vivian chinaza: Ok, I'm gonna speak from a lady's perspective. Yes if she finds out you are dating her friend....she will be very disappointed in you. What were you even thinking asking her friend out? It is disrespectful considering the fact that you must have told her she meant something to you.

Well, if you wanna date her friend, get her consent first, you are not obligated to it but is just courtesy. If you wanna date her be completely honest with her, tell her that you asked her friend out too....if not you might be starting a world war III between these 2 friends.

I tire for some girls sef. Where is her loyalty to her friend? Why would I even say yes to a man that has asked my close friend out? Why would I even create an enabling environment for this? I think it is childish.

Just be careful ok, you are dealing with ladies and no matter how much we pretend to be cool with some certain things, the truth of it is we are never cool with them.

okeyscrib: My advice... go with the friend... the first girl is a biatcchhhhhhhhh.. She musta heard u asked her friend out and doesnt wanna loose out.

luvable sam: nah nah nah ,my advice is simple.dump d hard to get lady like a bad habit.my theory is simple I tink d hard to get lady had her eyes sumwer else hitherto which dint workout n dat made her cum bck to u her second choice(YOU).my bro dunt play second fiddle!

thareta: Seriousli! Isn't it patently clear dat both girls are alredi playin u.plssss u wanna be a playa n uve got no idea ur being played alredi plsssssss

Your assumption is totally wrong,they are not playing me and they cannot play me, i'm not a ball.

anyway thanks for registering to comment.

life_style:

Can't drop her picture without her consent.




Moved on with her friend ? won't she be disappointed in me and hate me for ever ?

webizone: Eis. E don do. Abro, abeg dump these girls come make we play ps3 together. I wan get pes 2013. Omo, na d bomb!

life_style: Hello everyone,

I am in a very confused and devastated state as i write this, After my ex jilted me few years ago, i decided to move on with my life and start all over again - It has been difficult i must confess.

I meet a girl that I admire, she is beautiful,tall,slim, fair in complexion and most importantly, hard working + she is a calabar girl.

I decided to ask her out but she turned my proposal down immediately, i advised her to think about it letting her understand that the plans i have for her is of good and not of evil but she was adamant.

I persisted trying to convince her but all my efforts proved abortive. she was very stubborn, it got to a point where she said she will never give in no matter what i say or do and advised me to give up on her.

Given up means losing, i don't want to be tagged a loser, i hate losing, i have invested a lot and i couldn't afford to let go at that point.

Last month she introduced her friend to me and i took them out for a lunch date, her friend is beautiful- birds of a feather, we chatted and had fun, i thought that was all but i was amazed when i saw her request on facebook to be my friend, i added her and we started chatting.

A week later, i asked her out and she inquired about my relationship with her friend but i told her there was nothing between us and sincerely speaking as at that time there was nothing.

Surprisingly, the same day i asked her out she said YES. I was happy. Two weeks later, the first/stubborn girl said YES, After a year. i was speechless. Now i am confused i don't know what to do.

Please, I will like to know if any one has ever been in this situation of mine ? ever dated two friends at the same time? what was the out come ? can i eat my cake and have it ?

I will like to stop here, waiting for mature advice on what to do cos i am in a confused state.

Thank you in advance.

centje: like seriously,some of the relationship issues i see on nairaland appear funny to me. A girl has consistently put capital NO to your face for more than a year. And you still feel you owe her...'she will feel disappointed'. well, dude, i will still give you my lil advice.

You're the one that feels for them so you know better what you really want. But don't feel you owe the tough girl any loyality.
It is possible that the tough one is just jealous,probably the second girl brought out a good aspect of you which is appealing to the tough girl. People are usually curious and sometimes jealous when they see a thriving relationship. Am goin to write this boldly...THE FIRST GIRL(tough one) WILL DUMP YOU AT SOME POINT if you leave your present relationship for her. She doesn't love you that much,she is just interested in something which you haven't discovered yet. Once she gets that or gets satisfied,she zooms off.
So here is my options for you...
First...don't leave this present girl. You don't owe the first girl. since you love the second girl and she reciprocates,stick to her. She is the one you will disappoint most if you do otherwise. At least she was sincere enough to ask of your relationship with her friend.

Second...you should be smart enough too. There's possibility that both are playing games with you.

Third...if you wanna be a player by dating both, Please do and stop asking us to boost your courage. Just get your tactics right and play. But trust me,you wouldn't want to do that with two friends. They will most likely team up to break you!

Good luck!

cstan: bro if am in your shoes seriously i wouldn't give a hitch about the first gal...its a simple matter, xplain it to her..that since she told you that she could never date you that just last week that you proposed to the friend and she accepted...its not in any way your fault or that of her friend so for me I'll advice you to continue with her friend!

elampiro: You have nothing to lose again from the stubborn girl. Now she has said yes, you will be the victor if you ignore her.

But I am afraid, from your posts I can say your heart is for the first girl, or you just can't forget the fact you wanted her at all cost. You have the upper hand now, you can get back at her by forgetting her. She will be so embarrassed and also feel the pains of her friend taking what should be hers.

The second girl is the humble girl between them. The stubborn girl is probably an arrogant person who will want to make things difficult for you in marriage. She will 'boss' you and use your emotions as her tool to control you.

ayando: am sorry to say this, i tink u r a kid or u aint just thinkin at all. Wat of if they are playin or testing u.u just played into their der trap.

You need not be sorry, you are entitled to your opinion.

k2039: Her picture please.


Om matter s arising dont try to date the both of them,remeber they are close friends,if you attempt to date them,it will boomerang and you have all to lose.


Just tell the sturborn girl you have moved on and u have a gf.

dav22y: I will advise u to go 4 the one that is hard to get, [b]she will probably stay longer[/b]and show you more love,jt sit her down and explain to her abt her frd, I guess she had been ard u all dose periods, she will probably understand you by now.just think of wat to tell her. If she accepts u after xplainin to her then u shld leave her frd,but do this before telling her friend anything, she accepted you easily, she can leave anytime

cstan: bro if am in your shoes seriously i wouldn't give a hitch about the first gal...its a simple matter, xplain it to her..that since she told you that she could never date you that just last week that you proposed to the friend and she accepted...its not in any way your fault or that of her friend so for me I'll advice you to continue with her friend!

General Garicks:

So u now want to take advantage of both of them. How will you be at a loss dropping the stubborn one

It is obvious the stubborn girl through careless talk has found out from her friend that the two of you are unto something, that is why she said yes after one week you met her friend.