Exactly

ebonyggurl:


Don't mind him.He doesn't know that it is only money that can make young women look at old men.

Same goes with old women who have money...young guys will come.

And you think women are rushing 80 year old men or you think women would be willing to sleep with an 80 year old man without issue? lool you are delusional

Martinez39:
And who wants to have sex with a woman in her 80s? Men don't rush women in their eighties. They are like old newspapers that have been read and are no longer needed.

Darling no. Let’s be real here, sometimes we need to look in the mirror and tell ourselves this truth. No it’s not always about money, but look at your character. Some men have really serious issues and baggage, laziness, addiction, lack of motivation etc are huge character flaws. I don’t believe a man has to have it all to get married, but please sometimes the reason you are not meeting the right woman is because you are full of problems.

Rita30:
You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and the grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

Back then they used to get married as young as 15 or 14. My grandma got married at 18, So it’s very believable.

oluwaseyi000:


If she is 80 something and celebrating 70 something years of marriage that means they are either lying or she married at 10+

The woman looks like she’s in her 80s but a good looking well kept 80 something year old woman. My grandma looks like this too.

oluwaseyi000:

I don't understand, the woman look young, she can't be more than 80 years, 71 years of marriage means she married at 9 years even if she is 85 that means she married at 14 don't tell me she is 90 years, the man look 90 sha

That’s disgusting. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin, it shows that you have self control and respect for your body. It’s an achievement, please don’t ever feel inferior or bad about it. You are blessed.

Cadec007:
lol, the last girl i told i was a V, told her friends who told their friends who told their friends......... Till a day came when i had issue with one young shop seller on my street and she called me names, ii wasn't the worst of insults i have ever gotten but it pained me...

Virgin Shaming is now becoming so rampant people now do weird things to prove they are experienced...

Respect to all the virgins it’s a beautiful thing and you should be very proud and let the world know without shame.

It’s actually disgusting.

PhenomenalMorgan:
While i may not totally agree with all you say, the rate at which guys derive pleasure from insulting ladies on this forum is annoying and very childish!!

I

omokoginimi:
Apply if you want to and stop asking silly questions

Toks2008 my brother, how are you sir?

truthsayer009:


Let me announce to your UK NL Safiaa babe that you're back.

Ok

RandyX:

For the very reason you mentioned "a new account would look dodgy". He hasn't used nairaland before though he has heard of it. As for his picture, I didn't think it would be right for me to post another person's picture in public, I'm not very sure of the safety implications if you catch my drift.

Why didn’t you upload his picture? Why can’t the friend make an account for himself?

RandyX:

How? If I may ask. I'm just doing a friend a favour.

Sound so so dodgy.

Well depends on the kind of advice.

How can you body shame a woman who has given life to your offspring? Absolutely disgusting behaviour, men like this deserve to die. Honestly. Their heart is too black to be alive.

Nigerian men and their love for younger women sha. That’s how my uncle who is in his 50s is chasing after a 23 year old. Some of you are just perverted let’s just face the truth.

Correction
A penniless man has standards and they normally request for a woman who can fill in the void of their broke state. This may not be monetary, but in other aspects. Penniless men depend on women in other ways that are not financial, they request for standards that they do not possess or even strive to possess, which further proves my point that there’s too much hypocrisy in Nigeria. A man can have any standard deemed fit whether he is broke or not, good cook or not, virgin or not, humble or not and NOBODY CARES. A woman sets one criteria and people question her like she’s not worthy.

philip0906:

1. A penniless man has no standard and should set no standard but he is wired mentally to hustle for his money rather than depending on a woman. You don’t see majority of men making noise that they want a woman who earns more than them.
2. A penniless woman on the other hand is wired to depend on a man for money. You see majority of women making noise that they want want a man who earns more than them.
See the difference?

The 80% quotation holds no water because women still depend on men to get by. Remember standards are different and relative.

