ImaIma1:


Oh ok. I see your point.

I think your wife needs to stop putting up an appearance like there is plenty at the jeopardy of you and your children especially as she knows the situation is tight at the moment.

She is serving them 2 pieces of meat and when the meat finishes, you and your children will have to eat your food without meat because of her indiscretion.

Women should be wise and be able to manage resources. If she jokingly tells her siblings not to go near her pot of soup and she serves it herself, i doubt they will feel bad.

Discuss with her and try to reason with her to see things as they are. The situation is temporary. Tell her that when things get better, she can give them five pieces of meat or better still, kill a cow and give them to take home.

And tell her you trust her to be able to handle things without you getting involved and looking bad.

And dishing out food from the same pot you eat is not an offense. However, your wife should not allow anyone just go to the pot without permission.

Thanks!

nuelyoyo:
Pls try to understand the OP. He has clearly admitted that things are tough for him right now. In life, you can't give what u don't have, u don't expect a man who is struggling with finances to live a life of excesses. How can the man of the house eat with a piece of meat and in-laws who came visiting will be eating with two pieces? It may sound irritating to you coz u have enough to throw around, but others may not be in ur position. In all ur replies to the Op, u never showed that u even understand his situation. Learn to show empathy.
Cc tbanj07

Thank you!

ladyP30:
sir I don't see any issue here, you don't know what tomorrow holds for you,things might turn around and you might need their help.am married and my siblings nd my hubby siblings are free to access the kitchen no big deal.i know things are hard but don't get worked up over such things just pray for more blessings nd open doors.remain blessed

Thank you!

UjuJoan2:
This is why I hate broke men. His mates are busy making money and he's stuck in the kitchen checking who goes to the pot.

Odikwa egwu!

Surely not the lazy type..."his mates are busy making money"...are we in the same line of business or have you any idea what I do and how bad things are at this time? Kindly go through the comments to have a better understanding of the situation on ground. Thank you!

Eberechi24:


there you go ägain, pieces of meat? sir, you are worrying yôurself over nothing. pls hold yourself you have a long way to go in life. I pray that things turn around for good so that you will have a good laugh over this thread you created.

your wife is trying to talk her siblings but maybe they dnt understand her. you knw she is the one on the fence. she is protecting you as well protecting her siblings, there is a way she will go about it, it will portray you as a bad inlaw. pls don't be too be hard on her.

if possible try and hold yourself cause you might catch themwith the last beverage in the fridge.

I know things are very difficult but learn to overlook something in life especially these food ish.

Amen and thank you!

Dyt:


I do understand everything you saying

You are right for scolding madam cos she knows how things are and its not the first time you told her about it.

Without you even having to tell her
She should know

You haven't done anything wrong
That's my own opinion

Thank you...exactly the point everyone seems to be missing thinking I have other issues with her family when i do not.

sisisioge:
Ha! It is well o. So if I get married now my sister can not dish food from the pot my husband eats from abi bawo? She needs to ask me before she eats? Abi she would expect me to do same in her house? Well, I think I would just be happy married to our friend who sees my sis as his sister too... Vise visa.

Meanwhile, take things easy husband. So long as your wife's siblings are not disrespectful to you or finish the whole lot not minding that you've not been served, be free and peaceful around them. They are your siblings too.

Please kindly read through the previous comments so you can have a better understanding of what my point is...thank you!

Eberechi24:


P,S- my in-laws are not hungry

am glad your in-laws are not hungry because if they are, I wonder what will be their fate.

Sir, am sorry to say this, you are very selfish. you cant give up your comfort for another to benefit, never! cause you are the man of the house.

Oga, loose some slack. man shall not live by bread alone.

if you ain't comfortable with their visits just stop them from coming cause you don't expect them to come to their sister's place and behave like strangers. your siblings aren't doing same because your wife isn't their blood.

but Sir, learn the act of giving selflessly, if do, I tell you sharing your food with others would be least of your worries

ever heard of givers never lack?

stay blessed

Ma,please try and understand that times are hard and we are only managing, I'm not uncomfortable with their visit...I'm just saying wife should be in the best position to talk to her siblings on how they handle things in the house due to the present situation...the whole house isn't full of supplies of what we need...I also have 3 kids.

Example: Reason why she was scolded was the fact that I came back home from work last night only to meet 2 of her sisters eating with 2 piece of meat each when my own kids only eat one as well as myself.

