's not derail here papi...na just wa for you and the rest of those who kept on with the "man's house" bs. No quote me again biko...let me leave you to it .

Belafonte:


Is that your plan? You Want me to lace you with magun abi? These today women, una no dey fear again o . Try me and see

Btw, this is not derailment, it’s perfectly in line with the OP

Sixfeetbelle:


If wisdom is accepting input from his wife once in a while, then I agree wholeheartedly.

sisisioge:


just do right by her and she won't ever stray. May God help us all to be fair in our dealings.

sisisioge:
I think it takes the determination of the TWO parties in a marriage to make it work, to not only keep a woman but the man.

Imagine if your army friend is abusive and cheats, or the madam does that....they would have been history.

Imagine if a wealthy man with status cheats/abusive...She won't stay 8/10 of the time. And if she stays, she would be terribly unhappy. Etc.

Essentially, if the two parties involved are decent people who love, respect and have sustainability determination towards their marriage... They would probably stand the test of time.

BTW, how far? Ready to name the woman that shredded your heart, finance and dignity? I no be bad belly o .

Belafonte:


Well, she needs companionship, and that’s what you’re going home to do, to be her companion. However, she also has to be reasonable with her demand for quality time. Healthserve spends five hours on average commuting to and from work, it would be very silly to demand he gets home earlier than he naturally can. He’s not going to teleport to and from work.

RisenPhoenix:


Among other things, like closing one's eyes to the unimportant faults, giving her a degree of autonomy in how she runs the home, not going too deeply into the minute details of home or personal expenses; and as you proposed; taking her input into consideration when making decisions that will affect her. All without being too lax however, nor by handing over too much autonomy or delegating too much authority. It all comes with practice.

Of course, the assumption is that the husband is fulfilling his end of duties and responsibilities fully. If she is expected to be the woman of the house, he's expected to be the man. No one-sided contract here.

GreatResearcher:
I have a friend. A L/cpl in Nigerian Army who earns N55k monthly. He is married to a lady and the marriage has produced a cute lovely daughter who would be 5yrs this year. This guy is always happy around his wife. Every time he posts pics on SM, It's always pics of them cuddling together. They act like couple who are just new in a relationship. Each time I pay them visit, they are just lovable. The lady is not working. They both survive with 55k monthly and are happy together.
Last week I went to they guy and asked him how he's able to keep a lady in marriage even when he earns little. His response: "Prince, money doesn't keep a lady. If it does, people like Tiger Woods would keep one. Marriage is not something you rush into. Study the lady you want to marry to know if she's right for you. My wife and I dated for more than 6years. During our years of dating, we studied each other very well and decided that we are fit for each other. Your mistake was jumping into marriage".
STAYING LONG IN COURTSHIP TO STUDY YOUR PARTNER. hmm
Going through threads here, I saw a thread which contradicts his submission.
I saw a thread were a retired Army Gen who was a former Oyo state military governor said when he wanted to marry, he met a friend and told her to get him a wife. And her friend brought a young lady to him and the got married. No dating or whatsoever. The marriage lasted till 2016 when his wife died.
I am really confused.
Please I want to really know what keeps a woman in marriage.
Asking for future purpose

HRHQueenPhil:
gbam..infact na Holy spirit reveal this one

healthserve:



Brotherly. Respect to the brotherhood