fergie001:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2XGKL8912o


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He is looking for work!

seglabsy:
WOMAN CATCHES HER LATE BROTHER’S WIFE AT MOTEL WITH MAN, CLAIMS SHE IS PREGNANT FOR THE DEAD.

Hello Omajuwa. I am a 40year old married woman. My younger brother of 37years old got married last year despite the entire family being against him marrying his Igbo wife.

Our parents had wanted him to marry a Yoruba lady as the only boy they had but he got married to her without our parent’s blessings. Sadly, My brother died in a car accident October last year.

However, sometime in December, I went for a close friend’s naming ceremony in a far away area. I had gone there a day before the naming ceremony to be able to help with cooking and other errands. Later in the evening, I was out in the neighborhood looking for where to buy toothbrush as I had realized that I forgot to come with one. In my search for it, I saw my late brother’s wife coming out of a motel with a man. I was shocked but I didn’t let her see me.

After they had gone far, I went inside the motel. I had to bribe the receptionist before she told me that she and the man occasionally come there even though it had been awhile she came before that day. The only person I could tell was my husband and we both agreed to let it go so as not to open my parents’ wounds.

However, this lady came to our house few days ago to share the news of her being pregnant for my late brother. My father walked out while my mother has been so elated, claiming that her child at least left an heir. She has been trying to convince my father for them to welcome and cater for the woman and the baby. But I have been lost as to what to do. How sure are we that the child belongs to my brother? Why is she here with such news after about 3months of my brother’s death? Do I tell my parents what I saw? How do I handle this? Please advise me.

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It is quite clear that the pregnancy may not belong to the late husband.

dre11:
Tinubu Minimum Wage: It’s N200,000 or … NLC raises negotiation team; Labour President lists conditions


•New regime expected to take effect April



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2024/01/tinubu-minimum-wage-its-n200000-or-nlc-raises-negotiation-team-labour-president-lists-conditions/

They normally call it national minimum wage but in reality, it is federal government workers minimum wage because the states, local governments and the private sectors never implements it.

Kuginzi:


https://dailytrust.com/palliative-transfer-of-n585m-into-private-account-is-legal-beta-edus-aide/

The real issue is being side stepped by focusing on the legality or illegality of the money transfer medium.

For me, the main issue is wether the money was used for the purpose it is said to be designated for or was it siphoned.

Once the above is ascertained, then we can now focus on how to make sure such transactions follow due process.

To avoid the experience of having your KDP Publishing account being terminated by Amazon, one thing you must not do is accessing or operating more than one KDP Publishing account using one Computer or PC.

To avoid the experience of having your KDP Publishing account being terminated by Amazon, one thing you must not do is accessing or operating more than one KDP Publishing account using one Computer or PC.

jaszplus12:

The same she who would have loved the idea will be the same who's going to say the idea was yours and you're planning to sleep with her!

Yea, very true but I think he was too bland towards the lady to the extend of unsettling her.

Hmmm....

Imagine the glaring example of the "for better for worse vow!!!"

See,ehn, in all you do, both in family, marriage and in everything else, put your personal interests first!!!

Nebes:
I'll keep it short.

We've had series of useless and lazy househelps. They are a necessary evil for us given our busy schedules, kids and big house. Last year we got lucky to get Rukky, a beautiful and hardworking young woman. Rukky has just informed my wife that she is not returning after the Xmas holidays and my wife is now blaming me. Her reason is shocking to me and I need the opinion of married women and ladies in general.

My wife said that Rukky left because I made no attempts to flirt with her after 9 months. It was obvious Rukky liked me but I always acted like she was not there. How do I flirt with another woman under the same roof with my wife and kids? My wife believes that if I had given Rukky a little attention she would have stayed longer. She is just missing the girl's hardworking nature.

I truly don't understand this.

She might not mean "flirt" in the real sense of the word.

She probably meant appreciating her presence and work and once in a while having a few honest chatter with her that shows you recognize her importance in the house.

Nicepoker:
Keep money for DNA very vital.

Yes oooo. All these exaggerated crave might just be a cruise ontop someone else's progeny.

You are not overreacting. Rather, you are doing the right thing!

That is food for two. It is for him and oga Atiku.

Lamanii22:
Can you imagine…. What type of mother is that? In life maybe we should just mind out businesses…

Majority of Nigerian mothers are like that nowadays.

Happy New and Prosperous New Year Nlanders.

Princeyoungd2:


Thus far mistake has been made, but reading your suggestion to the dude, it begs me to wonder if you will do the same to your child in future.
He has the right to choose good or bad, loosing that ability to make the choice of a life partner will hunt him all his life.

The basis of my comment is what you started with "Mistake has been made already".

I didn't want to due on that aspect because it will make my contribution unnecessarily long.

At the beginning, he could have maintained his ground of No! But he give in to his mom's demand.

My focus is on the fact that he has not in any way said anything the wife is doing wrong or being bad at. It is all about her physique.

As for doing such to my son, I will say it can never happen.

egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.

You are making yourself miserable not your mom.

I am very sure you are the one making the life of that girl miserable by refusing to see the good in her which made your mom recommended her to you.

You think marriage is about beauty and what other people will say about your wife.

I am convinced that she is a good girl, respecting you, giving you peace of mind but you have refused to reciprocate just because you think she is not beautiful to your standard.

My candid advice is to reciprocate her love, cherish her, give her the best of wears or outfits and her beauty will manifest to your likeness.

It is your mindset that made you think other people are disappointed in you for getting married to her. Cherish her and other people will do the same.

