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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 8:22pm On Jun 22, 2020
Ybaby:


God allows women to talk talkless of you a mere mortal.... do you know why we have alot of landladies?

If you dont want your wife to be landlady of house you built .... while you commute to heaven prematurely you better give yourself brain

Woman!

She is like water till she will drown you - you will not see her coming.

She is like the ocean enticing looks like you can walk all over her but she is so deep you will find yourself at the bottom of the sea bed

Woman!!!

Respect and fear her.

I notice you said physically so you are a wife beater.... I hope your meet your match.

Those men who had job doing well then started mistreating thier wives .... go and ask them how ot turned.

Your best bet is to have your woman in your corner but ti o ba lo crazy la San you will soon know delilah was a soldier in mini skirt what might men could not do - she finish work.

Donot die prematurely biko

I don’t need to beat a woman who cheats on me. Her punishment will be handed to her by the gods. She will swear oaths. If Regina Daniels can do it, so can any other woman who desires to marry me.

I will hand her over to Ogun and Sopona.

The prayer against premature death should be for your husband and sons, I’m quite good. But thanks for your concern
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 8:23pm On Jun 22, 2020
Romangalactic:

Exactly. Just don't call dem golddiggers even when they know they are golddiggers. Same way we should not call a woman skinny or fat or ugly, even when she knows for real she's skinny or fat or ugly.

It's a woman thing

And that is the conclusion of the whole matter.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Ybaby: 8:24pm On Jun 22, 2020
Belafonte:


I don’t need to beat a woman who cheats on me. Her punishment will be handed to her by the gods. She will swear oaths. If Regina Daniels can do it, so can any other woman who desires to marry me.

I will hand her over to Ogun and Sopona.

The preyed against premature death should be for your husband and sons, I’m quite good. But thanks for your concern


Ode!!!!
AFI spoons and Ogun na

You are quite slow bro

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 8:25pm On Jun 22, 2020
Ybaby:



Ode!!!!
AFI spoons and Ogun na

You are quite slow bro

Still faster than your husband wink

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Ybaby: 8:33pm On Jun 22, 2020
Belafonte:


Still faster than your husband wink

NEVER NEVER NEVER

You that has fish brain.... my hubby is a sharp man with respect for women knowing he was born by a woman.

Not some 50k salary earning with shoulder pad ego whereas he secretly likes it from behind.

How dare you compare yourself to men of timber and calibre like my sweetie - you that a woman is probably footing your Bill's and buying you singlet


See this slownpoke saying he is faster than my sweetim let me be clear your father and all the men in your family can NEVER be as fast as my Oga.

How can!?

You that you are dim!

I am in a good mood today o. Saying a woman should not talk when you are talking .... as per na dog.

You are demented !!

You that a woman popped you out... born of a woman and now you want to frustrate women.

Walahi o gbadun rara .... you and your chicken change are not fully balanced upstairs

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 8:35pm On Jun 22, 2020
Ybaby:


NEVER NEVER NEVER

You that has fish brain.... my hubby is a sharp man with respect for women knowing he was born by a woman.

Not some 50k salary earning with shoulder pad ego where as he secretly likes it from behind.

How dare you compare yourself to men of timber and calibre like my sweetie - you that a woman is probably rooting your Bill's and buying you shoes


See this slownpoke saying he is faster than my sweetim let me be clear your father and all the men in your family can NEVER be as fast as my Oga.

How can!?

You that you are dim!

I am in a good mood today o. Saying a woman should not talk when you are talking .... as per na dog.

You are demented !!

You that a woman popped you out... born of a woman and now you want to frustrate women.

Walahi o gbadun rara .... you and your chicken change are not fully balanced upstairs

Oya sorry, I can see you flinging spit everywhere like an epilepsy sufferer. No vex. As sharp as you claim your husband is, he went and married a daft Jezebel. That’s some sharpness I must admit. If by sharp, you mean he’s an imbeciile then I fully agree with you. Sha sorry. grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Ybaby: 8:48pm On Jun 22, 2020
Belafonte:


Oya sorry, I can see you flinging spit everywhere like an epilepsy sufferer. No vex. As sharp as you claim your husband is, he went and married a daft Jezebel. That’s some sharpness I must admit. If by sharp, you mean he’s an imbeciile then I fully agree with you. Sha sorry. grin

Apology accepted.

