₦airaland Forum

Eziachi:
If anyone needs sympathy it's you. Because you are not well.
You can remove the picture you posted as much as you like, it is still their in your computer hard drive. And it has always been there for your personal kick, enjoyment and amusement. You are a coward!
Leave the pictures and defend them, they belong to you and you believed in them, that is why you posted it.
You are trying to share you SADISTIC KICK but ended up showng your true colours.
GOODBYE.

The guy is an eediot
He's probably saving pictures of the dead in Haiti for his orgas.mic highs
I'm sure he never knew the areas that comprises the Niger delta
silly folks that can't proudly say their tribes and hide under NigerDelta to throw weak punches at those who are proud of who they are
what is Nigerdelta?
My state is included in the Niger Delta but the day I begin to refer to myself as Niger Deltan,someone should have me checked out

It's only a brain dead Ijaw that'll laugh at the death of Biafrans
Wasn't Adaka Boro killed like a common criminal by his fellow Nigerian soldiers
You folks never learn do you?
And the Ogoni man who made fun of Igbos with his radio program after th war came crawling on his hands and knees to Ohaneze when it got rough.
He was later killed by the same Awusa/Yoruba soldiers he sided with
pathetic folks

It's obvious you have deep sincere feelings for both women.
Tough situation
Speak to your dad  (or any older male figure you respect),man to man
He may help
You just can't string 2 women along both of thinking they are the one

The biggest mistake you made was not telling this ex when you met her that you had a relationship that you were serious with and that you were unavailable.
That was unfair to the girlfriend and that is the root of your predicament
You gave the ex the impression that you were back and available
I am assuming that you folks have taken things further than just talking,perhaps the relationship has become intimate (You know what I mean)
You need to be sincere to yourself and let one of these ladies go

@0hsisi,  Stop blaming Pat Robertson!? Pat Robertson is the one doing the blaming. and who told you that Voodoo is devilish? If you don't believe in their religion, fine! you don't have to label it as evil.
Voodoo believers even pray and do sacrifices to ward off what Christians call Satan or devil just as Christians and Muslims do in their own way. You work with Haitians who threaten you with voodoo, and so what? If you are a Christian or Muslim and I'll go out on a limb here and assume you are one of the two, then you must have prayed to your God for protection before or even "threatened" people with your prayers and ask your God to fight on your behalf, most "Good" Christians do that everyday, some are screaming that God should kill their enemies now as we speak. Even Pat Robertson prays to his God to protect him against his enemies. I will be shocked if you don't. So, does that make you or your religion evil? what makes their's evil and yours Good? You call Earthquakes and hurricanes curses? in 2010?  I guess that explains everything

You missed the essence of my post Mr Kilode

I never in any way implied that I was scared of any threats
Never even said threats were made at me
read the post again,this is why people get F9 in WAEC
they'll ask you a question,you'll start answering another

nixyno:
wow,

I guess i have to really make up my mind on this one,
the presence of my ex around me is irresistable and its
a hard one.
But tell me, when i left naija, i didnt communicate with
her for the five years and now she claims to have left the
guy she is dating cus of me, does dat sound reasonable?

With the more details I now know I would say that you need to be very careful about that ex
Some girls can be opportunists
You broke up with her in Nigeria before you travelled
suddenly you return,apparently doing well and she's suddenly all over you
Hmm!
You should be very careful
she may still be seeing her boyfriend
Either you or the boyfriend may be a back up
women do that  and yes I'm a woman
some women like to keep someone in the background/down low in case one doesn't materialize so we don't end up empty handed like Aaron
From what I know now, the London chic seems to be a keeper

nixyno:
lol,
I wish i could sha, i just cant
its really complicated dats y i came on here to at least
see peoples different opinions.

You said the one in London will finish her studies in June?
O gbono feli feli!
My brother June is just around the corner,you need to make up your mind before you end up with 2 women at your doorstep

TOPE2000!:
Death

It's true na
she hasn't even taken WAEC

As for the pact with the devil statement
Haitians themselves are quick to tell you how strong their voodoo was and how they used it to gain independence from the French.
They make no secret of that
People should stop blaming Pat Robertson,he only repeated the obvious and what Haitians themselves already know and this is well documented too.

Most of you talking nonsense may have never associated with haitians
I have
I have worked with them
I have associated with them
They are the only group of people I know that will threaten people with voodoo at the drop of a hat and tell you what they did to people who crossed their path.
That nation is indeed cursed.
Voodoo  is almost like their state religion.
I remember when I was packing shait is a nursing home and a Haitian lady boasted of how she did voodoo for someone and the individual dd not do poo poo for months.

Did we not discuss the mudpies 2 years ago?
what nation is as poor and gets hit with at least 4 hurricanes every year?
If it's not a curse,what is?

Tayo-D:
@Ikomi,

Happy New Year to you my kindred foe.
I think the first question you should ask is this: "Is there any truth to the statement he made"?

You hit the nail on the head

Nna men this your case dey complicated o
marry both women now
you get moni abi ?