Don't make the mistake of dumping her and then go and marry one yeye yellow/bleached lady without brain and manners oooo. That one will finish you!!!

Relate with her the way she wants to relate with you. That is from afar! Infact, it is to your favor because if she comes too close, the more she becomes a burden to you.

The more the relating from afar, the better for you. So, give her what ever you propose in your heart.

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have listened to a couple of preachers both secular and religious on the issue of what is prime in a relationship and they revolve around these three which are romance,finance and purpose.
Some said romance is important, while others finance and yet some others purpose.

Which is more important.
I think it's purpose.

What do you think.

There is a fourth factor, which I think is more important than any of these three and the cryptic sum of the three equals this fourth factor. This factor is Commitment.

Romance: One can be romantic to his/her partner while still cheating on the partner.

Finance: One can make enough financial sacrifice to his/her partner while still being domestically violent to the partner or being unfaithful.

Purpose: Is a higher order than the two above but it can still fail because in most cases, the purpose each brought into the relationship might not converge (Varying individual purposes).

Commitment: This can not be faked for long. So, it is either a partner is committed to the relationship or not. With commitment, romance will be intact, finance will be adequate because the available one will be judiciously managed for the good of all, and there will be common/genuine purpose for the good of all.

My only recommendation is that you are not skinny and you should appreciate your God given stature. People are equally using money to look for your kind of body build!

Mcslize:


This is one aspect majority of ladies always get it all wrong. They are mostly after their own self. A lady didn't hear from a guy, if she is truly interested in the guy, what's the right thing to do? Is it not by calling the guy to find out what must have been going on with him? But no, when they don't hear from a guy, they will just quickly start seeing another man immediately without even finding out from the other guy if he is still alive or not or something happened to him. To be frank, I won't say such ladies genuinely care.

A lady that truly cares about a guy will call the guy if she doesn't hear from the guy for a period of time. But this isn't always the case. Majority will rather just walk away to the next available man.

I don't see such ladies being loyal cuz any little challenge from the man, they will start looking outside for the next available man.

What stops a lady from reaching out to a guy she is planning something serious with if she doesn't hear from the guy for a period of time is what baffles me.

That's one area a handful of ladies really need to work on. They believe that the man should always be the one checking up on them without them checking up on the man.

So, if the man is sick and failed to reach out, they will just come up with assumptions and move to the next man without even reaching out to him to find out what could be wrong.

That attitude is very bad of majority of ladies I must say.

cc: letstalksense

Ya, that is just it.

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

She did something wrong and she is trying to put the blame on you. Why didn't she called you to hear from you instead of making assumptions. Like she said, she has moved on and it is left for you to do the best thing for yourself too.

I can assure you that what she did over there is far worse than what she spilled. So, get ready for more wrongs and the blames put on you as the relationship continues.

Ronaldo723:
First of all I would start this post about myself I’m 21 the second child of my parent, I moved out from my parents house on the 21st of July 2022… I have been catering for my self and to be frank in todays Nigeria life isn’t rosy for me at all…

I moved out from my dads house cuz he was a narcissist always talking down on me and comparing me to my younger sister who gained admission in 2021always telling me that I’m visionless and has no plan for my life he is a man I never wish to live with again….

Now to the issue on why I opened this thread sometimes I yearn for a change of environment like going to visit my parents and spend sometime with them but I just can’t my mom is married to another man who she stays with and my dad is nothing to write about he is poor can barely take care of my younger ones that stays with him…… my younger sister in the university is even the one that feeds him sometimes…and he doesn’t even care on how she is getting to money to feed him she gives him money to buy clothes cus he literally has none to wear … the last time I saw him he was wearing a faded shirt he looked like a pauper I felt so ashamed…

When we saw he was telling me I’m so selfish that I don’t send him money I only think about my self and this is a goddam man that swore never to buy me even a pair of clothes while I was living with him he made my life living hell I had to run to my moms place then…… when he was saying all this I told him i don’t really have money that’s the reason I haven’t been able to send him he said why won’t I have money that people that does the same work with me are making it big what’s happening to me.. then I told him me and does people ain’t the same and God would bless me in my own time…




I have really developed a very strong dislike for my dad and I wish never to see him again… the conversation I had with my dad yesterday has made me realize how I’m left alone in this cold world and had no shoulder to lean on when I’m down I literally have no one to look up to in my family is so sad 😞

Do I need to see a therapist?

Forgive him and show some genuine concern and care towards him and your young ones with the little you can extend to them.

This is because nature has a way of blessing the more those who are a source of blessing to others.

Also, forgiving him will lift that heaviness or pain off your heart and fill it with peace of mind which in most cases improves ones productivity and attracts success.

searchlight:
So i must treat my mom equally to my mother-in-law? Never. In my life. If my wife thinks otherwise, she should do that with her own money. Marriage is a scam to me I must say.

You are misinterpreting my post. His wife only care about something being given to her mom but I am telling him to make sure whatever he wants to do, should be for both his mom and mother-in-law.

Quit the relationship.

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

You can do the small you can but make sure it is for both your mom and her's!

Please feel free to come but make sure you come with our money to be returned back to the FG.

chigoziri2403:
Did she change her mind about the suicide?
She should have done it after the murder

The suicide story seems shaky

The most likely thing is that her husband did the crime having suspected his wife cheating on him with the guy.

If you are one of her former customers, maybe otherwise it is a no no!

Boomboost:
Toke, how person wey no get IV go enter?

Women supporting women, in anoda mud

She simply means dress good, look take away and hang around where house parties are being held in Banana Islands and wealthy men will see and approach you.