Going by what you’ve said the only people required to have standards are men who have a substantial amount of money. What do we say to all the penniless men that have a list from A to Z? Guy wake up and be realistic ,if we go by your logic then 80% of Nigerian men will be condemned for having standards because they Do not have money that enables them to sit in the ‘drivers’ seat without question. The real problem is the hypocrisy against women setting a standard for themselves that men do not approve of. Periodddd.

philip0906:


A man who has money or makes more than enough should set the standards: he’s at the driver seat. He has the bargaining chip which is quantifiable and measurable-money. He will only be matched by a woman who has as much as he has and that’s where the issue of moral character and all can come to play-negotiation.

As long as women don’t work towards been independent and match their male counterparts in the money chain, a man will continue to drive the narrative.

But a community prick with no moral values, a man with no domestic or homely skills, a proud man with an inflated ego is more than qualified to set the standard for a homely virgin with great domestic/homely skills who is also humble? Can you see your hypocrisy? The word ‘standard’ only becomes an issue when it’s set by a woman. Men desire traits in women that they do not have themselves allllll the fricking time and guess what? Nobody cares. This is not even about a gender war, I really just want women to wake up and smell the coffee. You are being conditioned to accept the worst for yourself because society tells you, you can’t ask for more. It’s disgusting.

philip0906:

A Genevieve isn’t married; she has her own “money” and is under absolutely no pressures. If a Genevieve sets her own standards on the kind of man she wants, it’s perfectly understandable, she also is a “standard”.

A Dj Cuppy would also not be flocking around broke boys/men and would have her own standards for her kind of men. It’s perfectly understandable.

The problem is a broke, hungry, jobless, poorly paid Nigerian girl setting “standards”. It’s absurd! It’s madness! That’s why smart men ask “what do you have to offer”?

Don’t say “aside money...” because that money is key and as long as Nigerian men are at the top of the money chain, women will continue to depend on us.

Facts upon facts. !!!!

Mizwisdom:



You've said it all, we are always focused on defending our territory, protecting our husbands as if the man is not an adult or doesn't know what he's doing. I've seen situations where despite being maltreated, beaten and cheated on; a lady still felt the need to hold tight to her husband. See, I attended a vigil yesterday, the preacher called all single ladies out for prayers, you should see how even girls as young as sixteen were pushed by their mums to go out but what really annoyed me more was that the preacher didn't ask single guys to go out for prayers too. I know this is just one example but many can also bear witness that this happens widely. Even from a tender age, a female is programmed to think having a husband is the main reason she exists, for a man it's not as important, rather money should be the focus.

That’s also true. I think women are always trying to prove they can do it all, always trying to prove to their husbands that they are worthy. Always trying to do everything to keep their husbands from looking outside, you are deceiving yourself. Stop suffering yourself in the name of love and have common sense for once. You are looking haggard yet you still want to prove you are superwoman. To who exactly? It couldn’t be me sha and I thank God my partner has the same mindset as me.

Mizwisdom:



I partly agree, but disagree with the "manipulation" part. I think it's due to wickedness on our part as females and maybe a bit of this shortsighted nature of ours. If guys start being asked to wash plates, clothes and stuff, the mother(female) will be the first to protest, she will want her daughter in law to enslave herself while still contributing financially to the home plus sending money to her. It's still mothers(females) who train girls domestically while allowing boys freedom from domestic chores in the same house. It's not really manipulation, we are our own worse enemy.

