By Chiori,
It is wrong for a man to rape his wife. But it will not help matters if he is remanded in prison custody for a long time. We are out for workable marriages, not the ones destroyed by state. So I would prefer a three week stay behind bars.

By Zain,
That lady- HotFunmi sure needs a man!!! A hot dude at that, who can give "IT" to her till she speaks in tongues.
Then, and only then will the heat in her anatomy subside.

spoilt:

TOH come and hear this one oh! your pic has some people salivating like pavlov dogs!

Funny thread and responses!

To all of the men here threatening to go do it outside if the woman says "no", I say "grow up"! If you're cheating on your partner, chances are that she's cheating on you too and you're too dumb to notice simply because most of you believe that cheating is a man's right and women don't do it. So there's no point introducing into your relationship something that you don't want perpetrated.

No woman will constantly refuse sex from her husband, especially if it's pleasurable. The problem a lot of men have in this regard is that they don't know how to meet their woman's need. For a woman, sex doesn't just start in bed. It's in the way you treat her all day long. Little things like paying attention to the kids, helping out around the house, holding her hand (in a non-sexual way) and talking to her about her day, and just generally doing all you can to make her happy certainly do turn a woman on Cheesy. You can't expect to ignore her all day long (all in the name of "i'm too busy at work", come home and then expect her to suddenly be in the mood for sex. It don't work that way! Women are wired differently from men and to them, romance is important. Of course, it's only the men who take the time to understand this important difference that will enjoy their female companion.

Having said that though, it's not right for anyone, man or woman, to constantly deny their spouse sex. As a man, if your woman is denying you constantly, you need to have a discussion with her. You might just be surprised at the things you'll find out from that discussion and you may also find that the problem is much easier to fix than you imagined. Sex in marriage is pleasurable, and women enjoy it too.

blacklion:


moneybags, the type of adulation you're receiving from the females here go let you answer my questions so? Anyway sha, here go -


1. Whatever happened to sex between married couple at the spur of the moment or on impulse? so you've never had the sudden rush of adrenaline or what?

2. do you mean to say that all sex between hubby and wifey must be pre-programmed and pre-planned 24 ours in advance before it can be pleasurable for wifey? Or that hubby must pampering wifey from early morning in anticipation of sex as a reward later that night?

3. does this not effectively reduce sex to a 'reward' at the discretion of the wifey?

4. what about working couples that leave home at different times early in the morning and don't see each other until late in the evening or night? no sex for oga because madam was not pampered all day long?

5. must sex always be at night? so hubby wants sex in the morning or afternoon, he must plan to pamper wifey 12 hours in advance?

6. what happens when hubby comes from work after a hard day totally stressed out and reaches for madam for some quick sex to relax his nerves? he is not entitled to have sex with his wifey until he pampers madam in advance for 12 hours first?


I still get question but make we start with this ones first. At the end of the day, this your idea reads like sex is a privilege which wifey grants at her absolute discretion.

Chiori:

It is wrong for a man to rape his wife. But it will not help matters if he is remanded in prison custody for a long time. We are out for workable marriages, not the ones destroyed by state. So I would prefer a three week stay behind bars.

Ortega1:

moneybags,

I don't recall making any references to your marriage. I phrased my questions in the third person and expected same from you. If you cannot answer simple polite questions without sanctimonious humbug or personal swings, don't complain when I reply in like manner.

4Him:

is moneybags a counsellor?
Sounds too good to be true but hey he's right.

hotfunmi:


Another dyslexic patient besides Yemi Victor. Damn, Nairaland, we have a problem.

Aunty de lan pe yin o!

But you know, the chap might be right o!

What you need is a good humping and all the rage is gone!!

You are apparently sex starved!!!

In short, Aunty Funmi, mo n wa ise labe yin!!!

All i'm saying is: devote yourself to fulfilling her emotional needs and your days of complaining about your sexual needs will be gone for good.

Pennywise:

This presupposes that all financial issues with wife has been met in full of course. Otherwise I don't see how it will wash especially with the Nigerian woman whom Hotfunmi has confidently declared has no obligation to love you!!! It is however not to pick hole in your evaluation which was very well woven.

On the issue of reassurance from the man. Action like they say speaks louder than words. If a woman constantly require the reassurance of a man in a marriage, then she is probably not fit or suited for it. It is for this reason I advise those with female children to imbue a sense of self worth and pride in their children.

Those lines by moneybag were well said. But no one formula works for everybody. If I start sending valentine messages now, the wife is going to think I have either lost it or am being controlled. Yeah chauvinistic male pig.But with me everyday is christmas for Mrs.

. All I'm saying in my post is that the way you treat your wifey matters. You can't expect to ignore her all day long for whatever reason and then come home expecting her to be all in the mood for sex. She'll soon begin to feel like she's nothing more than a sex object to you. And again, i'm not saying treat her nicely only when you want to have sex with her. Make it a habit of treating her like the queen she is. Pay attention to the little details in her life, talk to her, do your best to please her. The key is making that a habit. Afterall you married her, and it's in your best interest to make her as happy as can be,

So my point is: if she's pleased with you and sees herself as someone who's cherised (as opposed to some object who only gets attention when sex is desired), she's unlikely to refuse you sex on a regular basis -- and i'm not referring to women who are frigid -- that's a medical condition -- or to women who use sex as a weapon (that's a crazy condition ). Your wife is a person with feelings and emotions, and from studies i've done, women do need lots of communication -- it's as important to their well being as sex is important to ours, so the more you meet your wifey's needs in those areas that are critical to her, the more willing she'll be to meet yours.

Again, remember, this is not a manipulative tool. Because if you only talk to her and pay her attention when you want sex, she'll soon figure that out and begin to see you as a jerk. Meet her needs unselfishly, and you'll see her opening up to you (both literally and figuratively of course ).

uspry1:

Moneybags well said. I wish he is my husband! LOL!

Ajisafe:

so many arrogant Nigerian females end up with "baby daddies" and no husbands simply because of their "I pay my own bills; i'm equal to a man" attitude. You all need to wake up and smell the coffe! Grow up! We're not equal. I mean men and women are not equal. Period! I stand to be corrected, though.

Ajisafe:

I admire those young ladies on Nairaland who are submissive to their men -- just the way our Creator has mandated it to be. That does not make you a slave to your husband it'll only make you to stay married forever! Believe me.

FKseun:

Textbook love or better still "M&B" love. Why won't ladies pray for someone like moneybags. What you all should do is ask him if he is married, for how long and get his wife to give you a load-down on him.

4Him:

since the women are all queueing to marry moneybags maybe we too shld form a line behind ajisafe as i think he raises some valid points.

spot on.

once again spot on.