Go and sin no more

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 8:49pm On Jun 22, 2020
Ybaby:


Apology accepted.

Go and sin no more

grin Weyrey alaso

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by holysaint1(m): 9:35pm On Jun 22, 2020
una too talk self..
Okay we don hear..
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Acidosis(m): 9:52pm On Jun 22, 2020
Alexaonfleek:
cheesy grin
Na their way be that.
When they have nothing to say,they will bring in the family members that are not on NL


Emboldened. You mean reality?
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Acidosis(m): 10:00pm On Jun 22, 2020
pmoye:
90k monthly may be okay for you as a single person, even then it depends on where you live in Nigeria. But as a married man that is meant to cater for his household it is indeed grossly insufficient. In case you haven't realized it, it is not normal to be used to suffering. I know some of you try to use religious thinking to make you guys happy in poverty, but it is not normal. Start thinking properly. If each of you spend just N1,000 a day on food, without having children that is already N60,000 in a month. On 90k monthly it is even impossible to own your own house; if your house rent is a just 300k per year, that is 25k in a month.

Now you have just 5k left, and you haven't even accounted for transportation, or for medical care, health insurance, savings, giving parents token...etc.

And because you're Nigerian, the moment you get married everyone including yourself expects your wife to put to bed within a year. What happens when a baby comes on your 90k monthly salary? The baby will literally take more than what you and your wife consume daily. At that rate and within just 1.5 years of marrying you are already broke and you are likely going to be for a very long time.

You can go ahead and abuse me, but a decent life is not cheap. And feeding well, having health insurance coverage, and having savings are the basic minimum, it's only being used to poverty and its religious correlate called contentment that makes you believe a family can survive on 90k monthly. We shouldn't be copying poverty examples around us.

As a man simply lead a purposeful life. Do your calculations well. If you need to change jobs, or to have a side hustle please do it so you can have enough and more before you try to get married. It isn't fear on the children we bring to this world whose best skill these days is to drop their account number everywhere cyberbegging.



Lol



Reality would soon reset your brain

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Phenomenal16(f): 10:08pm On Jun 22, 2020
Onyi22
Babe forgive me I might be wrong
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Khonifer: 10:12pm On Jun 22, 2020
Why are people angry here? Who is supposed to like poverty exactly please? Na wa o

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Khonifer: 10:13pm On Jun 22, 2020
pmoye:


The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

Period.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by bukatyne(f): 10:23pm On Jun 22, 2020
Belafonte:


1. A woman who will shut up when I ask her to, or one who knows how to talk and keep quiet when she should. You might consider that misogynistic, but it is what it is.

2. A faithful woman. If I catch her cheating it will end very badly physically and mentally for her.

3. A good homemaker.

4. An intellectually sound woman.

5. A spiritual woman who can battle for me in the spirit and boosts my own spirit rather than dampen it.

6. A woman who will be devoted to me.

7. In lieu of points 1-6, a woman who truly loves me and understands me and daily desires to please me. Having this quality will make the above points a breeze. And in fact, I’ll be more amenable to allowing her shortcomings, especially if she is a teachable spirit.

Seven points agenda for N50m.

Anyways, he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

Carry on. cheesy

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by bukatyne(f): 10:27pm On Jun 22, 2020
angelfallz:


there is nothing wrong with the nigerian family system, if there is any unified family system anyway.
But if you insist that something is wrong, please list them.

1. Baby heads/leaders;
2. Financial sperm donors;
3. Wives unwilling to take responsibility for their choices;
4. Wives who revel in victimhood;
Etc.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by bukatyne(f): 10:32pm On Jun 22, 2020
Magnoliaa:


Not really. That would mean all your hustling, investments, businesses is a gamble. Why work hard when you don't know if it'll be lost. Money doesn't have a mind/wings. You control it.



So like this is just 1/1,000,000,000,000,000 posts addressed to women concerning marrying a rich man. We've always talked about other ideals for a marriage at other times - don't diminish/deflect the course of the topic.

If I read well, too, the op DID NOT condemn other things that make a marriage work or not. It's just highlighting one of the things that make/mar a marriage.

Divorce, loosing money... has nothing to do with the advice?

Learn more about the winglike properties of money. wink Doesn't mean it everyone who is/was rich would become poor. We all pray and aspire to grow.

I dropped a comment on the OP. Except I am underestimating my influence, I can't 'diminish/deflect' the course of the topic.

