wawa_boy: I met my wife in March for the first time. August i did my intro. NOV. My trad and my wit wedding in Dec. And we are Living happily. Long or short courtship is not a guarantee for staying in marriage. Any lady above 25yrs shuld be mindful of whom she is going out wit. Some guys re time wasters. After enjoying u for yrs, they will cook up an excuse "My mother said , my father said or i want build a hse in vgc first?". Shine ur eyes.

obowunmi: @ yankidelta: good tips.

bamac: ... So na only God fearing man fit make gud uzbnd? And al dz characters a man must v to make a gud uzbnd by u dictate to me dt only a perfect man make a good uzbnd,isnt it?

nyere84: Mr Ayobase, i cant believe u wrote dis. I remember vividly in one post abt Ex, U said “ Relationships must not end in marriage“. Pls, clarify me on ur stand abt dis. And b sincere.

ayobase:

Brother, I gentle o...na u I suppose dey ask wassup...u just disappeared...hope na money tinz o!

Goldieluks:


Because it is wrong to court someone for years without marrying that person. Six months courtship
should be the maximum, of getting to know one's partner.

Goldieluks:


As you can see, i listed few characteristics, just to sight as an example. Yes of course men/women who are God fearing
tends to know what they are getting themselves into, and what they want to achieve from a courtship.
I don't know about non- God fearing men.

ayobase:

Two yrs?
Two yrs mutiplied by 10 men equal 20yrs o!
.
Why not 3 months?

m.k.o2005:


You can't know any one good enough to get married to him/her for just two months.2YRS EVEN can never be enough.And if you ask me,i dnt think ten yrs will be enough.I know of a couple who courted for 15yrs and just a yr and six months in their marriage they divorced with both parties saying the other partner started behaving in a strange way.So 15yrs couldn't just be enough !

nneh1: bottom line, women hold on to your dignity, your virginity. Everyone knows this but seems to lament when they ve lost theirs. Pls give me the advice when you still ve yours.

suolboy:
this is a typical lie. am in a 11 years relationship now and about to get married, meaning we done introduction and I have paid dowry . the good thing about it is that we are more sure of one another and can live the rest of our lives together peacefully.

m.k.o2005:


Courtship shouldn't be mentioned among believers at all.Leave it for un believers.If i dnt know where am going to and i ask God to direct me and HE DOES,what else do i need courtship for ?I see a God fearing lady i like,i told myself of my future with her in marriage and i'm not troubled in my heart concerning that,i proposed to her and she accepts,what do i need to study her for?I know already that humans are capable of changing per time.Everything other study,learning,compatibility check,.adjustments,growth in God's ways must be in marriage it self.
If you disagree with these,go ahead with ur 10-15yrs courtship,i bet you,you will still come back to all the above listed and you may finally divorce becos you will be so disappointed that u were so dumb not to have seen all those issues in courtship before marriage.
Besides,in courtship that may never end in marriage,you most certainly had slept(sex)with urselves that at break up time,the lady will be the worst hit ! I must tell u,courtship brought about the high rate of divorce in the world today and it's speedily eating deep into our own society.

Zeebah23:
Says who? Av u eva spoken 2 pastors around u & asked dem if dey neva went into courtship? Courtship is necessary, BELIEVER OR UNBELIEVER. It's just dat d way believers go about it is different 4rm d way unbelievers do it.

Zeebah23: I made a mistake ni,i was trying 2 quote sum1,d 1st part of d post isn't mine. M asking him/her d same question.

Zeebah23:

Says who? Av u eva spoken 2 pastors around u & asked dem if dey neva went into courtship? Courtship is necessary, BELIEVER OR UNBELIEVER. It's just dat d way believers go about it is different 4rm d way unbelievers do it.

goofie:

r u saying tht christians dont court? or tht christians shldnt court? i dont quite get ur point

m.k.o2005:

Courtship isn't for Christians !
Though they inadvertently go into it and live with the regrets there after for those who have the consciousness of God !
Leave it for un-believers !
If God directs me to a partner,what do i need the study for ?
Oh,may be i'm saying God might make a mistake so let me take my time to see if the partner is suitable for me before i say i do !
Then God i never asked for HIS direction in the first place or may be while asking,i was busy doing my own thing,may be sleeping with the would be future partner or consciously engaging in other sins that will make God stay very far away from me.
Ask for HIS direction !
When you meet that person,you will see it must be a true christian.
You will know it's the person when you start to feel this suiting calmness inside knowing fully well you are setling down with that person.
All other study,learning,loving, compatibility check,and growth in the word will be done in marriage with the challenges that comes with it.

m.k.o2005:

Courtship isn't for Christians !
Though they inadvertently go into it and live with the regrets there after for those who have the consciousness of God !
Leave it for un-believers !
If God directs me to a partner,what do i need the study for ?
Oh,may be i'm saying God might make a mistake so let me take my time to see if the partner is suitable for me before i say i do !
Then God i never asked for HIS direction in the first place or may be while asking,i was busy doing my own thing,may be sleeping with the would be future partner or consciously engaging in other sins that will make God stay very far away from me.
Ask for HIS direction !
When you meet that person,you will see it must be a true christian.
You will know it's the person when you start to feel this suiting calmness inside knowing fully well you are setling down with that person.
All other study,learning,loving, compatibility check,and growth in the word will be done in marriage with the challenges that comes with it.

dubem3:
lol... my broda no talk wetin u see oh.
how' the capital city nah?

m.k.o2005:


I dnt need to ask any pastor cos they are humans just like me.Rather i should inquire of what the bible says concerning an issue.My pastor may have gone through courtship before marriage does not make courtship a criterion for marriage.
Believers or no believer,the rules are same in courtship: Go into it either anticipation to study,change,learn the person or with the aim of sleeping with the person.I repeat,courtship most CERTAINLY lead to sex before marriage.Any how you do it,you must fall victim,except it's not courtship.

m.k.o2005:


Na 3 months you wan take study person ?