_kidding

nixyno:
Lol,
what you have said is actually right,
I actually do intend to get married and settle b4 my 30s though.
I have a good business going on and think I need a lady around.
My chic in London is Nigerian and she is rounding up her studies
by june. She intends to move back to Nigeria as well cus of me. She
doesnt seem like one of those girls that finds anoda when one is away.
She is pretty down to earth, but my ex, we dated for seven years b4
I left. Like you said about the marriage thing, we have been chattin abt
it and we both know our family background so well. Her parents know me
so much and have already accepted me as a part of the family,

Its confusing but like u said, the right one could actually be in ss2, lol

The parents of the ex or the parents of the one in London

jusSaying:
@Ohsisi

Youre probably right. I just hope nobody double crosses me when the time comes

Amen!
I left a fiance I'd been engaged to and married another man so I know how that can happen.
Anything can happen before one gets to that altar

nixyno:
Hiya,
I have come to stay parmanently though I would always go on holidays,
I am turning 26 in feb,

Long distance relationships hardly ever work out anyway so before long your "british" chic go find somebody else to replace you
That is just the way it goes and you'll move on to other relationships too.
By Nigerian standards,I don't think you'll be getting married anytime soon (Most Nigerian men get marriage at an average age of 34) so the chances of anything permanent with both girls are very slim anyway.
This ex of yours will most likely marry before you,I'm assuming she's about your age.
She's probably ready to settle now while you're not.

In reality you have not much chance of anything permanent with both ladies
Your wife to be is probably in SS2 right now

Having said all that, forget the London chic.

Obinoscopy:
Men are dubious, some can ask one mama gee to act as his mother! So beware!

To what gain really?why would a man "rent a mama"?
what for?

jusSaying:
Interesting, my younger sister was introduced to his family (including his mom), unfortunately she wasnt his main squeeze!!! Derkhead 

I'm pretty sure she was the one at the time but some other girl worked harder and double crossed her.
That happens

before the "I do" any eligible bachelor is fair game

Have you come to stay permanently in Nigeria and how old are you?
I'll give my advice after you answer

Some of the guys here have hit the nail on the head.
A Nigerian man that is not serious will never introduce you to his family especially his mother.
That is the greatest clue.
If a man takes you to see his uncles, aunts and cousins in the area where he lives and asks you take a trip to see his mom if she lives in another town.
He is dead serious.
And if you guys live abroad,if he calls his mom on the phone and asks you to speak with her,she's already told them about you
You are the one.
I'm talking from experience.
Especially amongst Igbos
No Igbo man would present any woman to his mother if she's not the one

But please whatever you do,never ever ask him to take you to see his mother or ask to speak with her
It should be his idea not yours.

If I were you,I would call my aunt(the mother of that cousin) and tell her what I know or tell my mom to relay the story to the aunt
If my husband had an affair and got his lover pregnant,that means he's sleeping with someone unprotected.
I would like to know
[size=16pt]Please your cousin has to know that she needs to protect herself from this killer[/size]
AIDS is real

Anyone asking you to shut up and mind your business is an eediot!

!amebo no1:
onye ara , thats a man ojareeeee, i was in my second yr in uni then

osisi if you see the long list wey him get to settle? i swear i cry for am , but shebi him want wife? ofuru i'si na odu ya the umuada lists n co

That's why our marriages last
we have little divorce
which man wants to see that list more than once in his lifetime,anytime he remembers the bride price and prospectus they handed him,he'll behave himself

don't mind these women
A man should prove his manhood jor

!amebo no1:
osisi the cows we used then, my dad bought it, but i tell you it was like a war before he allowed it, not kidding, he was willing to postpone the whole thing

My dad had to emotionally blackmail him by tell him he was doing it cos im his last child and he wouldnt allow me just go like that, na that one calm am down, the plane tickets we used to go back home, all came from his pocket, it was like a sin to him for me to give a dime

you were already in obodo oyibo before marriage?
me na naija I dey
I jam the man for naija,na him sponsor everything
even the cartons of maltina and gulder they took to my maternal people and grandmothers ezi, he paid for them
no shaking

The bride's parents spend their money buying their daughter "ihe eji du ya ulo" (send off gifts)
People buy their daughters cars,gas cookers ,sofa set,and other household stuff as send off gift
they don't sponsor their own daughters wedding unless the girl is an o to n'aka nne

The parents of the bride can help a young couple out especially if the man is just starting out but that is a modern thing.It's not our culture

!amebo no1:
i will not even allow him spend above his budget, so that one no be issue




yes i used to think so, until an igbo dude on this thread sees nothing wrong with it

who doesn't like to save money
He sees nothing in it because he'll want to pay less but he still knows that's not our tradition

amebo I think it may be a tribal thing.
In Igboland,the man pays 100% for the traditional wedding and Church wedding.

!amebo no1:
let him spend according to his budget, im not telling him to spend for the whole world, if you wanna marry a womasn be ready to take care of everything and expect none from her, how will it feel to give myt man 5000 dollars for the weddin? if he marries me ehen i can help in the house but no man should expect a woman to support him

were are the men for heavens sake?

I agree 100%
only a desperate woman would sponsor her own wedding