If the OP tells women to marry only rich men, what happens IF the rich man becomes poor or hits hard times as the OP's advice is no loner valid?

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by angelfallz(m): 10:52pm On Jun 22, 2020
bukatyne:


1. Baby heads/leaders;
2. Financial sperm donors;
3. Wives unwilling to take responsibility for their choices;
4. Wives who revel in victimhood;
Etc.

i have no idea what you mean with your points, if you can, please explain
as for your number 4, women generally, worldwide are taught to revel in victimhood.
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by BrokeFeminist: 11:36pm On Jun 22, 2020
Loud it
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by jesmond3945: 11:58pm On Jun 22, 2020
It is only in Nigeria that marriage a beautiful institution is business. A time will come when men will choose a cheaper option of baby mama than what marriage has become in Nigeria. Is it not better I invest my peanut and if I need children I go for the timaya option.
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Nobody: 12:32am On Jun 23, 2020
I don't get worked up when I hear ladies say this.
I mean, from the socio economic point of view, it has benefited the society since offsprings get to be raised in a conducive environment, thereby giving them a better chance at surviving, I think it's also a basic feeling we all have, I mean to be loved for who we are, without whatever conditions or pre conditions that comes with it, it's a paradox.

I have nothing against what is being said over the thread, love is just a stupid feeling that does a terrible job trying to mask our innate needs, the whole of human existence is geared towards survival. Tell me how many women won't make your life a living hell when you lose your job or there's no money around, what's the percentage?

The fathers before us were more logical, having multiple wives gave them options and also kids that could work on the farm or whatever business they were into, they weren't in love, it was just the common sense thing to do.

Moralists changed everything, but I stay true to myself, my needs and wants aren't to be neglected and I wouldn't sacrifice it for anything in this world. Personally I don't like fat girls, wifey has to be in shape at all times or I might lose
interest, I'm a very visual person and it's all good but what I don't like, is the society trying to shame men into accepting their wives the way they are, words like "man up" would starting flying around when she's no longer attractive, omo that one no concern me o.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Acidosis(m): 2:01am On Jun 23, 2020
Khonifer:
Why are people angry here? Who is supposed to like poverty exactly please? Na wa o

No one likes poverty dear. Only thing is reality don't care about what you like or hate. cheesy grin grin Poverty inflicts those who dislike poverty more than those who do not. You think majority of poor families want to be poor? It's reality my dear grin Reality don't give a damn what you think

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Nobody: 2:20am On Jun 23, 2020
pocohantas:


Yet when a woman wants a working man, they bark at you and you cower in fear. You think these niggas give two fcks about you?


She say na Rich oh, not working Man.

100k is the average salary in Lagos na, abi who are the Rich men bikonu, let them come forward.

At least, Nigerian men should be Rich first, how many Nigerians are Rich? Abi is it all this G Boys all over Lekki and Nicon estate that we are referring to?

Infact, in this pandemic? Hian cheesy

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Nobody: 2:31am On Jun 23, 2020
bukatyne:


Seven points agenda for N50m.

Anyways, he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

Carry on. cheesy

My dear sister, why are you disturbing yourself with all this chewgum Nairaland boys that have not even smelt 1M, talking of 50M.

He say na "a woman that is worth 50M". The money in your account is what you are worth, end of story. Unless your name is traded in stocks, your current financial value is your value. Opari oh.

People don't know that you are one bad investment from being a pupper. Just one.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by emmaodet: 6:47am On Jun 23, 2020
Acidosis:


No one likes poverty dear. Only thing is reality don't care about what you like or hate. cheesy grin grin Poverty inflicts those who dislike poverty more than those who do not. You think majority of poor families want to be poor? It's reality my dear grin Reality don't give a damn what you think

grin grin grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Belafonte(m): 6:56am On Jun 23, 2020
bukatyne:


Seven points agenda for N50m.

Anyways, he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

Carry on. cheesy

It is what it is, Buka. Do they not follow more stringent rules for less money in their places of employment? Abi you think 50milla is 500k? grin

Owo lo n soro nau. grin
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Romangalactic(m): 7:10am On Jun 23, 2020
DeckXavier:
I don't get worked up when I hear ladies say this.
I mean, from the socio economic point of view, it has benefited the society since offsprings get to be raised in a conducive environment, thereby giving them a better chance at surviving, I think it's also a basic feeling we all have, I mean to be loved for who we are, without whatever conditions or pre conditions that comes with it, it's a paradox.

