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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Coolcalmcollect(m): 10:55pm On May 07, 2020
LordShiva97:



I'm just as confused as you're.
I doubt the op knows what the fork he's talking about, any Nigerian guy that does dat and the Nigerian girl isn't a billionaire dota should be shot on sight.
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 10:55pm On May 07, 2020
DexterousOne:


Why would any sensible man want to even do this?
.Complications of life
its the kids that even suffer more in such union cos the children only see their overseas dad once in a blue moon during maybe easter or christmas.for the wife she might not be that lonely cos she can have a lover to keep her company when the man is overseas.
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by pansophist(m): 10:56pm On May 07, 2020
lefulefu:
its the kids that even suffer more in such union cos the children only see their overseas dad once in a blue moon during maybe easter or christmas.for the wife she might not be that lonely cos she can have a lover to keep her company when the man is overseas.

Oga, how Dominican chick na, send three for me naw, abeg cry
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Skmoda360(m): 10:56pm On May 07, 2020
Jaqenhghar:

You cant date Nigerian girl na white girl you want manage? LOL. Wgitey 100x worse pass naija girl
Just leave me and my opinion ooo....ok madam sad

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by DexterousOne(m): 10:56pm On May 07, 2020
pansophist:
Generally speaking, women are socially inclined. They evolved to effectively adapt to their surrounding to advance their status. By design, women assimilate towards social consensus (lifestyle), while men lean towards creating that consensus.

Women do better than men in language learning, cultural understanding, are community oriented, bond easily and strongly, less competitive, more agreeable, and have a less tendency for violence. All these are a perfect recipe that makes women easily integrate in any society than men.

Lots of diasporean Nigerian men who went back home to pick a wife back to western countries learned this lesson when the women changed and be exactly like the western women they are running away from. Like the old saying, men marry women hoping they do not change (but they change), meanwhile, women marry men hoping they can change him (but he doesnt change).

The female basically wait at the finish line to roll with the winners, and will integrate seamlessly to the lifestyle, and live happily, ever after. Easily. There is no such thing as tip to dating Nigerian women abroad, since her behaviours is predictable, based on the context of the society where she domicile.


Well articulated

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by LordShiva97(m): 10:56pm On May 07, 2020
oshaosha2014:
You are stupid for telling a man to go and marry his mother. I see nothing wrong with the way Nigerian men were brought to be the man and be in control of their relationships. Real men don’t do that 50/50 shit. It is better for a man to just be on his own than deal with any useless lady who thinks she can’t serve a man. Your place as a woman is to serve your man.



The place of a woman is to serve a man?

Either you just time-travelled from the stone age to the 21st century or you have been living with a primitive tribe in an impenetrable tropical rain forest. Either way, you'll soon learn.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 10:57pm On May 07, 2020
Nephilim:
All these are stories for the gods! Marry a Caucasian with humility of heart and you will be asking God why you are this lucky!
that is if she loves u oo

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by kushme: 10:58pm On May 07, 2020
Nice thread op.
To me, marriage is a scam both home and abroad. Don't do it. cheesy

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Agugbadin: 10:59pm On May 07, 2020
Skmoda360:
Japa things.....I no fit dey yankee lipsrsealed make I leave whitey dey follow naija women make dem koba my life....


I will work my ass out and date a white girl undecided capiche.

That is much better
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Savagethe21st(m): 10:59pm On May 07, 2020
pDudd:


Hahahahaha. Lefool Lefool, you sabi the runz die grin grin

You too sabi this Yankee things o. Those guys dey always Bleep up. Instead make Dem dey marry their mates, them go dey marry fresh fish wey still wan rock life before she reach 40. Or instead of him to marry a girl that has already opened eye. Because an open eye girl will not suddenly realize herself. She don realize herself tey tey so na just settle she wan settle cos she don already chop life.

All these small small girls will eventually open eye and ruin the man's life. I will talk about all that one.
bro I'm sorry i don't mean to derail your thread but like ur other thread do u think black girls in uk are ratchet?
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by RamessesIV(m): 11:00pm On May 07, 2020
Ahh you be USA babe And 24

Sorry though,I don't really get your point,can you explain further
MOnkeyBabe:
Guys Cool it smiley.lol.
Here's an interesting one for you Ramses. I left Nigeria to the U.s at 14. Now 24. Exactly 10 years. I wasn't born in the U.s., neither am I a fReSher. What Does that make me?
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by flam5: 11:00pm On May 07, 2020
emmaodet:


Are you saying our laws enslave our women? is there any part of the law that enslaves women? why are we quick to demonize our country? is there anything nigerian men are doing that the women dont have access to? Most times we talk, open threads on how to travel to abroad etc, some even do thanksgiving in church for getting a visa and somehow look at others as unfortunate for been in nigeria and i wonder where are we getting this mentality from? who told these guys people in nigeria are suffering while the ones in abroad are the fortunate ones?
And that is how some of my friends will come home and be sneaking/hiding from people as if we way they here dey hungry, even with your coming home i will still flex you and host you so what the fvck?
Like what the op said in his first statement that - ''leave that your native brain'' to HELL with him if he thinks he is better off than some here because he thinks like a native fowl too. Leave your yeye bride and bigboyism too etc
I dont know his family or background but i believe he his part of the people who scream ''moti bo - Am free'' when he got his visa at walter carrington in VI
God bless you my bro! Can you blame them? Its some guys that will be begging them for money because of the exchange rate that caused it. They will do their nonsense big boys for 2 weeks once they arrive Nigeria with their cheap tickets on Ethiopian airline or Turkish airline and quickly fade away once they are out of cash.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by humilitypays(m): 11:01pm On May 07, 2020
Kobojunkie:


You just made the case for me without even realizing it.