I wasn't joking when I said we are managing...was I wrong to scold my wife for that so she would know the best way to handle the house so they can cut it down?

oyb:



if things are hard and you are managing and no one is behaving, then you can consider any of the following

1) as the man of the house, call a meeting for everyone and explain the need for discipline in food management
2) do not intervene when the food runs out. then everyone will know that things are tight
3) go extreme woman and lock fridge , freezer and put warning signs on the kitchen

try not to take this too far, because tomorrow, your kids may be staying with those relatives.

i cannot tell if things are hard, or you have an ebenezer scrooge attitude towards others.

Things are hard presently which is why I said we live from paycheck to paycheck...can't go to the extent of doing the above you mentioned and wouldn't tell my wife to do the same...which is why I scold her so she would know how to manage things around the house (she's in the best position to caution them stylishly without any suspicions), is a wife not supposed to understand her home and know how to carry it within the family

It's not a one sided thing, my siblings know the way things are so they respect themselves and don't take anything without permission, which is why wife should do the same with her siblings so I don't give them a bad impression if this keeps going on and I intervene which calls for scolding her (wife)...I'm not saying they shouldn't eat...taking everything they want anytime without permission is my concern and i can't just let the whole family starve just as a punishment of them taking things without permission...I really just wish you'd understand! I really do!

oyb:


i say again, you are a tin god. with an attitude like that you should not be anywhere near the internet.

actually, you're a tin goddess - because it is WOMEN who say stay out of my kitchen, stay away from my soup, don't touch my cooking pan.

it is women who audit cooking pot and stew.

with all the things in the house to get annoyed over, you chose the kitchen

thank you very much mr. supreme god or need I call you supreme goddess

JoannaSedley:
Yeah sir. That is how paranoid schizophrenic patients reasons. They are the only one seeing the monster in the room.

Kwontinu

"will do"...thanks

JoannaSedley:
You really knew how each and every one of them ask her about food because you want to paint one bkack and the other white to us? Because you are always there when they ask her for food?
Is that how you monitor your kitchen/food?

I will pass cos this is very irritating.

It's obvious you don't see things from someone else's angle...this is not a matter of painting one white and the other black. It is the reality no one on here doesn't seem to understand I guess

JoannaSedley:
Get lost biko.

Lock up your kitchen and take your keys with you before you poison them one day.
Heartless piece of meat like you.
Ordinary food.
You should be asking God for more so that there will be feast in your house everyday, rather, here you are lamenting about the meatless food you are harbouring in your rat infested kitchen.

What part of the family managing food and other resources is it that you don't understand when they come in and take everything anyhow they like without their sister cautioning them

Are you human

JoannaSedley:
Ordinary food kwa?

You scolded your wife because of ordinary food? Is not like they are living permanently with you?

Your wife isn't working yet so her siblings aren't supposed to enter the accursed kitchen? Or it will be abominable?

But your siblings can?

See how you painted your siblings as the best thing after sliced bread?
Then rubbished hers as some hungry folks who can't do without taking it all? Because you still regard them as strangers

I just pity your wife. Aradite, stingy, gummy and supercluey horseband.

Just tell them to stop coming to your poisonous house so that they won't be finishing your poisonous food that may probably choke them one day.

POC- My siblings don't just barge into the kitchen and take whatever they want in there without asking her (not even me)...after having a talk with her (wife) that she knows the present condition of the house that we are managing....yet her siblings continue doing whatever they want and can get their hands on in the kitchen without permission was why she was scolded...is everyone missing the whole point of this.

I won't come at you using abusive words...don't talk to a man using such words when you don't know what they are going through or how hard he is trying to put food on the table for the family amongst other family needs

oyb:


you are a tin god

this is why women should have their own money

of all the things to get pissed off over, 'dishing food from the same pot you eat from"

i wonder where you work and if that is the attitude you take there

if your wife's siblings were wasteful gluttons, i would understand

i am even shocked that you, a man is gong on like this

the 'this is my kitchen , this is my food' pettiness is the sole domain of women . WTF is wrong with you??

What is this one saying...did you read the whole comments on here till it gets to where you had to throw yours in?

When you have less to throw around for many, then you can come back to the comment session to redeem yourself

Ishilove:

Then kuku tell her you don't like it. It's your house and they must abide by your rules.

I still think it's no big deal. No be ordinary food?