I have nothing against what is being said over the thread, love is just a stupid feeling that does a terrible job trying to mask our innate needs, the whole of human existence is geared towards survival. Tell me how many women won't make your life a living hell when you lose your job or there's no money around, what's the percentage?

The fathers before us were more logical, having multiple wives gave them options and also kids that could work on the farm or whatever business they were into, they weren't in love, it was just the common sense thing to do.

Moralists changed everything, but I stay true to myself, my needs and wants aren't to be neglected and I wouldn't sacrifice it for anything in this world. Personally I don't like fat girls, wifey has to be in shape at all times or I might lose
interest, I'm a very visual person and it's all good but what I don't like, is the society trying to shame men into accepting their wives the way they are, words like "man up" would starting flying around when she's no longer attractive, omo that one no concern me o.
I love your comment. I too am very visual person because I've made peace with the reality that love is a mask and relationships will always depend on selfish interests. I can't stand my woman looking like a whale,not when I'm responsible for her financially and all she has to do for me is look exceptionally attractive.

The day she starts to let go in the name of I gave birth to your children,na dat day I begin search for another smallie with my spec to use as sidechic. You can't be eating my money and still want to use emotion to manipulate me into liking what I hate.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Romangalactic(m): 7:14am On Jun 23, 2020
truthsayer009:


She say na Rich oh, not working Man.

100k is the average salary in Lagos na, abi who are the Rich men bikonu, let them come forward.

At least, Nigerian men should be Rich first, how many Nigerians are Rich? Abi is it all this G Boys all over Lekki and Nicon estate that we are referring to?

Infact, in this pandemic? Hian cheesy
Just have more money than her & her papa, is what naija women call rich. If we are to go by the true definition of rich and wealthy, only abt 1% of women are married to such men and the remaining single ones will not even see enough to go round.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by jornwhite: 9:00am On Jun 23, 2020
Ybaby:


NEVER NEVER NEVER

You that has fish brain.... my hubby is a sharp man with respect for women knowing he was born by a woman.

Not some 50k salary earning with shoulder pad ego whereas he secretly likes it from behind.

How dare you compare yourself to men of timber and calibre like my sweetie - you that a woman is probably footing your Bill's and buying you singlet


See this slownpoke saying he is faster than my sweetim let me be clear your father and all the men in your family can NEVER be as fast as my Oga.

How can!?

You that you are dim!

I am in a good mood today o. Saying a woman should not talk when you are talking .... as per na dog.

You are demented !!

You that a woman popped you out... born of a woman and now you want to frustrate women.

Walahi o gbadun rara .... you and your chicken change are not fully balanced upstairs




These one won't let us hear word with my opim is whatever, Gud 2 know yu re nuttin without him tongue

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 9:24am On Jun 23, 2020
In the end I think we have different view of marriage. Those attacking me for the original post needn't have gone through the painful stress of insulting me, at least you could say it's all my personal opinion.
Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Khonifer: 9:35am On Jun 23, 2020
Acidosis:


No one likes poverty dear. Only thing is reality don't care about what you like or hate. cheesy grin grin Poverty inflicts those who dislike poverty more than those who do not. You think majority of poor families want to be poor? It's reality my dear grin Reality don't give a damn what you think

You say these things like we’re puns like we have no part to play in this ‘reality’ at all. Of course this is a poor country, and op’s post will not stop poor people from getting married but there is also nothing wrong in preaching common sense. Why would anyone want to marry into and raise children in poverty?

Point still is there is no reason anyone should be mad on this thread. That’s all

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by Ybaby: 10:42am On Jun 23, 2020
jornwhite:





These one won't let us hear word with my opim is whatever, Gud 2 know yu re nuttin without him tongue

Jealousy! Jealousy!! grin grin grin

It is not my fault that your own wife tears your shirt and is NEVER proud of you because you donot pay bills

Not my fault o grin grin grin

My Obim is a man of honour and I am so glad I have him to look after me - He makes my life rich and colourful.

I love him and forever grateful to God for sending me a real MAN - my Oga is my mentor, my father, my lover, my rock.... I really admire him.

May his life be very long so he can eat the fruit of his labour.

If more men are like my Obim we will have less kids hawking and begging. He is a man of timbre and caliber.... A man's man.

He can help you get a job.... send me your CV

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