A woman is in allwise your equal. If you do not see that at your age and stance in life, you already are proof of the Nigerian problem.

Plus, the laws consider women as second class citizens meaning they are considered less than men, which is wrong and needs to be corrected so that people like you are put in their place.
The op is writing jargons!! Complete nonsense!!



He should change the topic to:

My Bad Experience Dating Nigerian Women Living in America!!!


Most Nigerian guys living abroad are their own problem, they are the reason Nigerian ladies show them pepper once they land abroad.


These guys will never tell these ladies the truth of what they do and how much they earn.


They will be saving money for months or years and maybe after some years they gather the cash which is hard currency, change it when they land Nigeria and it becomes huge money in Naira and they start to spend it anyhow forming rich guys when they are just nobody in the US but because of exchange rate difference and good environment they stay to snap pictures and post online to deceive these Naija based ladies, these ladies assume them to be rich guys working with US President lol.


On arriving the US after they use money they don't even have much to entice and lure these ladies into marriage, these ladies discover that these guys are like the downtrodden people, the lowest of lowest in the US and you know women, they feel betrayed and start to harbor anger against these guys that brought them to the US and these guys will never tell people the truth of what happened, they will start telling people that the Nigerian girl they married and brought from Nigeria no longer respect them, how can she respect you when u lied to her from the beginning and used fake life and lies to lure her into marriage

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Happyguy201: 11:02pm On May 07, 2020
who get time to date Nigerian women in america . person wey go abroad na hustle sure pass naija girl go carry wahala kill u if you dare try

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Greystone: 11:02pm On May 07, 2020
Coolcalmcollect:
why the fork will i be fortunate enuf to get an American visa and go there to date a forking Nigerian girlisn't that a waste of visa

"Oversense" will not kill u bros... cool

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by LordShiva97(m): 11:02pm On May 07, 2020
easyelliot:


exactly....is it by force to look for a Nigerian girl when you are out of Nigeria? By the time u sample Polish girl, Mexican girl, akata, Ethiopian girl.....u will thank me later

Glad to know that I'm not alone.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Agugbadin: 11:02pm On May 07, 2020
tiptoe1:
Let me chip In a little. If you successfully get your papers and decide that you want to pick a girl from home, please and please you need to open your eyes and be careful cause it's also as deadly as getting married to an akata.

The western law have made husbands completely infim. You don't expect her to stay the same way and knowing laws in the Western world lets her own the house, the children and majority of the things you have. Many Nigerian wives realize their potentials once they get to tge US. Some of them do worse thing to their husband just to prove a point to their husband that they aren't in Nigeria where husbands has upper hands. So once their eyes tear, they over do it and torment their husbands with it.


What do you want to do with black women in USA let alone a Nigerian. Be guided and shine your eyes.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by XhosaNostra(f): 11:03pm On May 07, 2020
Jaqenhghar:

You cant date Nigerian girl na white girl you want manage? LOL. Wgitey 100x worse pass naija girl

Isn't it sad that the only time they're good enough to date one is when they have some sort of standing in life & suddenly their own is not good enough anymore? Black people with that "white is an achievement" mentality kinda make you wish they had their own race.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Nobody: 11:03pm On May 07, 2020
TheManOfTheYear:
So who then should we marry?

Little wonder most men over there end up having baby mamas instead of wives, no one want to lose everything he's worked for to a woman in the name of divorce, or be paying alimony or child support grin
if na u u go gree lose ur asset to a woman cheesy
just imagine u have been doing 4 jobs in the US without sleeping and u able to build ur assest then one mgbeke wey u marry for village carry come US come divorce u then collect that ur beautiful expensive house wey u use ur sweat buy,she also collect ur children then the courts come give her ur expensive cadillac grin grin plus the exotic bulldog u bought on ur trip to england the courts still order u to hand ur bulldog to her plus to add insult to injury she go come to invite her boyfriend wey dey smoke weed with dreadlocks to be fucking her inside ur house and inside that ur expansive bedroom and ur beautiful bed......all wetin u use ur sweat buy grin grin grin grin...tell me how will u feel grin grin grin

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by abbey621(m): 11:04pm On May 07, 2020
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her access to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by IJEYdiamond(f): 11:04pm On May 07, 2020
Ok... Please Tips on whites too... !!

