huni_naija: Here we go again playing the blame game...you'd be surprised that this epidemic tends to be encouraged more in america, nigeria is just catching up, america don graduate to phd level in goldiggism over a decade ago, quote me anywhere

@OP both are to blame.. Monkey see as monkey do The men are to blamed for allowing themselves to be used as a bank/savings account, the women are to be blamed for patronising these types of men and allowing there bodies to be used like a theme park.. At the end of the day both parties are using themselves to either become rich or to have free/bought for punny..

Let these types of people continue to use themselves and leave the good folks alone to function in a normal enabled environment.. Shikena

shymexx: The change has to come from women, there's nothing men can do about it than just play the game..

acidosis™:
I do not think any Nairaland guy can impress the daughters of Aliko Dangote with cars or something..

huni_naija:

Hehehe that one too dey? See me thinking it was platinum university of diamonds academy all this while

huni_naija: Women have the power to change alot of things if only they knew... If women behaved liked ladies and had some self-worth. Men would have no choice but to sit up and change or remain a looser.. If this was to happen, ashawoism syndrome would go out of business tho.. Can you men handle that?? Lmao

shymexx:

Why shouldn't I flaunt what I have got?? Flaunting what you worked for doesn't give anyone any right to start gold digging - women need to learn how to get their own shyte and stop trying to reap where they didn't sow... That's why I agree with certain aspects of feminism!!

If superficial things can make women(esp. black women) give up their morals, standards, self-respect, dignity etc. just to live a lifestyle - that shows how messed up their mentality is...

Damn! I wish I was born in the stone age when men had to fight wrestling matches to win the heart of a woman... Days when women go for potentials and strive to build empires with their partners....

Dear lawd, can you get the time machine and take me back to the stone age?!?!?!

Tight fisted nigga.
Welcome to the new age. Am afraid the stone age is GONE dead and buried. You have no option but to stick your cash out, cause I've chosen to gold-dig you. Only you.

lalaosky:

wow....i don't think ashawoism is gold digging.that area is strictly for buisness.the men pay, and they get laid.after that, it's unto to the next one/ashi.they are two diff thing

Goldieluks:
Tight fisted nigga.
Welcome to the new age. Am afraid the stone age is GONE dead and buried. You have no option but to stick your cash out, cause I've chosen to gold-dig you. Only you.

huni_naija:

True, but the point i was trying to make was that if women had there morals and self-worth intact, this would mean no more"ashawo" business i mean what right thinking lady would want to get into that anyways? I know alot of men are banking on women to have no morals, the more for them the merrier!

acidosis™:

lmao... I need the form... I wan apply

shymexx:

Why shouldn't I flaunt what I have got?? Flaunting what you worked for doesn't give anyone any right to start gold digging

huni_naija:

Oya report to the republic of gold digger coast, make sure to have enough efizzy and "gold valuables" on you, to ensure you pass the first phase of the test..

huni_naija:
first phase of the test..

shymexx:

I don't mind gold diggers as long as I can get the value of what I'm paying for and there's no strings attached - friends with benefits...

However, if I want a wife/partner, I'll go for the real deal... The type that'll be there till the end of time... The choice is yours!

lalaosky: lol...this thread will be filled with most men saying the ladies are to be blamed while the ladies will return the favour and blame the men for gold digging.

To be honest, both parties are to be equally blamed coupled with our harsh economy.

In the men's part, you'll see a guy entering his jeep to impress a lady he just saw and wheh he eventually makes contact, he will be like " hi babe,you look lovely.i wanna take you out to any restaurant/hotel of your choice and spoil you silly".this thought process has been passed down from one person to another.it's so sad.

On the ladies part, i've heard countless times where ladies say "i'll never marry a poor man or any man that is not very rich.any man that can't my expenses don't deserve to marry me".when ladies makes up their minds to snub any average guy saying "na LOVE i go chop", then you'll agree with me that they are at fault too

coming to the economy angle, our economy is so hard for an average person to survive so the ladies tens to go for the rich guys(nobody loves suffering).in developed countries, most at times, an average man or woman owns his/her own car, pays his/her bills and got his/her own apartment.meaning that he/she can afford to take care of his partner bills without much complain.

So simply put, both parties are at fault.

all-out:
@ OP: Me, I have a problem with guys who do it and come online to lament. You should cover your head in shame cos no one forced you to entice anyone with gift/money.

Believe it or not there are independent minded girls out there from all social strata you can think of. Roll with decent girls not a girl who's ready to give you head for recharge cards. . . never did like an easy conquest anyway!

vanstanzy:


Noone forced them to entice anyone with gifts/ money, just as noone forced the girls to be gullible and fall.

ogugua88: I disagree. Are girls dumb to the point that material gifts sway them so easily? Is that how their mothers were? For those of us who aren't gold diggers, is it because we don't like gifts?

Sure, men lavishing girls with gifts to bed them is ridiculous, but two legs must enter trousers. Women have every opportunity to reject gifts and hold their heads high, but they choose the opposite, not because of men, but because they want it and like it. The fact that women can open their mouths and ask men for material items without shame is the issue.