Food aint ordinary when there's little to go around for many

Artistree:
.Ataya my sister, I don't even care about those things in my house as long as there's enough food. My younger ones help themselves after I cook and most times they even dish first and go eat while I tidy up the kitchen.
Kini big deal?

Big deal wa nigbati e ba n manage owo

PraisesG:
You sound pained,more than you put it.You could explain more.
Is it they dished all food out,or they messed the kitchen,while at that?
Or you are angry at them over another issue and this just nailed it for you?
If your family come visiting, are they privy to the kitchen,pots too?
Besides one dishes food from a full pot,were the pots full intentionally at their arrival or?

My family knows well enough not to go near our kitchen...im blessed to have a mother who doesn't care if my wife even serves her only water....and if any of my fam visit they enter d kitchen to wash and assist her...not dish food.

As for being agree at wife siblings...no i'm not but we've talked about this before and she still allowed it was why she was scolded this time.

P.S- my inlaws are not hungry folks

ahnie:


I now get you clearly sir!
Little to go round for ur family...inlaws devouring it.

Wife not working and kids to feed!

Conclusion:I sense paranoia anytime your inlaws come around concerning the situation at hand.please take it easy,wud advice your talking to your wife about it calmly.

No such thing as being paranoid whenever they come around....I make them feel comfortable and welcomed at all times...wife knows the present situation we live in which is why she was scolded this time for allowing such to continue

Angy55:

Obviously you didn't read the part where i said it's suppose to have been a heart to heart talk with your wife.
You asked if it is wrong to scold your wife.

Have a nice day.

Thank you and you as well

ahnie:
Op....transmitionally to me...nuttin z wrong.
I give my guests the opportunity of dishing food themselve.xcept if they strongly insist my serving them.

People like me prolly doesn't giv a damn abt it
So oga relax.people differs sha.

Please note that we live from paycheck to paycheck...wife does not work at this time. So it's not as if we have alot to throw around and i have kids to feed as well

Adesuwag:
And you really have to scold your wife?? Really?? Calm down dude!

Why are you taking this with huge effects...didn't put a finger on her, she only get scolded knowing well enough how we live at this time and allowing such to continue.

For crying out loud they are in the house of another family and should respect that

yettymuse:
Food?? Ordinary food that would end in the toilet You're not complaining about delayed timing or no food, you're complaining about who dishes the food. Hagod!!!!

You're just trying to use a dane gun to kill an ordinary cockroach.. Too much energy! Save it, there are loads of what you'd be needing that energy for in your marriage. It doesn't matter who dishes your meal na make belle full abeg! Don't start what you can't finish!

Selah!!

Are you married? If yes, please tell me how you'd feel when your inlaw comes around accessing your kitchen anyhow and anytime without permission

Please be advised the house is mine and not theirs...they need not come to me but should at least seek the permission of their sister before dishing food from our pots.


P.S - I've just noticed recently whenever they visit

Angy55:


Assuming it was her sibling that helped prepare the meal won't you allow her dish food for herself?
It's only when it's a continuous thing that it becomes an issue.
You are not suppose to scold your wife, it ought to have been a heart to heart talk.

Just to be clear...you don't find it disrespectful that your wife younger ones does not even seek permission from your wife before digging into your pot of soup?

DrMuzungu:
Relax, dude, relax... Forget so-called cultural things. Apart from taking the food from the same pot, are her siblings disrespectful to you in any way? If not, then relax and enjoy the life. They may want to wait till you take the food first but other than that I see no problem.

Please I'd like to know if it is wrong of me to scold my wife for allowing her siblings to dish food from the same pot I eat from?

Am I wrong in my own house that food is to be made and dished only by my wife and not anyone else accessing our pot without permission?

Deitrick haddon - he's able

obembet:
God will make a way papa....when a door close, another one open... Just don't give up on God cos he won't give up on you..... God is able

Is it just my thoughts or did God lied when He said man would die if they eat from the tree of good and evil? Out of which they didn't die immediatelybut their eyes were opened

Make up sef dey make women resemble lol

The end of the world is here already folks...prepare for the best parts...WAR!!! Don't say I didn't warn you

I no mention Yankee n N.K ooo

Young kor, yung ni...if una like make una stay on diff diets just to keep young...na die una go still end up dying so what's the point of denying myself some better meal cos no be every body sef go reach old age...u don't know when it's your turn, enjoy while you can and appreciate the simplest things too

Dead people don't complain...that's the only time I will not be able to claim anything

free2ryhme:


what happens to the account when you become vegetable or dead