Fine, get a maid. What about those who don’t believe in maids or allowing a third party to live in their marital homes? What about people reading this who do not live in Nigeria? Why do you have to result to an untrusted maid when the husband can simply help out in the house? Each to their own, but I really need some women to wake up.

tunjilana:
If u are working and live in a country like Nigeria where domestic labor is cheap then simply outsource it(get a maid)...You both can fund this from your pooled funds...rather than fight ur spouse to wash plate before co fund the home....Domestic labor is way cheaper than what u have capacity to earn if u spend ur time working

Lol I don’t understand ohhh
When it comes to splitting financial bills their mouths will open like parrots. They are so quick to ask what you contribute financially to a marriage. But when it comes to domestic contributions and other aspects, they are mute. You want to be addressed as the head of the home, yet your wife is doing practically everything in the house. She’s the one running the home. The only job that you’re really assigned to do is provide, yet you still want to split that role into half with your wife? You wonder why women don’t respect men of this generation. They are absolutely pathetic.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Thanks for this, my dear. Don't mind these sexists men. After we still split bills with them, they won't be responsible with sharing the house chores. Later later, they'll still cheat last last, so what's the point? Let's drink garri in a mansion than eat fried rice in one room at obalende.

In the end, they'll still call us prostitutes. Let me suffer with my Ned Nwoko in peace.

And that’s sad because then in reality it’s the woman that carries most of not all the responsibilities on her head. After 10 years most wives always look haggard and worn out, yet the husband still looks active. If a woman must contribute, it should honestly be the bare minimum. If you are a career woman, let all the responsibilities be split equally. Your husband must equally wash plates, sweep the house, cook for the children and yourself and take care of the kids, because you are equally the provider in the home. But the reality is that the woman will always carry the burden. Oga will still expect you to bounce on top of his dick after all that stress. It’s a shame women are being manipulated and they cant even see it.

Mizwisdom:
Reality check: ladies, only about 10% men will not care if you contribute to family upkeep or not. Don't think you won't contribute

Jamos always taking their dancing to the extreme

Ok

XML33:


Playing the OK card when you know any further response won't work in your favor and only reveal how much of a liar you are? Silly move.

Saff Safia Safiaa Safiaaa all your monikers and all of them have thousands of posts. You must be the most jobless person on nairaland. Jumping from thread to thread posting comments in an attempt to derive self-validation from the likes you hope to get from the comments. I often wonder what people like you will do without Nairaland. Your life would be so empty and devoid of self validation and self importance since Nairaland seems to be the only place you get it from.

Your Saff account has 1400+ posts. Safiaa account has 1800+ posts. The Safiaa account I forced you to delete had 2000+ posts. That's over 5000 posts in just under a year. Just imagine. Do you ever do anything in real life? Get a life and stop investing a better portion of the time you have to live on this earth on a website that probably wouldn't exist in the near future.

Ok

XML33:


Why do I find that hard to believe? Most of those pictures were stolen from some facebook page showcasing beautiful black women. What are the chances that your picture is among the once you posted? They all look model like and professionally done. If you could take nice pictures like that and proud of your looks and skin colour, why haven't you ever uploaded your picture?
Besides, I once saw the picture of a leg you posted on one of your many accounts. I assume that's your leg. The leg was light skin. All those pictures were of dark skinned women. Did you suddenly turn light skin after taking the so called picture?

LIAR!!

Yup

Admin401:



Was your picture really on this thread?

https://www.nairaland.com/4379230/dear-nigerian-black-beautiful-women

It’s been seen by many on nl.

IamPlato:
are You Sure? Submit Your Picture For Inspection

Yes I know I’m fine. Thanks

IamPlato:
are You Fine

Cococandy and dechandel. Ireneony or whatever her name is beautiful too lol. Ibkayee is also beautiful.

Darling sex is very important to men. We do not understand it because typically woman do not have the same sex drive as men esp after kids. But it’s important and you cannot deprive your husband from it. The same way you wouldn’t want your husband to deprive you of the things you deserve as a wife, or you will look elsewhere after frustration. We are human beings with emotions, we have to learn to compromise when marriage is involved even if it doesn’t suit your prerogative. That’s how the union will last. Sex is like food to men, they value it more than anything else in this world. Most of them even value it more than money unfortunately, and funny enough it’s not an addiction it’s just their nature. So instead of using it against him and starving him from it, a smart woman should use sex to get what she wants from her husband. Use their love for sex to your advantage instead of suffering yourself and your husband, it doesn’t make sense.

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.