4Runner: I couldn't sleep last night and ended up sleeping in church this morning. Why? 'Cos my neighbour and his wife started fighting from 2.30am to about 5am this morning. They're known on the street for this, but last night's was different.

The wife broke everything breakable in the house. This was what woke me up and I was scared for them. She kept screaming "one of us must die this night". She abused and insulted the hubby's friend who went to mediate.

I'm against spouse battering, especially when it's the man beating the woman. But my neighbour's case is peculiar 'cos it's the wife that starts the fight, makes the most noise and creates the unnecessary scene.

So if she comes out tomorrow to acuse the hubby of wife battering, some people will support her.
We can only pass a fair judgement when we hear from BOTH parties. My neighbour's is an eye opener.

cotton101: SMH at some posts here - what other side do people want to hear again, do you people honestly think that woman are the cause of the abuse in EVERY single case.

This is the nonsense i had to deal with while I was in Nigeria, so glad i left

shymexx:

Hmmmm... Nice post! - how about women who beat up their husbands/partners?

I've seen Nigerian women beat up their husbands and kick them out of the house in the UK, yet they still get restraining order against their victims(who happen to be men in these cases)....

I'm not a woman beater and I've never touched any woman in my young life on this planet. However, the law is flawed in the West because it favours women more...

cap28:

women who beat up their husbands are very much in the minority and not the norm amongst nigerians. You are always going to get one or two isolated cases of women who beat up their husbands but in no way is this as commonplace as nigerian men who beat up their wives.

plendil:

minority of majority is irrelevant here. Bottom line is violent acts against a fellow human being, male or female, is wrong and barbaric and should never be condoned.

4Runner: I couldn't sleep last night and ended up sleeping in church this morning. Why? 'Cos my neighbour and his wife started fighting from 2.30am to about 5am this morning. They're known on the street for this, but last night's was different.

The wife broke everything breakable in the house. This was what woke me up and I was scared for them. She kept screaming "one of us must die this night". She abused and insulted the hubby's friend who went to mediate.

I'm against spouse battering, especially when it's the man beating the woman. But my neighbour's case is peculiar 'cos it's the wife that starts the fight, makes the most noise and creates the unnecessary scene.

So if she comes out tomorrow to acuse the hubby of wife battering, some people will support her.
We can only pass a fair judgement when we hear from BOTH parties. My neighbour's is an eye opener.

steph7: What sort of excuse would these accused men give. The first time an ex bf slaPped , the thing hit my surprise oh! Cos we were laughing and gisting, when I asked him why he did that , he said he felt like hitting something. I ignored it. Next time it was beating, what was my crime then sef, I went to ask him for money I lent him . The most annoying situation is when people refuse to believe you or believe you should stay and suffer, living every moment in fear.

berem: if Frank Edoho was the host of america version of WWTBAM,he would have longed been kicked out! But in nigeria we tolerate shiiit! We don't frown at domestic violence because we don't have laws! Yeah sure because its a man's world huh? Our women are not protected because their husbands can beat them Black and Blue and go scott free!let frank edoho come out and defend himself if he isn't guilty!

Kobojunkie:

But 4Runner, I don't understand why you are only against Abuse when it happens to a woman but not to a man. I mean the world around you has learnt of and moved past making excuses for one sex over the other. I don't understand why you refuse to accept that ABUSE IS ABUSE . . . no matter who is involved. What special lecture do you need to know the message is ABUSE IS ABUSE?

I actually think you stupid that you allowed a stranger rob you of your comfort. only wonder ho many other times you have felt you needed to inconvenience your self so this woman/man next door can have a field day BREAKING THE LAW.

charlsecy4:

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rufychuks: i strongly disagree with people who beat their wives and i know many who do it for very little reason bt not all women are saints. However, i almost slapped a gal once if not for my friend who held my hand. Look, the gal was a coursemate and we were in a research group together. I collectd ovr analysis and submitted it to d supervisor after we had both worked on it. Seconds later she came back and demanded i return d work. I explaind that d prof had it and he had left his office. This gal, who i considered a good friend, clawed, screamed and pushed at me. I was still amazed when she dragged my shirt collar and dashd me a star-spangled slap. My gvy stopd my hand in midair and i realizd what i almost did. D gal ran out crying and told everyone that i beat her up! my friend had to explain that i didnt lay a finger on her cos everybody blivd her. I still dont know y she attackd me cos in the end we did well in the project.

gst101: that violence is inexcusable doesnt mean we shoulnt hear from both sides. People who live in the 'sane' societies, as they call it; a society that believes you are not guilty until proven so, are the ones rubishing the idea of a hearing from the other person. How ironic! What if the violence did not take place at all? What if it was all a lie and the lady knew what exactly to use to get sympathy and to set the other person in a difficult situation to begin to tell his story that there was no violence! A telling of his own side of the story many are not likely to listen to becos the most people already believe you did it just by hearing from the woman.

greateros: in as much as i empathize with the 'victimized' ladies, we should all understand that their are two sides to every story especially when it involves relationship.


Before passing judgement and calling names, its fair to hear the side of the other persons involved - women have a way of telling domestic violence stories to suite their side

am not married so don't crucify me .

Rooneyboy:
See this brain washed m.o.d.a..f.u.o.k.a
Ur the type that will beg and cry profusely when a woman denies u what she's got between her legs.

LastApostle:

The bible made us to understand that marriage is for better for worst.

debrief08: I am trying hard to understand why MTN will still let that Man host a family show

LastApostle:



Infidelity and death are the only ground advocated by the Bible for DIvorce. So you are the one not reading and comprehending your bible

debrief08: I am trying hard to understand why MTN will still let that Man host a family show

dayokanu:

If a woman abuse you, Abuse your own back is cool, What of women who think they can beat anyone.

If the woman screams you ignore, she gets aggravated and she hit the guy he ignores, Later bust bottle on his head breaks

There should be laws against all form of violence whether to wife, to husband, to children to househelps or drivers

Recently a Pastor slapped a minor and we are all giving excuses why the slap might be deserved

dayokanu:

If a woman abuse you, Abuse your own back is cool, What of women who think they can beat anyone.

If the woman screams you ignore, she gets aggravated and she hit the guy he ignores, Later bust bottle on his head breaks

There should be laws against all form of violence whether to wife, to husband, to children to househelps or drivers

Recently a Pastor slapped a minor and we are all giving excuses why the slap might be deserved