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by MOnkeyBabe(f): 11:04pm On May 07, 2020
lefulefu:
those yankee based naija guys who go back to naija to get younger wives such marriages always end in a sad note.Once she steps her foot in the US she grows wings instanta cheesy .after the guy trains her in school in most cases in medical school she will divorce him collect his house,car and other properties..prevent him from seeing his kids and get a younger lover for herself that will be smashing her in the house bought by her ex husband grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
There is God O. Especially if the man is innoCent and they don't exaggerate issues
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by MOnkeyBabe(f): 11:06pm On May 07, 2020
RamessesIV:
Ahh you be USA babe And 24

Sorry though,I don't really get your point,can you explain further
came here to school when I was 14. Hadn't reached the age of maturity by the time I moved. Am I as good as a Citizen? How would my growing up be classified? NiGeRiAn or Yankee?
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by humilitypays(m): 11:06pm On May 07, 2020
lefulefu:
if na u u go gree lose ur asset to a woman cheesy
just imagine u have been doing 4 jobs in the US without sleeping and u able to build ur assest then one mgbeke wey u marry for village carry come US come divorce u then collect that ur beautiful expensive house wey u use ur sweat buy,she also collect ur children then the courts come give her ur expensive cadillac grin grin plus the exotic bulldog u bought on ur trip to england the courts still order u to hand ur bulldog to her plus to add insult to injury she go come to invite her boyfriend wey dey smoke weed with dreadlocks to be fucking her inside ur house and inside that ur expansive bedroom and ur beautiful bed......all wetin u use ur sweat buy grin grin grin grin...tell me how will u feel grin grin grin
Lol, you made me laugh so hard

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by pansophist(m): 11:06pm On May 07, 2020
DexterousOne:


I think its children before wife

Children put their moms in trouble ALL THE TIME

A distress call to 911 is all it takes to put the woman in gobe.
Same way distress call from the woman can put man in kssala

All those female teachers walking freely after caught sexually violating minors, or the wrist-slap women get when they kill their kids? perhaps, the status of women is really strong in the USA, that a man will never be treated the same way the legal system treats women. And even more surprisingly, the women there believe they are oppressed.

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Jim99: 11:07pm On May 07, 2020
Happyguy201:
who get time to date Nigerian women in america . person wey go abroad na hustle sure pass naija girl go carry wahala kill u if you dare try

Guy no even try am reason Naija girl mata 4 jand. Na hussle carry man go there, no be play.

When white girls yakpa. God forbid

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by MrCuteking(m): 11:07pm On May 07, 2020
[s]
Jaspernubi:
Dating Nigerian in foreign climes is not worth it. don't play with your destinies. Nigerians ladies abroad are mostly prostitutes, you don't need them, they need you most to destroy you
Men beware
I have seen many men destroyed especially by Nigerian girls
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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Agugbadin: 11:08pm On May 07, 2020
Ejusni:


So what you're saying is that blacks were not treated as sub humans in Jim Crow American segregation not counting the numerous lynchings and mass murders... I shouldn't argue with you, you're Clearly an ignorant troglodyte not worthy of my response.

You are right
Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by Sterope(f): 11:08pm On May 07, 2020
And many of them don't, it can go both ways. Whether Nigeria or America, anyone can be silly.

When men abuse their positions in our society, you don't complain. Use that energy to criticise unfair societies not just Western countries because it is bias towards women in some areas.

jerryunit48:
Many of them will always take advantage of the system even more than the Americans themselves because she has found a new freedom just to make life miserable for the guy

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by humilitypays(m): 11:09pm On May 07, 2020
abbey621:
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her acces to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!
This is what I have been saying all along.

It depends on the lady you married, what you as the man is up to....and your own personality too.

A bad woman is a bad woman whether she is in the village oh, Lagos oh, Abuja oh, America oh, China oh, Saudi Arabia oh.....bad woman remains a bad woman, society didn't change her, she was bad from the get go but pretending or waiting to sprout

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by pansophist(m): 11:09pm On May 07, 2020
lefulefu:
if na u u go gree lose ur asset to a woman cheesy
just imagine u have been doing 4 jobs in the US without sleeping and u able to build ur assest then one mgbeke wey u marry for village carry come US come divorce u then collect that ur beautiful expensive house wey u use ur sweat buy,she also collect ur children then the courts come give her ur expensive cadillac grin grin plus the exotic bulldog u bought on ur trip to england the courts still order u to hand ur bulldog to her plus to add insult to injury she go come to invite her boyfriend wey dey smoke weed with dreadlocks to be fucking her inside ur house and inside that ur expansive bedroom and ur beautiful bed......all wetin u use ur sweat buy grin grin grin grin...tell me how will u feel grin grin grin

E no end there naw, even his future salary, he go de pay money monthly to the mgbeke. grin

In my nextlife, God make me a woman, abeg cheesy

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Re: Tips For Dating A Nigerian Woman In America by SweetCunt97(f): 11:09pm On May 07, 2020
LordShiva97:



The place of a woman is to serve a man?

Either you just time-travelled from the stone age to the 21st century or you have been living with a primitive tribe in a deep rain forest. Either way, you'll soon learn.
Are minding the local man. If u check I'm sure he can't give a woman 50k per month and he's looking for who to serve his broke ass.

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